A comment about your weight that still bothers you...
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My mother told me when I was about 10 that I'd likely never be skinny. Looking back I think she meant that I wasn't of super model build, but it always stuck with me. That may explain why I'm hyper-sensitive about how I phrase weight/health/activity issues with my girls.
And go get that hair cut!!0 -
When I was in school I got called kankels... I NEVER EVER had kankles, but since then I have hated my ankles so much that I would love more than anything to get lipo suction on them, even tho I am pretty sure that there is nothing for them to suck out...
My cousin, would make fun of my legs tell me I was big, or ask me if I had been eating too many twinkies... I have hated my short muscular legs ever since then.
There was this boy I went to school with that would Come up behind me or walk past me and flick the back of my arms, making the giggle... I have hated my arms ever since..
my father has told me time and time again, that Well hunny Im sorry but your like your mother... your always going to be struggling with your weight. Thanks dad!
BTW... I have a 25 inch waist... 26% body fat, and I still have trouble seeing the skinny me. Some how my mirror and mind like to play tricks on me and show me the 155lb person I used to be!
People are @$$'s and don't understand the effects they have on other people. I have learned to not hold it against them. although I have to battle with my emotional self that its really skinny and not fat.0 -
"Hmmm, are you pregnant again because you look it" Great, thanks. Just what I want to hear. When you have been small most of your life and you gain weight then you get lots and lots of comments like, "what happened?" Even when you may still be smaller that the person pointed out your fat!0
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my mom: "are you pregnant?"
me: "no."
mom: "oh you just look like it then."
aren't mom's grand?0 -
yeah, I was traveling with relatives somewhere one day and my dad was in the back seat with me. We were only going a short distance but suddenly the car starting chugging ans struggled to go up a small hill. My dad started laughing and said there was too much weight in the back of the car and that I should hop out and help push it up the hill. I was about 13 years old. My dad's great but sometimes he doesn't know how much words can hurt when you're already the most insecure person in the world
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"What are you having?" (I've never been pregnant)0
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A student of mine wrapped her arms around my fat middle to hug me, and she looked up at me and said (100% innocently) "does it keep you warm at night while you sleep, like a polar bear?"
Ouch. That stung bad. My polar bear belly is almost gone now, but that's a comment I won't soon forget.0 -
When I weighed 118 my ex-stepmom announced to everyone there (about 6 or 7 people) that I was "the highest weight I had ever been in my life." When I was a little heavier at around 125-135, she kept me home from school for 2 hours to tell me I was getting fat. She isn't in my life anymore and she has done some really horrible things to me, but when I am skinny, a nurse, and and an awesome Mom (I AM pretty good..:P) that will be enough for me. I am not doing this for that reason at all, but to become the exact opposite that she said- priceless!0
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I was looking through old pics and was surprise to see that I was pretty thin - I was 120-130 in high school, but being asian - I was called fat my whole life. I grew up thinking I was enormous. I love my mom to death but her comment amount my weight that still bothers me was "If you keep on eating, you'll be fat and no man will want to marry you" - but now I have a boyfriend that loves me thin or thick (not asian). Deep down inside, my uncontrollable eating and weight gain....was due to the anger I have against the people who called me fat. Now I know, I need to take control of my life.
I love this site, so supportive...and seeing other people having the same issue - really helps.
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This is incredible - what some people say to make themselves feel good and everyone else feel like crap! *kitten*, all of them!
I had a guy I had a crush on tell me, just after I asked him out, that I was the opposite of a "butter face" - as in, "you have a pretty face, but your body is gross."
FYI: If you dont' know, a BUTTER FACE means - "she's got a great body - "but her face" is god aweful"
In retrospect, I'm glad he turned me down. JERK.1 -
"That dress is so cute! & when you lose weight it will look perfect!" ...... this was said to me by a friend when we were shopping at the mall... rude!0
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my whole family has told me "you could stand to lose a little weight." DUH! What do they think I've been trying to do since I was a teenager? get fatter? I've been on some diet or another my whole life, now it is all about changing my lifestyle into something I can do for the rest of my life!0
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As a step-mom I am sorry too...I have to repeatedly tell my son that he's not fat...he says it like he accepts it, but I hate hearing those words. I've heard it my entire life. I do tell him he needs to exercise more and get healthy, but never ever would I comment on his body type. I just have my fingers crossed he'll be like his father...a monster lol.0
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"That dress is so cute! & when you lose weight it will look perfect!" ...... this was said to me by a friend when we were shopping at the mall... rude!
depending on HOW this is delivered, this kind of comment can help me out. When I try on something that is still too small, my sister very kindly points out that it will fit, very soon, and that helps me feel better. But delivered in a snatchy way, this IS rude!!!!0 -
I was skinny when I was younger, then at 16 I was put on some medication that made me gain 60lbs in 2 months. From that moment on my dad was always having issues with my weight. I was really athletic when I ws in school and found it harder to be as active once I had gained the weight. My dad and I bonded over the sports I played so when I was having trouble its like I wasnt the daughter he wanted any more. I have had a hard time with that. Then to top it all off at age 17 I was told by a boyfriend that I had "nice child bearing hips." I lost it. I have been struggling to loose the weight ever since and I just cant seem to do it. Im looking for this time to be the clincher.1
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Dad: All I want is for you to be happy, but I don't think you will ever be happy becasue no one will love you if you look like that.
Dad: You must weigh 20 stone now (I Was 13 years old...I weighed 14 stone, which was big, but i didn't weight 20 stone, not yet)
Dad: You're like the side of a house.
Dad: When you were a baby people used to say you'd grow up to be a heartbreaker, but you've proved them all wrong.1 -
When I was 12, my mom said she was embarrassed to be seen with me. I look at old pics and I wasn't even that big just chubby. This spiraled me into an eating disorder and I lost 40 pounds....then she was happy to go out with me.
She still comments on my weight.
AAAWW I am so sorry to hear that, when it comes from fam it hurts the most. You are beautiful remember that.0 -
I think I hear the same thing that most of us ladies with weight to lose hear... "You could have such a pretty face..."
My mother yo-yoed her whole life. I grew up with my father jokingly referring to her as a hippo. And my mother lacked understanding and merely WILLED me not to gain weight. When I did, she has made it very clear that she is disappointed. I represent her and my weight gain makes it look like she failed. When we're alone, she says she is concerned about diabetes and such, but when we're in a family setting, she humiliates me. "Hogatha" "Thunder Thighs", etc. I try not to let it bother me because I know that my family knows her history with weight too. She's on the small end of things now and that's great for her. Additionally, my paternal grandmother typified everybody by weight. Their gains, their losses. Who was "little" and who had "just gotten so big, bless them."
I really don't have the body issues that my elders have. But I would be lying if I said they didn't affect me.1 -
last time i went to doctor he congratulated me for losing weight and talked about how my numbers were all improved etc. then as he was talking to his aid he poked my arm and called me overweight..i was like really you cant say i'm doing great etc and then be like "because he's overweight" bothered me a lil..
a few years ago i saw some friends i hadnt seen in years and one of them said the other was like is that marius who just passed by in the car? he looks like rick ross.! :noway: wtf0 -
I will never forget when I was in third grade, one of my classmates said to me"don't break the chair" I even remember his name, I was so hurt, it has stuck with me until this day.0
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I know that is right!!!0
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Why wait! Do it now!
Exactly!
Unless you are using it as a motivator/reward...just do it. 
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When I was planning for my first half marathon, I was nowhere near goal weight. I told my mom that I had registered and she said, "But you don't have a runner's body!"
Ow.
Turns out you don't need a particular body type to be able to finish a half marathon, though. I was near my highest weight on race day, but I somehow managed to run the whole thing anyway. You can't tell a "runner's body" by looks alone.
And I agree on the haircut, too - Don't wait! Do it now!!0 -
"When are you due?"
I wasn't pregnant
Also my cousin told me that she thought it was so interesting that I gained 10 lbs in the same year she lost 10 lbs. She didn't mean to sound hurtful I'm sure, but she could have used a bit of tact..0 -
Some recently told me that I couldn't wear a short haircut well because I had a double chin (this after I lost 20 lbs and the double chin).
My mon always called me "hippy", an aunt bought me a girdle when I was 12 and in school, they called me Bertha Butt. 5'9" and 125 lbs; I was right where I needed to be!1 -
"You'd be pretty if you weren't fat" - I'll always remember this. I was told at my 6th grade graduation by the boy I liked...sad.
"You have such a pretty face" - I'm told this all the time. I wish it was just "you're pretty" but it's just my face because of the weight. I'll get there!1 -
In 7th grade I sat on my lap and my mom said "Well you're not my skinny minny any more are you!?" I was under 100 lbs and probably a little over 5 ft. I know she didn't meand it to sound like that and meant that I was growing up but I still think of it to this day!0
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My brother, who is four years younger than me, has called me a "fat-*kitten*" my entire life. The fact that he can no longer refer to me in that way and MEAN it thrills me to no end, but I don't think I'll ever forget it...0
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All of these stories break my heart. I dont understand why the parents would say these things to their children. Bless you all!!!1
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@tiffanyquincey - I had this asked recently to me. It sucks and the last time I had someone ask me I ended up losing 60 lbs. I am sorry you were asked this. It's very hurtful, though they may have not meant to be. 0
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