DO OR DON'T FRIEND REQUEST?

brentbarrie

I look for people who are active posters.

cloggsy71

As it says on my 'Profile' blurb; If you want be my 'friend', no problem, just add me, but I want to know why - BLANK FRIEND REQUESTS WILL BE REJECTED and you WILL be canned if you don't log in daily*! Also, don't add me if you keep your profile 'private'!

(*) If you notify me that you are away on holiday etc. then that is acceptable!

JonnyMacAwesome

They're not your "friends", people! They're are random internet strangers that might become an acquaintence (sp?) ffs!

Aren't you just a little ray of sunshine.......

In multiple threads no less. Shes definitely deleted.

Merely providing a realistic counterbalance to all this nonsense. But hey, if calling them "friends" makes your life feel full and validated, by all means proceed. :drinker:

Or maybe talk on the phone or meet for a workout or coffee...

It's funny because MFP calls them Friends...it's a Friends list after all.

BootCampC

I accept all but will keep you only if you are a motivator.. and I will do the same

Leggylass

They're not your "friends", people! They're are random internet strangers that might become an acquaintence (sp?) ffs!

Aren't you just a little ray of sunshine.......

In multiple threads no less. Shes definitely deleted.

Merely providing a realistic counterbalance to all this nonsense. But hey, if calling them "friends" makes your life feel full and validated, by all means proceed. :drinker:

Or maybe talk on the phone or meet for a workout or coffee...

It's funny because MFP calls them Friends...it's a Friends list after all.

Like he said MFP say Friends, i could be all realistic but it is the internet after all, but then again we are all real people aren't we? I'm confusing myself now lol

Booksandbeaches

A message, a profile that's completed and some reason to add the person (mutual friend, similar fitness goals or eating plans) and they must at least plan to be active on MFP.

I don't care about an open diary or how much they have to lose/gain.

The longer I'm on MFP the pickier I am about people I add to my friends list.

Monkey_Business

They're not your "friends", people! They're are random internet strangers that might become an acquaintence (sp?) ffs!

Aren't you just a little ray of sunshine.......

In multiple threads no less. Shes definitely deleted.

Merely providing a realistic counterbalance to all this nonsense. But hey, if calling them "friends" makes your life feel full and validated, by all means proceed. :drinker:

Or maybe talk on the phone or meet for a workout or coffee...

It's funny because MFP calls them Friends...it's a Friends list after all.

If you actually read her bio, it clearly states how she feels about the friend list. Who am I (or anyone) to cast stones about how someone uses or not uses MFP or how they want to interact with others here.

Just one ole man's opinion...........................

PurringMyrrh

I'm not some anti-social *kitten* (okay, maybe a tad), I just prefer to keep sacred words like "friend" to the literal sense and tend to try and remind others to do the same (in tactless ways). The word has got out of hand and almost seems meaningless and trivial now. Friends used to be people that you cried on, hung out with, broke the law with, called when you needed help moving, splashed water on at the river, cheated on your diet with...not some selfie-minded duckface you try and one up with profile poses. My worthless two cents.

Mind you, I'm not incapable of feeling teh internetz lovin'. I've got a buttload of that. :flowerforyou:

lewoldt

No according to her profile. she doesn't want any

kgeyser

I pretty much accept all friend requests, unless their profile gives me the impression that we wouldn't be a good match in terms of weight loss philosophies. Which leaves me open to pretty much everyone except those trying to lose 2 lbs per week of vanity weight.

I've only sent one friend request, and the person accepted me then deactivated a day later. There are a lot of people I would like to request because I think they are funny or really knowledgeable, but I'm afraid my request would come across like this:



instead of this:

Deipneus

AsaThorsWoman wrote:

Nothing, I accept them all.

I look at the profile usually, but I have some amazing MFP friends that are odd matches, but oh well.

Me too, with or without a note. I'm reckless that way.

GeordieGirl80s

I pretty much accept all requests, I prefer a message to be included but if there's not one I'll accept after looking at the persons profile (if possible). However I tend not to add people if they have a skewed view of healthy sustainable weight loss.

_Tink_

I don't send them. I rarely accept, but when I do it's usually because they've undergone thorough scrutiny by my fl and been voted in as worthy. And even then I don't always accept. Sorry...I'm picky.

MysteriousMerlin

I look for teh funny.

cobysev

I accept any and all friend requests, even if they don't come with a message. Then I make my best effort to at least run through the list of status updates and like or comment on as much as I can each day. This is a site for fitness support after all, and the point of having friends here is so that you have your own support group to keep you motivated. Which goes both ways; don't forget that, folks.

The only time I'd consider deleting a friend is if they're not actually trying to better themselves. For instance, I have one friend who only makes attention-seeking posts like "I'm feeling fat today" or "Screw my diet, it's not worth it". I've given advice to help this person, but if these posts keep happening, I'm just going to remove them and focus my energy on helping or encouraging those who actually need it.

I admit, to get started, I spent an hour or so running through a bunch of welcome threads and blindly adding every single person who offered themselves up for friendship. I didn't leave any of them a message because I was just trying to build a random support group. If they didn't accept, no big deal. But now that I have a decent size group of friends, I'm being more picky about who I try to befriend. After all, there comes a point where you just have too many people and can't give that personal touch anymore. After a couple months, I'll probably reasses my friends list and clean it up a bit. But no matter your gender, body type, and/or personality, as long as you're here to be healthy, I'll welcome your friend request and offer my support.

Leggylass

I will choose wisely

I'll be logging every day, my diary is open to friends and I'm focused on getting healthier, losing weight and to have a laugh along the way

kinkyslinky16

Boobs and butt.

I'm right there with ya! I prefer a nice pair before I accept.

kinkyslinky16

They're not your "friends", people! They're are random internet strangers that might become an acquaintence (sp?) ffs!

What. the. hell. I thought we were friends?

stuart160

They're not your "friends", people! They're are random internet strangers that might become an acquaintence (sp?) ffs!

What. the. hell. I thought we were friends?

what the hell??? You mean I have been deceived??? *kitten*

cklbrown

Nothing, I accept them all

I look at the profile usually, but I have some amazing MFP friends that are odd matches, but oh well.

Same thing

Me too. Everyone is welcome!

paperpudding

I'm not some anti-social *kitten* (okay, maybe a tad), I just prefer to keep sacred words like "friend" to the literal sense and tend to try and remind others to do the same (in tactless ways). The word has got out of hand and almost seems meaningless and trivial now. Friends used to be people that you cried on, hung out with, broke the law with, called when you needed help moving, splashed water on at the river, cheated on your diet with...not some selfie-minded duckface you try and one up with profile poses. My worthless two cents.

Mind you, I'm not incapable of feeling teh internetz lovin'. I've got a buttload of that. :flowerforyou:

Take this up with MFP then and ask them to change it to acquaintances list or random strangers list or something.

In the meantime people on MFP will refer to it as a friends list because that's what the app calls it - not because they really think they are soul mates with everyone on their list.

Anyway, back to the question - I do not send friend requests.
If anyone sends me one,I accept. If they decide I am not right for them after all and delete me, that's ok. One person did this after couple of days - she was a vegetarian and I am not, perhaps she realised I didnt really have much in common with her after all.

Oi_Sunshine

I usually accept, but I need more than a blank FR or "hi".

It's just good manners to introduce yourself and let someone know where you saw them or why you want to be friends. Even "hey, I was peering through your kitchen window and noticed you're low on dish soap."

Something that says you care.

FeraFilia

I accept all the friend requests.

People probably remove me after a few days though, because I post a lot, and comment a lot, and don't just "like" everything. Also probably because there isn't a "sarcasm" font.

Phoenix__Rising

I'm not picky my friends list is every where from pervy to shy. They each add a bit of variety to inspire me.

Mmmmm wondering where I am in that? :smokin: :bigsmile:

cowbellsandcoffee

Must. Ride. Bikes.

or...

drink iced coffee.

Phoenix__Rising

Must. Ride. Bikes.

or...

drink iced coffee.

You're slacking on giving me an iced coffee!! :bigsmile:

QuiznatoddBidness

one for you, one for me??? :flowerforyou:

Phoenix__Rising

one for you, one for me??? :flowerforyou:

I see good friendship quality in U. :flowerforyou:

mybeesknees

I'm not picky my friends list is every where from pervy to shy. They each add a bit of variety to inspire me.

Mmmmm wondering where I am in that? :smokin: :bigsmile:

Pervs, unite! :bigsmile:

cowbellsandcoffee

Must. Ride. Bikes.

or...

drink iced coffee.

You're slacking on giving me an iced coffee!! :bigsmile:

I have it here...in the fridge for you...chilling.