Gross/TMI question for the guys .....

sunglasses_and_ocean_waves

<b>you have been warned! </b>

My friends and I were talking about this the other night. New relationship: it's sexy time, but she just started her period. lol How does he want to hear that? Every suggestion sounded disgusting or old fashioned. There must be a way to say it without killing the mood.

Thanks! (and I'm ready for the lecture on how natural it is, and she shouldn't be sleeping with him if she can't ..... blah blah blah).

Megan101792

As a girl, I would just tell him. Some guys are grossed out by it while other guys don't give and will still want to do it. Why hide a natural process that occurs every month? He's going to figure it out sometime

sculli123

What are we 12? Just say it, wouldn't bother me at all. And if you want to really get TMI, it's never stopped me from sexy time either. lol Towel on bed, let's go! Shower right after.

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smarieallen85

What are we 12? Just say it, wouldn't bother me at all. And if you want to really get TMI, it's never stopped me from sexy time either. lol Towel on bed, let's go! Shower right after.

lol. For real.

Also I haven't thought about this question since I was like...wait, never have I given any thought to this.

sunglasses_and_ocean_waves

Just say something like "I really want to do this but it's not the right ... TIME... for a couple more days" and then you can still do other things that aren't affected by your TOM.

Or if you're dating sculli123 then just bust out the dark colored towel!
btw sculli123, I'm right there with you. But lots of guys AND girls aren't. #missingout

Thank you.

To sculli: My question wasn't whether or not to say it/do it. It was *how* to say it without sounding like a healthcare professional or someone's grandmother. But go ahead and read it the way you want.

The word period just sounds so gross.

sunglasses_and_ocean_waves

What are we 12? Just say it, wouldn't bother me at all. And if you want to really get TMI, it's never stopped me from sexy time either. lol Towel on bed, let's go! Shower right after.

lol. For real.

Also I haven't thought about this question since I was like...wait, never have I given any thought to this.

well if one isn't getting any .....

Megan101792

Just say something like "I really want to do this but it's not the right ... TIME... for a couple more days" and then you can still do other things that aren't affected by your TOM.

Or if you're dating sculli123 then just bust out the dark colored towel!
btw sculli123, I'm right there with you. But lots of guys AND girls aren't. #missingout

Guys, you do in on the floor or in the shower, not the bed.

jojomoe523

just tell him. nothing a little soap and water can't cure....

sculli123

Just say something like "I really want to do this but it's not the right ... TIME... for a couple more days" and then you can still do other things that aren't affected by your TOM.

Or if you're dating sculli123 then just bust out the dark colored towel!
btw sculli123, I'm right there with you. But lots of guys AND girls aren't. #missingout

Thank you.

To sculli: My question wasn't whether or not to say it/do it. It was *how* to say it without sounding like a healthcare professional or someone's grandmother. But go ahead and read it the way you want.

The word period just sounds so gross.

Say, "dude I'm on the rag again, you still wanna do it?".

Kidding, just say its that time of the month or something.

poedunk65

Just say now is not a good time.

kessler4130

Just take it to the shower, done.

hookilau

Megan101792

Hotel is better. You don't run out of hot water. And how open minded is she or he? Some people think it's a no go while are like hey no lube

MSeel1984

Never stopped us.
Like previous suggestions: Towel, shower after, etc. If you know that the guy you're with is disgusted by that, then just come out and tell him that it's not a good time for that and that you'll get back to him in 5-7 days.

MSeel1984

This win the internet.

Ump78

Y'all are ignoring an important fact. She MUST tell him. If he's anything like me he MUST know before he puts his mouth.......gross. I would rather know while we're both fully dressed than have her grab my head and not let me below her belly button. Just sayin. Avoid the awkwardness. Tell him EARLY, "Baby, It's my time of the month." He wont use his hands or mouth and your other erogenous zones will get more attention. Whatever he decides, to do it or not. Personally? Standing in the shower has always been a fav regardless of cyclic interruption. Just sayin.....

hookilau

Y'all are ignoring an important fact. She MUST tell him. If he's anything like me he MUST know before he puts his mouth.......gross. I would rather know while we're both fully dressed than have her grab my head and not let me below her belly button. Just sayin. Avoid the awkwardness. Tell him EARLY, "Baby, It's my time of the month." He wont use his hands or mouth and your other erogenous zones will get more attention. Whatever he decides, to do it or not. Personally? Standing in the shower has always been a fav regardless of cyclic interruption. Just sayin.....

ok...then, how about...
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sunglasses_and_ocean_waves

Once again, 90% are missing the original question. It wasn't should she tell him or should they do it, it's how to tell him in a way that doesn't sound gross. So nevermind. It doesn't effect me anyway.

Thanks for not reading :laugh:

Cryptonomnomicon

ETA: As I don't want a strike my response has been replaced by this disclaimer and a gif.

sunglasses_and_ocean_waves

"Do you want a *kitten*?" Tends to be a winner.

/thread

We have a winner, peeps. :drinker:

365andstillalive

Once again, 90% are missing the original question. It wasn't should she tell him or should they do it, it's how to tell him in a way that doesn't sound gross. So nevermind. It doesn't effect me anyway.

Thanks for not reading :laugh:

Honestly, unless the guy is 18 and never had sex with a girl before, I think they kind of understand that most women, on a monthly basis bleed from their vagina.

I advise your friend dates a man who won't cringe at words like "vagina" and "period".

With my SO, all I say is "We can totally have sex, I'm on my period though so should I grab a towel or are we hopping in the shower?"

Shows you clearly are still fine with sex, uses adult words like "period", and then the guy either picks an option or fesses up that he's not a fan of period sex and asks for a blow job instead.

Dgydad

I he's so immature you can't just tell him you're having your period, in simple language (I'm on my period, it's that time of the month, etc., etc., etc.) I question your decision to have sex with him in the first place. Find a grown-up!

sunglasses_and_ocean_waves

Once again, 90% are missing the original question. It wasn't should she tell him or should they do it, it's how to tell him in a way that doesn't sound gross. So nevermind. It doesn't effect me anyway.

Thanks for not reading :laugh:

Honestly, unless the guy is 18 and never had sex with a girl before, I think they kind of understand that most women, on a monthly basis bleed from their vagina.

I advise your friend dates a man who won't cringe at words like "vagina" and "period".

With my SO, all I say is "We can totally have sex, I'm on my period though so should I grab a towel or are we hopping in the shower?"

Shows you clearly are still fine with sex, uses adult words like "period", and then the guy either picks an option or fesses up that he's not a fan of period sex and asks for a blow job instead.

Thanks hun, I can see why it wouldnt be a problem for you.

GBrady43068

<b>you have been warned! </b>

My friends and I were talking about this the other night. New relationship: it's sexy time, but she just started her period. lol How does he want to hear that? Every suggestion sounded disgusting or old fashioned. There must be a way to say it without killing the mood.

Thanks! (and I'm ready for the lecture on how natural it is, and she shouldn't be sleeping with him if she can't ..... blah blah blah).

Either:

1) "It's that time of the month...but we could do other stuff if that bothers you...."
2) In the shower as others have suggested...

And I'll also say that unless she already knows this would bother him, chances are he'll just opt for the towel and still be into it...

bevhillsilly

Right? I think people got distracted thinking about sex in the shower...mm,mmmmmmm
So, one way would be to say, " let's grab a towel" with a little wink/smile He will probably totally know instantly what she's talking about. "It's my time of the month"? Ugh that sounds so twee

GBrady43068

Once again, 90% are missing the original question. It wasn't should she tell him or should they do it, it's how to tell him in a way that doesn't sound gross. So nevermind. It doesn't effect me anyway.

Thanks for not reading :laugh:

Honestly, unless the guy is 18 and never had sex with a girl before, I think they kind of understand that most women, on a monthly basis bleed from their vagina.

I advise your friend dates a man who won't cringe at words like "vagina" and "period".

With my SO, all I say is "We can totally have sex, I'm on my period though so should I grab a towel or are we hopping in the shower?"

Shows you clearly are still fine with sex, uses adult words like "period", and then the guy either picks an option or fesses up that he's not a fan of period sex and asks for a blow job instead.

+1

GBrady43068

"Do you want a *kitten*?" Tends to be a winner.

/thread

We have a winner, peeps. :drinker:

I have yet to talk to any guy who said they were asked this by a girl and said "No, I actually want *real* s e x". :laugh:

Just saying....

sunglasses_and_ocean_waves

Thanks! (and I'm ready for the lecture on how natural it is, and she shouldn't be sleeping with him if she can't ..... blah blah blah).

stephanieluvspb

i think it's good to give guys a head up in case they can't handle it, so I'll say, I'm having a girl issue, it that a problem?....it's usually not! lol

El_Cunado

What are we 12? Just say it,

^^This.