dating sites- do you use them ??

emmietoby

howdy just a few quick questions please :
1 ) have you ever tried a dating site?

2) were you pleased?

3) would you tell someone to try one?

4) any bad vibes?

5) any thing i shoud ask?

6) would you do it again?

7) what site(s) did you find most helpful

8) which one(s) should we stay away from / why

any other info would be helpful --thanks

CoachJen71

I don't personally have experience with them, but my BIL met his wife on one. :^)

landoflanie23

Answers to your questions:


1 ) have you ever tried a dating site?

Yes!! I tried Plenty of Fish and Tinder

2) were you pleased?

Yes, I met my current partner

3) would you tell someone to try one?

Yes

4) any bad vibes?

You get the occasional strange people/ weirdos, but you can just ignore them

5) any thing i should ask?

Always send a message that mentions something they've discussed or touched upon in their profile. It shows you've read it and are actually interested in a conversation

6) would you do it again?

I would if I were to be single again, it's great for people who are very busy and career minded or if you don't get to meet new people very often

7) what site(s) did you find most helpful

POF

8) which one(s) should we stay away from / why

Ones that are paid for.... plenty of fish and tinder are free!

I hope that helps

lillyrose2020

Thought I would reply as I met my boyfriend online and had a very positive experience. However always approach these things with caution and stay safe. I have answered your questions based on my own experience:

1 ) have you ever tried a dating site?
Yes. The only one I have used is Match.com. After three weeks of being on the site I went on my first blind date with a guy that I had found common ground and a good connection online, fast forward to just over a year later and he turned out to be the man of my dreams and we are living together very happily. I accept that this is not everyones experience. Many of my friends have tried various dating sites for several years and not found Mr Right.

2) were you pleased?
Yes!

3) would you tell someone to try one?
Yes, I do encourage single friends to try online dating. It is very hard to meet people in the real world.

4) any bad vibes?
Not really, any negative messages or weirdos can be blocked and reported

5) any thing i shoud ask?
Just always be careful, don't give out private information, don't tell anyone your address, if you do meet with someone in person make sure it is a public place and always tell family and friends where you are going and maintain contact with them.

6) would you do it again?
Hopefully I won't have to as I am happily settled, but I suppose I would given the previous success.


7) what site(s) did you find most helpful
I have only used Match.com. it is not free but apparently you get a higher calibre of person when it is not free (according to friends who have used the free sites and compared to Match)

8) which one(s) should we stay away from / why
I don't personally have experience with other sites

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chivalryder

Is it wise to ask about dating sites on a dating site?

IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym

1 ) have you ever tried a dating site? - yes

2) were you pleased? - for the most part. I mean, you will have to weed through some wackadoodle's, but that's in real life, too...

3) would you tell someone to try one? yea, why not?

4) any bad vibes? of course, but again, same can and will happen in real life, too

5) any thing i shoud ask? just be yourself and ask questions that are important to you

6) would you do it again? maybe one day

7) what site(s) did you find most helpful - I personally liked POF, but I do think its regional

8) which one(s) should we stay away from / why - where I am, I felt OK Cupid was more of a hookup site, but I've heard others say the same about POF, so its really going to come down to weeding through and being careful.

VeryKatie

I met my boyfriend on a dating site. We're planning to get married.

1 ) have you ever tried a dating site?
Yep!

2) were you pleased?
You bet!

3) would you tell someone to try one?
I would if they were willing to step out of their comfort zone a bit. It's not for everyone.

4) any bad vibes?
I only had one "bad" date but I was very careful. It was really just that he was not a good match for me... plus he was swindling his parents for money - which was very lame for his age.

5) any thing i should ask?
Ask the other person? I liked asking some of the suggested questions. My favourites being:
a) Describe your best friend and why they are your best friend (It shows the character of the person I think)
b) Where do you see yourself in 5 years (good for finding out if they want kids etc)
... really just ask anything you think is important. Get it out in the open and out of the way. There's no need to waste your time with people on online dating sites because you'll likely have plenty of options! Get in and out as fast as you can haha.

6) would you do it again?
I won't need to But my experience was good so if I had to I would.

7) what site(s) did you find most helpful
I used eHarmony.

8) which one(s) should we stay away from / why
Stay away from free sites if you can (it weeds out a few of the people just looking for a romp or who really might not be too financially responsible). Otherwise, just do your research. My brother used Lava Life but it seemed creepy to me - but he met his wife there. I've heard good things about Match.com. I basically stuck with any that were big enough to advertise - because ads bring in people which means a bigger dating pool. Plus they usually have the money to put safety features into place.

The number one thing to think about for dating online is SAFETY. Always tell someone where you're going on a date and when you expect to be back - and then let them know when you get back. Go to a public place for the date. Transport yourself (don't get into their car until you actually know them). I even facebook stalked some of them before I met them. I refused to meet with anyone who didn't have a photo up or claimed they couldn't put one up because they were a teacher or something - remember (at least for eHarmony) that you can't see a photo unless you have a paid subscription. Which means there's no reason to hide (especially for teachers - their students aren't going to be buying subscriptions).

W31RD0

Who gives a **** about this, where do you think you are mate???!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Black Mr. Clean is right. This should be in Chit-Chat at the least.

Missjulesdid

howdy just a few quick questions please :
1 ) have you ever tried a dating site?
Yes. I've tried both free dating sites and paid dating sites.
2) were you pleased?
OK cupid and POF were free and the best sites I used. The pay sites were not worth it.
3) would you tell someone to try one?
YES. I've made the recommendation to many
4) any bad vibes? Sure, just like with meeting people from anywhere. There are creepers online for sure.. and IRL It doesn't take much to sniff them out. Also you learn pretty quickly which ones are the fake profiles.
5) any thing i shoud ask?
Nope, but I'll give you some unsolicited advice.. Get a burner phone and give the number to the ppl you meet online.. Don't give your real number unless you're actually dating. Go on as many dates as possible.. you can't tell how someone is from their profile. Unless there's something about the person that is a total turn off, then meet up for a cup of coffee or a quick meal. I must have gone on 70 or more first dates. Make your self sound good in your profile but be honest. Be honest about your bodytype be honest about your lifestyle and what you're looking for.
6) would you do it again?
I sure hope I never have to!
7) what site(s) did you find most helpful.
OKcupid and PlentyOfFish
8) which one(s) should we stay away from / why

I met my husband online. I had been on many MANY dates and met a lot of great men from my city, but no match. I decided to open up my search to "world wide" and my husband came up as a 97% match. I checked out his profile and was really interested in him, but he was in Tunisia and I was in the USA so it was with disappointment that I closed his profile. Later that night, he had seen me stalking his profile and he contacted me. We talked on skype and by phone every day after that.

We're now married and living together in Tunisia!

sweetcurlz67

research paper????

1 ) have you ever tried a dating site? multiple...

2) were you pleased? ummm... well... define pleased. I've met some very interesting people - to put it nicely

3) would you tell someone to try one? probably. I do know people who have met their SO's on sites, I just haven't met anyone (yet)

4) any bad vibes? just some weirdos

5) any thing i shoud ask? from what, this research request or from potential dates? as someone else said, be yourself, be comfortable with yourself and in your own skin, if you mesh, you mesh, if not, move on.

6) would you do it again? yes, still on the several sites

7) what site(s) did you find most helpful? they're all about the same and you'll see the same people on all the different sites

8) which one(s) should we stay away from / why? doesn't matter. people say the free sites but the same ppl are also on the paid sites - it's all a matter of chance anyway, right?

Renosu

Yep - tried them all. There's a site for anything you can think of.....quick hook up; AFF. Little bit longer hook-up, POF. Some seriously looking for LTR on Match and eHarmony. OK Cupid was kind of a fun romp. ALWAYS meet in a public place, and NEVER get in a car with someone right off the bat (and carrying pepper spray or something higher caliber isn't a bad idea) Having said all that, it's a very effective and kind of fun way to meet people and I've had a couple nice relationships start there. Taking a break now to work on me, then I'll go back and would encourage you or anyone else to give it a try. Have fun!

emmietoby

Who gives a **** about this, where do you think you are mate???!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Black Mr. Clean is right. This should be in Chit-Chat at the least.

thanks !!

emmietoby

Who gives a **** about this, where do you think you are mate???!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Black Mr. Clean is right. This should be in Chit-Chat at the least.

thanks !!

if you really don't want to answer why post??

emmietoby

Who gives a **** about this, where do you think you are mate???!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Black Mr. Clean is right. This should be in Chit-Chat at the least.

thanks !!

if you really don't want to answer why post??
doing a paper for class thanks to all who answered nicely !!

maroonmango211

1 ) have you ever tried a dating site? yes

2) were you pleased? over all no, there were a lot of creeps

3) would you tell someone to try one? yes, it is a valid way to meet people if you are honest and careful

4) any bad vibes? yes, but then you just block/delete and move on

5) any thing i shoud ask? get to know someone the same way you would in person, real conversation and take your time

6) would you do it again? I met my man online and we now have a wonderful family (3 kids) together, so there is no need :P

7) what site(s) did you find most helpful? we met on plenty of fish, it was years ago I am not sure if it is any where near the same but it was free, don't think you should have to pay for it....

8) which one(s) should we stay away from / why? adultfriendfinder lol unless your goal is the booty call!

gallifreyfallsnomore1

Isn't MFP a dating site?

emmietoby

Isn't MFP a dating site?

W31RD0

if you really don't want to answer why post??
doing a paper for class thanks to all who answered nicely !!

Because you need to be edified that help with you little homework assignment is better off in the general discussion areas.

whovian67

NOPE.. concentrating on Fitness and Wellness..... plus I am enjoying MFP .. it is what it is.. and NOT a dating site

robswiger

I've used Match.com before with some success. After this weekend, I will know if it is very successful, but I'm hopeful. Watch out for fake profiles that they use to bait you to purchase membership. I've also tried OK, Cupid but got nothing.

jmcdonald2011

howdy just a few quick questions please :
1 ) have you ever tried a dating site? Yup met my husband on one

2) were you pleased? the end result worked for me

3) would you tell someone to try one? sure why not - but I would tell them to be cautious, always meet in public, drive yourself, and always tell a friend where exactly you are

4) any bad vibes? there where a lot of weirdos on there.

5) any thing i shoud ask? anything and everything

6) would you do it again? no because I have no intention on being single again

7) what site(s) did you find most helpful? I was only ever on POF

8) which one(s) should we stay away from / why? No idea

any other info would be helpful --thanks

RelentlessCherry

I'll answer the post in a minute, but I just want to say I must have missed something when I joined MFP. I was under the impression this was a fitness/diet site where support and encouraged could be shared by/with others who were also trying to lose weight or get fit. I don't recall any questions related to dating when I signed up, so when exactly did MFP get classed as a dating site?

Now, to answer Em's questions...
1 ) have you ever tried a dating site? Yes, a few over the years.

2) were you pleased? For the most part. Some of it has been good, some has been "interesting". Only really had one bad experience.

3) would you tell someone to try one? Yes, but I would also give them some helpful advice about the pros/cons of dating sites.

4) any bad vibes? Not for the most part.

5) any thing i should ask? Asking about something mentioned in the profile shows you have read it and that you didn't just click on them because you like their picture. It helps to get a conversation going and is better than just sending a message that says "Hi!"

6) would you do it again? Yes. I find it much easier to get to know people online rather than in person as I tend to be really quiet around people until I know them a bit better. Speaking to them online first gives you a foundation to build a proper conversation on when you meet in person.

7) what site(s) did you find most helpful? The two I use are Plenty Of Fish, and Girls Date For Free, mainly because they are free! I have joined sites in the past that were free to join but you had to pay to contact other members or add more photos etc. In my opinion they had just as many scammers, fakes and cheater on there as the free sites do. POF is just as good as any paid dating site.

8) which one(s) should we stay away from / why? Not sure about that one.

any other info would be helpful --thanks. Tread carefully and enter online dating with caution!!

ew_david

1 ) have you ever tried a dating site?
yes

2) were you pleased?
For comic relief, I was pleased

3) would you tell someone to try one?
probably not

4) any bad vibes?
many

5) any thing i shoud ask?
everything you want to know

6) would you do it again?
not anytime soon

7) what site(s) did you find most helpful
google image search

8) which one(s) should we stay away from / why
all of them

HeidiCooksSupper

1 ) have you ever tried a dating site?
-- yes, several for several years

2) were you pleased?
-- yes sometimes, no sometimes -- overall yes because it's how I found hubby, the absolutely perfect rest-of-my-life partner

3) would you tell someone to try one?
--absolutely

4) any bad vibes?
--all the same pitfalls as other forms of meeting folks and dating.

5) any thing i shoud ask?
--ask yourself what's important to you and that is what you should determine from them. For example, education, politics, and religion were important to me. Harder things, like if the person is really good, honest, or what they claim to be is not easily learned online but it's not easy otherwise, either.

6) would you do it again?
--I did do it several times over several years but now that I have found Bill ... well, I don't want to think about ever being without him

7) what site(s) did you find most helpful
--Back then, the choices were fairly limited. Eharmony threw him out and never could find a likely match for me but a colleague and her husband met through it. We found each other on Yahoo Personals and I'm not even sure that exists anymore. Again, figure out what's important to you. For example, this atheist wouldn't touch Christian Mingle with a ten foot pole but it might be exactly right for you.

8) which one(s) should we stay away from / why
--Ones that don't fit you, want too much money, or promise they will find you a match.

any other info would be helpful --thanks
--I had to kiss a lot of toads to find my prince.
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odusgolp

I've had great success with MFP.

Buu_kz

howdy just a few quick questions please :
1 ) have you ever tried a dating site?

2) were you pleased?
Yes and no I met some great people and some creepos

3) would you tell someone to try one?
I guess it depends on the situation

4) any bad vibes?
YES there are some creepy people out there

5) any thing I should ask?
I guess it depends on how much you have talked to the person, its obviously its important to have some sort of connection and the ability to have a back and forth convo before you even bother to dive into the important questions. My questions would looks different from yours because my ideals and what I am looking for is no doubt different than you but I would just ask the stuff that means the most to you out of a person

6) would you do it again?
Yes if I needed to

7) what site(s) did you find most helpful
Match.com

8) which one(s) should we stay away from / why
Anything like hotornot.com or plentyoffish.com

any other info would be helpful --thanks

_crafty_

I've had great success with MFP.

Me too!

ladyblue100

1 ) have you ever tried a dating site? yes, Plenty of Fish a few years a go

2) were you pleased? I met a few really great guys

3) would you tell someone to try one? Yes I told my friend about POF and he found his husband on there

4) any bad vibes? A few lame guys. Wish I had better judgment at times

5) any thing i should ask? Ask something about their profile, shows you took time to look at their profile or if you a common trait open up about what you have in common

6) would you do it again? Yes, I really liked going on first dates, Might go to a paying website though

7) what site(s) did you find most helpful I was only on POF I liked the layout and it was free.

8) which one(s) should we stay away from / why Craigslist lol

any other info would be helpful --thanks

Profile pics are deceiving try a video chat before you meet. I was disappointed a few times

mandez19

Haven't used one personally but my best Bud finally got hooked up using Plenty of Fish. It seems like a good way to meet people these days.

seltzermint555

Yes, I have tried a couple of them way back in 2000-2001 before my first marriage, and then in 2012 I briefly used Plenty of Fish and OK Cupid.

I was pleased overall, especially since I met my now-husband on OK Cupid!

I found Plenty of Fish "POF" to be less of a fit for me personally, as I kept meeting guys who were not my type and/or didn't seem to read my profile. There seemed to be more of a casual or "hook up" type vibe at least among the POF users in my area. I did have several decent dates from POF and am still in touch (as friends) with a couple of them.

I would recommend OK Cupid for sure. For me it was a good blend of users who seemed pretty serious about themselves and not just there to hook up, but open to meeting people for friends or relationships. My best advice if using that site is to answer a LOT of the questions they use to determine compatibility. It is not like eHarmony which I guess actually won't let you message people randomly unless you're a match (I could be wrong, I have never used that site)...but it's cool to see someone's profile and then check out how well you have matched up on the random questions about a variety of topics. My husband and I were a 98% match (after both answering roughly a thousand questions total).

My best advice to anyone who is meeting potential dates online is the following though...

A) be very honest and up front about who you are, what you want in a date/mate, what you are looking for, and what you are not looking for.
don't bother with prolonged communication if the person doesn't seem like someone you are interested in and/or red flags go off about them
C) if you ARE interested in someone, meet up face to face as soon as you can. Then you'll know whether it's worth pursuing or not, whether it's mutual, and you won't waste time or make things into a super awkward big deal.

I honestly can't stress "C" enough. I have met a lot of people - friends and dates - on the internet, and I have yet to have a truly bad experience but I believe it's because of "C".