Nagging about saving money for IVF

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  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
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    Ya know what else is fun??

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  • Barbellarella_
    Barbellarella_ Posts: 454 Member
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    Being that we don't know you two on a close personal level, I don't think we can fairly access his intentions or give fair advice on your home life. There's always two sides.

    I do however wish you the best in your endeavor to becoming a mother. If you are both on board, and can afford your options, I hope you are successful. :)
  • laynerich15
    laynerich15 Posts: 1,918 Member
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    As someone who is infertile, I can only say - people need to stay the hell out of everyone's business, honestly. If people get pregnant and have a child, how fantastic. If people adopt and give a loving home to a child, fantastic. If people want to go the medical route and try to establish a pregnancy, fantastic.

    Every person has a different approach, and nobody should judge them for it, regardless of what way they are going. Medical procedures are not easy and very hard on people mentally, they shouldn't be made to feel like they are inadequate or wrong.
    I've had plenty of people nagging me about adoption, quite literally as if children were stray pets on the street.

    This is for me and my husband to decide, and whatever we will decide (childless/adoption), I will not take judgement from people.



    Look Look Look its an adult, has an issue and is speaking to her husband and not looking for self validation from strangers

    why are you so invested in this?

    Fun
    It's amazing to watch the delusion spread like wildfire, aint it?

    Yep, I have zero problem being the bad guy

    like I said earlier, I wonder what her husband would think about this thread.

    I can say if I found a thread like this that my partner started I will be p**ssed
  • MireyGal76
    MireyGal76 Posts: 7,334 Member
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    LOL! I am being SELFLESS!!! You think its fun taking medications that make you crazy, giving yourself shots, going to apt's every other day? Not really, but you know what? I will do Anything to carry a child in this world. If it doesn't work with IVF, maybe its not meant to be. But no, nothing wrong with being SELFLESS :)
    I'm still not getting how that's selfless... that's me me me me me I"LL DO ANYTHING. That has nothing to do with doing something for someone else- it's completely about doing it because that is what you want. I am in no way judging you- or thinking you're doing the wrong thing- but I am pointing out- it is selfish.

    selfish (ˈsɛlfɪʃ)

    — adj
    1. chiefly concerned with one's own interest, advantage, etc, esp to the total exclusion of the interests of others
    2. relating to or characterized by self-interest

    "selfish" isn't always a bad thing.

    Taking care of your own body, is in a way, selfish. It's making sure your body is able to meet your needs. And it's very necessary.

    Taking care of primary needs, is selfish, and required.
    So, OP, don't take that as an insult, so much as a recognition that this is a need in your world (and hopefully in your husband's too).
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
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    ^^^ Oh- lord- thank you. you get it.
    LOL! I am being SELFLESS!!! You think its fun taking medications that make you crazy, giving yourself shots, going to apt's every other day? Not really, but you know what? I will do Anything to carry a child in this world. If it doesn't work with IVF, maybe its not meant to be. But no, nothing wrong with being SELFLESS :)
    I'm still not getting how that's selfless... that's me me me me me I"LL DO ANYTHING. That has nothing to do with doing something for someone else- it's completely about doing it because that is what you want. I am in no way judging you- or thinking you're doing the wrong thing- but I am pointing out- it is selfish.

    selfish (ˈsɛlfɪʃ)

    — adj
    1. chiefly concerned with one's own interest, advantage, etc, esp to the total exclusion of the interests of others
    2. relating to or characterized by self-interest

    and copy/pasting a definition of a word only proves my point.
    YOU want kids. it is in YOUR interest alone.

    sigh. I am not saying you're wrong for wanting kids- but the reality is the only reason people have kids is because of their own base self serving desire to do so. Much like my base self serving desire is to continue to go to the gym when i want- be gone for as long as i want- and do all the things I love doing- without having to worry about anyone else. Is what I want selfish? you bet- because it's what I want.

    Much like what you want is to produce one.
    you aren't wrong.
    I'm not wrong.

    It's a self serving wish. neither good nor bad. But let's be real- it's a self serving wish. Difference is I readily accept this and you seem to think otherwise.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
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    All she wanted to do was be a GOOD mom and now look at what y'all have done. She's hyperventilating and incapable of loving EVER AGAIN!

    You all are SO MEAN!
  • PurringMyrrh
    PurringMyrrh Posts: 5,276 Member
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    As someone who is infertile, I can only say - people need to stay the hell out of everyone's business, honestly. If people get pregnant and have a child, how fantastic. If people adopt and give a loving home to a child, fantastic. If people want to go the medical route and try to establish a pregnancy, fantastic.

    Every person has a different approach, and nobody should judge them for it, regardless of what way they are going. Medical procedures are not easy and very hard on people mentally, they shouldn't be made to feel like they are inadequate or wrong.
    I've had plenty of people nagging me about adoption, quite literally as if children were stray pets on the street.

    This is for me and my husband to decide, and whatever we will decide (childless/adoption), I will not take judgement from people.



    Look Look Look its an adult, has an issue and is speaking to her husband and not looking for self validation from strangers

    why are you so invested in this?

    Fun
    It's amazing to watch the delusion spread like wildfire, aint it?

    Yep, I have zero problem being the bad guy

    like I said earlier, I wonder what her husband would think about this thread.

    I can say if I found a thread like this that my partner started I will be p**ssed
    No way. Haven't you repeatedly heard he's on board with this whole thing and would agree with everything she's stating? "Why lie?"
  • Jennisin1
    Jennisin1 Posts: 574 Member
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    So much denial... if he was really totally on board with this program, he would not spend the money. Period.

    I say, get yourselves into marriage therapy (you can deny that you need it all you want, but you just posted a very personal issue on the internet regarding your relationship).
  • likitisplit
    likitisplit Posts: 9,420 Member
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    LOL! I am being SELFLESS!!! You think its fun taking medications that make you crazy, giving yourself shots, going to apt's every other day? Not really, but you know what? I will do Anything to carry a child in this world. If it doesn't work with IVF, maybe its not meant to be. But no, nothing wrong with being SELFLESS :)
    I'm still not getting how that's selfless... that's me me me me me I"LL DO ANYTHING. That has nothing to do with doing something for someone else- it's completely about doing it because that is what you want. I am in no way judging you- or thinking you're doing the wrong thing- but I am pointing out- it is selfish.
    As someone who is infertile, I can only say - people need to stay the hell out of everyone's business, honestly. If people get pregnant and have a child, how fantastic. If people adopt and give a loving home to a child, fantastic. If people want to go the medical route and try to establish a pregnancy, fantastic.

    Every person has a different approach, and nobody should judge them for it, regardless of what way they are going. Medical procedures are not easy and very hard on people mentally, they shouldn't be made to feel like they are inadequate or wrong.
    I've had plenty of people nagging me about adoption, quite literally as if children were stray pets on the street.

    This is for me and my husband to decide, and whatever we will decide (childless/adoption), I will not take judgement from people.

    then you probably won't be posting on a public forum then (which is wise- because I agree with you fully)

    but when you do... then- well it's fair game.

    Having kids isn't a selfish act. It's a biological imperative that is one of the five things defining living organisms from the non-living. It's right up there with consuming energy and maintaining homeostasis.
  • warriorprincessdi
    warriorprincessdi Posts: 617 Member
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    ^^^ Oh- lord- thank you. you get it.
    LOL! I am being SELFLESS!!! You think its fun taking medications that make you crazy, giving yourself shots, going to apt's every other day? Not really, but you know what? I will do Anything to carry a child in this world. If it doesn't work with IVF, maybe its not meant to be. But no, nothing wrong with being SELFLESS :)
    I'm still not getting how that's selfless... that's me me me me me I"LL DO ANYTHING. That has nothing to do with doing something for someone else- it's completely about doing it because that is what you want. I am in no way judging you- or thinking you're doing the wrong thing- but I am pointing out- it is selfish.

    selfish (ˈsɛlfɪʃ)

    — adj
    1. chiefly concerned with one's own interest, advantage, etc, esp to the total exclusion of the interests of others
    2. relating to or characterized by self-interest

    and copy/pasting a definition of a word only proves my point.
    YOU want kids. it is in YOUR interest alone.

    sigh. I am not saying you're wrong for wanting kids- but the reality is the only reason people have kids is because of their own base self serving desire to do so. Much like my base self serving desire is to continue to go to the gym when i want- be gone for as long as i want- and do all the things I love doing- without having to worry about anyone else. Is what I want selfish? you bet- because it's what I want.

    Much like what you want is to produce one.
    you aren't wrong.
    I'm not wrong.

    It's a self serving wish. neither good nor bad. But let's be real- it's a self serving wish. Difference is I readily accept this and you seem to think otherwise.


    That is why I pasted the definition.... I was agreeing with OP being selfish, but she doesn't think she is. It isn't always a bad thing..... It just is
  • MomTo3Lovez
    MomTo3Lovez Posts: 800 Member
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    wow just wow lol

    ETA: I am selfish and have 3 kids all biological. I feel that you do what you feel is right for you IVF, adoption, childless, if it's what you want/desire and you are happy then that's what matters and as long as you can afford it in the now and in the future because the expense of having a child no matter how you get there is an expense that does not go away.
  • laynerich15
    laynerich15 Posts: 1,918 Member
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    As someone who is infertile, I can only say - people need to stay the hell out of everyone's business, honestly. If people get pregnant and have a child, how fantastic. If people adopt and give a loving home to a child, fantastic. If people want to go the medical route and try to establish a pregnancy, fantastic.

    Every person has a different approach, and nobody should judge them for it, regardless of what way they are going. Medical procedures are not easy and very hard on people mentally, they shouldn't be made to feel like they are inadequate or wrong.
    I've had plenty of people nagging me about adoption, quite literally as if children were stray pets on the street.

    This is for me and my husband to decide, and whatever we will decide (childless/adoption), I will not take judgement from people.



    Look Look Look its an adult, has an issue and is speaking to her husband and not looking for self validation from strangers

    why are you so invested in this?

    Fun
    It's amazing to watch the delusion spread like wildfire, aint it?

    Yep, I have zero problem being the bad guy

    like I said earlier, I wonder what her husband would think about this thread.

    I can say if I found a thread like this that my partner started I will be p**ssed
    No way. Haven't you repeatedly heard he's on board with this whole thing and would agree with everything she's stating? "Why lie?"

    Nooooo not someone lying on the internet. would never happen.
  • sullus
    sullus Posts: 2,839 Member
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    LOL! I am being SELFLESS!!! You think its fun taking medications that make you crazy, giving yourself shots, going to apt's every other day? Not really, but you know what? I will do Anything to carry a child in this world. If it doesn't work with IVF, maybe its not meant to be. But no, nothing wrong with being SELFLESS :)
    I'm still not getting how that's selfless... that's me me me me me I"LL DO ANYTHING. That has nothing to do with doing something for someone else- it's completely about doing it because that is what you want. I am in no way judging you- or thinking you're doing the wrong thing- but I am pointing out- it is selfish.
    As someone who is infertile, I can only say - people need to stay the hell out of everyone's business, honestly. If people get pregnant and have a child, how fantastic. If people adopt and give a loving home to a child, fantastic. If people want to go the medical route and try to establish a pregnancy, fantastic.

    Every person has a different approach, and nobody should judge them for it, regardless of what way they are going. Medical procedures are not easy and very hard on people mentally, they shouldn't be made to feel like they are inadequate or wrong.
    I've had plenty of people nagging me about adoption, quite literally as if children were stray pets on the street.

    This is for me and my husband to decide, and whatever we will decide (childless/adoption), I will not take judgement from people.

    then you probably won't be posting on a public forum then (which is wise- because I agree with you fully)

    but when you do... then- well it's fair game.

    Having kids isn't a selfish act. It's a biological imperative that is one of the five things defining living organisms from the non-living. It's right up there with consuming energy and maintaining homeostasis.

    Wut?
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
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    You're Selfish.
    No, I'm Selfless.
    You're Selfish.
    No, I'm Selfless.
    You're Selfish.
    No, I'm Selfless.
    You're Selfish.
    No, I'm Selfless.
    You're Selfish.
    No, I'm Selfless.
    You're Selfish.
    No, I'm Selfless.

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  • JLHNU212
    JLHNU212 Posts: 169 Member
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    Oh yes, and one more thing, to those that are dealing with infertility and being selfish and still wanting a baby, I would LOVE to be your friend, as I am currently in the very selfish process of starting IVF treatments! :)
  • sullus
    sullus Posts: 2,839 Member
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    You're Selfish.
    No, I'm Selfless.
    You're Selfish.
    No, I'm Selfless.
    You're Selfish.
    No, I'm Selfless.
    You're Selfish.
    No, I'm Selfless.
    You're Selfish.
    No, I'm Selfless.
    You're Selfish.
    No, I'm Selfless.

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    Maybe you can "Bugs Bunny" the OP .. Duck Season .. Rabbit Season ...
  • warriorprincessdi
    warriorprincessdi Posts: 617 Member
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    selfless (ˈsɛlflɪs)

    — adj
    having little concern for one's own interests


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    selfish (ˈsɛlfɪʃ)

    — adj
    1. chiefly concerned with one's own interest, advantage, etc, esp to the total exclusion of the interests of others
    2. relating to or characterized by self-interest



    Just so we are clear LOL
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
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    ^^^ Oh- lord- thank you. you get it.
    LOL! I am being SELFLESS!!! You think its fun taking medications that make you crazy, giving yourself shots, going to apt's every other day? Not really, but you know what? I will do Anything to carry a child in this world. If it doesn't work with IVF, maybe its not meant to be. But no, nothing wrong with being SELFLESS :)
    I'm still not getting how that's selfless... that's me me me me me I"LL DO ANYTHING. That has nothing to do with doing something for someone else- it's completely about doing it because that is what you want. I am in no way judging you- or thinking you're doing the wrong thing- but I am pointing out- it is selfish.

    selfish (ˈsɛlfɪʃ)

    — adj
    1. chiefly concerned with one's own interest, advantage, etc, esp to the total exclusion of the interests of others
    2. relating to or characterized by self-interest

    and copy/pasting a definition of a word only proves my point.
    YOU want kids. it is in YOUR interest alone.

    sigh. I am not saying you're wrong for wanting kids- but the reality is the only reason people have kids is because of their own base self serving desire to do so. Much like my base self serving desire is to continue to go to the gym when i want- be gone for as long as i want- and do all the things I love doing- without having to worry about anyone else. Is what I want selfish? you bet- because it's what I want.

    Much like what you want is to produce one.
    you aren't wrong.
    I'm not wrong.

    It's a self serving wish. neither good nor bad. But let's be real- it's a self serving wish. Difference is I readily accept this and you seem to think otherwise.


    That is why I pasted the definition.... I was agreeing with OP being selfish, but she doesn't think she is. It isn't always a bad thing..... It just is

    werd- sorry- I got mixed up - I thought you weren't the person who original posted- this is what I get for being lazy LMAO
  • SunofaBeach14
    SunofaBeach14 Posts: 4,899 Member
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    LOL! I am being SELFLESS!!! You think its fun taking medications that make you crazy, giving yourself shots, going to apt's every other day? Not really, but you know what? I will do Anything to carry a child in this world. If it doesn't work with IVF, maybe its not meant to be. But no, nothing wrong with being SELFLESS :)
    I'm still not getting how that's selfless... that's me me me me me I"LL DO ANYTHING. That has nothing to do with doing something for someone else- it's completely about doing it because that is what you want. I am in no way judging you- or thinking you're doing the wrong thing- but I am pointing out- it is selfish.
    As someone who is infertile, I can only say - people need to stay the hell out of everyone's business, honestly. If people get pregnant and have a child, how fantastic. If people adopt and give a loving home to a child, fantastic. If people want to go the medical route and try to establish a pregnancy, fantastic.

    Every person has a different approach, and nobody should judge them for it, regardless of what way they are going. Medical procedures are not easy and very hard on people mentally, they shouldn't be made to feel like they are inadequate or wrong.
    I've had plenty of people nagging me about adoption, quite literally as if children were stray pets on the street.

    This is for me and my husband to decide, and whatever we will decide (childless/adoption), I will not take judgement from people.

    then you probably won't be posting on a public forum then (which is wise- because I agree with you fully)

    but when you do... then- well it's fair game.

    Having kids isn't a selfish act. It's a biological imperative that is one of the five things defining living organisms from the non-living. It's right up there with consuming energy and maintaining homeostasis.

    you make sex sound so hawt
  • laynerich15
    laynerich15 Posts: 1,918 Member
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    You just don't understand


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