Need advice from guys..

toots99

Okay, so there are a few REALLY cute guys Ithat I see all the time at my gym that I might, maybe, at some point, hopefully :laugh: , get up the nerve to talk to.

My (probably silly) questions are, are guys open to girls coming up to them at the gym and chatting them up? And if so, what do I say, aside fom "Um hi, you're hot and I would like to make out with you." :laugh: I'd have no idea what to say. Help! :flowerforyou:

taso42_DELETED

I think any guy you did that too wouldn't be able to wipe the smile off his face for at least the next week and a half

foreverjade

Ask them how to use a machine, or work a certain muscle group, or if you are already hard kore, ask them to spot you!

Ooops, I'm not a guy.. sorry

improvstitute

I think just going up and talking to them wold be great. I know I like it when girls I don't know come up and talk to me. Don't worry about being clever or witty...just be natural. You will know pretty quickly if they are into you!

tross0924

Well if he's the guy that stares at himself more than anything else there . . . he probably will be to in love with himself to notice you. If he's meat head in the corner talking how big his muscles are and watch me flex over here . . . you'd probably be too bored with any type of conversation on the first date to even bother. But if he's just a cute guy there working out there I'd agree with Taso42 and say he'd be open and smiling for a week after.

Go talk to him. Guys don't mind when a girl starts a conversation. But I wouldn't go with the I'm a helpless girl how do I do a push up line unless you are or enjoy pretending to be helpless forever. Just sit down next to him and say Hi. Introduce yourself, ask him what he does for a living, fun, etc. If he's interested he'll keep talking to you and maybe look for you the next time he's there, or get your number before he leaves. If he's not, he won't. Of course if he's like me, he'd be just as scared as you are so it might take a few talk sessions at the gym for him to ask you out :-)

wilsabeast

Welcome to the toughest thing about being a teenage boy.

Ask him about your technique on an exercise. This will accomplish two things, break the ice and get him to check you out.


Both win!!!

tvman802

Ok, so I am an older guy at 48, but still a guy. I believe that if you came up and said "hey, I've been watching you work out and you look great" that it would let him know your intentions. If you added a "would you like to go out for a "your fav drink here" after your workout?" That will tell him you are more than a little interested. He would either respond yes or no if he is confident in himself, or blubber something unintelligible if he is nervous. Take that as a non-answer and tell him where you are working out and when you plan to be finished. Then go back to your workout.
It will either happen or not, and you will know whether he is into you or not.

amydcarlson

Whatever you do; approach with confidence and a smile! Or, make eye contact when possible...smile, then look away...and wait for him to approach you... It's a strategy that saves you the first "official" move. It's subtle, but it works.

toots99

Well if he's the guy that stares at himself more than anything else there . . . he probably will be to in love with himself to notice you. If he's meat head in the corner talking how big his muscles are and watch me flex over here . . . you'd probably be too bored with any type of conversation on the first date to even bother. But if he's just a cute guy there working out there I'd agree with Taso42 and say he'd be open and smiling for a week after.

That wouldn't be a problem as that would not at ALL be the type of guy I'd be into.

Thanks for the advice everyone. I just wish i wasn't such a chicken. I'd feel like such a fool if he completely rejected me and I'd still have to see him at the gym everyday. :laugh:

toots99

I think any guy you did that too wouldn't be able to wipe the smile off his face for at least the next week and a half

:blushing: :flowerforyou:

Ok, so I am an older guy at 48, but still a guy. I believe that if you came up and said "hey, I've been watching you work out and you look great" that it would let him know your intentions. If you added a "would you like to go out for a "your fav drink here" after your workout?" That will tell him you are more than a little interested. He would either respond yes or no if he is confident in himself, or blubber something unintelligible if he is nervous. Take that as a non-answer and tell him where you are working out and when you plan to be finished. Then go back to your workout.
It will either happen or not, and you will know whether he is into you or not.

Very good advice, thanks.

toots99

Any other advice?

Carl01

Any other advice?

Go for it...a guy doesn`t mind being approached by a pretty lady.

sweetheart03622

Any other advice?

My advice... post what he says/what you did! I want to hear how this went down!

You could always go over to him and say... excuse me... but you're doing it wrong... and show him a thing or two :laugh:

BrianJLamb

Don't mind me, BUT...

If I am at the gym, I HATE talking to people. I want to get in and get out as efficiently as possible. If you are going to kick it to a guy, just kick it to him, show interest and then back off. Tell him you will chat him up later. In my mind, there is nothing more obvious and kindof annoying than a girl who isnt interested in working out, or who is more interested in trying to be pretty while she is working out.

Also, don't ish where you eat!! You don't want to get with this dude, potentially have something not work out, and then have a gym deterrent. Just workout and get your sweat on. Be a nice person and smile. Look confident and happy to be getting healthy and the guys will come to you.

Woodman725

I say start with small talk and find out more about him. Maybe ask if he does any workout at home or something related to working out. You might get some clues as to whether he's even interested. I'm no hunk, but I get women that talk to me at my gym and I usually just say something about my wife or something and keep it friendly. If he's interested he'll keep talking to you and you'll know he's interested. My advice, take it slow. Being rejected right off the bat when asking someone out isn't the worst thing, until you have to potentially see them every time you go to the gym. Good luck

Wendi_S

Any other advice?

"What if's" suck..... go for it!!

Wendi_S

Don't mind me,

**trying my hardest not to** You're quite negative today Brian..... Shouldn't you be working?!

LeeKetty1176

you got to take a chance Toots !!!!!

come on if you like them, just ask them out for a coffee or a beer !!!!!! it nice when a woman does the chancing too !!!

myofibril

Don't mind me, BUT...

If I am at the gym, I HATE talking to people. I want to get in and get out as efficiently as possible. If you are going to kick it to a guy, just kick it to him, show interest and then back off. Tell him you will chat him up later. In my mind, there is nothing more obvious and kindof annoying than a girl who isnt interested in working out, or who is more interested in trying to be pretty while she is working out.

Also, don't ish where you eat!! You don't want to get with this dude, potentially have something not work out, and then have a gym deterrent. Just workout and get your sweat on. Be a nice person and smile. Look confident and happy to be getting healthy and the guys will come to you.

Depends on the guy but I pretty much agree with this.

MassiveDelta

Don't mind me,

**trying my hardest not to** You're quite negative today Brian..... Shouldn't you be working?!

Ya I noticed that too. Knocking down everyones block tower today!

binary_jester

Gyms are tough. I almost avoid talking to females in fear they think I am hitting on them. I detested Lifetime and Ballys because they seemed like meat markets more than gyms. Everyone is different though.

Fesse

Nothing sexier than a beautiful confident women asking out a man!

So just go talk to them... you might be very happy you did!

rgfor40

Any other advice?

"What if's" suck..... go for it!!

i agree... go for it. start with a nice smile first and check out the response.

mrmarius

Nothing sexier than a beautiful confident women asking out a man!

So just go talk to them... you might be very happy you did!

you'd know wouldnt you :P


yea just start a convo

LorinaLynn

This is the same advice I'd give a guy... Make eye contact and smile at him. If he smiles back, he's at very least friendly and approachable, so even just saying, "I see you here all the time. My name is ___ , what's yours?" will get the ball rolling. You'll be seeing him again and again, so there's no need to "close the deal" like if he was someone you randomly spotted at a nightclub or something. You can take your time getting to know him. And who knows, he might open his mouth and be a total knob, so there's no reason whatsoever to be intimidated by him.

If you can't make eye contact and get a smile, he's either uninterested, unavailable, and unfriendly. And you don't need anyone like that in your life.

Look at it this way... the very worst case scenario is that the guy will feel flattered.

crazymama2two

Don't mind me, BUT...

If I am at the gym, I HATE talking to people. I want to get in and get out as efficiently as possible. If you are going to kick it to a guy, just kick it to him, show interest and then back off. Tell him you will chat him up later. In my mind, there is nothing more obvious and kindof annoying than a girl who isnt interested in working out, or who is more interested in trying to be pretty while she is working out.

Also, don't ish where you eat!! You don't want to get with this dude, potentially have something not work out, and then have a gym deterrent. Just workout and get your sweat on. Be a nice person and smile. Look confident and happy to be getting healthy and the guys will come to you.

i like this advice...i like the whole talk to him, back off bit...it's obvious you want to talk to him again just by the mere fact you had the balls to talk to him in the first place...

kimber607

Oh man, I might get slammed for this, but I would wait for him to make the move
I think you can smile/try to make eye contact etc but if he's interested he'll make a move


*ducking for cover*

binary_jester

Oh I know! Wink at a guy when you are on the Yes/No machine. problem solved.

chicks2023

Most of us guys are true dogs and would go for just about any pickup line you had to offer. Personally, I don't frequent the "gym's" in public, I use the facility at my office. But, when I am working out, I think I would be too self conscious to even realize you were flirting or I would be to self conscious about my body odor.

If they are not sweaty and stinky, you have to question their motivation for being there. Right? Again, I think I have been married my whole life, so not the best person to give advice about this, but have put tons of thought into this because as I pointed out before, most of us guys are dogs!

My best advice would be, do a background check on them..... money well spent!

Wendi_S

My best advice would be, do a background check on them..... money well spent!

LOVE this advice!!!

sdhorne

Just go for it! Not knowing sucks. Just go up and ask him out. What is the worst that could happen? If he says yes, you have a date, if he says no, he wasn't worthy of ya!