ughhhh men!!!

JoyceJoanne

Ditto... I'm always put in the "Friend Zone"..... but I don't mind... being nice and trust worthy works for me...

Besides... I think i prefer to be in the "Friend Zone" because every girl I have dated must have been breed from crazy town!!!!

Friends...YES PLEASE!

Hey, I resemble that remark! It's a BIG place!

Heather75

Wow. I think I have been hogging all the good men because I haven't been with a bad one since high school. Sorry, everyone. I'll share.

JoyceJoanne

I have to say the same about MFP ladies,so sweet and caring while looking you right in the eye and saying what they think and feel.

Can`t help but to luv all them on my friends list.

whoop whoop!! Carl added me... now I can be a part of the luv :happy:

mishelnkiki

thanks to EVERYONE who responded! i was nervous putting this post up bc i didnt want to offend the men out there. i know not ALL men are bad, just the ones i have dated. the age comment, about men over 30... not true in all cases. my last three exes have all been 30+ and all the same. i tend to attract the same kind of men. i have thrown myself into my fitness and tried to forget about the dating scene. its just hard when i see all my friends getting married. or going out with nothing but couples. or laying down every night alone. i dont think its too much to ask to find a good man and be happy. but apparently its asking for quite alot!

Fat_Bottomed_Girl

I don't date and hardly ever dated cause "dates" always seem to end that way. But once you find one, you will appreciate him (and he you) more that you ever realized you would, and it will be WORTH all the crappy "dates" you had been on to date. (And IMHO, I think it helps if they have daughters!)

RCKT82

thanks to EVERYONE who responded! i was nervous putting this post up bc i didnt want to offend the men out there. i know not ALL men are bad, just the ones i have dated. the age comment, about men over 30... not true in all cases. my last three exes have all been 30+ and all the same. i tend to attract the same kind of men. i have thrown myself into my fitness and tried to forget about the dating scene. its just hard when i see all my friends getting married. or going out with nothing but couples. or laying down every night alone. i dont think its too much to ask to find a good man and be happy. but apparently its asking for quite alot!

Nope not offended... I completely agree with you... there are a lot of guys out there that give men a bad rep in general...
I know how you feel though, I generally attract the nutty girls that completely flip out on me. Honestly, I like being single and I'm tired of my friends in RL and their significant others trying to play match maker with me. Like you, I prefer to just keep myself busy with fitness and other hobbies and not worry about the whole dating drama... If it's meant to be, a relationship will find me. this statement of course is: IMO.

mishelnkiki

thanks to EVERYONE who responded! i was nervous putting this post up bc i didnt want to offend the men out there. i know not ALL men are bad, just the ones i have dated. the age comment, about men over 30... not true in all cases. my last three exes have all been 30+ and all the same. i tend to attract the same kind of men. i have thrown myself into my fitness and tried to forget about the dating scene. its just hard when i see all my friends getting married. or going out with nothing but couples. or laying down every night alone. i dont think its too much to ask to find a good man and be happy. but apparently its asking for quite alot!

Nope not offended... I completely agree with you... there are a lot of guys out there that give men a bad rep in general...
I know how you feel though, I generally attract the nutty girls that completely flip out on me. Honestly, I like being single and I'm tired of my friends in RL and their significant others trying to play match maker with me. Like you, I prefer to just keep myself busy with fitness and other hobbies and not worry about the whole dating drama... If it's meant to be, a relationship will find me. this statement of course is: IMO.

one of my favorite sayings is that the one ur meant to be with is out there right now looking for u. once u stop trying to find him, is when he will magically appear. too bad ur too far away... im not nuts at all. lol. ok, imma woman, so maybe just a LIL nuts, but not from nutsville or anything. lol.

KayleighDawn13

I completely agree, I wish all real life guys would be like my MFP guy friends. I think all the guys around here just want to hook up. Now I'm not a saint either, but I do at least need to know your name and some stuff about ya first!

RCKT82

one of my favorite sayings is that the one ur meant to be with is out there right now looking for u. once u stop trying to find him, is when he will magically appear. too bad ur too far away... im not nuts at all. lol. ok, imma woman, so maybe just a LIL nuts, but not from nutsville or anything. lol.

I hear that all the time too! "...when you're not looking...."

You very well may not be... It could be just me, maybe I'm the one making them psycho LOL

Lisone

Maybe stop meeting men in bars?? The only guys who creep at bars are ones that have other motives... C'mon.. you know that!

nurse_carolyn

ok, first of all you don't know that the MFP men are real. It's easy to hide behind your PC and say certain things but I see lots of married men flirting with singles and that is not real. It's fun, but it's not real........be careful and don't be fooled.

Heatherbelle_87

I have to say, I felt the same way till recently, but finally met a guy who DATES me (yep date #3 successfully closed with nothing more then kisses, he was even shy about putting his hand on my thigh during the movie, and I was even wearing a short skirt!) BUT this was also part of the work on me part of my goals this year, He accepts me, he WANTS to meet my son (he's excited about it actually), our first date we talked for 3 hours, our waitress tried to take our order 10 times and we were never ready because we kept getting distracted, he body builds, and knows my goals, supports them, but likes my figure now (he doesnt want me to lose my butt though which is highly unlikely) He's everything I could want wrapped up in a delectible package, and I keep reminding myself to take it slow and enjoy it, and honestly I like it a heck of alot more then going from "Hey nice to meet you" immediatly into "Couple" status

kmshred

Again, a huge overstatement, but they're really not ripe until they're at least 30.....

haha, yessssss.

Sonofabiscuit2

Just a warning I'm a jerk here and in real life. also since I'm 37 does that make me over-ripe?

spiritcrusher

We're out there :P

waterfallaus

I have to agree. I have been divorced, ok well seperated, can't afford the divorce right now, for 5 years. He always brought crap food in the house and eats that way all the time. A few weeks ago he was here for Mother's Day to help me with household stuff and help kids do a Mother's Day for me. He brought in the worst food imagineable and called it my mother's day dinner... ICK!!
He likes them fat and while married to him I put on nearly 150lbs.
I have dated until last year when I gave up with the last man I dated who after 8 months was not ready to have me meet his parents or children, but thought he could move in. NO WAY!!!! So for the last year it has been me and the kids and our dogs!!
The last month I have decided it is time to get healthy so I can do all that I want to do with the dogs and kids.
I stand on the other side of a big wall and don't let men near me. They do not approach anymore and I don't bother. except for that extra look at the kid the other day with piercing blue eyes! LOL!!
Men can be crap! I know there are good men out there, but they are all married!!!

JWALL101

Yea, men do suck;)

Brandicaloriecountess

There are some really great guys on here. However I could be jaded BUT I think this is different than real life. We are all here with a common goal and we are all here to support each other. Also we get to deal with the best part of each other, not the tired, crabby, person that is stressed over work or money, etc. The Internet is like life stuck on fast forward and you get close to people quickly.

I think you can find a good guy and it's possible that you could meet him here, or out in your world. I met an amazing man once, on an online dating site. Too bad I met him and the wrong time and wasn't really nice to him.

Becca_007

ok, first of all you don't know that the MFP men are real. It's easy to hide behind your PC and say certain things but I see lots of married men flirting with singles and that is not real. It's fun, but it's not real........be careful and don't be fooled.

Bingo!! 100% agree with what you've shared, as with any forum, you really don't know who's on the other end, you hope ppl are real but just because it's MFP sure doesn't mean everyone is a good guy. Take a peek at PUA site and you'll see MFP listed as a hot spot to pick up desperate women with low self esteem and eager to meet men. It's unfortunate it made it to that site but someone that visited here or is a current bogus member took that info back over to PUA or it wouldn't be listed. :indifferent:

I just dumped 2 long time friends offa my friend list because all they wanted to do was meet and cheat, both have kids and that's not for me, I'm not interested in helping someone cheat on their spouse & kids. I don't consider those quality men. You'd never know the one even came on that way unless he did the same thing to you. He's one of those. "Wow, He's the nicest guy I've ever met!" I hear it all the time and it makes ya wanna vomit as it does make the good guys here for the right reasons look bad and it's not fair to the women that are here to get fit. The other one, not as hard to figure out, but I meet friends on here as friends not potential mates.

That's great some hook up but I'm not here for that reason. So the married creepers lookin to cheat and pretend to be someone else to the women here.....well, not much good to say about them & trust me they ARE here.

Some women might be interested in the creepers but I don't think most of us are.

Becca_007

Men can be crap! I know there are good men out there, but they are all married!!!

There are some great men out there that aren't married too. The married men aren't always what they are cracked up to be, I think it's a case of the grass is always greener when we're looking at someone else's life. Single guys or married guys can treat women well.

Thomasm198

ok, first of all you don't know that the MFP men are real. It's easy to hide behind your PC and say certain things but I see lots of married men flirting with singles and that is not real. It's fun, but it's not real........be careful and don't be fooled.

That sounds like you are saying that in real life we're all creeps and are nothing like how we are on MFP.

A lot of us are the same on the internet as we are in real life.

captainfez

Again, a huge overstatement, but they're really not ripe until they're at least 30.....

Yep. And even then, some need a bit more time before they're ready for anyone's consumption.

And then there's some that just go straight to mouldy.

mishelnkiki

Maybe stop meeting men in bars?? The only guys who creep at bars are ones that have other motives... C'mon.. you know that!

never said i met them in a bar. i dont go to the bars like that bc i know better then to meet men in bars. been there, done that... never works out! took me a year to figure that one out. couldnt understand why he was always in the bar instead of with me. well, i met him in the bar, what else was i supposed to expect!

DESIREE1210

Just don't settle your worth way more than that. Good luck the right guy will come your way:)

Sh1tsRainbows

A lot of the guys on here get stuck in the "friend" zone in RL, others are putting up a front, and still others think they have a pool of easy fish with low self esteem (someone pointed out to me recently that MFP was listed on some PUA forum as a place to get easy hook ups)... Personally I don't even get the friend zone in RL because they all cross the street clutching their handbags with a look of fright on their faces when they see me coming.

For the record, I wouldn't do that.

WT............ :huh:

Not unless you had a sword.

A shiney samuri sword would be cool though!!!

skinnysoonvictoria

ok, first of all you don't know that the MFP men are real. It's easy to hide behind your PC and say certain things but I see lots of married men flirting with singles and that is not real. It's fun, but it's not real........be careful and don't be fooled.

That sounds like you are saying that in real life we're all creeps and are nothing like how we are on MFP.

A lot of us are the same on the internet as we are in real life.

appleshells

After 15 yrs of marriage and a bad divorce, I had my fair share of meeting the type of men you are describing. I also thought all the good ones were gone.

Weds I will celebrate my 4th wedding anniversary.

Oh, and I met him on Myspace! HA HA HA

ZachyABaby

lol you think half the tools on here aren't the same?

omg.

hey, gullible isn't in the dictionary.

ItsCasey

Part of the problem is our expectations. We want to believe that every guy we meet who is nice to us over the course of a 5-minute conversation is really a nice guy with honest intentions. And some of them are. But a lot of them are playing a game. The hard part is being able to distinguish between the two before you get too hung up on one of the bad ones. I'm fortunate in that I'm pretty good at reading people, and I generally know right away whether or not a guy is someone I would consider dating. The biggest clue for me is usually what they try to talk to me about. A good guy is not going to immediately try to convince you of what a good guy he is; he's going to let the conversation flow naturally, try to get to know you, and let you draw your own conclusions about what kind of guy he is. A player goes straight into "look how nice and sweet and romantic I am" mode. That is always a red flag for me.

I like men who are forward enough to talk to me if they're interested, but that initial conversation should be a simple "What's your name, what do you do for a living, let's see if we have anything in common" kind of thing. When it turns into a sales pitch, that's what tells me he probably doesn't care at all who I am and just wants to see if he can get me in bed.

mishelnkiki

lol you think half the tools on here aren't the same?

omg.

hey, gullible isn't in the dictionary.

def not gullible! i never said every man on here is the best man in the world. i know a man is a man is a man. it doesnt matter where u meet them, how u meet them... its all the same. the douche canoes will always be douche canoes.