your cute...?

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  • jennifir
    jennifir Posts: 197 Member
    I, for one, don't even get cute. I'm nice. I tend to get passed over. I'm tired of getting passed over but then don't want a man like that anyway! I don't know how to feel pretty.
  • Mrs_McFadden
    Mrs_McFadden Posts: 1,139
    I just have a take it or leave it attitude. My husband is very attracted to me and I know other men are. But you know what? I guess I have a thought that also, one day, I'm going to be 70..or 80. What is going to build my esteem as a person then? I do the typical things women do to feel look attractive but hey, I'll be a hot 70!
  • Celo24
    Celo24 Posts: 566 Member
    I always feel pretty. :laugh:

    You ladies should all feel very good about yourselves because you are ALL hot!! To me, a woman who takes care of herself and tries hard to be healthy is beautiful. I don't go for the overly made-up, fake look. I like women who are natural, athletic and as comfortable in a sports bra running a couple miles as they are in a little black dress. And I agree with the other guys in this thread...sexy is a state of mind.
  • 311Phil
    311Phil Posts: 397
    First of all, I love your username. Great 311 song :)

    secondly...if thats you in your profile pic, I'd say you are hot and cute ;)
  • FearAnLoathing
    FearAnLoathing Posts: 4,852 Member
    Im so freaking hot I can thaw meat just by looking at it!
    lol really I just try to compliment myself everyday.I used to have really bad self esteem which oddly enough changed when I was at my heavyst.
  • abyt42
    abyt42 Posts: 1,358 Member
    Wow...so now we have to compliment the RIGHT way to not offend. I need a flow chart please.

    Here's a line not to use: "Looks like you're losing some of that gut."

    Also, "Not any fatter than you do in the rest of your clothes." in reply to the world's most stupid question. (Do I look fat in this dress?)
  • binary_jester
    binary_jester Posts: 3,311 Member
    I guess all things are relative. You hate cute. Personally I like to say, "Hi, my name is..." and not get pepper sprayed.
  • binary_jester
    binary_jester Posts: 3,311 Member
    Wow...so now we have to compliment the RIGHT way to not offend. I need a flow chart please.

    Here's a line not to use: "Looks like you're losing some of that gut."

    Also, "Not any fatter than you do in the rest of your clothes." in reply to the world's most stupid question. (Do I look fat in this dress?)
    How about...you weight loss make your boobies look bigger?
  • sheilabennett
    sheilabennett Posts: 210
    Wow...so now we have to compliment the RIGHT way to not offend. I need a flow chart please.

    Here's a line not to use: "Looks like you're losing some of that gut."

    Also, "Not any fatter than you do in the rest of your clothes." in reply to the world's most stupid question. (Do I look fat in this dress?)
    How about...you weight loss make your boobies look bigger?

    BAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAA!!!!!!

    Please use that!!
  • abyt42
    abyt42 Posts: 1,358 Member
    I guess all things are relative. You hate cute. Personally I like to say, "Hi, my name is..." and not get pepper sprayed.

    :laugh:
  • Martha_VH
    Martha_VH Posts: 386 Member
    I haven't had time to read all the replies people posted, but I'll tell you how I helped myself.

    I started taking belly dance lessons. They helped me feel feminine and embrace my inner beauty, and helped me love something else on the outside more too. (I know that many people think belly dance is provocative, but I am not dancing to try and attract a guy, and I usually only dance at class or in my own home, so I don't think there's anything wrong with it)

    Learning these new dance moves helped me to fall in love with my hips. And loving myself increased my confidence which is worth more than anything.

    I would suggest finding something that makes you feel feminine. But more then anything find something that you absolutely LOVE about yourself, and do it for you!

    Ideas-
    Salsa/ meringue dances
    New dress
    Totally new haircut or color
    Find a friend who is good at flirting and ask her for some tips (this will increase your confidence too, it took me forever to get it down.)
  • Tomhusker
    Tomhusker Posts: 346 Member
    I have trouble convincing OTHER people that I am cute. I am thoroughly convince in my mind that I am one of, if not THE, best looking guy in the world. I once thought I had my wife convinced. Then I learned that the rolling of her eyes was not a way for her to avoid staring at me......
  • ebgbjo
    ebgbjo Posts: 821 Member
    I have never gotten "cute" "pretty" "gorgeous" or "beautiful" Anytime I have heard those words they have been guys talking to me about my friends. Once I meet my goal weight, I want to find a nice salon to go do and have them do something new with my hair and show me how to apply make up better. Then I need to find a store with an assistant that shows you how to shop for your body type
  • 123456654321
    123456654321 Posts: 1,311 Member
    It's hard to learn to love yourself isn't it? Sometimes putting yourself out there helps. For example, photography is a hobby of mine and I recently have decided to try and take some creative/fun/silly self portraits from time to time and post them for other people to see. Sounds cheesy, but it kinda works for me. I tend to be insecure also, so my instinct is to withdraw or try to "blend in." Forcing myself to put myself out there, even if it's just my friends and family, sometimes gives me a little boost of confidence. It also helps to be able to take a picture and go...."Wow, I actually don't mind how I look here."
  • anubis609
    anubis609 Posts: 3,966 Member
    I agree with outersoul. It's all about the "swag" or "swagger" that dictates confidence = sexiness = hotness. If you got it goin' on, that shows through any kind of body type. As a man, I have pretty eyes. I ooze game and confidence. Even when I was big. That swag gives off an air of the IT factor...as in, "I don't know what IT is, but there's something about 'em that makes me wanna [insert verb of choice] them."
  • 123456654321
    123456654321 Posts: 1,311 Member
    Also, I <3 the word "cute" and I take it as a huge compliment ...I probably overuse it myself.
  • danblee
    danblee Posts: 3
    Let's start with grammar. It's "You're cute..." - That's something that makes you look better almost instantly.
  • sarahbear119
    sarahbear119 Posts: 80 Member
    I have the two most gorgeous sisters ever, and I always get, "Sarah is so cute/adorable." It gets really annoying at times.
  • mamijujuphat
    mamijujuphat Posts: 407 Member
    I believe every girl has their insecurities....even the "pretty" ones or the "hot" ones ...I have seen girls who are drop dead gorgeous ...& yet they still feel ugly...it really is how you carry yourself....when I was younger I used to feel that way sometimes...but now I know better...I'm "cute" even though I'm overweight...&...once I drop the weight I'll be even better...I still get compliments...from other people beside my husb'.. I don't need that to reassure me....or let it get to my head I know I got it going on...& not in a conceited way...so it's like some have said it's about confidence...& YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL but you don't need anyone to reassure you of that ; ]
  • beautifulnow
    beautifulnow Posts: 307
    wow well I guess it is nice to know that we all struggle with this...I think that the reason that "cute" bothers me is because it is normally the nice way of saying "who are you kidding you are obviously the tag along that the hott girls keep around to make them feel better"....I didn't mean for this to seem like a "poor me" convention....I just wanna figure out HOW to b pretty, and I totally understand that its a mindset...but how do get there lol if I stand in front of a mirror and try to think of the things that make me pretty my head calls me a liar...and ugly liar for that matter lol....I must say that it amazes me that you ladies feel the same cause you ARE the hott girls!!
  • beautifulnow
    beautifulnow Posts: 307
    I is shore sorry....i's sumtyms fourget hows studit I's is two :drinker:
  • beautifulnow
    beautifulnow Posts: 307
    Let's start with grammar. It's "You're cute..." - That's something that makes you look better almost instantly.


    I is shore sorry....i's sumtyms fourget hows studit I's is two:drinker:
  • jteammom
    jteammom Posts: 173
    Let's start with grammar. It's "You're cute..." - That's something that makes you look better almost instantly.

    I don't think this was meant as a putdown. I think he was just trying to make the point that there are many things for which we are judged, not just our outward appearance. How we communicate with others says a lot about who we are and how we feel about ourselves.
  • danblee
    danblee Posts: 3
    Let's start with grammar. It's "You're cute..." - That's something that makes you look better almost instantly.

    I don't think this was meant as a putdown. I think he was just trying to make the point that there are many things for which we are judged, not just our outward appearance. How we communicate with others says a lot about who we are and how we feel about ourselves.

    This is correct. I intended no harm and apologize if there was a misunderstanding.
  • binary_jester
    binary_jester Posts: 3,311 Member
    I think grammar nazi's are hot.
  • abyt42
    abyt42 Posts: 1,358 Member
    This just made my day! (Few people appreciate the grammarians. Even other English teachers find a stickler for correct grammar to be a drag.)
  • beautifulnow
    beautifulnow Posts: 307
    Let's start with grammar. It's "You're cute..." - That's something that makes you look better almost instantly.

    I don't think this was meant as a putdown. I think he was just trying to make the point that there are many things for which we are judged, not just our outward appearance. How we communicate with others says a lot about who we are and how we feel about ourselves.

    This is correct. I intended no harm and apologize if there was a misunderstanding.

    None nessecary I was trying to be funny....it was a lot funnier in my head....I guess my cute was showing lol :)
  • Tomhusker
    Tomhusker Posts: 346 Member
    I think grammar nazi's are hot.

    My Grammar was not a nazi, but she was kinda cute.
  • jteammom
    jteammom Posts: 173
    I think grammar nazi's are hot.

    I think I'm in love, but only if you remove that apostrophe.
  • bzmom
    bzmom Posts: 1,332 Member
    LOL!!
    Wow...so now we have to compliment the RIGHT way to not offend. I need a flow chart please.
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