your cute...?

beautifulnow

Ok so this year I made alot of "choices" I decided I would be healthy and I also decided I was going to try really hard to convince myself that I'm pretty....well I was curious how do YOU feel pretty? I have lost 22 pounds and I am young ect. BUT I do not know how to accept a compliment lol I have always been the "cute" girl that hangs out with the HOTT girls....I know I am not hott and prolly never will be but how do I make myself feel...you know pretty....what do you do to feel pretty?

MrswhoIusedtobe

I know exactly what you mean, and I too would like to know the answer. To me, I like to get all dolled up once in a while but I still just feel cute or adorable, I don't feel hott or "fine" lol. So let me know what you find out! Add me if you want also, us cute girls need to stick together

Mateo1985

Hey you hot!!!! Give me your number!!!! Oh wait you got a husband? too late for me I guess. But you're hot!!! Believe it!!!

tammyquinnlmt

decide what you favorite attributes are then play it up. Get a make-over, then dress up and make the hubs take you out somewhere fun and exciting. Maybe you need to tell him that you need to hear that you are attractive to him from time to time. I have to remind my husband of that every so often.

outersoul

For me and I'm guessing a lot of other men, hot and sexy even have less to do with looks then women think. Hot is in the confidence and how a woman carries herself. Know you're sexy and hot and we'll know it too.

sheilabennett

I don't think I ever feel cute!! I do have a couple of nice pictures that I look at when I feel down... but even when I get dolled up - I feel like the fat girl!

I am trying really really hard not to think like that though.... but i guess its not working yet

Briacha

OMG, I soooo agree and I am thrilled that I am not the only one that dislikes the "cute" word!!! BUT, my husband says that cute girls/woman are genuine and the hot ones are just for a piece of *kitten*!!! That's what he says to make me feel better! LOLOL

Maybe "cute" also refers to our personalities....we are fun, lively, etc.....

It's not just our appearance that defines us, we must remember that!!!

jteammom

You are singing my song. I look at pictures of myself from "back in the day" and I actually am not unattractive in those photos. But when I look at myself in the mirror I think "meh..." The other thing is - I wish it was not so important to me to feel like I look good. I am hoping that someone wiser than me comes up with an answer!

Phoenyxtears

I feel the same. I was always fat so I never even had the "cute girl among hott girls" feeling - it always felt like "the hott girls and some fugly fat thing tagging along". To feel pretty, I gave myself a pedicure; whether or not someone noticed or could see it (depending on the shoes), it was my "pretty" secret since my beauty was a secret from the world anyway.

TeamEdwardJenn

I feel the same

loseit4good52

I agree with Outersoul...men do think you are hot not by your looks always but mainly how you carry yourself and if you have confidence. Even women who are very overweight can appear "Hot" to men if they have the confidence about them. Have a great day!

beautifulnow

I don't think I ever feel cute!! I do have a couple of nice pictures that I look at when I feel down... but even when I get dolled up - I feel like the fat girl!

I am trying really really hard not to think like that though.... but i guess its not working yet

I TOTALLY agree and its nic to have girls that understand! Most people think your just fishing for a compliment and really there is a real hate toward the person in the mirror...I do think your very pretty but I also know that it doesn't mean anything to hear it from me:)

That_Girl

My cute what?

I've always been "cute"...good thing my husband thinks I'm "effin HOT" (a text after one of our first dates)

SarahR1984

I like to put on makeup and get dressed up, that makes me feel pretty. And wearing high heels ) Also getting my hair done. All those girley things make me feel pretty. Most of the time I am at home in sweats with two kiddies and no makeup. So I feel good when I can look decent and go out. I have lots of flaws that I would love to change but can't. Gotta get past them. I realized this is the way God made me and I'm beautiful to him. I look this way for a reason.

sheilabennett

I don't think I ever feel cute!! I do have a couple of nice pictures that I look at when I feel down... but even when I get dolled up - I feel like the fat girl!

I am trying really really hard not to think like that though.... but i guess its not working yet

I TOTALLY agree and its nic to have girls that understand! Most people think your just fishing for a compliment and really there is a real hate toward the person in the mirror...I do think your very pretty but I also know that it doesn't mean anything to hear it from me:)

Thanks!! It is nice to hear!! but thats one of the good pics that I go too! I am actually getting pretty good at faking confidence, which seems to work just as well as real confidence... I am hoping that one day I will just get so good at faking it that it will become real!

dumb_blondes_rock

I'm in the same exact boat friends wise, Like my two best friends are GORGEOUS, and me, I'm average....I guess its a good thing that i don't think of myself as ugly lol...I think you need to have self acceptance in order to feel pretty, like I hate my chin, but I just have to accept the fact that I have a big chin and thats just how its gonna be. Either I rock it or I feel bad about it, and personally Id rather rock it then go around feeling bad all the time. Little things like that. And I get dazzled for any event that I go to, even if it's just a house party....so then I can look more put together than like half the other women lol. And if i feel down about myself, I go out and buy like a new pair of shoes or a new tshirt so then I want to wear it out and about and get all dolled up

dumb_blondes_rock

For me and I'm guessing a lot of other men, hot and sexy even have less to do with looks then women think. Hot is in the confidence and how a woman carries herself. Know you're sexy and hot and we'll know it too.

This is very true...own what you are and rock it. Sure you have some weight to lose, but maybe you have a great rack or a nice butt, something that not a lot of skinny girls have unless they pay for it lol

kelligonzales

I don't do anything, I'm not the hottest girl on the block but f if anyone is going to tell me any different. It's not about the outside it's the work you do on the inside. Why do you feel that way, What caused this way of thinking? If your just asking about the outside. I great fitting pair of jeans and a super cute t-shirt. (I like plain white or black.) I feel beautiful in the regular things more the dolled up ones.

MrswhoIusedtobe

@ That_girl

I'm with you there even though I just feel cute if I mention that to my husband he's like "you are so HOTT shut up" He's completely crazy about me but I don't know why lol. I am confident when I go out, it's kind of annoying that hott has to mean half naked around this city. I'm not conservative, but I definitely don't let my "goods" hang out.

binary_jester

Wow...so now we have to compliment the RIGHT way to not offend. I need a flow chart please.

obifatkanobi

OK so it's cute verses hot. What is "hot"? From most of the males I've known, hot is just female with a dynamite body. It starts about the knees and ends at about shoulder level. Cute, now, on the other hand, is what a female looks like. Most of my male companions longed to find a hot lady who was also cute. Now, let me point out, this is not every males point of view, but based on males I've associated with at in school, at various jobs, the service, etc. It's some, not all. For the rest of us, women are beautiful, based on their over all looks as well as on their personality. It's not so much what you have, it's how you present it. Attractive features, complimenting clothing, a sparkling personality all go into being beautiful. It is not based on one hair color, or style, or weight, or any other individual property, it based on how it all works together and what comes from inside. As for how you feel sexy and hot? Well, first you have to think your sexy and hot, you have to be happy with who you are. Not who our going to become, that's self defeating from the start. Accept yourself as you are, then look and see what areas you want to improve, be it health, weight, fitness and tone, whatever, and go for it.

FattieCrosby

Realize that your worth as a person has nothing to do with what you look like or a number on a scale. Or get some ugly friends.

dumb_blondes_rock

Wow...so now we have to compliment the RIGHT way to not offend. I need a flow chart please.

haha yes....i date black guys and had to get used to the term "fat booty" cause in white world that is NOT a good thing....and then i started getting all self conscious of my butt....instead say something along the lines of "nice booty" haha

GURLEY_GIRL3

For me and I'm guessing a lot of other men, hot and sexy even have less to do with looks then women think. Hot is in the confidence and how a woman carries herself. Know you're sexy and hot and we'll know it too.

AMEN!!

suetommy

Ok so this year I made alot of "choices" I decided I would be healthy and I also decided I was going to try really hard to convince myself that I'm pretty....well I was curious how do YOU feel pretty? I have lost 22 pounds and I am young ect. BUT I do not know how to accept a compliment lol I have always been the "cute" girl that hangs out with the HOTT girls....I know I am not hott and prolly never will be but how do I make myself feel...you know pretty....what do you do to feel pretty?

GURLEY_GIRL3

For me and I'm guessing a lot of other men, hot and sexy even have less to do with looks then women think. Hot is in the confidence and how a woman carries herself. Know you're sexy and hot and we'll know it too.

AMEN!!

IM NOT A MAN LOL...BUT I AGREE ITS ALL IN HOW U CARRY URSELF!

suetommy

You are pretty! It is your attitude that needs improving, believe me. Friends are often deceptive and maybe cool! However, know, tell yourself many times daily as you breath deeply, I am a beautiful woman and believe it because you are.

Pinoy_Pal

@beautifuldisaster Well first of all, drop the term "disaster", and I usually curl my hair and paint my toenails silver to feel pretty...TMI?!? Just KNOW that you're beautiful, and the rest will follow.

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suetommy

Know yourself! Sage advice. Pretty is as pretty does; friends often play up their own benefits and you probably agree that they have great attributes, but so do you. Your picture is beautiful know it! Grow up and see yourself as a beautiful woman, you are only young once, so practice your graces in the mirror and in deed.

southernlay_d

**Sigh** I always have to convince myself I am not the hottest girl in the room. **wink wink**

LorinaLynn

I think I'm far too much of a dork to ever be hot, but I think my dorkiness holds a lot more appeal. I can't imagine a Kim Kardashian type having a conversation about zombies or Lord of the Rings.