Is it me or do I see slim ppl wanting to lose weight

fteale

I do get rather fed up with the "I weigh 115 and want to be 110" people. Especially if they are more than about 5'4".

But in general, you can't go by profile pics! Some people's aren't even of them, they are of celeb bodies they'd like to have, or old pictures of themselves. Mine is 8 years old, before I had children. I have wrinkles now

damonmath

<<<<<Legit Profile Pic! I'm also in maintenance mode. I lost 52 lbs. and am proud to show it off.

Naomi91

I have seen anorexic girls on here (mainly teens) who were emaciated and looked like they came out of a concentration camp. They had ridiculous weight loss goals and even more ridiculous food diaries. A couple of girls were consuming only 500 calories a day and exercising enough to burn 500!! I said something to one of them in a private message voicing my concern and she immediately shot me down. I just leave them alone and focus on myself. I think they do it for attention.

WOW. so this is rude. an ED is not always for attention, it can be a serious problem and you are definitely no help

Sassy_Cass

Uh yeah, I agree! There's a LOT of anorexia running around on this site.....Body dismorphic disorder at it's finest!! Sad really.....

Not a lot - if you seek you will find. There are a lot of ledigimate goals on here - like many have said they are here for maintenance, support, sharing ideas etc. Some want to tone some want to shed - whatever the motivation it is no one's place to judge.

Beauty and Fitness is truely in the eye of the beholder, often we look at others and think "too thin" or "too fat" how often do we actually look and think "just right". The same goes for our thoughts when we look in the mirror.

If you don't agree with someone's size or goals don't friend them - don't criticise.

Most are here for support, so if you can - provide it

LorinaLynn

I don't judge based on photos, but I do get concerned when someone's goal or way of reaching their goal is unhealthy. I know how distorted one's self image can be... I don't always see the difference losing 20-ish pounds has made on me. But I also didn't always see the difference *gaining* 20-ish pounds made on me! :laugh: Tricky little pounds... sneaking in one by one when I wasn't looking.

Sometimes, I just want to shake them and tell them "You're frickin' gorgeous! Stop the self-hate! Stop trying to look like a photoshopped picture in a magazine!"

Crystal817

Mine looks exactly like me.

So furry.

melaniecheeks

I agree that profile pics mean nothing. But I also agree that I see a lot of young women aiming for unrealistic weight goals, flat stomachs, size zero, etc.

Sometimes I have to tell myself "Step away from the MFP!", when I start get annoyed by people completely focussed on, obsessed by, and stressed out by their looks.

However, I don't usually comment - I don't know their history or journey, and it's their right to be..well...vain.

itsgracia

I dont have much to loose...im at 134 wanting to be 119 because that is the heaviest I can be at a healthy BMI. I just hide my jelly really well...hehe!

amandalc980

I wonder if maybe they just take great photos? just like a bunch of people already said lol i weighed 400 lbs when i started this a month ago and you couldnt tell from SOME of my pics... that i bet is what throws people off.

You are so pretty!!! You look like a Kardashian! Love the hair in your pic.

baisleac

There are slim folks who want to be thinner and/or fitter. Nothing wrong with that. The last 5 pounds are just as important as the first 5.

There are also people who have user pics that are old pics or are their kids or an anime character or a bear in the woods.


edit: I can haz grammar.

Oh... and my current use pic is me from 25ish pounds ago that I'm going to be returning to and surpassing. Another one have used is me at 8 years old.

beckajw

My profile picture is a picture of me and what I use to be.....it keeps me focused!!

Mine too.

melaniecheeks

Oh, and my profile pic is exactly how I look right now!

WalkingGirl1985

Mines real, taken about a week or so ago.

monkeybuttsmommy

I have seen anorexic girls on here (mainly teens) who were emaciated and looked like they came out of a concentration camp. They had ridiculous weight loss goals and even more ridiculous food diaries. A couple of girls were consuming only 500 calories a day and exercising enough to burn 500!! I said something to one of them in a private message voicing my concern and she immediately shot me down. I just leave them alone and focus on myself. I think they do it for attention.

I have seen this too. MFP doesn't have an eating disorder filter or a self asteem filter. It deosn't screen for those just looking to do a fad diet or to lose the weight by any means necessary. I feel sorry for those that don't get that its a lifestyle change and I worry about the younger ones who would rather die then way more than 120 pounds!

Also, to each his own. What works for one person won't work for another and judging purely by a profile pic is erronious. You won't have all the facts.

MassiveDelta

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My After picture....My legs are so thin yes?

Naomi91

I do get rather fed up with the "I weigh 115 and want to be 110" people. Especially if they are more than about 5'4".

This would be me. I am trying to lose another 10 pounds of fat. sure im a healthy weight. But I want the flat tummy and am getting it.

i see nothing wrong with slim girls looking to lose a few more lbs in their trouble areas.

marci355

Uh yeah, I agree! There's a LOT of anorexia running around on this site.....Body dismorphic disorder at it's finest!! Sad really.....

Not a lot - if you seek you will find. There are a lot of legitimate goals on here - like many have said they are here for maintenance, support, sharing ideas etc. Some want to tone some want to shed - whatever the motivation it is no one's place to judge.

Beauty and Fitness is truly in the eye of the beholder, often we look at others and think "too thin" or "too fat" how often do we actually look and think "just right". The same goes for our thoughts when we look in the mirror.

If you don't agree with someone's size or goals don't friend them - don't criticize.

Most are here for support, so if you can - provide it

Uh OK.....Just to be honest....I HAVE body dismorphic disorder and I wouldn't wish it on any one. And, I don't go around "looking" for other people with ED's. You don't know anything about me or why I'm here. All my friends tell me that I am very good at motivating others! I was not criticizing anyone, because I AM that someone. You are rude, don't criticize, till you know ALL the facts.

Crystal817

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My After picture....My legs are so thin yes?

Totally jealous.

amandalc980

I see where you are coming from though. There are some people that you see their goals and wonder if you should mention something. Unfortunatly, this is a digital world, we don't really know the whole story for these people. Plus, one persons idea of a healthy weight could differ from another persons doctors idea of a healthy weight.

I see that you are coming from a good place though. Plus if you see someone who is 140 and they are saying they want to lose 100 pounds you should probably say something. :flowerforyou:

lcoulter23

eating disorders are NOT for attention! I have been there and done that and still struggle with it from time to time! They are no fun! And not everybody is trying to lose weight, I have seen some who are trying to GAIN weight so they can be healthy. I carry most of my weight in my bottom half as well. None of my friends believe that I weigh as much as I say I do. A picture is a picture. I take face shots once a week now because my face is losing its chubbiness and is getting thinner every day. so are my fingers and my knees.

bk2011

I stopped reading all the replies, but to the OP:

I do want to lose another 35 pounds and my profile picture is me...but it is me before I got pregnant and had a baby! So it is my motivation since I know I looked like that before! I know a lot of my friends on here do the same thing!

ZebraHead

This site (Thank Frickin' God!!) is open to everyone. skinny, fat, anorexic, black, blonde, whatever. And that's just the way we like it.

I hate (that's right I said HATE) the way some on this thread got their self-righteous panties in a wad because they feel they have some jusitification to make comments about people and issues they have no clue about nor any reason to be speaking out loud.

Then others who feel that they should jump on the trashing band wagon too, what is up with you!!

I hate what you are doing in this thead but damn you all I have to defend your right to say it even if you are each and everyone a loathsome peice of human trash that get's your chuckles at other people's expense.

You make me frackin' sick...

Tristis

Yeah, I have noticed that too. Also noticed some really young people on here wanting to lose weight when they are half nekkid in their profile pics with inverted bellies talking about only eating 500 calories a day. It sad when some people use this site to support their eating disorders! The intent of this site is to be HEALTHY.

dmisom79

Mine looks exactly like me.

HILARIOUS!!!

aliciadpo

Uh yeah, I agree! There's a LOT of anorexia running around on this site.....Body dismorphic disorder at it's finest!! Sad really.....

A lot of pictures are old or when people were at the weight they want to reach. For instance, some people may look at me and say, "well, she's slim". I don't deny that I am not overweight but I do want to lose weight to be in the lower end of a healthy BMI. It's not sad.
I wanted to join WW but I was actually itimidated to go because I didn't want people to judge me for not being "overweight". I told my mom this and she says, "well, you know....this one girl in there is so skinny, she doesn't need to be in there, it's ridiculous!!" < how do you know she's not in maintenance?? I couldn't have been happier to have found this site and see other women with similar goals. It is hard to lose just 10-15 lbs when you're already in the 140 range.
Plus, if someone is really short, they're 110 or 105 lbs could actually be a healthy weight. idk, maybe I haven't seen a lot of girls who are "anorexic" or "body dismorphic at it's finest" but if I did see someone who was in the 110-115 range want to lose 15-20lbs, maybe you could send a kind message about self esteem, they don't deserve to be judged anymore than an overweight person does.

Kolohe71

MFP and calorie counting are NOT just for those that are looking to LOSE weight. Over eating is as much an ED as eating too little, and if this program can work for one, why not the other? Just maybe some of those "Slim People" are struggling to get to and maintian a healthy weight like the rest of us. They just happen to have a starting point at the opposite end of the spectrum.

zeeeb

many people are probably near their goals, but are working towards perfection... It may seem over the top to me ( a chubba) but i commend them on their dedication, and i guess it's better to be addicted to healthy eating and fitness than crack and gambling for example...

i couldn't have a go at people if they are just trying to be healthy and fit. every step closer i get to my goal, the goal goes down.

originally i wanted to get to pre-pregnancy, now i'm only 6kg from that weight, and i'm setting my sights higher, to 10kg more, back to when i was single, and wearing a bikini. i used to think it was unattainable, but i know it is attainable with hard work. so why shouldn't we aim for the best we can be.

unhinge

Mine looks exactly like me.

LMAO, I wish!

eeeekie

being slim, being healthy, being toned are all different

a slim person may just want to tone up, they may want to target a specific "problem" area. I don't think it's for attention. We all have issues with our bodies ...

Just because your skinny doesn't mean your fit (athletically fit)

Thats why I love this site...theres people from all fitness levels.

Clonekuh

At first I was a little sad to see people so concerned over being their current size when they already accomplished great things and looked amazing, but then I had to remind myself that's not really what this site is for. Still, would be nice to see people celebrating their awesomeness more, no? Those threads make me happy when they pop up.