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dcc56
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I sent out a few friend requests and never got a reply. I even included a note about why I was making the request. I guess I've always thought I could never have enough "real" friends. It makes me wonder why my request was ignored. I think there might be two reasons....first, I'm a gay guy....second, I've had Weight Loss surgery. Maybe these are the reasons?
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I'm a gay guy....0
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it could also be that they turned off the email notification thingy and haven't noticed the little red number in the corner of their screen. I know I've missed them before. And I know if you're using the app sometimes it doesn't show up for a while... at least on my phone.0
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Who knows...but don't beat yourself up over it.0
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You would probably have to ask the people that you requested.
However, your question intrigued me enough to read it. I have been on MFP for over 2 years and very successful. I recently closed my original account and opened a new one under a new name and am not taking, or making any requests for friends. You have to develop a thick skin here. Most people here are fantastic, but a few can really make it miserable.
It is a personal decision how you choose to make your journey. Never easy no matter how you do it.
I wish you great success!
A fellow Minnesotan.0 -
I dont accept unless the person is bringing some personality to the table.0
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I like to keep a close knit group of friends. Don't take it personally. We're all "strangers." Just keep requesting people you have an interest in adding with a message as you have been.0
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I like to keep a close knit group of friends. Don't take it personally. We're all "strangers." Just keep requesting people you have an interest in adding with a message as you have been.0
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Do you tell them you are a gay guy in your friend request note? If not I don't think that is the reason.
Some people just don't want friends. I am not a person who feels the need to be friends with every new person I meet in real life, or on the internet. I am slow to warm up to people and, I hate to say it, but I am pretty judgmental when it comes to first encounters. If someone sends me a FR and something seems off about them or they say something I don't like I will decline.0 -
No, those aren't the reasons. Many people, myself included, don't accept very many friend requests (I'm happy with my FL the way it is now and am not really looking to add to it).
Everyone has their preferences when it comes to having friends, so don't take the unanswered requests personally.0 -
I wouldn't take it personally really..
Not everyone accepts all friend requests, some do....
I wouldn't read anything into based on sexuality or surgery...0 -
I like to keep a close knit group of friends. Don't take it personally. We're all "strangers." Just keep requesting people you have an interest in adding with a message as you have been.
^ this. I rarely accept friend requests that come from someone I don't recognize as having mutual friends or someone that I haven't seen/interacted with on the forums.0 -
I found out the hard way if you swear at all in your FR it goes *poof* and the person never even gets it.... unfortunately, I curse like a sailor and am open and honest most of the time, so I've had to learn to be more creative since then
Ditto *LOL* I learned the hard way that an off color word can cause your request never go through. But as far as your surgery or sexual preference goes, I wouldn't point fingers at that being the cause for people to "decline." Maybe some, but most people really don't give a *kitten*. It's about that magical "connection."
Like Bynsky and I. We were brought together by Pickles and Boobs. It just happens.0 -
Not everyone is interested in being friends with everyone and there are a million possible reasons.0
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I like to keep a close knit group of friends. Don't take it personally. We're all "strangers." Just keep requesting people you have an interest in adding with a message as you have been.
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I would think around here it would be the latter and not the former.
Some people around here view weight loss surgery in the same light... whether medically necessary or not. Some people view is it as the easy way out and don't distinguish vanity surgery from medically necessary.
I'd like to think in this day and age that gender or sexual preference don't have a place on an online forum about weight loss (but maybe I am just idealizing it)
Send me a request, I'll accept it as long as there is a valid reason and greeting as to why I should accept you. I don't accept friend requests unless there is some effort made to introduce yourself.
Cheers!0 -
First rule of friend requests, don't be creepy in the FR, be creepy after they accept you!0
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I sent out a few friend requests and never got a reply. I even included a note about why I was making the request. I guess I've always thought I could never have enough "real" friends. It makes me wonder why my request was ignored. I think there might be two reasons....first, I'm a gay guy....second, I've had Weight Loss surgery. Maybe these are the reasons?
Maybe you are not sending to the right people. I have had surgery and have friends, and I do not think your lifestyle choices would make a difference, at least with me. So, I think you are just asking the wrong people.0 -
I like to keep a small list so that I can interact with everyone. Mine's actually getting bigger than I would like, but there's no one on it that I would want to unfriend, so they are stuck with me. :laugh:
Everyone has their own reasons. Don't take it personally. Plus, if it is for either of those reasons, do you really want them as a friend? You can do better :flowerforyou:0
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