How to compliment my boyfriend on his weight loss?

summer92008

So I'm the one on MFP...but he is the one who is really dropping weight! I've been on this journey for about 3 months now, and since then have lost 11 lbs (5'6'', 138 lbs) so I was never really overweight. But my boyfriend has always carried around extra weight the whole time I've known him. I love him just the way he is. I never try to mention his weight or eating habits because I know he is insecure about it and don't want to hurt his feelings. However, he has said to me before that I have made him feel bad by saying things like, "Are you gonna eat all of that?" I never wanted to hurt his feelings and honestly didn't mean it in a bad way (although now I understand how that's the only way he could take it). I've expressed in general terms since then that I want us both to be more conscious about our eating and lifestyle so we can live long, healthy lives with each other. My minor weight loss must've rubbed off on him because I can tell he has lost quite a bit of weight. He even said he has lost weight by the way his clothes fit but he doesn't know how much he's lost because he never weighs himself. He is 6'4'' and I'd say he weighs maybe around 300 lbs? I'm not sure...


But anyway...
how can I bring up that I am noticing a weight loss and body change in him in a nice, supportive way?
I don't want him to feel self conscious and I don't want to come off as rude.

whatatime2befit

Instead of commenting on the weight loss itself, just make a general statement that he is looking great.

Chief_Rocka

I'll be in this thread for a while

Blueseraphchaos

I agree, just tell him he's looking great. You could also offer to exercise together so he keeps it up, if you aren't already - "hey, wanna go for a walk after dinner?" I've gotten a lot of "you look great" without mentioning weight loss at all, and i think that may be the most tactful way.

laurie_lebel

I can't identify. I tell the hubs he's a stud daily and tell him he's looking leaner if he seems to be, he never seems offended that he might have been chubbier previous.

Um, if he's a bit sensitive you could always coyly tell him he's looking taller. Or something you can't put your finger on but he's looking good. I really dont' think he'd take offense to the compliment how ever you phrase it.

Blueseraphchaos

That gif butchered my phone's browser! Sigh.

uconnwinsnc1

bang him

psych101

Jump his bones more often...extra cardio for you both too!

maroonmango211

Compliment him on his physical features, not weight loss specific, but just let him know you find him good looking/ sexy/ hot/ handsome etc. Even if you always have, he might take the compliment more to heart now, as well as its always a good thing to remind your partner anyways. Also get a little touchy feely, doesn't hurt to get a little more physical (I am assuming you already are there in your relationship).

_BearNecessities_

bang him

^^ This. Plus BJs.

jemhh

Give him a hug and say you can feel that he lost weight.

"Skinny" isn't a bad word for us so my husband and I will use it. *Hug* "You feel skinnier." Not sure if that works for you or not.

manshusgr

Just say I love you

VeryKatie

Have more sex with him :P

Also wanted to mention that when I ask my BF if he's going to eat all that, it actually means that if not, I'm going to finish it for him hahah.

999tigger

What the jumping people said.

Alternatively its hard becayse we dont know him and he sounds a bit sensitive, secretive and unpredictable. At some stage maybe he will let you in and you can talk about it together, its a bit silly if he thinks you dont notice. the danger is catch him on the wrong day and he might take it badly. Revert to the jumping strategy its a winner.

The hugs and the love were nice.

tquill

I like to be told things directly... not tip-toeing with hidden compliments. The truth usually works best. "You've lost weight, lookin' good"

summer92008

Welll.....

As far as the "private" things go, yeah, we've been dating for 6 years and that is a pretty routine thing so I don't know how to increase the amount lol. But I guess I can make him feel more special during it lol.
I could say sexy things to him but I'm more of a sweet girl than sexy. I blush easily, even 6 years in!
But I will just try to say these things to him like you guys said!

Capt_Apollo

why is this so hard? you say "hey babe, looking good! hard work is paying off."

The_Aly_Wei

bang him

^^ This. Plus BJs.

Yep.

summer92008

I'm just afraid that if I up the sex with him or something all of a sudden, he will think I'm more attracted to him since he has lost weight. I'm afraid I will be indirectly saying that if you gain weight back, I won't have sex with you as much because I don't find you as attractive. I don't know. Maybe I'm just over thinking it! I tend to do that!

randomtai

Tell him his bick has been looking bigger lately.

uconnwinsnc1

I'm just afraid that if I up the sex with him or something all of a sudden, he will think I'm more attracted to him since he has lost weight. I'm afraid I will be indirectly saying that if you gain weight back, I won't have sex with you as much because I don't find you as attractive. I don't know. Maybe I'm just over thinking it! I tend to do that!

I know jeez what guy would want more sex?