Looks do matter

Bucky83

Sadly, yes, it does impact a lot.

I've been single my entire life. A date here and there, but never had a relationship.

I KNOW it's how I look, because I know I'm a good person (I often have friends say I'm a nice and genuine person).

You have a very pretty face. Get thee to a GOOD hair stylist, get some blonde highlights and a sexy hair style, get a hotter pair of glasses and ... well ... no pics of your body, so I don't know how to dress you. You have a great base. Work it better.

Now forgive me if I'm wrong but the "I'm a nice person why does everyone dump me" thing is usually a euphemism for "I'm really clingy." Just make sure you're not.

I'm saying this because you sound sad, and I would love for your dreams to come true for you.

You're definitely wrong about the 'why does everyone dump me'. I'm actually the one who runs away from dating more than 3-4 dates, but they are for good reasons. One guy was negative about everything in his life (I suspect he might've been depressed at the time, but I have thought of this in hindsight and not at the time), and the other just wanted to get me into bed (not something I was interested in at the time).

rocklion

Yes and everyone does have their preferences. And it can get kind of weird. No doubt.

I remember when I was in the Army. There was this medic who was a tall skinny dude. I honestly at that time was like well okay he's kind of good looking I guess. Me and my buddy went to this bar and they were having a competition on hottest guy or something like that. My buddy entered. I was like well okay. he kept winning round after round. Just a skinny dude.

The final round was between him and this other guy who was ripped. I mean ripped. Dude had six pack abs and muscles like no one's business.

My skinny friend won. I was left with my mouth open and thinking to myself wtf

jlgemma

Sadly, yes, it does impact a lot.

I've been single my entire life. A date here and there, but never had a relationship.

I KNOW it's how I look, because I know I'm a good person (I often have friends say I'm a nice and genuine person).

You have a very pretty face. Get thee to a GOOD hair stylist, get some blonde highlights and a sexy hair style, get a hotter pair of glasses and ... well ... no pics of your body, so I don't know how to dress you. You have a great base. Work it better.

Now forgive me if I'm wrong but the "I'm a nice person why does everyone dump me" thing is usually a euphemism for "I'm really clingy." Just make sure you're not.

I'm saying this because you sound sad, and I would love for your dreams to come true for you.

I completely agree, you do have a great base. I think a mini makeover with some makeup to bring out your features would be a great start. Get yourself regular manicures and pedicures (or do your own) and some clothes that accentuate your shape. It will do wonders for your self-confidence. When you appear confident and like you take good care of yourself men will naturally be attracted to you.

sunglasses_and_ocean_waves

Sadly, yes, it does impact a lot.

I've been single my entire life. A date here and there, but never had a relationship.

I KNOW it's how I look, because I know I'm a good person (I often have friends say I'm a nice and genuine person).

You have a very pretty face. Get thee to a GOOD hair stylist, get some blonde highlights and a sexy hair style, get a hotter pair of glasses and ... well ... no pics of your body, so I don't know how to dress you. You have a great base. Work it better.

Now forgive me if I'm wrong but the "I'm a nice person why does everyone dump me" thing is usually a euphemism for "I'm really clingy." Just make sure you're not.

I'm saying this because you sound sad, and I would love for your dreams to come true for you.

You're definitely wrong about the 'why does everyone dump me'. I'm actually the one who runs away from dating more than 3-4 dates, but they are for good reasons. One guy was negative about everything in his life (I suspect he might've been depressed at the time, but I have thought of this in hindsight and not at the time), and the other just wanted to get me into bed (not something I was interested in at the time).

So it wasn't about looks then. Not sure why you said it was *shrug*

Looks like we just wasted each other's time. lol Have a good night

Laura8603

As others have said, looks do matter but our tastes are different. My friends have always thought I have strange taste (they would say I go for tall goofy looking men). Looks get my attention but personality keeps me interested.

melb_alex

Looks will always be the thing that initially influences your decision about whether or not to get to know someone better. Whatever that means to you. But chances are if you don't like the way someone looks you're not going to take the time to find out if you're compatible in other areas.

This ^
Living in a superficial, shallow world were we are surrounded by depictions of 'what a perfect body is' of course the exterior is important.

It's being able to distinguish a good looking individual from one that possesses other contributing factors that do not rely on the exterior that bears more relevance in my opinion.

I see hot men everyday but I wouldn't go out of my way to talk to them unless they had a decent personality.

CMB1979

Your look is the lasso. Your wrangling skill is what keeps the stallion on the rope. :P

tierra85

To an extent they do. I personally couldn't be with someone i didn't feel attracted to, but attraction comes in many forms to different people. I dated this one guy a few years back. Absolutely gorgeous.. Face, hair, body, everything. Problem i had was that i couldn't have an intelligent conversation with him. Needless to say, interest was lost pretty quick. One of my favorite actors is Tyler Labine and he is definitely not the smallest guy around. But he makes me laugh and i think he is soooo handsome

Jacwhite22

Your look is the lasso. Your wrangling skill is what keeps the stallion on the rope. :P

No that's the size of one of two things. One of them is your wallet and the other is your....

melb_alex

lollipop

RaggedyPond

Everyone has their preferences that is all. Since losing weight I do notice more males looking but I'm sure there is more to it then that. I dress better now which could also be it as well. Or maybe I'm just looking for it. Who knows..

andreavarangu

Well yes....looks matter....but fortunately we all have somewhat different taste when it comes to attraction. AND....here's the cool part....once you get to know someone and you really like them, they become much more attractive to you!

amwbox

Sadly, yes, it does impact a lot.

I've been single my entire life. A date here and there, but never had a relationship.

I KNOW it's how I look, because I know I'm a good person (I often have friends say I'm a nice and genuine person).

You have a very pretty face. Get thee to a GOOD hair stylist, get some blonde highlights and a sexy hair style, get a hotter pair of glasses and ... well ... no pics of your body, so I don't know how to dress you. You have a great base. Work it better.

Disagree. I'm sure the glasses have something to do with it, but I think she's got the hot librarian thing going on, and all that artificial meddling your talking about would only spoil it. She looks genuine as is. Artificiality would only detract.

But that's just me. I'm male and hairy and unexfoliated. What do I know?

HWeatherholt

For me looks matter, I have to find the person attractive if I am going to get to know them romanticly. but what I find attractive look wise in one person I don't in another. I've dated plenty of guys that my friends didn't see what I saw/didn't think they were attractive and plenty that they wondering how I scored such a good looking guy, and everywhere in between.

amwbox

And yes, I think looks matter a whole lot. People will say that personality wins out in the long run...but lets not forget that the long run can't even get started without that initial physical attraction. Falling for someone you're less than attracted to because of their personality and soul takes some time and effort. Falling into bed with someone who gives you stomach butterflies from animal attraction is EASY.

VelveteenArabian

I think looks matter for that initial "spark" but after a time, not really. I think a great personality can make an average looking person more attractive.

melb_alex

I think looks matter for that initial "spark" but after a time, not really. I think a great personality can make an average looking person more attractive.

YES! This

Sreneesa

I'm into Rick Ross(Guys who are tall and big with weight on them) looking guys so being ripped doesn't phase me.

So honestly a ripped guy never really gets my attention more like a big and tall dude who has a body like the guy I mentioned above.

sunglasses_and_ocean_waves

Sadly, yes, it does impact a lot.

I've been single my entire life. A date here and there, but never had a relationship.

I KNOW it's how I look, because I know I'm a good person (I often have friends say I'm a nice and genuine person).

You have a very pretty face. Get thee to a GOOD hair stylist, get some blonde highlights and a sexy hair style, get a hotter pair of glasses and ... well ... no pics of your body, so I don't know how to dress you. You have a great base. Work it better.

Disagree. I'm sure the glasses have something to do with it, but I think she's got the hot librarian thing going on, and all that artificial meddling your talking about would only spoil it. She looks genuine as is. Artificiality would only detract.

But that's just me. I'm male and hairy and unexfoliated. What do I know?

well, she was the one bemoaning that looks mattered and it effected her. I was just trying to help, but I won't make that mistake again.

BTW I'm very good at the hot librarian thing.

JolienKeane

I think looks mostly matter at the beginning. But, once you get to know a person and get to know their humour, kindness etc., I find that I gradually don't see the "less pretty" things in their looks and start seeing more and more of the beautiful bits. It changes, so.