Magnificent Mamas (Closed Group)

jamielangner

Julie - It's your baby so ultimately it's your decision and people will have to respect that. I will say that now is probably a good time to make sure everyone knows their boundaries because you definitely don't want to be fighting about this with anyone pp when you are super emotional. I am also a private person so I've only had their dad in the delivery room. Luckily, my mother has been great knowing when I want her around and when to leave me alone. I do know how you feel though because my girls father's mom is very overbearing and even pushed to be in the delivery room during both births... seriously?!? This I really don't get at all. If I was going to have anyone in the delivery room besides the father, it would be *MY* mom. She is just crazy. But hey, she's the one who still calls and pressures me to let her come stay with me even though me & the father have broken up. I will say this though, the first couple nights can be completely overwhelming. You should think about if you are the type of person that might want someone sleeping in the guest room that you can hand Masie off to if you get too overwhelmed, or if you'd rather have your privacy with hubby that night for you guys to handle it yourselves without someone coming in saying "is everything ok in here?" if they hear the baby crying a lot... Everyone is different so some people might like having a "backup" there, but if you don't want them poking in to check on you, it might be better for them to not be there at all the first couple days until you get a handle on things. If your mom is already being too involved for your liking, it might be hard for her to stay out of the way once the baby is actually here and crying. Also, I think it's better to tell people the worst case scenario. Like, you know if you tell people you don't want overnight visitors at all, but then change your mind and let them stay, they will be thrilled. But if you tell someone they can stay overnight, and then change your mind and say they can't, they will likely be very upset and might cause more drama. WOW, I wrote a lot lol.

Mel - lmao @ PITAH

LittleSpy

Thanks so much for the advice, ladies. I fully intend on setting the boundaries in person (she's staying at my house right now because my gramma's in the hospital here).

It's just that she always does this to me. She wants to be way more involved and wants way more going on than I want and she never asks me what I would like before she starts taking it upon herself to do whatever she wants to do. I have been upset for pretty much every major life event that I've been through (graduation, marriage, most birthdays even) because she doesn't respect my limits. She pitched an unbelievable fit about hubby and I unsecretly eloping last year. She's STILL pouting over the fact that MIL is the one who signed our marriage license. Yeah.. well, it just so happened she lived 20 minutes away from where we were staying for our "honeymoon" and she's a Notary. My mom has even tried to say we aren't really married because there was no "ceremony." Sorry mom, a signed marriage license means we're legally married. Then she went into a frenzy trying to plan a party for us which I insisted we didn't want. I finally talked her down from renting a place & inviting tons of people I don't give 2 craps about to a cookout at her house with only very immediate family. She just HAD to send out wedding announcements and she just HAD to announce it in her city's paper and it just goes on and on and on. I didn't want her to do any of it. I even asked her NOT to do most of it (but she did it anyway).

Yikes, I'm sorry I'm going on about this. I guess I'm just really upset about it and I know my hubby has to be tired of hearing it (and you guys are welcome to skip over it if you dont want to read about it! ). Ha, last night when we were talking about it he was like "I swear we'll move to Oregon if our moms are going to be this crazy." :laugh: I'm totally on board with that at this point.

AnneElise

Julie- Don't feel bad about going on. It sounds like I wouldn't want your mom around at the start either, she makes you more stressed out and upset than relaxed and you don't need that! I don't want DH's parents here for at least a week after the birth because they do that to both of us sometimes and I don't want to take that risk. My mom on the other hand might be the most wonderful human alive so I am happy for her to come wherever. My sister also is very good with boundries. Your mom doesn't sound like she is the type who will help you after the birth so I say go with your gut!

Soon2Bfitmamaof3

Anne- Hope your head feels better today

Julie- sounds fine to me, you’re giving way more than I would. Visitors can become stressful especially when you’re running on adrenaline. Just be sure to grab Maisie and take her to your room to “nurse her” when you feel overwhelmed. Everyone needs to understand that your life is changing so much and you need to recuperate. Hopefully they’ll bring some yummy food so you don’t have to worry about that. I only allowed grandmas and uncles at the hospital and only for a 30 minute visit. I become dog like peeing all over my territory…. Not really but I do not like many people around my baby, it is a human not a toy and everyone just has to realize this. You’ll probably see what I’m talking about when multiple people are around and handing her off from one person to the next, I did really good with boundaries this time around so we didn’t have this problem. Took 3 times before I learned to set boundaries so good for you getting them up the first time around. My mom and I don't have the best relationship so she often feels that I dont love her but come one, she lives in my house and has to respect my boundaries or I have no problem being rude, argumentative or whatever I have to be to get my point across.

Jamie - hubby's mom used to be super overbearing until I became the "bitc**y" wife :laugh: I have had to push my hubby to push his mom off a bit, just doesnt feel like my place

dragonfly74

Ronya ~ I am going to still be doing 30 Day Shred on the days I don't have an hour to workout, but I would still like Slim in 6 to be my primary exercise program.

Megan ~ I would love some company in doing Slim in 6! It really is a great program, just long, but effective.

Julie ~ Your wishes sound reasonable to me. I didn't want anyone but my husband in the delivery room with me either. This is your precious time with your newborn that you will only experience once and it is important for you to enjoy her on your terms.

Sheri ~ you are looking fantastic! You have a lovely family too.

Anne ~ I hope your headache has gone away and you are feeling better today.

Wade slept through the night right at his 10 week date for the first time! We put him down Friday night at 9:30 and he slept until 6:36 am! Saturday he went down later but slept until after 6 am. Unfortunately last night he was up every two hours, something must have been bothering him.

Hope everyone has an amazing week!

jamielangner

Happy Monday! I'm a little miserable because I'm at work today and have to wear a bra and shirt all day lol. I've been walking around my house topless as much as possible with the prescription cream on my nipples trying to get some relief from the thrush. It is really awful! Hayley's mouth looks better since starting to use the prescription so hopefully it is working. I can't wait for it to be gone!

I got WONDERFUL news that my daughter has gotten a spot in military daycare! The waiting list is insanely long so I wasn't sure if Hayley would get a spot by the time I would have to go back to work full time (July 11), but she did and I'm thrilled. It is much cheaper on the base, and MUCH easier for me since my other daughter already goes there, we live on base, and I work on base. So you can see why this is such good news for me! My milk supply has been suffering the last few days. I'm not sure if it is from the thrush or not. FOB is staying with Hayley while I work today and he actually brought her here when she got hungry so I could breastfeed her instead of pump today since I've been having such problems. I kind of broke down while I was feeding her in the car. I just can't help but be upset that I'm going to have to return to work full time soon and I won't get to spend as much time with my girls. I'm also really worried about my milk supply when returning to work full time since I'm having a hard time with it now. I guess I should stop being upset and just be grateful for being able to work from home as much as I have because my supervisor definitely did not have to let me telework until now.

brittonymiller

Jamie-That is awesome!! Congrats. It has got to be such a relief knowing both of your girls will be in the same place and so close. Plus the financial aspects!

Bethe- It's great that Wade is starting to sleep through the night. I wonder how long it'll take my baby to get to that point. I'm glad I'll be home for the first two months and only working part-time after that. Getting up in the middle of the night and everything will be much easier for me since I'll be able to nap midday if necessary.

Julie- My Mom got really pissed at me because I didn't ask her to be a bridesmaid in my wedding... WHAT?! haha. Moms, at least you know they love you even if they are being overbearing about it. Again, I don't think you are out of line in the slightest. You stick to your guns!!

Rachickidee

Quick hello, I'll have to go back and read people's posts later. I hope everyone is having a good Monday. My weekend was great. Saturday I washed all my baby's clothes and organized all the shower gifts, then we went to a firework show that night. Sunday we went to both of our parent's house for Father's Day. Anyway, it was busy but good. Today was my dr. appointment. Things look good. I am only dialated about a finger (my MW said). Anyway, got to get back to work.

ron2282

Sheri – you look great! And I love the one all you and the kids, beautiful family!

Anne – I have yet to go thorough the clothes that were give to us so no idea what sizes we have. Other than an outfit to bring her home in and having lots of onesies I’m not too concerned about clothes. My family loves to buy clothes so I’m sure when they come visit after she’s born I’ll get plenty.

Megan – boo for no power!!!

Julie – I think you’re being totally reasonable. You and hubby need some time to adjust to your new family and figure everything out.

Bethe – yea for Wade sleeping through the night!!!! Hopefully it will be happen more often.

Jamie – Boo for a bra but yea for Hayley getting into daycare! I’m already getting upset thinking about going back to work, I’m sure I’ll be a total wreck when it’s time.

I’ve been sick all day so I came home from work at lunch time. Hubby and my in-laws went to visit some family in town so I got to sleep for a few hours. I’m feeling much better now so think I’m going to meet them in an hour or so. They leave for the airport tomorrow morning and for as much as they make me nuts I will really miss them. Then I’m going to hang out with my cousin that’s here from Australia and hopefully find something to wear to my other cousins wedding this Saturday. Fingers crossed!!!

dragonfly74

Just got my one hour of Slim in 6 ~ Burn it Up done. My husband watched the kids and let me get it done. Now time to find some lunch. My HRM said I burned 444 calories today. I was happy I was able to push through level 3. I definitely have some work to do because I did take some breaks but I will get there. Hoping to have my body back by the time the kids go back to school at the end of August.

AnneElise

Bethe- That’s great that little wade slept through the night… here is to hoping the every two hours last night was a fluke! Sounds like you are working hard, you can get there by august!

Jamie- YEA! On the daycare! So happy for you, that sounds great. I am sorry you had to go back to work so soon, that has to be hard. I am sure I will feel the same way. Hope you and LO get to feeling 100% soon.

Ronya- I found a dress I liked at target for only about 20 bucks. They have some good options if you look through them!

I just thought about you guys because today I was on the phone with my mom and she said that she wanted brian and I to talk about august and having people visit. She wants to know how long we want her to come and when we want her to come. I was like oh my gosh, we were just talking about this today! She must have read my mind.
Head ache still hanging around, kind of dull pain in my forehead. Feeling off all day, hoping it goes away tomorrow.

Rachickidee

Topic of Baby Names:

So I have mentioned that our little one will most likely be named Edan. But hubby and I have also thrown out other names. Here is the current list we have compiled. Does anyone mind giving them a rank on what you like most to least, or any comments. Thank you much!

Edan
Adeline
Lorelei
Kathryn
Anna
Dagny

dragonfly74

Topic of Baby Names:

So I have mentioned that our little one will most likely be named Edan. But hubby and I have also thrown out other names. Here is the current list we have compiled. Does anyone mind giving them a rank on what you like most to least, or any comments. Thank you much!

Edan
Adeline
Lorelei
Kathryn
Anna
Dagny

As you know my oldest's name is Eden (love it) and my second daughter is named Lauryn. My son had a hard time pronouncing it for awhile and calls her Lora-lee. It has stuck and we call her that all the time. Will Lorelei be pronounced Lore-uh-lie or Lore-uh-lee?

I of course like Edan first :happy: . Then I would have to say Adeline second, Lorelei third, Kathryn fourth, Anna fifth and Dagny last. In that order (just the way you have them listed)

Rachickidee

As you know my oldest's name is Eden (love it) and my second daughter is named Lauryn. My son had a hard time pronouncing it for awhile and calls her Lora-lee. It has stuck and we call her that all the time. Will Lorelei be pronounced Lore-uh-lie or Lore-uh-lee?

Thanks, I would pronouce Lorelei like Lore-uh-lie

Soon2Bfitmamaof3

Bethe- thanks and yay for sleep

Jamie- add extra pumping sessions and hopefully it will help. It’s supposed to be supply and demand, fingers crossed.

Ronya- thanks, hope you’re feeling better.

Anne- sounds like a great mother to have

Rachael – I Edan

MisdemeanorM

I packed up all my "fat clothes" tonight for hubby to take to my mom when he picks up our son tomorrow. My SIL has a preg friend who gets them next. It made me a little sad, but I'm pretty sure it's just because theyre nice clothes and I liked wearing them compared to gym pants and a tshirt as is my normal wear. I have a pretty pathetic wardrobe generally speaking. It consists probably 80% of band tshirts from work! I guess motivation to lose this weight and fit into some of my actual clothes. My jeans go on but I wouldn't wear them for at least another 5 lbs. May e some of my clothes from a few yes ago can fit in the near future if I keep on track. No guarantee I'd get dressed though... I'm lazy in that regards. Hubby always makes a big deal to point out when I actually get dressed!! He hates when I wear gym pants all the time... But I never go anywhere... Except the gym... So it's practical! Getting dressed to sit on my chair and type all day (and be less comfortable) is just extra laundry!

Soon2Bfitmamaof3

I packed up all my "fat clothes" tonight for hubby to take to my mom when he picks up our son tomorrow. My SIL has a preg friend who gets them next. It made me a little sad, but I'm pretty sure it's just because theyre nice clothes and I liked wearing them compared to gym pants and a tshirt as is my normal wear. I have a pretty pathetic wardrobe generally speaking. It consists probably 80% of band tshirts from work! I guess motivation to lose this weight and fit into some of my actual clothes. My jeans go on but I wouldn't wear them for at least another 5 lbs. May e some of my clothes from a few yes ago can fit in the near future if I keep on track. No guarantee I'd get dressed though... I'm lazy in that regards. Hubby always makes a big deal to point out when I actually get dressed!! He hates
when I wear gym pants all the time... But I never go anywhere... Except the gym... So it's practical! Getting dressed to sit on my chair and type all day (and be less comfortable) is just extra laundry!

I go to work and although I put on jeans I do not do anything more than a pony tail and no make up. I get up way too early and spend part of my day in a warehouse pulling orders. the joys of small business I wear many hats so nice clothes and make up are for when I go out only

AnneElise

I am a high school teacher so I have to dress up for work. Not to the extreme but enough to look professional. I have picked up a good work wardrobe over the years. The hardest thing for me isn't putting the nice clothes on (we get to wear comfy shoes because we stand ALL day whoo hoo) it is doing my hair... I often go for the pony because I already have to be at work at 6:30am so getting up to shower and look cute.... ehh not so interested

Mel- Tell your DH you would dress up more if you had the time.... meaning he would have to help out more

brittonymiller

Oh man. Working at a gym childcare... all I wear is gym clothes! I'll usually put on some mascara because I have light eyelashes and get asked if I am sick when I'm not wearing it. Other than that, it's super casual. I actually miss working in a jewelry store and wearing nicer things. It's gotten to the point where I get overdressed just to go to the movies because I miss feeling pretty! haha.

LittleSpy

Mel -- If I worked from home I'd probably be in gym clothes/pajamas about 95% of the time, too. I have to dress business casual for work and most of my work clothes are even pretty comfortable but as soon as I get home the work clothes come off and the sweat pants & t-shirts/tank tops come out & my hair goes up in a pony tail. It's not like my husband ever wears anything fancier than a t-shirt & jeans so he doesn't have any room to talk. I never wore much make up but I pretty much stopped completely 5 years ago when hubby & I got together. He doesn't seem to care either way. He usually makes negative comments when someone is wearing a lot of make up so I think maybe he prefers me without it anyway. I certainly prefer not having to bother. It's not like I'm some terrifying monster without it or anything.

Ha, I should mention, my loathing for real clothes has definitely gotten worse with pregnancy. I'm to the point now where I think "Hmmm, maybe I need to put on my *nice* yoga pants before I go to the store." :noway: :laugh: At least I always put on real shoes (at least flip-flops!) which is more than I can say for a lot of folks at the grocery store/Walmart/wherever.

Soon2Bfitmamaof3

:laugh: Funny, I LOVE me some flip flops and I can't stand to be in jeans for longer than I have to be. I actually used to come to work with nice clothes, boots with heels and have my hair and make up done. Now it is such a rare thing that hubby gets excited! He really doesnt care what I do either, true love is what we have. He married a beautiful 160 lb 20 year old who ALWAYS dressed up and still loved me and thought I was sexy while pregnant with my first and 317lbs.

joonzgurl

So how bad is it really to sleep on your back? For ages I have been sleeping on my side with a pillow between my knees (or with my pregnancy pillow) but I am getting so uncomfortable. Last night I ditched the pillow and woke up on back every time I woke up. But I was so much more comfortable!

brittonymiller

I wake up on my back every once in awhile. It always makes me nervous and I don't go back to sleep until I feel her move. I wonder the same thing. I can't wait to not have to worry about that anymore!!

Mamatoabunch

I usually dress up more. I mostly wear dresses or skirts, but today I am wearing jeans. It is rainy and cool. My old fat jeans which I actually love, but not fond to be in them now, being fat PP. I feel pretty good in them though all things considered. I never wear gym clothes, except working out. For a long time I stopped dressing up, but have got back into it the last several years. I feel much better that way.

Here is my June motivation pic.



And when I was 175lbs just prior to conceiving Esca.



I plan on doing yoga or going for a walk today

LittleSpy

Rachel -- I've read again and again you at least want to try to tilt your body just a little by wedging a pillow under one side or prop yourself up so you're not flat on your back. I don't sleep well on my back so I haven't really had an issue with waking up in that position. I'm very uncomfortable trying to always sleep on my side now that my bump has grown to "you actually look pregnant" size. I was actually able to sleep kind of halfway on my belly until just a few weeks ago.

I do lie on my back for bits of time when I'm awake. I suppose it's a good question for your next appointment.

Oof, these contractions of mine are on the verge of becoming slightly painful as of the middle of the night. Very menstrual crampy. I have an OB appointment today. It's my first check. I'm going to try very hard not to be sad when I find out I'm not at all dilated. :laugh:

Rachickidee

Maybe this is a stupid question, but I just got thinking about it last night. I got to water aerobics about twice a week now. If your water breaks while in a pool will you know? I'd hate for it to break and not know and then continue on like normal when I should be preparing to go to the hospital.

Mamatoabunch

Ok I walked 3 miles, 42 minutes pushing both of my toddlers in the buggy. Not too hard!

Rachickidee

Rachel: I've heard the reason it's not the best to sleep on your back in the pressure of the baby can cut of some blood supply of a vessel for the momma. I am struggling with it too. I never slept on my back, but I am finding it more comfortable, and I tend to wake up on my back a lot. My MIL said in moderation it is probably ok.

Julie: Good luck on your apt. I was hoping to be dilated at my apt too. I was ever so slightly (but only a finger), so not even big enough to give me a number, lol. I hope you have more luck, but with all the contrax you have I am sure you will.

Annabelle: I love your pics! Thanks for sharing.

AnneElise

Julie- My clothes has gotten worse with pregnancy as well… that and being on summer vacation.

Sheri- One nice thing about pregnancy is you get to see the love your significant other

Rachel- My doctor told me you can sleep on your back some. She said the it can cut of breathing to the baby but that you would naturally flip over before harming the baby… something to that affect. I have been waking up on my back some, I try to sleep on my side but it is really hard to not roll over in my sleep.

Annabelle- You look great

Julie- I can’t wait to hear what your OB says about these contractions… I may be as excited as you are.

Rachael- I have no idea the answer to that question!

I just went to Gymboree and they were having a sale on winter clothes they have left over. 6.99 and under… SO SO SO CUTE. I only got 4 outfits and got winter sizes that I don’t have a lot of. They also had .99 cent socks, tights, and hair bows… I got 4 socks.

AnneElise

Here are some of my maternity pictures that my sister took yesterday Some my belly looked huge and others I looked not pregnant at all.