Stereotyping against Beautiful People

skinnnyminiiiiii

So I'm new to this website..one of my close friends told me about it and was explaining the wonderful people and the support that she got from here, so I figured I'd give it a try. But I recently got a message today from a guy I'm assuming, who started out with calling me good looking..Noww I'm not complaining I mean who doesn't like getting complimented? But I'm also assuming that once I started to reply and wasn't acting like I was interested ( I do have a boyfriend ) he got mad? or insulted which usually happens to someone once you "turn them down" he accused me of being fake? I'm sorry that I'm a mildly attractive young girl who isn't interested due to a relationship? That doesn't make me fake..and for some reason that really eerked me this morning..

TavistockToad

Ok....

asia1967

Try not to take it to heart. You did nothing wrong. It is the other persons problem. There will always be situations like that.:flowerforyou:

randomtai

segovm

You have used the internet before right?

skinnnyminiiiiii

Try not to take it to heart. You did nothing wrong. It is the other persons problem. There will always be situations like that.:flowerforyou:

It's hard not to take it to heart when it happens al the time..

YearsWorthOfFAT

So, what's the point? That's not stereotyping against beautiful people. That's someone being an *kitten*. It's not nice but you just need to move on an ignore it.

TavistockToad

Try not to take it to heart. You did nothing wrong. It is the other persons problem. There will always be situations like that.:flowerforyou:

It's hard not to take it to heart when it happens al the time..

Why would you respond to strange men who message you 'all the time'? Do you think they just want to be friends?

sculli123

meh sounds like the guy has issues. That being said, check your inbox OP.


j/k :laugh:

randomtai

Reverse Google Search.

skinnnyminiiiiii

Try not to take it to heart. You did nothing wrong. It is the other persons problem. There will always be situations like that.:flowerforyou:

It's hard not to take it to heart when it happens al the time..

Why would you respond to strange men who message you 'all the time'? Do you think they just want to be friends?

I figue I was being nice? Sorry for replying?

TheVirgoddess

So I'm new to this website..one of my close friends told me about it and was explaining the wonderful people and the support that she got from here, so I figured I'd give it a try. But I recently got a message today from a guy I'm assuming, who started out with calling me good looking..Noww I'm not complaining I mean who doesn't like getting complimented? But I'm also assuming that once I started to reply and wasn't acting like I was interested ( I do have a boyfriend ) he got mad? or insulted which usually happens to someone once you "turn them down" he accused me of being fake? I'm sorry that I'm a mildly attractive young girl who isn't interested due to a relationship? That doesn't make me fake..and for some reason that really eerked me this morning..

I'm not sure how to answer this.

There are weirdos on the internet. You're not being stereotyped, you're the target of a weirdo. It happens to the best of us - even us of much lesser beauty.

You know what I do? Delete the messages and move on with my life.

TavistockToad

Try not to take it to heart. You did nothing wrong. It is the other persons problem. There will always be situations like that.:flowerforyou:

It's hard not to take it to heart when it happens al the time..

Why would you respond to strange men who message you 'all the time'? Do you think they just want to be friends?

I figue I was being nice? Sorry for replying?

Why are you saying sorry to me? I'm not bothered if you wanna talk to creepers on the net!

skinnnyminiiiiii

OMG, I GUESS THE PEOPLE ON THIS SITE AREN'T AS NICEE AS I WAS TOLD...I SHOULDN'T GET RIDICULED FOR BEING OFFENDED

CaitySins

I wouldn't call it stereotyping, some people just turn to insults when you aren't interested in them, as a way of comforting their ego that they can't just get anyone they want like that. It helps them with their insecurity. If you wouldn't like to receive messages like that, it helps to change your profile picture (which I know sounds unfair but really for the sake of a random photo to not get hassled I'd take it). Like I used to be part of a site made for sharing experiences, and when I had my picture up, I would log on and see 30+ emails from new guys I hadn't spoken to, but when I changed it to a flower, it dropped to 5, most being from people I actually talked to.

navygrrl

Girls used to only want me for my money so I gave up my job and became homeless. But the girls still were after me because I had a smoking hot body so I gained weight and stopped exercising. Still they pursued me because I have an intellect that dwarfs most mortals so I started taking drugs to dumb myself down.

After years of effort, I have finally become so repulsive that no one but my wife and girlfriends dare try to chase me down.

Maybe a similar program might work for you?

:drinker: :drinker:

missiontofitness

OMG, I GUESS THE PEOPLE ON THIS SITE AREN'T AS NICEE AS I WAS TOLD...I SHOULDN'T GET RIDICULED FOR BEING OFFENDED

salembambi

men have very fragile egos

nothing new here

salembambi

OMG, I GUESS THE PEOPLE ON THIS SITE AREN'T AS NICEE AS I WAS TOLD...I SHOULDN'T GET RIDICULED FOR BEING OFFENDED

I agree

randomtai

nothing new here

I agree.

QueenofHobbies

People hate rejection of any kind or type. How they deal with it is a moderate meter on their personality. That being said, if you find you are being constantly being propositioned or whatever (and for all we know this person sent a "hey, you are pretty!" or "hello!" and was perceived as a creep, you know the rule 1st rule be attractive, second rule be attractive blah blah) you need to have a protocol to deal with those people. You're on this site to do something very specific yes? Here are a few practical thoughts:

If you're on here to "be healthy" then I'd just filter your messages: get a message that is inappropriate or creepy? Why bother responding, delete and block first thing. Why bother being nice to interwebz strangers that are making you feel creeped out? You owe them NOTHING. If you reply to messages that are evidently creepy this is a simple thing to do that requires zero drama. It's easy.

If you respond to a stranger who comes off as a normal nice person and then they start creeping on you- guess what? Delete and block them.
Furthermore- if you really are concerned you can switch your avatar to a more neutral one and also limit the type of personal information on your profile.

If you balk at making your profile so neutral: then deal with it by utilizing a few simple steps to reduce the stress that hits you when you have to say "no" and someone flips out by nipping it the bud in the first place. You cannot control other people: you can control how you handle it. Take responsibility and be responsible for yourself.

Hope that helps!

spinnerdell

Yes, this is exactly what I would do if I were the recipient of unwanted advances- call more attention to myself! :sad:

TheVirgoddess

OMG, I GUESS THE PEOPLE ON THIS SITE AREN'T AS NICEE AS I WAS TOLD...I SHOULDN'T GET RIDICULED FOR BEING OFFENDED

You're not being ridiculed for being offended (which you never even mentioned, you said "eerked"). People are poking a bit of fun at you for the "This is what I have to deal with for being so beautiful" vibe of your thread title/post.

People on the internet send inappropriate, rude, hateful messages to other people all the time. It sucks - but it's not about you - it's about them. I get asked for nudes at *least* once a week. I can't control these messages, I can only control what I do about them.

sculli123

You're not being ridiculed for being offended (which you never even mentioned, you said "eerked"). People are poking a bit of fun at you for the "This is what I have to deal with for being so beautiful" vibe of your thread title/post.

People on the internet send inappropriate, rude, hateful messages to other people all the time. It sucks - but it's not about you - it's about them.

lol this ^^ I think most people on this site are pretty nice though.

TheNoLeafClover

lindadprice

I thought this was a weight loss support website. That guy shouldn't have emailed you. It wasn't very nice. I would just ignore him.

forkofpower

OMG, I GUESS THE PEOPLE ON THIS SITE AREN'T AS NICEE AS I WAS TOLD...I SHOULDN'T GET RIDICULED FOR BEING OFFENDED

You're not being ridiculed for being offended (which you never even mentioned, you said "eerked"). People are poking a bit of fun at you for the "This is what I have to deal with for being so beautiful" vibe of your thread title/post.

People on the internet send inappropriate, rude, hateful messages to other people all the time. It sucks - but it's not about you - it's about them. I get asked for nudes at *least* once a week. I can't control these messages, I can only control what I do about them.

Yeah, pretty much.

skinnnyminiiiiii

OMG, I GUESS THE PEOPLE ON THIS SITE AREN'T AS NICEE AS I WAS TOLD...I SHOULDN'T GET RIDICULED FOR BEING OFFENDED

You're not being ridiculed for being offended (which you never even mentioned, you said "eerked"). People are poking a bit of fun at you for the "This is what I have to deal with for being so beautiful" vibe of your thread title/post.

People on the internet send inappropriate, rude, hateful messages to other people all the time. It sucks - but it's not about you - it's about them. I get asked for nudes at *least* once a week. I can't control these messages, I can only control what I do about them.

I know I seem to be putting off the "whoa is me" vibe out but in all reality I was trying to get people to realize that just because I'm "pretty and uninterrested" doesn't mean I should be called out and made fun of

F00LofaT00K

Miss, this is the internet. These things happen. It's why my picture is cupcakes instead of me.Now I get messages from creeper far less frequently. Your best bet is not responding to the messages. Ignore the attention if you don't want it. If you respond, the person looking for your attention is getting your attention. Your response in their inbox makes them happy, then it's just a turn-down and they get mad or insulted. Sure, it's immature and stupid. . . but behind the anonymity of the computer screen, people are much more likely to be jerks since they can get away with it. Ignore, ignore, ignore.

Also. . . learn not to take thing so personally. You'll be much happier cruising the internet and using forums if you don't take people's comments personally.

RaspberryKeytoneBoondoggle

If you're going to stay here, you'll need to learn that when people are unkind to you it's their issue, not yours.

It's not fun to have hurt feelings, get irked, or feel like you need to defend yourself. Assume this exact event will happen again and again. You will notice that the display picture will make a difference.

blondageh

This site is one big meat market. Don't take it personally. Ignore the creepsters or change your profile pic to a heavyset girl. That outta stop' em!

Oh and I can say that because I'm a fat girl and when I do get inboxed almost always the number one question is if I am lifting weights. I think they want to know if I am still flabby under all this weight loss. The answer is you betcha! No need to inquire further. Move on. ????