Good-bye MyFitnessPal

proverbs31chick

PLEASE DON'T GIVE UP, you can do it. I speak for a lot of people when I say we have all had set backs such as plateau's or just not loosing the weight in the time we want. Remember we didn't get this size overnight, just keep going.

27strange

one week ain't enough. Give it 3 months and then have a pity party, but if you really try and exercise and eat better and drink plenty of water in those 3 months there won't be a need for a pity party because the transformations will be evident and you will see results. Don't excuse things away that's how we all got in the weight gain predicament in the first place.

BigBoneSista

Weightloss is 80% mental and 20% physically. Until this person deals with their though process they are bound for failure. Thats just what it is. I assume they are strong mentally and they don't have a strong support system at home. Unfortunate for them.

TooFine4MFP

Weight loss is a lifestyle change, not a means to an end. I don't lose weight quickly either, but as long as I stay consistent I know that I will lose weight. Instead of just quitting because things got hard, you should seek some advice from other MFP's who have been successful, to get some dieting advice, workout advice and other help. If I quit everytime something in my life was hard, I would never be able to do anything. Losing weight can be very frustrating at times, but there is no reason to give up. Don't compare yourself to other ppl, as we are at different points in our journey and have different goals and different reasons for losing weight. Praying for you............

jagh09

YIKES. Way to take ownership.

godblessourhome

everyone feels like quitting when their efforts seem futile. i'm glad to see you are still here!!!

MsKeelah919

Why oh why do people need to say that they are quitting?

LOL! Because they dont really wanna quit!

MsKeelah919

So dramatic!! Cut it out! Youve lost TEN LBS. in one month! That is EXCELLENT!! The reasons for gain are throughtout this... Believe them. It appears to be coming from people who KNOW. Good luck!

Peekadoo

OK, RebelBrew. First of all, DON'T QUIT! It will not help you and could put you in an early grave.

Second of all, don't make the mistake of believing that you are the first to fall on your face with this weight loss deal.

And lastly, no one here wants you to fail. I know the comments seem harsh (and some of them have been) but it's because everyone here is fighting the same battle that you are and the idea that someone would quit when we should all be trying so hard is abhorrent.

Here are some suggestions: 1) When things don't go your way, don't whine about it. Fix it. Make it work for you. You can do this by a) going to see a doctor to see if some thing is going on with your system b) making sure that you stay below your MFP cholesterol, sodium and sugar numbers. 2) Remember the reasons why you came here in the first place. Your little girl needs her dad. If you won't do your best for you, then do it for her. 3) You didn't gain it in a week and you won't lose it in a week. Just keep working on it. 4) I've never seen someone trip and fall then decide to stay on the ground. You get up, dust yourself off, get over your embarrassment and keep on moving. YOU NEED TO DO THIS!

kamoira23

I AM SO DISAPPOINTED BY ALL OF THESE NEGATIVE COMMENTS.

The reason that people join this site is for SUPPORT, not to be torn down by malicious comments. Yes, it is HARD losing weight. Yes, even when you have the BEST motivation (an adorable child), you still want to give up. The reason that I (and I'm sure plenty others) joined this site is to have more support from people who know what I'm going through. This community is not meant to tear you down and make you feel worthless when you feel like giving up, it's to do the opposite. The posters of these negative comments should be ashamed.

That being said, I cannot tell you the amount of times I've thought to myself "what's the point... it will take me forever to lose this weight" or "whatever, I may as well just accept me how I am." I'm betting that, even with the 40+lbs (30 before joining MFP) that I've lost, there will still be some of those days in my future. Weight loss is about taking things one day at a time.

I hope that you continue on with this weight loss journey and know that there are a lot of people on this site that will continue to be happy WITH you with every tenth of a lb you lose, half of an inch you lose, and healthy decision that you make.

Good luck!

Kaelinnn_102

Look at your picture! There's no better reason to not quit than that little girl in your arms. Open up your diary so people can see them and give some pointers. Get some more MFP friends because they are an amazing source of love and support. There are answers and reasons to all of this stuff. Don't just walk away. I was 408 and after a week was ready to quit and continue my unhealthy life, as short as it was gonna be. I'm down to 280 now with the thanks of mfp!!!!!

--Off Topic--- BUT! WOW! ^ That's so awesome!!

red_hatorade

I started out feeling bad for you and really understanding where you are coming from. But the bottom line is that you HAVE to change how you eat. The way I do it is if I don't have a package with nutritional information to log my food correctly, then I do not eat that food. These are the sacrifices we make. If you really, truly want this, you will begin to make big sacrifices to get what you want. I suggest you start out by making it your goal to eat healthier and make healthier choices, not to lose weight. By making a healthy lifestyle your goal, you will see quicker victories. Weight loss will be a result of changing your lifestyle so it may be easier to think of it in terms of eating better and exercising in order to gauge your successes.

i was a huge bread and sweets addict. I thought I would die as I weened myself off them, but you know what? I don't even crave them anymore. It has only been two months into my diet. As others have said, 10 lbs in a month is spectacular weight loss. I only lost 5 in the first month, and I was ecstatic about that. Weight loss is going to take time.

AlsDonkBoxSquat

I love how mostly veering has asked to se my diary but most have theirs private little hypocritical and how no one actually looks at the diary just maybe back through the weekend and never look at what is in there except the top line with grilled cheese sandwich. yes I had two grilled cheese sandwich so what im not eating them everyday and I don't eat processed food any more yes my sodium is high over the weekend Gatorade will do that to you. But if you feel better about yourself to write on here with out reading any other postings except the first one on the front page have fun

Well, looks like you went ahead and made yours private, good for you then I suppose. I have to say, I did look through 3 weeks of your food diary before I posted previously that it appeared to me that you were eating a bunch of crap (I know your diary is now closed because I wanted to pull stuff from periods of time prior to this past weekend as examples of "eat this not that"). I did not say that arbitrarily. I made my normal statment about fruits, veggies, lean protiens, and healthy fats and to get rid of the processed foods because that's what I saw in there. I didn't see a lot of days over, but I did see a lot of exercise calories built up. I asked about how you are coming to those exercise calories, if you have a hrm (a question you didn't answer), because if you're using the system then you aren't getting calories that are accurate to you and if you're over estimating that can be a major issue in your ratio (and if your underestimating and trying to do a balancing act that can likewise impact your metabolism).

eeeekie

I love how mostly veering has asked to se my diary but most have theirs private little hypocritical and how no one actually looks at the diary just maybe back through the weekend and never look at what is in there except the top line with grilled cheese sandwich. yes I had two grilled cheese sandwich so what im not eating them everyday and I don't eat processed food any more yes my sodium is high over the weekend Gatorade will do that to you. But if you feel better about yourself to write on here with out reading any other postings except the first one on the front page have fun

Not the one asking/crying out for help. If I did I'd open my diary up to be criticized.

Leigh_mc

I started reading this and feeling you should stay here, but then things get a little heated it see i dont know what to say to be honest just i have been struggling the whole way, my meals where never brilliant but they are not all that bad either and i can control the amount am eating in a day it is difficult but only if you are not giving everything thought and using the willpower we all have! you can am will loose weight you just need to get your mind around what your body is doing and be strong! take advice given to you it is not an insult to accept help that i have learnt, i have never been able to do this on my own and only since joining mfp hae i spoken out about it and it really is helping!

amoffatt

I first want to say bad people who give negative comments, (coward, quitter, ect.:noway: ) that is not how one should encourage another, especially if they are wanting to throw in the towl. Maybe it is frustration yes, but negativity can also motivate a person to quit. I am one who wants results now, no waiting, and this leads to my own personal frustration, but what has kept me going is the POSITIVE feedback here at MFP, I ignore the negative ones.

So, please dont give up for the sake of your health and family. Small changes will even help and the weight will start to come off, slower but it will. Smaller portions of food, less soda, if you dont think you are on a diet, it wont feel like one.

Good luck!

Actavella

Rebel - I haven't gotten all the way through this thread yet - but it looks like you decided to stick it out - and I'm glad to see that! Pay attention to the positive encouraging posts and ignore all the hateful mean ones. Maybe some of them thought "tough love" would help, but many of them are just................ mean - a true reflection of their personality, I'm sure. Those people aren't the ones you want to surround yourself with anyway. Best of luck to you in your journey!

For real! Some of these people have NO compassion! You can do it rebel! You WILL lose the weight and succeed. Take it one day at a time and one choice at a time. This is a life change!

sparrow747

I haven't read through all of these posts - but if you need a reason to stay here, you've got 13+ pages of it! Look at all of these people who - like you - are fighting for their lives, their happiness, their health, their children! You've got a wealth of support and information at your fingertips.... and people who are begging you to take it! It does work, but just because it's hard work doesn't mean it's bad. Just because you see a gain, doesn't mean you fail! Stick with it.... you'll be amazed.

lloydrt

Rebel, I had looked thru your diet yesterday and noticed that for the last few weeks, your sodium was high and that your food that you were consuming was mostly processed. I sent you a message so I could help, again, Im not a medical professional, but I know of tips and hints that really do help in losing weight

I will message you again, but open your diary, I was working on a diet to help you, esp with less sodium intake. Were you upset and blocked your diary?

I thought you needed help, of which I took 40 minutes making a diet plan , one similiar to mine that will help you. Please message me. I lost 142 lbs in 15 months and I think I can help you........You need help and we are here to help you..........Lloyd

Thriceshy

I love how mostly veering has asked to se my diary but most have theirs private little hypocritical and how no one actually looks at the diary just maybe back through the weekend and never look at what is in there except the top line with grilled cheese sandwich. yes I had two grilled cheese sandwich so what im not eating them everyday and I don't eat processed food any more yes my sodium is high over the weekend Gatorade will do that to you. But if you feel better about yourself to write on here with out reading any other postings except the first one on the front page have fun

Not the one asking/crying out for help. If I did I'd open my diary up to be criticized.

Bingo I'm done with this. I read back a lot further than just one weekend, and he's got a lot to learn about eating in a way that will facilitate weight loss. But he doesn't want to do that, it seems. He wants to fight, he wants to argue, he wants to defend and deny and insist that what he's doing and how he's doing it is right. But if that were the case, he wouldn't have posted his "I quit, MFP doesn't work!" post, would he? If what he was doing and how he's doing it was working for him, this thread never would have happened.

Nobody here is perfect, certainly not me. But if my way of eating wasn't working for me the way the OP's isn't working for him, I'd be begging people to help me find a better, smarter, more effective way of eating. If HIS way of eating was WORKING for him, I wouldn't be offering criticism meant to be helpful--I'd be saying, "Hey, if it seems to be working for you, then keep it up!"

All done. Hey, Rebel, I hope you figure this thing out. I hope you eventually come to the realization that defending a diet that YOU said isn't working for you is maybe not the most constructive use of your time or this site.

I hope you succeed.

Kris

highrise

Hey Rebel,

As many have said in this thread, 10lbs in a month is brilliant! I know it must seem like a hugely daunting task, but MFP really is the best place to be to help you lose the rest.

12 years ago, I was somewhere in the region of 250lbs; I lost about 60lbs in a year, put some back on then found MFP and am now down to 130ish lbs and am a UK size 10. I used to look at myself in the mirror, with my fat *kitten* and my wide hips and my wide shoulders and flabby tummy and think 'I am NEVER going to be a size 10, it's not physically possible' And yet here I am.

Check out some of the biggest losers (weightwise!) here like FitnessChefJime; they've completely turned their lifestyles around and lost tons of weight.

It IS possible; I've done it, you can do it. You CAN do it, but please be open to help from the community - they really know their stuff!

Good luck x

Thriceshy

Check your calories--you're miscalculating, which is probably part of your problem. Peanut M&Ms have 103 calories for 10 pieces. Your diary lists 44 calories for 18 pieces. It would actually be 185 calories.

You can't just just shop for the lowest MFP listing--some of the numbers here are wrong, and it's easy to know which if you just check the packaging. Chances are, you are eating far more calories than you're tracking in your diary, and your diary is set to allow more calories than you should be eating. July 2nd, your goal is set to 5,133 calories, you consumed 3,462 calories, and you ingested 4,202 mg of sodium. That is not how to lose weight. I know you say you burned over 2900 calories in that one day by climbing stairs, but I would seriously question that number. Perhaps you would benefit from a good heart rate monitor so you can get a good handle on calories burned. I think most of us could benefit from that.

Oh, and you're more than doubling your popcorn calories by popping in oil. Air pop. And do your best not to just manually quick-add calories. Actually read the packages, do the weighing, and do the math. Makes taking responsibility for choices a lot easier when you really examine what those choices are.

If you really want this, you have got to be honest with yourself and stop making excuses. I hope you do--I would love to see you succeed.

Kris

I do want this. With the m&m's what is wrong using the 183 calorie one that came up in the choices (the onl one I saw) and there was no package in front of me so how would I know it was wrong I would rather have my calories on MFP be higher than they actually are (a little leeway if you would) than be low. My sodium has always been pretty low its just this weekend I had gatorade while I was out in the heat working. I have ben making responsible choices SSince i started on june first

You underestimated dramatically. You entered 44 calories when it was, in fact, 185. You're quick-adding calories which hides the nutrients and sodium. There's a lot of that going on in your diary. All you have to do is Google the food and pull up the manufacturer's site--most companies list the nutritional info, including M&Ms. If they don't, there are other sources--pull up three or four so you can be sure of the accuracy.

Rebel, I so want you to succeed. But you have got to stop insisting that your choices have been responsible when you've been putting away 15 ounce New York Steaks, M&Ms, oil-popped popcorn (four cups!), 1,000 calorie grilled cheese sandwich pairs, and slices of chocolate cake. Take responsibility, recognize that your choices are obviously not good ones by your own reckoning. You're the one who said that this wasn't working. You're the one who said you were going to quit MFP because you weren't losing weight. MFP can only work if you make the changes you need to make. Part of that is being honest and accurate in your food diary and exercise logging.

I am SO rooting for you. I'm not angry, I'm not trying to insult or hurt your feelings. I'm trying to get you to see that this can't just be a case of fudging numbers and eating a little less crappy, processed, sodium-laden food. You don't have to completely cut those foods out, but you have got to start being absolutely correct in your logging and start mastering the switching about of ingredients or preparation methods so you can make your foods more healthy. I want you to win, and if you're in culinary school, you are in a unique position to learn how to do all of this in a healthier way.

Good luck to you, Rebel. I'm all done here, really this time. Like you, like everyone else, I have my own stuff going on and I can't keep investing myself in someone who doesn't want the help or attention. I hope you get what you're wishing for. I mean that.

Kris

ShrinkingNinja

You will gain weight after a hard workout and then the water water will go away and you will have a giant loss. I see it all the time when I do a weight training routine or something.

Honestly, your post screams of I just don't want to but the work into what I need to do.

You need to get your mind ready. Losing weigh is like a roller coaster ride. You have to stay on for the highs and the lows. If you try to jump off before the ride is over you could be killing yourself.

jagh09

maybe I should step back a little for everyone who is telling me I didn't gain the weight in a year. I didn't gain it all but I did gain 50lbs in a year 3 surgeries will do that and at my highest weight I was 314 and yes after a month I'm ready to quit it is not helpful when I watch what I eat exercise now and lose then now gain steadily back. Im not expecting that MyFitnessPal will do it all for me I never said that but when changing diet and beginning exercise and weight comes off and now gain plateaus are that plateaus not gains.

Maybe you need to seek out the services of a nutritionist? It's possible you just need to adjust what you eat and when. Everyone's body is different and responds differently to stress. Perhaps all that labor you did outside in the heat left you dehydrated and your body is just freaking out on you. I bet if you stick with it this week, drink lots of water, and stay within your calories, you'll see a big loss next week. Some people's bodies like to hold on for a week, or even gain a little, then have a bigger loss all at once the next week. Don't give up on yourself. This is a life-long journey and you've only just begun. Your little girl needs her daddy to be healthy and stay with her as long as he can. Take a step back, look at what you've been tracking, weighing and measuring, water intake, exercise, etc. Bodies change as we age. It SUCKS, but it's true. When I was younger, I'd buckle down and get on a "diet" and lose 7 pound the first week, then 5, then 4. Now, I have to kill myself to get 2 pounds in a week. It's a process.

You deserve the hard work that this will take. And it is hard work. But aren't you worth hard work? Isnt' your baby girl worth hard work? You can do this. Don't give in to the negativity. We've all been there. If it was easy, there wouldn't be an obesity problem in the world! Hang in there. Take one meal at a time.

tladame

Rebel - glad you decided to stick with it. A 13-lb loss is a great accomplishment!! Give yourself a break, allow yourself to mess up every now & then, and get back in the swing of things. Hang in there! Good luck!

nastytater

Truely,I am disgusted with the ones on here that are calling him a quitter....I can understand his frustration and also understand his wanting to just say forget it...Maybe it was just water gain,and maybe we won't ever find out if he stays with it...But isn't this site about helping one another...Calling someone a quitter isn't going to help....Support him,tell him how he can stay here and tips on how he might be able to loose weight...Don't call him names...Some of the folks on here are very dear to me because I know they are going through the same trouble as I am...Every day they help me by commenting on my status on how much calories I have burned and also how many calories under my goal is,and it lifts my spirits more and more each day to know that I am not doing this alone...A large persons self image is drastic enough without people down grading them,do you have to kick him while he's down?....Grow up and try to be supportive....
Partner,if you would like to add me,I'm sure that we could help one another in different ways to loose these pounds that we have....Just send me a request and lets get to this....

miss_ally08

First off, quitting does not equal failure. So, for some people to just bring negative thoughts to the table, well - I think its wrong.

Secondly, maybe you need to take a break and re-evaluate your choices. Are you more interested in living a lifestyle that is healthy, or a lifestyle that is all about what your number is on a scale? Rome was not built in a day, therefore weight loss cannot come off in a day either. Look at it this way, it took you x number of years to gain the weight, it will take you x number of days (I won't say years because many things can happen in a year!) to loose it. But, ultimately nobody can tell you what to do. It is your choice

Lastly, maybe you need more of an encouraging support system. I know we all hit plateaus and its hard and we get frustrated! But, with time, it gets easier and better.

I wish you the best of luck and hope that someday, you'll come back to MFP I am sure many people will be here to support you!!

lovinmamaxo

ETA: Have your tried to seek help from a nutritionist or MFP friends we could all probably really help you along this journey noone wants you to give up. Please stay positive!

Ali_TSO

So don't you want to

"Keep up with your daughter
Play softball again
walk a full round of golf
not be fat anymore"

????

Exactly!!!!!!!!!

2112540

Don't give up this is the only thing that has every worked for me! Using this website I can eat way more than before and I feel much more sane:) When I first started working out and eating better it took my body three months to drop any weight!! Now it's coming off quick and effortlessly as long as I follow my plan:)