Do we all become narcissistic when we reach our goal?
Seriously when we get "skinny" or "healthy" or however you want to describe it, are we all going to take mass amounts of pictures of ourselves? Flex in every shiny surface? Have the "self photographs" posted on every blog and website we can? I sure hope I don't become so self involved that I have to ask "do I look fat in this" and I'm a size 6...
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I have often wondered the same thing! I really hope not!! I know after all that hard work I definitely will want to flaunt it more and be way more confident. Just hope I don't come across as too full of myself.0
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People who ask that are self-conscious... when you reach your goal you'll be so confident in your body and your abilities that you won't need to
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Maybe...I am self-conscious no matter my size. So if I ask do I look fat in this I really mean it!!!! However MFP is the only place I feel comfortable posting pics and I doubt I will post that.0
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Yep - I flex like a mad woman every morning in front of the mirror while getting ready for work.
And I love it!
Call it narsissistic - I think of it as enjoying all of my hard work.
Oh - and I still have body issues - even if I'm thin.
LOL
I'm a total freak!
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Personally I love seeing those photos and hearing the stories. I find it inspiring and motivating.
Also, I don't think its narcissistic to be proud of your accomplishments.0 -
Seriously when we get "skinny" or "healthy" or however you want to describe it, are we all going to take mass amounts of pictures of ourselves? Flex in every shiny surface? Have the "self photographs" posted on every blog and website we can? I sure hope I don't become so self involved that I have to ask "do I look fat in this" and I'm a size 6...
I already hit my goals for the most part... I do find myself mooning ppl a little more than I used to!0 -
Then again, some of us have worked hard to lose the weight and are still working hard to get toned the way we want and are taking progress pictures along the way.
It seems very hard to say what would constitute Narcissism vs just posting weekly/bi-weekly/monthly update pics.
I do post updates and I certainly hope I'm not coming across that way. I post the images to show my friends and myself that I'm still trying and that I AM making progress.
If I offend anyone, then I'm sorry, but I'm still working hard to get where I want to be.0 -
Personally I love seeing those photos and hearing the stories. I find it inspiring and motivating.
Also, I don't think its narcissistic to be proud of your accomplishments.
ditto
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If someone has lots of pictures especially right after they hit goal it's more of a "oh gosh.....I did it! I actually did it! " kind of thing. I am proud of what I've done but my struggles didn't go away when I made my first goal so being full of myself never entered the picture.0
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Well, it can happen a little.
When I weighed over 300 pounds I would never allow pictures of me.
When I got down to 165 (my lightest since I was 11 years old) I became a camera ham- and remain one now. I'm sure when I get to my actual goal weight I'll be even worse.
In a way it comes from regretting that I missed out on keeping record of a portion of my life because I was so ashamed of myself for how I looked- now I want to make sure that my part in my life is very well documented 0 -
I like when people post their photos. It is inspirational! As for the "do I look fat and I am a size 6": I don't believe the majority of people are being narcissistic. I think it is very common for individuals to feel uncomfortable in their own skin after being heavy. In fact there are thin people that are uncomfortable in their skin for one reason or another. If it bothers you, don't look at the before and afters. Easy enough! 0
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I am currently a size 6, 140lbs and insecure. I'm insecure due to the fact that I have cellulite and since its something that doesn't go away I will always be insecure. I don't think I would be considered self absorbed because I ask "do I look fat in this?"...because the fact is that if you have anything that can roll or pooch over jeans, etc that IS our fat and yes a size 6 can look better in different jeans or a different dress. I think there are those who KNOW with out a doubt they look good, but there are those who are like me...insecure and struggling w/ it and have been since I was in Jr. High, but I don't make ppl think I am fishing for compliments cause Im not...im just expressing how I feel0
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People should post thier pics. It lets people like me know that it is possible.0
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THANKS! This is how I feel.I like when people post their photos. It is inspirational! As for the "do I look fat and I am a size 6": I don't believe the majority of people are being narcissistic. I think it is very common for individuals to feel uncomfortable in their own skin after being heavy. In fact there are thin people that are uncomfortable in their skin for one reason or another. If it bothers you, don't look at the before and afters. Easy enough!0
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I agree with that too!People should post thier pics. It lets people like me know that it is possible.0
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I agree with this too. I think its a normal thing!Well, it can happen a little.
When I weighed over 300 pounds I would never allow pictures of me.
When I got down to 165 (my lightest since I was 11 years old) I became a camera ham- and remain one now. I'm sure when I get to my actual goal weight I'll be even worse.
In a way it comes from regretting that I missed out on keeping record of a portion of my life because I was so ashamed of myself for how I looked- now I want to make sure that my part in my life is very well documented0 -
How did you lose your baby weight so fast? I have been trying like crazy for months. I do realize that I had twins and they are only 9 months old but geeze it is taking me forever.0
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NOT offending me! I post pics because I am proud of myself and love the fact that others can see it IS possible!Then again, some of us have worked hard to lose the weight and are still working hard to get toned the way we want and are taking progress pictures along the way.
It seems very hard to say what would constitute Narcissism vs just posting weekly/bi-weekly/monthly update pics.
I do post updates and I certainly hope I'm not coming across that way. I post the images to show my friends and myself that I'm still trying and that I AM making progress.
If I offend anyone, then I'm sorry, but I'm still working hard to get where I want to be.0 -
I don't think it necessarily means that you are self-absorbed. It doesn't mean that we're insecure. It means that we're proud. And I enjoy to see people post their pictures. I enjoy to hear people's stories about how hard they worked to get where they are at. It's people like that who show everyone else that their own goals are attainable. I do look in every mirror. I do flex sometimes. I do tell people my story. I never used to be this way. I used to be uncomfortable with myself. And now I'm happy. End of story!0
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I like when people post their photos. It is inspirational! As for the "do I look fat and I am a size 6": I don't believe the majority of people are being narcissistic. I think it is very common for individuals to feel uncomfortable in their own skin after being heavy. In fact there are thin people that are uncomfortable in their skin for one reason or another. If it bothers you, don't look at the before and afters. Easy enough!
Well said!
I agree with everyone on here. It's motivational. And, if I can help one person to know that it's doable and that maybe it gives them the little push to workout today even if they don't want to, then I have done what I feel like I need to do. My fitness is not just for myself, but to share with those around me. Not to make them feel bad about themselves, but to show them that anything is possible.0 -
I am currently a size 6, 140lbs and insecure. I'm insecure due to the fact that I have cellulite and since its something that doesn't go away I will always be insecure. I don't think I would be considered self absorbed because I ask "do I look fat in this?"...because the fact is that if you have anything that can roll or pooch over jeans, etc that IS our fat and yes a size 6 can look better in different jeans or a different dress. I think there are those who KNOW with out a doubt they look good, but there are those who are like me...insecure and struggling w/ it and have been since I was in Jr. High, but I don't make ppl think I am fishing for compliments cause Im not...im just expressing how I feel
I'm the same way. I may be tiny and everyone always says that I'm cute and all. But you won't ever see a close up of my stomach. The mommy pooch just isn't going to go away and the stretchmarks never will as well. As much as I'd like to wear a bikini again...without some outside help, it's just not going to happen.0 -
I am sure that for a few it is narcissistic in nature but I think that for the vast majority it is just pride. We work our *kitten* off (literally) - it isn't easy - and when we succeed we want to share our success. Unfortuntely at 183 pounds I still see a 333 pound woman in the mirror a lot of the time, some day I'll get over that.0
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People who ask that are self-conscious... when you reach your goal you'll be so confident in your body and your abilities that you won't need to
^ this! I've worked hard and if people want to think narcissistic, I really don't care, lol. Life is too short to be hung up on something like that.0 -
I'm thinking of starting my own website of "All Things Road Dog." Working on a theme song now. Going to be lot's of pictures. Letters.
Blogs.
Six Degrees of Road Dog.
Road Dog Trivia.
Do You Remember Where You Were When Road Dog Reached His Goal?
Good Stuff. Like That.
A special VIP section.
Twitter Page.
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Yes they did and I think its a GREAT way to show that it can be done w/ hard work.Then again, some of us have worked hard to lose the weight and are still working hard to get toned the way we want and are taking progress pictures along the way.
It seems very hard to say what would constitute Narcissism vs just posting weekly/bi-weekly/monthly update pics.
I do post updates and I certainly hope I'm not coming across that way. I post the images to show my friends and myself that I'm still trying and that I AM making progress.
If I offend anyone, then I'm sorry, but I'm still working hard to get where I want to be.0 -
YES MAM!!! I agree! I had a baby and have stretch marks (insecurity), I have cellulite (insecurity) and guess what...I'm a SIZE 6 and may look small to some and may look fat to some, but I will always have those insecurities.Yep - I flex like a mad woman every morning in front of the mirror while getting ready for work.
And I love it!
Call it narsissistic - I think of it as enjoying all of my hard work.
Oh - and I still have body issues - even if I'm thin.
LOL
I'm a total freak!
Love it!0 -
I like when people post their photos. It is inspirational! As for the "do I look fat and I am a size 6": I don't believe the majority of people are being narcissistic. I think it is very common for individuals to feel uncomfortable in their own skin after being heavy. In fact there are thin people that are uncomfortable in their skin for one reason or another. If it bothers you, don't look at the before and afters. Easy enough!
listen i was just throwing it out there, no need to be nasty...i love looking at the success stories and I'm not necessarily talking about this website either...0 -
Then again, some of us have worked hard to lose the weight and are still working hard to get toned the way we want and are taking progress pictures along the way.
It seems very hard to say what would constitute Narcissism vs just posting weekly/bi-weekly/monthly update pics.
I do post updates and I certainly hope I'm not coming across that way. I post the images to show my friends and myself that I'm still trying and that I AM making progress.
If I offend anyone, then I'm sorry, but I'm still working hard to get where I want to be.
Meeee too! I still love looking at others success stories too even though I'm almost at my goal, it's still inspiring to see other people's success' too.... you can't help but feel excited for others after reading their success stories! Just because your a size 6 doesn't mean that you suddenly are the most confident person in the world. I know I, as have many MANY other people on MFP have worked very very hard for our accomplishments, and I'm sure anyone of us would be lieing if we said we don't like to get recognition for our achievments!0 -
I'm thinking of starting my own website of "All Things Road Dog." Working on a theme song now. Going to be lot's of pictures. Letters.
Blogs.
Six Degrees of Road Dog.
Road Dog Trivia.
Do You Remember Where You Were When Road Dog Reached His Goal?
Good Stuff. Like That.
A special VIP section.
Twitter Page.
Global.
hahah It will be EPIC! I'll be all over that...0 -
I do this already - so yes. :smokin:0
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