It's not fair

Sabine_Stroehm

I'm sure you've noticed that he can eat much more without gaining weight as well. It's just the way it is.

In general, men lose weight a bit easier (more LBM, higher metabolisms etc. etc. etc.). And then, of course, every individual is different. And women are more likely to have more of a hormonal component to (lack of) weight loss.

That said, have you tried doing the same exercise plan and strictly following that meal plan? You may be someone who would benefit from a more formal, more strict eating plan.

In my own life experience, I've often found that married women can benefit from a formal, laid out, eating plan, because it IS all to easy to just eat as our spouses do.

Regardless, best of luck, and try not to fret over his (relatively easy) weight loss.

PS: sorry for all the adolescent comments you're getting.

UsedToBeHusky

Hormones.

Their bodies are designed to be athletic. Our bodies are designed to be nurturing (aka fat).

:huh: we hold about 7% more bodyfat than men, but this by no means is an excuse to say we are designed to be fat. We are designed to have more essential fat than men, but this is accounted for in body fat goal adjustments between men and women.

I'm not saying that we are designed to be obese. Just explaining why a woman's body doesn't lose fat as fast as a man's.

Ok I guess if a man and a woman both had 20% bf the man would have more inessential fat than a woman, so have an easer time getting rid of it.

But if you compare a man at 13% and a woman at 20% they would have to put in about the same effort to lose 1% because they both have close to the same inessential bf to lose.

You're assuming that her husband's body fat was lower than hers when he started. It could have been the same as hers or higher even.

williams969

Hormones.

Their bodies are designed to be athletic. Our bodies are designed to be nurturing (aka fat).

:huh: we hold about 7% more bodyfat than men, but this by no means is an excuse to say we are designed to be fat. We are designed to have more essential fat than men, but this is accounted for in body fat goal adjustments between men and women.

I'm not saying that we are designed to be obese. Just explaining why a woman's body doesn't lose fat as fast as a man's.

IDK, my husband is trying to lose weight, too. I've lost 21 lbs in 5-1/2 months (only ~2 or 3 pounds of that is muscle). My husband--like 5 lbs (and still a ways to go) in the same time frame. Riddle me that--no I'll do it--he's not trying hard enough. Simple as that. He'll lose it when he's ready to commit. Weight loss success or failure is not gender defined.

WalkingAlong

My husband has been on a health "kick" recently. He's the kind of guy who can eat anything and not gain weight. A few months ago he started P90X on a whim and lost about 20 lbs. About a week or two weeks ago he decided to follow the food plan that goes with it... he's lost 11 pounds! WTF?!?!? I'm sure some of that is water weight, I know, but still... really?!?

I've been struggling to lose 11 lbs for 2 years now and he does it in a week. Why is this so hard for me and so easy for him?

UGH!!!

I'm guessing your 11 lbs. are 'the last 11' and his are the first of many more he can stand to lose? If so, 8 or more of his 11 could easily be water. So he lost a few lbs. of fat in two weeks. You can, too!

LoraF83

11 pounds in 2 years? It's obvious that you're not trying.

Wow! That's kind of unfair. You don't know what's going on with her body. OP, if you find it difficult to lose then perhaps you should talk to your doctor. There are medical explanations for slow weight loss.

Before we start jumping into "medical explanations", how about we rule out things like human error, inconsistent logging, lack of effort, etc?


Not everyone has a medical issue. Some people just don't put in the work.

SingRunTing

You know because P90X is sooooo easy and the meal plan is soooooo easy to stick to that he's just not even trying! :grumble:

He's working his butt off. P90X is hard (for most people). The meal plan isn't one I would do because it's so restrictive, but again its hard. It takes commitment and dedication.

That's why he's losing weight. Not because its sooooooo easy for him.

kimnsc

My husband has been on a health "kick" recently. He's the kind of guy who can eat anything and not gain weight. A few months ago he started P90X on a whim and lost about 20 lbs. About a week or two weeks ago he decided to follow the food plan that goes with it... he's lost 11 pounds! WTF?!?!? I'm sure some of that is water weight, I know, but still... really?!?

I've been struggling to lose 11 lbs for 2 years now and he does it in a week. Why is this so hard for me and so easy for him?

UGH!!!

He was dedicated and put in the work required to get results. Were you doing it with him? If not, why?
11 lbs in two years tells me either you just aren't trying or you need to be seen by your physician.
Instead of whining about life not being fair and his results put that energy into making the changes.

SingRunTing

11 pounds in 2 years? It's obvious that you're not trying.

Wow! That's kind of unfair. You don't know what's going on with her body. OP, if you find it difficult to lose then perhaps you should talk to your doctor. There are medical explanations for slow weight loss.

Before we start jumping into "medical explanations", how about we rule out things like human error, inconsistent logging, lack of effort, etc?


Not everyone has a medical issue. Some people just don't put in the work.

Seriously.

Refer this this article: http://www.acaloriecounter.com/blog/why-am-i-not-losing-weight/

Notice where "medical issues" are. Number 11 of 11. That's because you need to rule out the first 10 before you can jump to 11.

forkofpower

Men tend to have a slightly easier time losing than women. However, if you only lost 11 lbs in 2 years, and you didn't join in on your husband's exercise/dieting routine, then that would probably explain why he's losing and you're not.

LoraF83

11 pounds in 2 years? It's obvious that you're not trying.

Wow! That's kind of unfair. You don't know what's going on with her body. OP, if you find it difficult to lose then perhaps you should talk to your doctor. There are medical explanations for slow weight loss.

Before we start jumping into "medical explanations", how about we rule out things like human error, inconsistent logging, lack of effort, etc?


Not everyone has a medical issue. Some people just don't put in the work.

Seriously.

Refer this this article: http://www.acaloriecounter.com/blog/why-am-i-not-losing-weight/

Notice where "medical issues" are. Number 11 of 11. That's because you need to rule out the first 10 before you can jump to 11.

I like you.

T1DCarnivoreRunner

I hesitated to comment on this, but I decided I will (I will probably regret this later).

I have medical issues... in fact, medical problems are what caused me to be so fat to start with. I was underweight at one time, then a sudden auto-immune disease caused me to double my weight in a year and continue to gain weight for several years afterward. An additional auto-immune disease caused even more weight gain.

For more than an decade, I was trying to figure out how to lose weight safely (there is a way I can lose weight faster than any of the rest of you because of one of my illnesses, but it is very dangerous and I could die... so that is not an option). Doctors were not helpful at all, and I have more education about my illness than most GP's. I see a specialist, and they aren't much help either. So I continued to gain information from others, mostly online, who have the same medical issues. After several years, I finally figured out the right combination of things to start losing weight. It is at a snail's pace, but it can be done.

If you are logging properly and are actually putting in the effort and having calorie deficits, it may be time to start seeing a doctor to find out what is wrong with you. That won't mean you can start losing weight immediately, but it may give you some insight to help figure it out eventually.

SingRunTing

11 pounds in 2 years? It's obvious that you're not trying.

Wow! That's kind of unfair. You don't know what's going on with her body. OP, if you find it difficult to lose then perhaps you should talk to your doctor. There are medical explanations for slow weight loss.

Before we start jumping into "medical explanations", how about we rule out things like human error, inconsistent logging, lack of effort, etc?


Not everyone has a medical issue. Some people just don't put in the work.

Seriously.

Refer this this article: http://www.acaloriecounter.com/blog/why-am-i-not-losing-weight/

Notice where "medical issues" are. Number 11 of 11. That's because you need to rule out the first 10 before you can jump to 11.

I like you.

:blushing:

Liftng4Lis

I went back a week in your diary, nothing logged. I went back a month in your diary nothing logged. You haven't been "struggling" for two years. If you want to lose, you need to put the work in.

msf74

It is unfair. It sucks. It is really, really, ridiculously annoying. The way you are feeling is perfectly understandable.

It won't change a damn thing as you know. It is what it is.

I hope you find your own personal recipe for success and if you need any advice please do not hesitate to ask.

Catter_05

I know what you mean! I have changed my way of life and my husband has lost weight as if by osmosis! I eat right and a lot less calories and I burn a lot of calories. However, I have lost a lot more than he has and in a lot less than 2 years. (I have medical issues, so, it is still possible to lose weight)
What are you eating? How much exercise are you doing? Do you have medical issues?
Take your log to your Dr. and show him/her. It can't hurt. Maybe you can get some insight.

Oh and yes, life isn't fair, never has been, never will be. I tell my son this on a daily basis :ohwell:

jdhcm2006

P90X is not easy. 1-2 hours of working out for 5-6 days a week. That takes dedication. If you can't commit to that type of time working out, then get P90X3 or T25 (FYI: these are both hard too, just shorter) and then use them. Make sure you're eating enough calories to sustain the body and put you at a deficit. Look into the TDEE method.

If it commitment or motivation is the problem, try making a list of the things that are a motivating factor for wanting to get in shape. Tape it somewhere that you will see it daily. And then you will have a daily reminder of why you need to get it in gear.

rml_16

It is at a snail's pace, but it can be done.

I likely have Hashimoto's. I have likely had this for the last five years and possibly longer. It is untreated because my doctor thinks he knows everything about thyroid and it's becoming clear he knows less than I know about it. I can lose weight by eating 500-700 calories a day AND exercising an hour a day. That is the only thing that works.

Eating more than that or not exercising a lot means I maintain and then gain, maintain and then gain.

So, yes, there are medical issues that make it pretty much impossible to lose weight. Thankfully, I'm finally getting the referrals I need that will hopefully lead to treatment and then I will be able to lose weight. In the meantime, eating 1,000-1,500 calories a day and exercising has allowed me the privilege of gaining more than 30 pounds.

I don't think that's the OP's issue, though, since her OP makes it sound like she's maintaining without any gains (though it's different for everyone). More likely, she isn't dedicated.

Sabine_Stroehm

I went back a week in your diary, nothing logged. I went back a month in your diary nothing logged. You haven't been "struggling" for two years. If you want to lose, you need to put the work in.

Not that logging is the only indicator of working hard...but it may be a good way to see what you're eating.

T1DCarnivoreRunner

It is at a snail's pace, but it can be done.

I likely have Hashimoto's. I have likely had this for the last five years and possibly longer. It is untreated because my doctor thinks he knows everything about thyroid and it's becoming clear he knows less than I know about it. I can lose weight by eating 500-700 calories a day AND exercising an hour a day. That is the only thing that works.

Eating more than that or not exercising a lot means I maintain and then gain, maintain and then gain.

So, yes, there are medical issues that make it pretty much impossible to lose weight. Thankfully, I'm finally getting the referrals I need that will hopefully lead to treatment and then I will be able to lose weight. In the meantime, eating 1,000-1,500 calories a day and exercising has allowed me the privilege of gaining more than 30 pounds.

I don't think that's the OP's issue, though, since her OP makes it sound like she's maintaining without any gains (though it's different for everyone). More likely, she isn't dedicated.

Hashimoto's is one of my issues, but I found that type 1 diabetes makes it even more difficult to lose weight than Hashimoto's. Type 1 is what caused me to go from being underweight to obese in a year, and to continue to gain weight for several years even before Hashimoto's. Hashimoto's did not help at all, though. I will admit that I'm quite jealous of new type 1's because the treatment methods in the 1990's were not nearly as advanced as they are today, and that is a lot of the reason for gaining weight. Today the treatment methods can cause weight gain, but it is pretty much non-existent comparatively. I'm using new treatment methods now that they are available, and I can admit that is part of what makes weight loss possible at all.

I think you are right, though... it sounds like the OP is not putting in the needed effort and thinks doing P90X exercises and then following the meal plan had nothing to do with her husband's weight loss. It must have been magic.

ninerbuff

IF you 2 were doing the same exact plans (based on percentages) and you still lost less than him..................................................it is what it is.
You only have control (barring any health/genetic issues) over you.

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