dating sites- do you use them ??

mhetzel1983

1 ) have you ever tried a dating site? yes

2) were you pleased? YES!! :-) ( I married the most amazing man this year that I met through online dating)

3) would you tell someone to try one? yes

4) any bad vibes? like dating in general, you meet some good and some bad

5) any thing i shoud ask? just find out their interests, hobbies, what is important to them

6) would you do it again? No need lol

7) what site(s) did you find most helpful I used match.com

8) which one(s) should we stay away from / why.

any other info would be helpful --thanks

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1 ) have you ever tried a dating site?

Yes

I met my wife on Match.com. We're coming up on our 2nd anniversary.

2) were you pleased?

Yes

3) would you tell someone to try one?

Yes

4) any bad vibes?

Yes - As with all things, some people are just wrong for you. Doesn't matter if you meet them online, on a dating site, or in real life. It's going to happen.

5) any thing i shoud ask?

Dating is a process; getting to know someone is a process. Just take the natural course. Let your intuition guide you. Ask the questions you want to know the answers to.

6) would you do it again?

In hindsight, yes. Obviously, it worked. I found my wife and we married.

I did not find the online dating experience as horrible as other people did. I believe that you increase your odds of finding your person significantly by being proactive in searching for them. If you do nothing, well, maybe you get lucky and he or she finds you at a coffee shop someday, or the aisle at the grocery store, or at a friend's party. But what are the odds? I chose to increase my odds, be proactive, and it worked.

7) what site(s) did you find most helpful

I thought Match.com was the best. It had the best search mechanism, the best profiles, and best pictures. I thought the communication mechanisms were good.

Every day, after work, I'd go home and perform a custom search, and peruse the ladies. If I thought someone was interesting, I'd send them a message. Match.com has a cool feature where you can see who has viewed your profile too; I would check those, and if someone interesting had viewed my profile, I'd message them.

PlentyofFish.com is pretty much the cesspool of online dating sites, but everyone is on it, so you *can* find interesting people, but you typically have to wade through more undesirables to find them. I would use it, but with caution.

8) which one(s) should we stay away from / why

eHarmony.com seemed okay at first, but they are really a money-making scam. They meter out your matches - only up to 7 per day - so they keep you coming back. There is no custom search mechanism; you can't just perform a search and see everyone who matches. They don't want to show you all your matches all at once. They want that monthly subscription from you, so they want to only give you a few matches at a time and keep you coming back.

In addition, and this is just anecdotal evidence from my point of view, but the women I met on eHarmony weren't actually interested in a real relationship. They used it as a hook-up site. The women I met figured that only serious men were on eHarmony, so they would get a higher quality date out of it. After about the 3rd or 4th women pulling the same stunt on me, I cancelled my subscription. Not that one-night stands can't be fun (and most were), but I just didn't find many serious women on eHarmony.


any other info would be helpful --thanks

Put up accurate, up-to-date pictures. Nothing is worse that showing up and finding your date looks nothing like his/her photos.

Be honest - about yourself, your desires, what you can/can't live with. I met a woman once who, in email, seemed incredibly outgoing and flirtatious, very sure of herself (my kind of woman, basically). When we met in person, she couldn't even make eye contact. She was incredibly shy, and by the end of the date it was very clear that she suffered from some severe self esteem issues. So moral of story: please accurately portray yourself and who you really are as a person. This will help you meet your "match."

Best of luck. It can work. My wife and I found each other on Match.com. Others have as well.

SrsGainzOnThisGuy

Some girls I know use it to promote there instagram. Haha, Sad I know

emmietoby

bump ..thanks all who comment .. very useful. almost done with my paper.. and to all the others ??? you know who you are--thanks

crossroadsdemon

Don't believe in such type of LOVE. All my attempts to find love in the Internet were failed. So I decided not to do it any more. Maybe I’m such a looser...
But my best friend set a goal to find a man of her dreams. She visited a lot of online-date-servises like originclub.com or romlove.com. And find a man from Italy. He have visited her few times. And she is going to visit Forlì this month. I think that's IT. That is REAL LOVE. I hope to become bridesmaid soon:)

Fit_Housewife

1 ) have you ever tried a dating site? Yes

2) were you pleased? Yes

3) would you tell someone to try one? Yes

4) any bad vibes? Yes met some creepy stalker types

5) any thing i shoud ask?

6) would you do it again? If I were single

7) what site(s) did you find most helpful- depends what your looking for. Eharmony for a serious relationship, plenty of fish for creepy hookup

8) which one(s) should we stay away from / why
Plenty of fish
any other info would be helpful --thanks
Edited to add met my hubby on eharmony, he is a wonderful man and we are very compatible. Good luck

marycmeadows

yes, in fact, met my now husband through a site three years ago. not everyone was a winner (just like meeting people in other ways) but obviously it wasn't all bad. And I met my husband on plenty of fish - not a creepy hookup.

Fit_Housewife

yes, in fact, met my now husband through a site three years ago. not everyone was a winner (just like meeting people in other ways) but obviously it wasn't all bad. And I met my husband on plenty of fish - not a creepy hookup.

Lol I'm sure there's some good ones on pof ( I was on there briefly). But I did get several creepy emails on there. I'm sure there's creepy people on eharmony, in my experience people were paying for eharmony and we're more serious about meeting someone. Again just my experience, I'm sure there's free sites that have lovely people on it.

So_Much_Fab

I just need plastic surgery and an operation to have my legs lengthened, then I might be ok!

I think you look just fine! I suspect that your confidence issues might be holding you back from meeting others, not your appearance or height. From your pictures you look like you have a good sense of humor which is a definite win. 5'8" is not "short" IMO. You're obviously dedicated to fitness, another win.

And shame on that other poster for picking apart your looks!

JGT2004

I agree with all of this persons answers. Some say the paid sites are better because it shows the person is committed and not just looking for a quickie. I found that a lot of people who are on the paid sites are also on the free ones. I used POF and my bf and I just had our 2nd anniversary. We are looking to get engaged soon. You will have to weed through the creeps but I thought it was worth it!

Answers to your questions:


1 ) have you ever tried a dating site?

Yes!! I tried Plenty of Fish and Tinder

2) were you pleased?

Yes, I met my current partner

3) would you tell someone to try one?

Yes

4) any bad vibes?

You get the occasional strange people/ weirdos, but you can just ignore them

5) any thing i should ask?

Always send a message that mentions something they've discussed or touched upon in their profile. It shows you've read it and are actually interested in a conversation

6) would you do it again?

I would if I were to be single again, it's great for people who are very busy and career minded or if you don't get to meet new people very often

7) what site(s) did you find most helpful

POF

8) which one(s) should we stay away from / why

Ones that are paid for.... plenty of fish and tinder are free!

I hope that helps

monicastricker9

I have, I was curious. My sis wanted me to try eharmony. I found out with that one if you complete your profile and have kids, you will never be matched. I used match before, nothing but bootie calls and disgusting perverted emails. Everything from flat out asking for sex to ones explaining what they would do to me. I went on one date where the guy actually told me, he choose mine, because and I quote " he knew all the really pretty ones were fake." They never match you with any of your criteria. I have found out through talking with others they salt the profiles to make it look like tons of people are on there, when its just a bunch of made up crap. I noticed that the minute I canceled or before I bought a memebership I supposedly had a email galore, but when I signed up nothing, then I canceled then all the sudden everyone was interested. I think these sites are nothing more than predatory.

I think the thing that got me was I started to doubt myself and my attractiveness due to the emails I would receive, so no I will never try it again no matter how many times my sis nags me. I think my single parent status of course effects the outcome. I have personally just decided dating is not something I care to do at all anymore. I hope that helps.

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Lettee4

1 ) have you ever tried a dating site?
yesss.

2) were you pleased?
yep!

3) would you tell someone to try one?
yeah! several of my friends met their partners on dating sites.

4) any bad vibes?
just a few rude and judgmental people...

5) any thing i shoud ask?
anything you think is important.

6) would you do it again?
i've already got a partner (who i met off of one of these sites) im not thinking about finding someone else.

7) what site(s) did you find most helpful
okcupid. people were usually really conversational, i even kept in contact with several people i met on there as friends also, i met my bf on there

8) which one(s) should we stay away from / why
oasis! all people want is hookups, not relationships.

Fit_Housewife

My online dating story:

In January 2013 I split with my then partner. A friend recommended POF to me and said it would be a confidence boost. They couldn't be more wrong.

At best I was completely ignored. Or I received messages telling me how ugly they thought I was, or they'd tell me off for having the cheek to message them in the first place looking the way I do, or they'd attempt to ridicule me for only being 5ft 8ins (a crime worse than terrorism in the dating world.)

In the end I deleted my profile and had a breakdown at the reality of being too ugly to ever meet anybody. I don't go out now. I avoid social situations and when I do go out I pull a cap over my face to hide it from women.

I signed back up last week just to see once and for all if I'm still considered repulsive. I am. Don't attempt online dating if you're ugly. Just don't.

Omg, I'm so sorry you were treated that way. Honestly if someone is so mean they did you a favor. I think your attractive and my husbands 5'6 So to some people height isn't important. You gotta be in it to win it. Keep looking there's someone out there

So_Much_Fab

In the past I've used POF, Match, and fitnesssingles.com. Would I do it again if I were looking for someone? Not sure, because It requires a lot of admin work. While I went on a number of dates and had a few short "relationships" what I found was that some of the guys didn't seem to ever want to get off the site (i.e. we had been dating 'exclusively' yet they maintained their profiles but denied it when confronted). I think some people can get addicted to the attention they get from being online.

aimelee

1 ) have you ever tried a dating site? yes!

2) were you pleased? yes, very. I met the woman of my dreams on there.

3) would you tell someone to try one? well sure. They are great if you have a career and/or kids and/or are a lesbian who is too scared to go up to other women in public for fear they might not also be.:blushing:

4) any bad vibes? some weirdos, but that is pretty much the case no matter where you are on the internet.

5) any thing i should ask? don't be creepy or sexual. ask genuine questions. Actually read their profile and ask questions based on things they write in it.

6) would you do it again? hopefully i don't have to, but sure.

7) what site(s) did you find most helpful: Ok Cupid

8) which one(s) should we stay away from / why: not sure, that was the only one i tried!

Fit_Housewife

I have, I was curious. My sis wanted me to try eharmony. I found out with that one if you complete your profile and have kids, you will never be matched. I used match before, nothing but bootie calls and disgusting perverted emails. Everything from flat out asking for sex to ones explaining what they would do to me. I went on one date where the guy actually told me, he choose mine, because and I quote " he knew all the really pretty ones were fake." They never match you with any of your criteria. I have found out through talking with others they salt the profiles to make it look like tons of people are on there, when its just a bunch of made up crap. I noticed that the minute I canceled or before I bought a memebership I supposedly had a email galore, but when I signed up nothing, then I canceled then all the sudden everyone was interested. I think these sites are nothing more than predatory.

I think the thing that got me was I started to doubt myself and my attractiveness due to the emails I would receive, so no I will never try it again no matter how many times my sis nags me. I think my single parent status of course effects the outcome. I have personally just decided dating is not something I care to do at all anymore. I hope that helps.

I had a daughter and was matched on eharmony.