Why are some members so mean here?

ugogirl1234

I recently started a new topic and one particular member immediately attacked what I thought at the time was “good advice” I then I made a suggestion on how to improve MFP and again received a sarcastic reply.

I am curious to know if anyone has ever felt that you were under siege for making a suggestion or comment on this website?

rose1617

Yes.
Report the post. If they aren't being helpful or even remotely constructive in their criticism, they're not helping anyone. A lot of times people will post what they think needs to be said due to their own insecurities about their workout, eating, etc.
Don't let it get to you. Report the post and move on. They aren't worth the time.

kkrause2

Yes.
Report the post. If they aren't being helpful or even remotely constructive in their criticism, they're not helping anyone. A lot of times people will post what they think needs to be said due to their own insecurities about their workout, eating, etc.
Don't let it get to you. Report the post and move on. They aren't worth the time.

Agreed!

juldga

There are mean people everywhere. This has actually been the most accpeting website I have ever been on. Some are really bad.
Sorry for your bad experience. Dont give up! This is actually a wonderful site

lilac01

I know thats what I was thinking. Who cares about them and if they bug u tell them to **** OFF.

lal73

So far, i have not had any bad experience here...just ignore them...

Ben2118

You will always get the occasional "keyboard warrior" who thinks their opinions are fact!, in general though this place is brilliant and full of motivational people so don't let it put you off!

Ben.

daffysbird

I agree with all that has been said here! I really think some people need to watch how things can be interpreted when they type it so that no offence can be caused. We are all here for the same reason and we should all be helping and supporting each other, that is definitely the reason I am here, to help and support others and to have the help and support when I need it.

Good luck to everyone on this journey!

MissTomGettingThin

There are mean people everywhere. This has actually been the most accpeting website I have ever been on. Some are really bad.
Sorry for your bad experience. Dont give up! This is actually a wonderful site

Hear hear!!
Ignore the trolls :O)

jessit72

I know how you feel, but no worries there are plenty of friendly people here to back you up! I remember the first post I ever wrote about feeling like I'm starving and someone decided to let me know I'm not starving because I still get so many calories, I felt hurt right off the bat, but then people encouraged me to ignore that and keep going, and I am thankful everyday for that. So if you ever need a friend, feel free to message me I'm gunna add you!

Newfiedan

You will always get the occasional "keyboard warrior" who thinks their opinions are fact!, in general though this place is brilliant and full of motivational people so don't let it put you off!

Ben.

keyboard warriors this made me laugh.

TheNewJessieMae

I agree that some people can be mean........... But I went back to your first post and if you are talking about the one directly under it............ I don't think that was mean.

ObviousIndigo

I know thats what I was thinking. Who cares about them and if they bug u tell them to **** OFF.

I don't think that will help anything. Maybe just ignore them or even PM them and ask. Sometimes things that are said on computers does not come across the way it was intended. It's a big site and should be easy to stay clear of one another if it can't be figured out.

Try not to let one bad apple spoil the bunch:)

lucielu2

I appeciated ur post , cause i always wonderred about that

♥Faerie♥

Yea, they are everywhere, and there is always gonna be someone that thinks they know more than anyone else. They normally disappear after awhile though. Just ignore them, or, like happened yesterday, get all your friends to gang up on them, that is always fun!

Panda_Jack

There are A-hats everywhere. For the most part everyone in this community is really helpfull. I say just ignore them, no point in getting upset over anything on the "interwebs".

LisaLN

Definitely let the good comments outweigh the bad. Obviously people like that rude one simply don't have anything better to do and don't respect themselves, let alone others. Welcome and good luck to you!

hpsnickers1

I saw the post. It could've been worded in a much more supportive way. Even if she didn't mean to be sarcastic it came off that way. It's hard to read emotions when you aren't face to face.

ecp2698

I don’t post too often but from what I have seen, I think most people around here are supportive and positive, even when people post common “repeat” questions. I would ignore any negativity and try not to take it personally. Overall, I find the majority here to be supportive and give great advice!

wkschuster

I've noticed in my short time on here that there are some people who don't even know they are being mean. They state things the way that they see them and don't realize that not everyone can handle such brashness. Don't take it personally, forget the negative people on here or ones that voice things in a manner you don't appreciate and focus on the great supportive people. Good Luck in your journey

crystal_sapphire

which post are you talking about?

Wightvixen

Compared to the gaming forums I read, this one is all sweetness and light.

A thick skin is often required if you're going to stick your head above the parapet on almost any online forum. Just remember to take anything that's said with a pinch of salt. But obviously not literally, because it's bad for you :laugh:

live2smyle

Hmmmm I went through the posts, I am just that lazy today lol and quite frankly I did not see any mean comments. I wish I knew what one you were refering to. Can you please tell us what one it was?

ugogirl1234

which post are you talking about?

It was the post that explained my new insight on the whole eating back your calories topic. I have since become enlightened, but there was one poster who kept saying I wasn’t getting it and well, it just set me off a little.

polar5554

I have to chime in here and say that I have yet come across any mean people/postings so far. Knock on wood...

Having said that, when I was on Weight Watchers Facebook fan page...OMG...They were EVERYWHERE and ohhhhhhh sooooooo offensive. They drove people out of there that someone actually started a Private Weight Watchers fan page cause it got that bad...

I love the community here personally, but I'm sure it's all in due time that some "troll" will surface....And to that I say..."Off with their heads"!!!

danibabs

I looked at the thread I think you were talking about, and didn't see anything that really seemed mean. The issue is kinda on that's been talked to death on here so some long time members might be a little frustrated with the topic (there are multiple new posts a day) but all the replies seemed like the members were just trying to explain their own experiences rather than attack you.

tgh1914

which post are you talking about?

It was the post that explained my new insight on the whole eating back your calories topic. I have since become enlightened, but there was one poster who kept saying I wasn’t getting it and well, it just set me off a little.

You're right though. There are a few folks who have a hard time not being jerks. I know of one active poster in particular (not gonna name names) that is quite knowledgeable & experienced and I admit I'll benefit from some of his posts. But I once took a look at all his recent posts (had plenty of spare time) and couldn't find ONE that didn't at least have a hint of condescension in it.

Just don't let it get to you. :flowerforyou:

live2smyle

I saw no one being mean to you...actually I saw them being quite patient when trying to explain it to you.

Mrs_McFadden

which post are you talking about?

It was the post that explained my new insight on the whole eating back your calories topic. I have since become enlightened, but there was one poster who kept saying I wasn’t getting it and well, it just set me off a little.

@ugogirl1234

What you have to realize is that 'excercise calories' is a hot topic and a well beaten horse around MFP. Realize when I make this observation I am in no way criticising your right to post about it or wish to share your thoughts about it on the forums. Talking about excercise calories when you first join MFP, in the forums, is like being on a politcal forum and running in on your first day saying "So here's my treatise on abortion!' and yes, it can be that devisive in this community.

Like others have said, this forum is on the lighter side in terms of people getting flamed or harrassed. I've been on many forums- gamer, pregnancy ones, parenting ones and this is the most even keel one I've seen! Parenting/pregnancy ones are about a million times worse than this.

There should be if there isn't a guide for newbs to forums on the internet and it should inform people that they should get their bearings before they barrel in with topics that have been discussed repeatedly etc.

The real issue I see is that the forums are not organized efficiently..but that's another story

A thicker skin is a necessity on the net...not to excuse anyone being outright rude to you.

ugogirl1234

which post are you talking about?

It was the post that explained my new insight on the whole eating back your calories topic. I have since become enlightened, but there was one poster who kept saying I wasn’t getting it and well, it just set me off a little.

You're right though. There are a few folks who have a hard time not being jerks. I know of one active poster in particular (not gonna name names) that is quite knowledgeable & experienced and I admit I'll benefit from some of his posts. But I once took a look at all his recent posts (had plenty of spare time) and couldn't find ONE that didn't at least have a hint of condescension in it.

Just don't let it get to you. :flowerforyou:

Yes! Name, names. Just kidding:)

mielikkibz

I recently started a new topic and one particular member immediately attacked what I thought at the time was “good advice” I then I made a suggestion on how to improve MFP and again received a sarcastic reply.

I am curious to know if anyone has ever felt that you were under siege for making a suggestion or comment on this website?

I don't think the post you're taking as offensive is that bad. . the person was just posting a link that has the info you were talking about. . MFP can't make people read. . .