A comment about your weight that still bothers you...
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Ugh, I've had so many of those comments!
By my grandma when I was about 13 or 14- "It looks like you've inherited our family's thunder thighs"
By my husbands grandpa about 6 months after the birth of our first daughter- "You sure haven't lost the baby weight have you?" (I had actually lost all but 5 pounds of my pregnancy weight!)
By a friend of a friend- "Are you sure you don't play soccer? Your calves are huge" (he tried to explain that they were just muscular but I still felt bad)
Why are people so RUDE?!0 -
"You have such a pretty face" (love that line of garbage)
"You're not THAT fat?"
"You're not fat, but you could stand to lose some."
"You get that (fatness) from your mom" - my stepmom said this
"You used to be so sexy." - ex boyfriend referring to my competitve running days in high school and just after when I was a size 4/6 and could run a 6 minute mile
What kills me are the things said behind my back and the unsaid things (the looks) from my family. It hurts.1 -
My sister in law said in front of everyone in party, I should take care of my big belly (I weigh 142 lbs then). My husband tells me everyday how ugly and short I look because of my weight.
My another sister-in law who is 12 years older me said, I look so older than her because of my weight.:mad:
I have hypothyroid and had always struggle with weight gain and depression.
Do not put up with this from him. Not once, not ever. Unacceptable. A husband should be your biggest supporter, even if you gain weight. He should not tolerate his family treating you that way either. You are his wife, his first priority.0 -
You aren't alone, sorry you had to go through that.
I'm sure tere are some I don't remember, but the ones from family really stick.
I used to mow my grandfather's large lawn with his 10 year old riding lawn mower once a week. He told my father right in front of me that I was so big I was making the tires go flat
My naturally thin grandmother (on the other side of the family) told me I was big after I burped from drinking a diet soda...she was the one feeding me Reese's Cereal for breakfast when I was younger.
Mom, I love my mom, and this isn't that bad, but it stuck. She told me I would meet a boy once I lost some weight like she did in high school when she met my dad.
My aunt telling me that I have my grandmother's genes becasue I have her arms...AKA I have grandma arms
...she also bought me "what not to wear" for Christmas so I could wear clothes that fit my body shape.
....she also asked me if I was goth because I had a lot of black t-shirts (black was the color of a lot of clubs my senior year in high school picked)
Talking to my husband I told him I had lost 10 pounds (I hadn't seen him for like 2 months), his response? "really?"
My softball coach telling me Im a big girl...as in you are a huge fattie
My 7th grade science teacher told me I looked like I was 30....when I was in the 7th grade
A co-worker used to grab the back of my arms becasue it made me uncomfortable and make fun of me.
And many many other bullies that didn't even know who I was that would make comments to me just because I was walking by them. I found out when I was 16 that a big reason I gained weight so fast when I was a teen was because of a hormone imbalance.1 -
I've had plenty of customers ask me when I'm due. One man in particular stands out, after telling him I was not expecting he asked me "are you sure about that?" Are you freaking kidding me? Who says that after someone is clearly embarrassed after you just asked them their due date when they aren't even pregnant?! Then he proceeded to go on about how when he first started coming into my place of business that I was "shaped like a coke bottle" gesturing with his hands. I went in the bathroom and cried after he left
What kills me even more is the fact that I have infertility issues and have to deal with this question from random strangers more often the most
(I hate PCOS and the stupid weight issues (pregnant looking stomach) it has given me)1 -
Ive had plenty growing up, I was not always skinny. The few that stuck out to me are:
My gym teacher in high school used to call me "Whale it Whaley" my last name was Whaley. Hated him for that because when we played soft ball thats what everyone would cheer. Lets just say he made gym hell which led me to lose 75 lbs unhealthily my freshman year.
I always heard you are so pretty and have great hair wish you had the body to go with it cause I would date you then.
(how can guys think 155-160 is fat when I was 5'7, im shrinking now...LOL and being 18 I felt devastated)
Lastly, my ex husband told me after we had our son that if I was still fat in 5 years he'd divorce me, ***HOLE! Great part there we only lasted 1 1/2 yrs married, best 145 lbs I lost (meaning him).1 -
I've had plenty of customers ask me when I'm due. One man in particular stands out, after telling him I was not expecting he asked me "are you sure about that?" Are you freaking kidding me? Who says that after someone is clearly embarrassed after you just asked them their due date when they aren't even pregnant?! Then he proceeded to go on about how when he first started coming into my place of business that I was "shaped like a coke bottle" gesturing with his hands. I went in the bathroom and cried after he left What kills me even more is the fact that I have infertility issues and have to deal with this question from random strangers more often the most
(I hate PCOS and the stupid weight issues (pregnant looking stomach) it has given me)
I have PCOS as well, which is why it especially frustrates me when people tell me I need to lose weight... It is very hard and I also have a thyroid problem and vitamin absorbency issues. It has been coming off easier lately, but before now I had to practically starve myself to lose anything!
I was actually told I would never have any children. Imagine my surprise when I found out I was pregnant with my son 7 years ago after the most horrific event of my life to this day. It hadn't bothered me before that they said i couldn't have children, I hadn't wanted any, but after a while into the pregnancy my mind started changing, especially when he started kicking. A couple years after he was born my husband and I tried for another child, but it just wasn't happening. It turns out that the Depo shot had triggered my PCOS to go from dormant to active. I am content with one child now though, especially since he is autistic and the genetics doc said any other children I have are quite likely to have the same problems as he does.
Anyways, I believe that you can and will get pregnant and I will be praying that your issues resolve themselves. If you ever want to talk I am here.0 -
I was 5'6 & close to 170 pounds when I was 16. One day my parents and I were in our living room and my mom was folding laundry. I have 3 younger sisters and my mom could NEVER get who's clothes were whose right so she held up a pair of my jeans and said, "Who's are these?" I told her they were mine and my Dad BURST out laughing thinking they were my younger sister's jeans, "HAHAHAHAHAHA THOSE AREN'T YOURS!!!!! YOU COULD NEVER FIT INTO THOSE!!!!!" Then another time my mom asked who's underwear she was folding, I told her they were mine and my Dad burst out laughing again telling me that HE could fit into my underwear. Thinking back at the comments actually hurts me more than when they were actually said. Anyway, I started skipping breakfast and lunch, lost 40 pounds in 2 months, and my Dad told me if I kept going he was going to have me admitted to the hospital. I could never figure out what he wanted.1
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I remember a few years ago, when I first lost some weight, I was down like 25 lbs. I was extremely proud of myself. My ex gf actually said to me: "You still look pregnant." I wound up going off the diet some time later and I gained all that weight back. I realize now, she was just jealous because she had gained a lot of weight also. She always was the jealous type.
Thankfully, I'm down lower than I was then now. I will never forget what she said to me.0 -
I find it strange that when a boy is heavier all he (USUALLY) hears is "wow, you could be a linebacker". But when it's a girl she hears rude and just plain mean words. I was so thin I was called a "toothpick". Too big.....too little....too wide.....too narrow.
When is it just right? NEVER! And WHO decides? If we're white.....it's we need to tan more. If we're black ... we need to lighten up.
If our hair is curly...we try to straighen it. If our hair is straight we curl it. ENOUGH GIRLS! Don't let anyone define who we are. We just are and that's good enough.
*****especially if it comes from a pot bellied, bald headed , brainless you know what!1 -
Some kid pushed me down the steps when I was younger and said "Fat girl takes down a million!"1
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I remember my dad making me weigh-in every Sunday and he would keep track of it, and I would get ahuge lecture each time because I wasn't down weight I just kept on gaining weight.
I've always had a stomach, and I remember I bought a shirt that was like a stretchy kind but I liked it and I thought it looked good on me. Well I have always been bigger chested as well, and I wore this shirt with a cute jean skirt to church one Sunday, and mind you I was at my best weight and health at the time and I was looking good....And my dad's wife made the comment to me of idk why you would wear that shirt because you can't tell the difference between your boobs and your fat roll! She was so mean to me about my weight, and everyone in my family about there weight, but yet she kept on shoving her mouth full of food. She wore like a size 12, but was squeezing into them because her fat roll was starting to hang over the button too! But that one comment just was like I wonder if I will ever be good enough. Also at this time I was working out at home along with doing a 1hr conditioning class 3 days a week at school, so I was getting more than enough exercise, but I think I've always had the belly because of me having PCOS, and my genetics. I will get past this, and become a better person.
Thank goodness I don't talk to my dad or her anymore, because they just bring people down.1 -
If you like your hair short....that is what you should do....get a short cut ; )
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My dad who I love to death and i know did not mean to hurt my feelings recently said let me know when you are comfortable enough and i will tell you the comments I heard people saying!!! I was like what i never want to hear them. That hurt my feelings and i know that is not what he meant. I have lost 30lbs, but I still know and feel I have so much more. I am still not comfortable with myself. Now I know people were talking about me and infront of my DAD? GREAT0
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How about "you would be pretty if you lost 30 lbs" fun stuff :grumble:
Or:
"Ten pounds, and you'll be beautiful"
...at age 8...Thanks, Nana :huh:1 -
What sticks with me, is when I was hanging out with another girl, and this guy, and the girl was complaining about thinking she was fat (she was much smaller than me), and the guy said "if you don't like it, do something about it."
That was when I was fifteen.
I'm now nineteen and it plays over and over in my head.0 -
Or my mother's classic comment:
"I'll buy you school clothes when you close weight."
better yet;
"I'd love you more if you lost weight."
Thanks for the mental damage, mommy.1 -
A boyfriend told me that I was fat but still beautiful. Just hearing someone call me fat was so mortifying to me.0
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It's shocking how so many of you have had such hurtful things said by your own family!!!! Much love to all of you; no one deserves that.0
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Umm..kinda funny, my friend (who's on here!) and I were at her cousin's house and he said to me (he was a trainer at the time, this was 10 years ago) "Em, you've almost got it all. You have a gorgeous face, perfect hair, best personality, if you lose 100lbs you'll be PERFECT" I was 224 at the time, being 124 would make me look cuuuurazy! I have a big frame and I'm a bit over 5'7''
I don't know why it stuck with me, he was attractive and all but he was also engaged and sooo not my type personality wise (he was intense) and he didn't say it to be rude or mean - in fact I *think* it was a compliment. I was dating someone then who thought i was beyond perfect and I still think I'm perfect right this second, but his comment still sticks with it. (yes, I'm very confident, if you don't love yourself then no one else can truly love you)
I kinda hope I run into him when I hit my goal so I can show him that I'm perfect in any package I come in, even though there will always be someone who think I'm fat, someone who thinks I'm ugly, and someone who thinks I'm not good enough - that person is wrong of course.0 -
My sister in law said in front of everyone in party, I should take care of my big belly (I weigh 142 lbs then). My husband tells me everyday how ugly and short I look because of my weight. My another sister-in law who is 12 years older me said, I look so older than her because of my weight.:mad:
I have hypothyroid and had always struggle with weight gain and depression.
Do not put up with this from him. Not once, not ever. Unacceptable. A husband should be your biggest supporter, even if you gain weight. He should not tolerate his family treating you that way either. You are his wife, his first priority.
I am so sorry your husband said that to you. My husband is my biggest supporter of my weightloss, but wouldn't care one bit if I never lost a pound. He always tells me how much he loves my body.0 -
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it breaks my heart to hear the comments I've read here... I can't believe the hurtful words that come out of people's mouths sometimes.0
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I love my grandmother dearly, but sometimes she's poison. When I was 15 my mom was talking to her about my weight and my grandmother popped off with "There's nothing wrong with her that sewing her mouth shut for 3 weeks won't cure." You would have thought that if I'd lost weight she'd have let up right? Nope, about a year later I was 40 pounds lighter and she was harping on my mother that she needed watch me because I was probably anorexic. When mom pointed out that I was eating, a lot, she replied with "Well you'll probably catch her later with her finger down her throat."
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My husband tells me everyday how ugly and short I look because of my weight. My another sister-in law who is 12 years older me said, I look so older than her because of my weight.:mad:
I think this might be the saddest thing I've read on here. I am sorry for you and your husband for thinking that is anywhere near ok!
Sad that so many of these are from parents too!
To add my own, and there have been many, the one that sticks was 12 years ago and I had a belly but otherwise not too bad and my son got into a fight and got on trouble in school, after some pressing I found out the other boy had called me fat. I always felt so bad that he got in trouble defending me, and knew that since he was not a violent boy the comment must have hurt and embarrassed him.0 -
being compared to the basketball when I was on the basketball team... and my dad always saying " if you would just lose weight..." finish the sentence with everything!0
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Don't wait - do it now!! I got a short & sassy last October and I loooove it!0
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When I was like 6, an older boy ( like 12 lol) told me I was too fat to wear a bathing suit. I love swimming, but ever since then, I've worn a shirt over my bathing suit. Sometimes, pants too.1
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When I was like 6, an older boy ( like 12 lol) told me I was too fat to wear a bathing suit. I love swimming, but ever since then, I've worn a shirt over my bathing suit. Sometimes, pants too.0
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Its is sad that people dont think about what they say... but you have turned a negative into a positive and she will no longer have power over you!
I remember seeing a friend from high school after about two years and the first thing he said with shock and horror is "WHAT happened to you!?!? pllllllz Tell me your pregnant!"
Talk about a major blow to my self-esteem...
I also have customers at my job tell me on a regular basis how much i've changed/gained since I started working there 6 years ago at a mere128lbs. It really bothers me sometimes but I have to remember that I am making a change and the weight will come off!
Its amazing the comments people continue to remember over the years...0
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