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  • Archerychickge
    Archerychickge Posts: 606 Member
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    First, great job on getting on track to a healthier life! It's alwasy easier if you have friends to support and enmcourage you, not to mention hold you accountable.

    For me, dropping the weight just took committment and a desire not to feel like crap anymore. I had gotten to the point where I was considered obese, and even though I was still fairly active, I felt like crap constantly. My health started to suffer as did my attitude and happiness.

    So in order to try to get healthier, I started watching what I ate MUCH more closely. I was SHOCKED at how much I was actually eating. I had fooled myself into thinking that I wasn't eating all that much, just a bite or two of this and that, but boy did it add up!

    Once I started eating single servings of things, that were and actual serving size, not just eyeballed, I started losing weight. I got a digital scale and some measuring tools, and carefully portioned out everything I ate. Once I started doing that the weight really started coming off and I felt better quickly, which made me feel better about myself, which made me want to be more active. Vicious cycle huh? lol

    I still eat the foods I love, I just eat alot less of them, and I try to make the foods I cook healthier by cutting fat, sodium, carbs,and calories wherever possible. It isn't about denying yourself everything, it's about actually living a life you can be happy with.

    Now I've dropped 65+ pounds on my way to a "normal" weight for my height. I'm no longer considered obese and am closing in on a normal BMI. I'd like to be there by Christmas, but I know it takes time to take it off just like it took time to put it on. But I'm going to get there.

    I have noticed MUCH more definition of the muscles in my arms and legs, as well as a significant change in my overall body shape... which definitly does NOT suck. I don't want to look like a body builder either, but definition is nice.
  • twikoff
    twikoff Posts: 65 Member
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    OP, a little back story on this. People do not support unsupervised VLCDs, nor do a majority of the community here appreciate when someone who eats 625 cals a day tries to encourage certain behaviours. Please do not let this person sway you from participating in the community or groups.

    Thanks for the heads up
    I must admit, i scrolled the thread on 'avoiding sagging breasts', and had pretty much the same WTF response to this person's post.. not sure i could handle those kids of theories in my daily feed...
    One group I'd recommend joining because of the great info is the Eat, Train, Progress group here on MFP.

    Here's a link that might interest you. It has a lot of great info and advice and you'll end up seeing this put out a lot for those that are new :)

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants

    nice! I've been meaning to start a path to sexy pants!
  • JustinAnimal
    JustinAnimal Posts: 1,335 Member
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    I don't think it's sad that you don't have friends on here. I think it's awesome. As soon as you add some "friends," you'll find out that they post about their lives all of the time. Like ALL of the time. So many details. I came here for some encouragement and to encourage others in return, not learn every little detail about their life (isn't that what twitter and/or facebook is for? I ask b/c I don't have accounts). Seriously, I don't intend offense when I say that. But we know each other in imaginary land (the internet) and I doubt I'll ever meet one of my "friends" in real life or write them a sincere letter or have a phone conversation or go anywhere beyond sarcastic remarks about sex spreadsheets or food porn or whatever, and that doesn't really qualify as a satisfying relationship to me.

    So get those friends, if you want. Don't be surprised if you start removing some of them after 3-6 months because you aren't the kind of person who is on here to be uber-social. If you are, then fill out that profile, load some humorous pictures of yourself, begin posting snarky comments on the forums and make some "friends." Works for some, not for me.

    Mini-rant: why do people who are already cut and muscular and hot go on this site and flirt and post themselves shirtless or in a bikini? You've already WON! Go to facebook and do the online flirting / dating thing that I hear everyone else does there, not here. I thought this site was for fatties like me who want encouragement to get healthier, not to be social or flaunt my abs.
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
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    OP, a little back story on this. People do not support unsupervised VLCDs, nor do a majority of the community here appreciate when someone who eats 625 cals a day tries to encourage certain behaviours. Please do not let this person sway you from participating in the community or groups.

    Thanks for the heads up
    I must admit, i scrolled the thread on 'avoiding sagging breasts', and had pretty much the same WTF response to this person's post.. not sure i could handle those kids of theories in my daily feed...
    One group I'd recommend joining because of the great info is the Eat, Train, Progress group here on MFP.

    Here's a link that might interest you. It has a lot of great info and advice and you'll end up seeing this put out a lot for those that are new :)

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants

    nice! I've been meaning to start a path to sexy pants!

    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

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  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
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    Hi there, aedreana here. I don't send friend requests but I accept friend requests sent my way. You are welcome to read my profile and if you decide you'd want me as a friend, please feel free to send a friend request to me. P.S. My profile contains valuable information as to what kind of stuff to be on guard against on the forums. There is a clique on here that thinks that they own the forums.

    Profile states that she is "the voice of reason."

    FR sent!!!!!!!

    that is a gross understatement... she is "the unofficial, self-appointed voice of reason"

    I read the word "clique" at least 5 times in her profile and it was mentioned again in this post...





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  • JustinAnimal
    JustinAnimal Posts: 1,335 Member
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    Man, should've read through the whole forum first. I've been suffering hate because I'm straight, white, and male, since before college. WTF? DO WE HAVE ANY CONTROL OVER THIS?!? Isn't that just the same kind of blind hate as hating someone because they're black or lesbian or something else people were born with?

    Yeah, I get it, I'm privileged. I never asked for it. I don't abuse it (that I'm aware of). Get over it and learn to live in this world. That or shut up and get out to start enacting some of the changes you'd like to see. Your ranting about injustice is about as productive as Rush Limbaugh ranting about how liberals are trying to turn everyone gay and take over the world. Just a bunch of hot wind.

    Edited for spelling error.
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
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    I don't think it's sad that you don't have friends on here. I think it's awesome. As soon as you add some "friends," you'll find out that they post about their lives all of the time. Like ALL of the time. So many details. I came here for some encouragement and to encourage others in return, not learn every little detail about their life (isn't that what twitter and/or facebook is for? I ask b/c I don't have accounts). Seriously, I don't intend offense when I say that. But we know each other in imaginary land (the internet) and I doubt I'll ever meet one of my "friends" in real life or write them a sincere letter or have a phone conversation or go anywhere beyond sarcastic remarks about sex spreadsheets or food porn or whatever, and that doesn't really qualify as a satisfying relationship to me.

    So get those friends, if you want. Don't be surprised if you start removing some of them after 3-6 months because you aren't the kind of person who is on here to be uber-social. If you are, then fill out that profile, load some humorous pictures of yourself, begin posting snarky comments on the forums and make some "friends." Works for some, not for me.

    Mini-rant: why do people who are already cut and muscular and hot go on this site and flirt and post themselves shirtless or in a bikini? You've already WON! Go to facebook and do the online flirting / dating thing that I hear everyone else does there, not here. I thought this site was for fatties like me who want encouragement to get healthier, not to be social or flaunt my abs.

    You do realize this is a fitness site right? That means people other than those who are looking to lose weight are more than welcome here. Have you considered counseling? (genuinely asking because there seems to be some issues and maybe a therapist might be better suited than on this guy's thread).
  • hastingsmassage
    hastingsmassage Posts: 162 Member
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    Over 1.5 years here, it's my second profile..Lost nearly 100 lbs by myself, I did ad people on the begining but it was not the best idea. I am enough motivated to do it by myself. I guess we are all different. I am glad there is more 0 friends -100 lbs :)
  • ew_david
    ew_david Posts: 3,473 Member
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    I don't think it's sad that you don't have friends on here. I think it's awesome. As soon as you add some "friends," you'll find out that they post about their lives all of the time. Like ALL of the time. So many details. I came here for some encouragement and to encourage others in return, not learn every little detail about their life (isn't that what twitter and/or facebook is for? I ask b/c I don't have accounts). Seriously, I don't intend offense when I say that. But we know each other in imaginary land (the internet) and I doubt I'll ever meet one of my "friends" in real life or write them a sincere letter or have a phone conversation or go anywhere beyond sarcastic remarks about sex spreadsheets or food porn or whatever, and that doesn't really qualify as a satisfying relationship to me.

    So get those friends, if you want. Don't be surprised if you start removing some of them after 3-6 months because you aren't the kind of person who is on here to be uber-social. If you are, then fill out that profile, load some humorous pictures of yourself, begin posting snarky comments on the forums and make some "friends." Works for some, not for me.

    Mini-rant: why do people who are already cut and muscular and hot go on this site and flirt and post themselves shirtless or in a bikini? You've already WON! Go to facebook and do the online flirting / dating thing that I hear everyone else does there, not here. I thought this site was for fatties like me who want encouragement to get healthier, not to be social or flaunt my abs.

    This thread has it all now.

    Wow.
  • JustinAnimal
    JustinAnimal Posts: 1,335 Member
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    I don't understand what about that comment makes me a candidate for psychiatry. I have considered it, but I don't know for what reason you're suggesting.

    Yeah, I guess I've misunderstood the point of this site for years. Rather than social media, hourly updates, or dating (which I thought were all covered by sites specializing in those things), this was for people trying to get in shape. I thought people who were already in shape went to bodybuilding sites, running sites, cycling sits, whatever site featured the type of fitness they were already very well into. I consider this the Wii fit of web sites, so general fitness for beginners, not specialized fitness / photo forums for people with washboard abs and bikini bodies. If it's not painfully obvious, I am not the most tech or internet savvy.

    Clearly, it's a misunderstanding on my part.

    Get specific about why I need the counseling and I'll absolutely consider it further.
  • baba_helly
    baba_helly Posts: 810 Member
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    Mini-rant: why do people who are already cut and muscular and hot go on this site and flirt and post themselves shirtless or in a bikini? You've already WON! Go to facebook and do the online flirting / dating thing that I hear everyone else does there, not here. I thought this site was for fatties like me who want encouragement to get healthier, not to be social or flaunt my abs.

    oh girl, there is no reason you can't get in on this. I'm a fatty and I hang out in my chonies around here all the time. try it, it's fun!!
  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,466 Member
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    I don't think it's sad that you don't have friends on here. I think it's awesome. As soon as you add some "friends," you'll find out that they post about their lives all of the time. Like ALL of the time. So many details. I came here for some encouragement and to encourage others in return, not learn every little detail about their life (isn't that what twitter and/or facebook is for? I ask b/c I don't have accounts). Seriously, I don't intend offense when I say that. But we know each other in imaginary land (the internet) and I doubt I'll ever meet one of my "friends" in real life or write them a sincere letter or have a phone conversation or go anywhere beyond sarcastic remarks about sex spreadsheets or food porn or whatever, and that doesn't really qualify as a satisfying relationship to me.

    So get those friends, if you want. Don't be surprised if you start removing some of them after 3-6 months because you aren't the kind of person who is on here to be uber-social. If you are, then fill out that profile, load some humorous pictures of yourself, begin posting snarky comments on the forums and make some "friends." Works for some, not for me.

    Mini-rant: why do people who are already cut and muscular and hot go on this site and flirt and post themselves shirtless or in a bikini? You've already WON! Go to facebook and do the online flirting / dating thing that I hear everyone else does there, not here. I thought this site was for fatties like me who want encouragement to get healthier, not to be social or flaunt my abs.

    This thread has it all now.

    Wow.

    Not yet, I still haven't gotten bingo.
  • Sarauk2sf
    Sarauk2sf Posts: 28,072 Member
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    I don't think it's sad that you don't have friends on here. I think it's awesome. As soon as you add some "friends," you'll find out that they post about their lives all of the time. Like ALL of the time. So many details. I came here for some encouragement and to encourage others in return, not learn every little detail about their life (isn't that what twitter and/or facebook is for? I ask b/c I don't have accounts). Seriously, I don't intend offense when I say that. But we know each other in imaginary land (the internet) and I doubt I'll ever meet one of my "friends" in real life or write them a sincere letter or have a phone conversation or go anywhere beyond sarcastic remarks about sex spreadsheets or food porn or whatever, and that doesn't really qualify as a satisfying relationship to me.

    So get those friends, if you want. Don't be surprised if you start removing some of them after 3-6 months because you aren't the kind of person who is on here to be uber-social. If you are, then fill out that profile, load some humorous pictures of yourself, begin posting snarky comments on the forums and make some "friends." Works for some, not for me.

    Mini-rant: why do people who are already cut and muscular and hot go on this site and flirt and post themselves shirtless or in a bikini? You've already WON! Go to facebook and do the online flirting / dating thing that I hear everyone else does there, not here. I thought this site was for fatties like me who want encouragement to get healthier, not to be social or flaunt my abs.

    There is so much wrong with this post I do not even know where to start.
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
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    I don't understand what about that comment makes me a candidate for psychiatry. I have considered it, but I don't know for what reason you're suggesting.

    Yeah, I guess I've misunderstood the point of this site for years. Rather than social media, hourly updates, or dating (which I thought were all covered by sites specializing in those things), this was for people trying to get in shape. I thought people who were already in shape went to bodybuilding sites, running sites, cycling sits, whatever site featured the type of fitness they were already very well into. I consider this the Wii fit of web sites, so general fitness for beginners, not specialized fitness / photo forums for people with washboard abs and bikini bodies. If it's not painfully obvious, I am not the most tech or internet savvy.

    Clearly, it's a misunderstanding on my part.

    Get specific about why I need the counseling and I'll absolutely consider it further.

    ^points above. Take a breather, come back in a day and read that...and also realize that you are hijacking some guy's thread to rant about what's obviously your personal issues. Sorry for the derailment OP :(
  • QueenBishOTUniverse
    QueenBishOTUniverse Posts: 14,121 Member
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    Mini-rant: why do people who are already cut and muscular and hot go on this site and flirt and post themselves shirtless or in a bikini? You've already WON! Go to facebook and do the online flirting / dating thing that I hear everyone else does there, not here. I thought this site was for fatties like me who want encouragement to get healthier, not to be social or flaunt my abs.

    I wouldn't post that on FB because that would be incredibly insensitive and/or none of their business for most of the people I know on FB.

    I can't flaunt abs yet, but I damn sure will as soon as I am able.

    As for the flirting, you do realize a lot of that is BSing? I'm happily married, many of the guys on my FL are happily married. I don't know, maybe other people take that stuff seriously but I certainly don't. :huh:
  • ThickMcRunFast
    ThickMcRunFast Posts: 22,511 Member
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    I don't think it's sad that you don't have friends on here. I think it's awesome. As soon as you add some "friends," you'll find out that they post about their lives all of the time. Like ALL of the time. So many details. I came here for some encouragement and to encourage others in return, not learn every little detail about their life (isn't that what twitter and/or facebook is for? I ask b/c I don't have accounts). Seriously, I don't intend offense when I say that. But we know each other in imaginary land (the internet) and I doubt I'll ever meet one of my "friends" in real life or write them a sincere letter or have a phone conversation or go anywhere beyond sarcastic remarks about sex spreadsheets or food porn or whatever, and that doesn't really qualify as a satisfying relationship to me.

    So get those friends, if you want. Don't be surprised if you start removing some of them after 3-6 months because you aren't the kind of person who is on here to be uber-social. If you are, then fill out that profile, load some humorous pictures of yourself, begin posting snarky comments on the forums and make some "friends." Works for some, not for me.

    Mini-rant: why do people who are already cut and muscular and hot go on this site and flirt and post themselves shirtless or in a bikini? You've already WON! Go to facebook and do the online flirting / dating thing that I hear everyone else does there, not here. I thought this site was for fatties like me who want encouragement to get healthier, not to be social or flaunt my abs.

    Issues. You haz them.
  • jeffd247
    jeffd247 Posts: 319 Member
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    I've accepted some friend requests, only to turn around and remove them because I didn't care about getting updates on their progress or their "liking" every time I finished my diary for the day.

    I'm "friends" with my wife, brother and sister-in-law and we use that to keep each other accountable. Beyond that I've never seen the need for it.

    Others, I think, enjoy the interaction and the social spin on it and it helps them stay committed. They get support and camaraderie from it and those are good things too!

    Whatever works, I guess.
  • Muddy_Yogi
    Muddy_Yogi Posts: 1,459 Member
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    I don't think it's sad that you don't have friends on here. I think it's awesome. As soon as you add some "friends," you'll find out that they post about their lives all of the time. Like ALL of the time. So many details. I came here for some encouragement and to encourage others in return, not learn every little detail about their life (isn't that what twitter and/or facebook is for? I ask b/c I don't have accounts). Seriously, I don't intend offense when I say that. But we know each other in imaginary land (the internet) and I doubt I'll ever meet one of my "friends" in real life or write them a sincere letter or have a phone conversation or go anywhere beyond sarcastic remarks about sex spreadsheets or food porn or whatever, and that doesn't really qualify as a satisfying relationship to me.

    So get those friends, if you want. Don't be surprised if you start removing some of them after 3-6 months because you aren't the kind of person who is on here to be uber-social. If you are, then fill out that profile, load some humorous pictures of yourself, begin posting snarky comments on the forums and make some "friends." Works for some, not for me.

    Mini-rant: why do people who are already cut and muscular and hot go on this site and flirt and post themselves shirtless or in a bikini? You've already WON! Go to facebook and do the online flirting / dating thing that I hear everyone else does there, not here. I thought this site was for fatties like me who want encouragement to get healthier, not to be social or flaunt my abs.

    I think you are confusing Fitness and Health with Weightloss....this isn't a WEIGHTLOSS specific site. It is for overall health and fitness. People are here for many reasons. Some are fit trying to reach other goals in their fitness and want people with similar goals to discuss things with. There is now WIN in this....this is a lifestyle for many. There is no END GAME.
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
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    I don't think it's sad that you don't have friends on here. I think it's awesome. As soon as you add some "friends," you'll find out that they post about their lives all of the time. Like ALL of the time. So many details. I came here for some encouragement and to encourage others in return, not learn every little detail about their life (isn't that what twitter and/or facebook is for? I ask b/c I don't have accounts). Seriously, I don't intend offense when I say that. But we know each other in imaginary land (the internet) and I doubt I'll ever meet one of my "friends" in real life or write them a sincere letter or have a phone conversation or go anywhere beyond sarcastic remarks about sex spreadsheets or food porn or whatever, and that doesn't really qualify as a satisfying relationship to me.

    So get those friends, if you want. Don't be surprised if you start removing some of them after 3-6 months because you aren't the kind of person who is on here to be uber-social. If you are, then fill out that profile, load some humorous pictures of yourself, begin posting snarky comments on the forums and make some "friends." Works for some, not for me.

    Mini-rant: why do people who are already cut and muscular and hot go on this site and flirt and post themselves shirtless or in a bikini? You've already WON! Go to facebook and do the online flirting / dating thing that I hear everyone else does there, not here. I thought this site was for fatties like me who want encouragement to get healthier, not to be social or flaunt my abs.

    Um, how are you friends with my husband?

    Just wow.
  • JustinAnimal
    JustinAnimal Posts: 1,335 Member
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    I don't know if I just sound angry or what, but I feel like Walter, sitting here saying, "Calmer than you are." I am actually fine right now, so sorry for the perceived anger. Just expressing thoughts, which have been clearly met with general disgust. Apologies.

    And OP, sorry for going somewhere else with this. I think you're a great person and having friends is great. Watch out with your honesty on these forums...

    Edited for spelling.

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