People who DON'T need to lose weight-- discouraging?

MaryB2

Who are you to say that just because someone is trying to maintain their weight they have an eating disorder?? You must not be here to make friends and get support! I used to be on Sparkspeople when I was at my goal weight trying to maintain. If I had stuck to it I probably would not be where I am today at 50 lbs overweight. I REALLY hate when people come on here acting like someone has no right to be concerned about their health and diet because they are not obese. That is ridiculous!

ambie35

Bump.

Everyone has a right to be here, regardless of their goals.

Last time I checked, eating right and exercising was good for EVERYONE, not just people who need to lose weight.

And who are you to judge who needs to eat better and exercise?

Sure, I may not think they need to be losing weight, but I am just here to get MYSELF healthier.

THIS. I agree. Its not only skinny teenage girls that get eating disorders. Incase you didn't know food addiction, is an eating disorder too and I know many overweight people who suffer from this.

nitamo

I completely agree with you guys! This website is for *everyones* fitness goals. Not just for those of us who need to lose weight. I plan on staying on this site long after I lose all the weight I need to lose so that I can keep track of my food, continue with the responsible eating habits I have now. Each person on this site has their own personal reason for being here. For some it is to lose weight, for some it is to gain weight, for some it is to maintain the weight they have achieved and for some it is to get healthy and stay healthy. There are probably a lot more reasons for being on this site but you get the point. I'm on here because I need to lose weight, my daughter (100 lbs when soaking wet) is on here to try and gain a little weight and to get healthy after giving birth in December. I'm really sorry that you are feeling the *sour grapes* right now but it's time to get over it. Sounds more like you are "slightly" jealous of those size 2 ladies out there so you decided to bag on them. Try some compassion for all the members on this site. This is supposed to be a place where *everyone* can come and get some help and encouragement along the way.

kelsully

My first response to this is "bite me" then I realize you just don't get anyone but yourself so I can't be angry at you for you not understanding my journey being different than yours or starting somewhere other than a size 2. So while I don't need to say Bite me I do need to say that your impression that my journey/struggles are diagnoseable is quite offensive.

healthychelsea

wow, how rude! People don't just USE this site to lose weight, some people use it as a tool to be healthy also! I don't have TONS of weight to lose myself, but that doesn't mean it's ANY easier for me than someone trying to lose more than me. It is tough and hard work to lose weight for most people, especially when starting out and this website can help people with that!

MissyFit08

Ok so WTF is the deal with the size 2 chics on here, stressing about how much they've worked out and how many calories they've consumed and being worried about having some extra pasta, chicken and oreos??? I know that everyone is different & we all have our own goals. But seriously... It's ridiculous. And frankly, it concerns me. These young girls don't need MFP. They need psychiatric help to address their body dysmorphic disorders and bulimia/anorexia. I have struggled with my weight since I was a teenager and really DO need to lose it to, you know, LIVE! It's one thing to want to tone and strengthen your body. It is quite another to join a website and track your calories when you already only weigh 100 lbs soaking wet. It's discouraging and annoying to see posts by people who can't really sympathize or offer any type of real support to those of us who actually NEED to lose weight. Anyone else with me on this??

Hey girl, I kinda do know what you're talking about. The ones that bother me are the little teenyboppers who want to lose 10 pounds when you and I both know they shouldn't do that....or they're just wanting attention and all the "you're not fats" and the "you don't need to lose weight you look so sexy" stuff...Just ignore them and roll on, because there's differenty types of people in this world like in MFP. Just do your thing for you!

songbyrdsweet

I understand what can be discouraging about it. I myself am obese and I do get a little upset when people who are very thin complain about losing 5-10 pounds. I agree that this site is public and anyone can be a member....but they just dont understand what it feels like to be 150-200 pounds over weight and yes it can be very discouraging. Just focus on what you are here for and make friends with common issues and interests.

What about the ones who WERE 150-200 lbs overweight and now are petite?

I don't know if anyone remembers Tammy, but she went from 270 to 135 in a little over a year, and even maintained it through her pregnancy. At one point she only had 5 lbs to lose. And what about the people who are only, say, 30 lbs overweight? They won't see huge weekly losses upwards of 5-7 lbs that someone with 100 lbs to lose might see. Everyone is battling something. I flew off my bike today and I have a bruise on my knee like I got hit by a Smartcar. That is my battle lately. I am here to make sure I'm fueling my body. It is discouraging to fall off your bike 2 days before a race. We all feel defeated at times.

DancingYogini

Quoted because:
-- I wanted to see what it was.
-- And I fully agree! Just pulled up a seat.

Ha ha...I couldn't figure out how to do it....but I am glad you got it to post...thought this thread would draw a lot of debate :drinker:

GeekGirlOnAQuest

Be kind. Everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle. - John Watson.

I just wanted to share that because we cannot know what things other people are dealing with and therefore it is unfair to make such a blanket judgement. And personally, I wish I had started watching my calories and using a site like this when I only had 10 pounds to lose instead of 100. Hoping you find some peace and remember other people's journeys have no affect on your own.

foodfight247

I've not read all the comments - too annoyed to....just read the first few and got so IRRATE....

Sometimes, its difficult for some people like myself to put weight on. I eat loads, yeah i may need to change the type of foods I'm eating, but ffs, this site is for anyone who is trying to lose the weight, gain teh weight, hell just even maintain their weight or dietary needs.

Sorry to be so angry about it but i have to say, orginally i was ULTRA PARANOID about some of the comments i was reading on other posts regarding skinnier people and I felt like hiding for a while. This has made me feel worse. Thank you very much.

Deep Breath....HOWEVER, i am a person who can forgive and understand why you wrote what you did.

Everyone on here is supposed to support each other with their individual goals etc.

Nuf Said.

fitwatch

I see your point. In my case, I am trying to lose 35 pounds. I am not discouraged though. I would like to see if I can achieve a flat tummy. I assume it will take between 25-30 weeks. In addition, I would like to gain 7 additional pounds of muscle - that might take a couple months. That is hard to do. The nice thing is that there are a lot of different situations out there. I tend to request friendships with those that are trying to lose about between 10 to 30 pounds of fat over a 4 month period as well as those trying to build the upper body. By connecting with people in your situation, MFP will feel like something designed for you. Hang in there...don't lose sight of what you are trying to accomplish.

pictureperfect101

Ok so WTF is the deal with the size 2 chics on here, stressing about how much they've worked out and how many calories they've consumed and being worried about having some extra pasta, chicken and oreos??? I know that everyone is different & we all have our own goals. But seriously... It's ridiculous. And frankly, it concerns me. These young girls don't need MFP. They need psychiatric help to address their body dysmorphic disorders and bulimia/anorexia. I have struggled with my weight since I was a teenager and really DO need to lose it to, you know, LIVE! It's one thing to want to tone and strengthen your body. It is quite another to join a website and track your calories when you already only weigh 100 lbs soaking wet. It's discouraging and annoying to see posts by people who can't really sympathize or offer any type of real support to those of us who actually NEED to lose weight. Anyone else with me on this??

First of all size 2 , 1 or 0 doesnt mean your automatically anorexic/bulemic?? I wanna be a size 0 and when I am ill still use myfitness pal to help me maintain. Really obese people aren't the only ones that want to lose weight and its completely healthy to be a size 2 or under and everyone complains sometimes about things, so....................sorry its not gonna change

Emily4H

I feel that we should see this site for what it is a tool and anyone should be on here if they feel its a benefit to them. I always try to focus my energy in a positive direction and I try not to judge. Thats the beauty of a supportive community - not being judgemental, but being helpful. I can understand how it might frustrate some, but keep in mind that weight is a very personal issue and to young people, whos peers can be hurtful or judgemental, we should dig deep and understand their battle - even if it is different form our own.

jbucci1186

We're all on our own journeys. You know it takes more effort for slimmer people to lose weight than it does for us with alot to lose? I cannot imagine the willpower and dedication it takes when there's no way there's gonna be a big number on the scale each time.

Haha! Let me tell you, .6 lbs will eventually be sooo exciting for you. :laugh:

WooHoo! I cannot wait!

yeah! after nearly 2 months of not losing/gaining 3-5lbs it was VERY VERY encouraging to see the scale drop .7lbs today.

sleepytexan

OK, so I don't want to bash the OP for posting her frustration. I get it. It's pretty easy to get into your own issue and forget that others have issues too, although we may not understand them.

Like the other day there was a post about difficulties black women have getting support for losing weight, and I (not black) replied to the thread. Some blacks were annoyed that non-blacks posted. whatever. but no one has the corner on desiring something different of themselves.

Anyway, let's not bash each other, k?

I'm on here, I've never been "fat", but I had gained 15 lbs. over the last year and I felt that I wanted to nip that in the bud. Many people would feel free to comment to me that I don't "need" to be here, or I don't "need" to lose weight. Well, I am here to keep it that way. That's all.

blessings.

foodfight247

BTW - I am not anorexic or have an eating disorder......just a high metablism rate.

skinnywithin

OH LORD..here we go again with more dumb **** ! Seriously ! JUST MAYBE she wasnt always thin or JUSY MAYBE to her she feels a little insecure in her weight ..JUSY MABYE you can set aside you own selfishness and give the damn girl a little support !

I need to sign off for today..way to many stupid post on here !!

OMG WHERE IS MY TYLENOL..........

xraychick77

MFP Isnt just about losing weight..its about tracking calories.. so by your reasoning, someone like me, who tracks calories simply because I want to build muscle shouldnt be on here?

seriously yourself..just because you get upset because someone is skinnier than you..geeze..stop the complaining. at least you have a site like this to help.

westcoastSW

I don't follow how someone else's goals (someone whom you've never met and with whom you do not have to interact) cause you to feel discouraged. :huh:
If you don't find encouragement from someone, then why not leave them alone and continue on your own journey with the people who are supportive of you?

sevencallmemom

We're all on our own journeys. You know it takes more effort for slimmer people to lose weight than it does for us with alot to lose? I cannot imagine the willpower and dedication it takes when there's no way there's gonna be a big number on the scale each time.

Haha! Let me tell you, .6 lbs will eventually be sooo exciting for you. :laugh:

WooHoo! I cannot wait!

yeah! after nearly 2 months of not losing/gaining 3-5lbs it was VERY VERY encouraging to see the scale drop .7lbs today.

You SERIOUSLY inspire me! I've lost 62 (90-some odd to go) and I fight wanting to quit every week I don't lose at least 2 pounds. The week I lost .5 about did me it.

SiltyPigeon

<---- I changed my picture just for you.

I had to lose 42 lbs to get there. I only have 5 lbs left. Can I still hang out awhile, or do I have to leave now?

Devani34

wow, how rude! People don't just USE this site to lose weight, some people use it as a tool to be healthy also! I don't have TONS of weight to lose myself, but that doesn't mean it's ANY easier for me than someone trying to lose more than me. It is tough and hard work to lose weight for most people, especially when starting out and this website can help people with that!

Losing weight- or perhaps in the case of the "smaller" sizes, MAINTAINING their size 4 or less, can be difficult. I'm not sure the reason one way or another (no more than what's posted), but I do hope we all acheive our goals and support each other while on this website... that's the whole purpose, right- to support one another no matter what? I figure the life we save may be our own... let's try to support each other because you don't know what some of us may be going through as far as personally. mentally, physically, spiritually, etc...

Olivia1977

Wow. sorry to burst your bubble, but this is My FITNESS Pal. Not My Fatness Pal. People of all shapes and sizes are welcome here to record their food and exercise intake and reach whatever goal they may have, be it losing 100lbs or winning a race or competing in bodybuilding.

I completely agree. People are allowed to worry. I bet some of those skinny girls who worry used to be bigger and are worried about regaining their weight. Maintenance is probably just as difficult as losing weight.

Maintenance is d*mn hard!! Easy to fall back into old habits....and thanks to this site I am the FITTEST I have ever been in my life!!!!

jamie78

Bump

TiniTurtle

Ok so WTF is the deal with the size 2 chics on here, stressing about how much they've worked out and how many calories they've consumed and being worried about having some extra pasta, chicken and oreos??? I know that everyone is different & we all have our own goals. But seriously... It's ridiculous. And frankly, it concerns me. These young girls don't need MFP. They need psychiatric help to address their body dysmorphic disorders and bulimia/anorexia. I have struggled with my weight since I was a teenager and really DO need to lose it to, you know, LIVE! It's one thing to want to tone and strengthen your body. It is quite another to join a website and track your calories when you already only weigh 100 lbs soaking wet. It's discouraging and annoying to see posts by people who can't really sympathize or offer any type of real support to those of us who actually NEED to lose weight. Anyone else with me on this??

wow, seriously?
jealous that you got where you are because you had that 'extra pasta, chicken, and oreos???' they probably did too & THAT may explain why they are here & are worried about consuming the extra! who are you to judge & claim to know anyone's journey but your own? if you want to message one of these 'young girls' or anyone you are so concerned about on here and ask what they went through or are going through, then go for it & offer your support or opinions. honestly, i think that this post was uncalled for. fitness isn't just about LOSING weight & there are no rules when joining MFP that say you must be FIT or trying to become FIT to join.

casey12105

Just bumping for entertainment purposes :drinker:

Olivia1977

Maintenance is EXTREMELY HARD!!!!! Losing and gaining is so much easier for me!!!!

emmaNEEDSskinny

<---- I changed my picture just for you.

I had to lose 42 lbs to get there. I only have 5 lbs left. Can I still hang out awhile, or do I have to leave now?

LMFAO! NICE

foodfight247

I've calmed down.....sorry.....I can understand why the OP wrote what she said but it was a little unnerving for those people like mself out there....

I genuinely wish her every success with her goals.

I'm outta here..gotta get some sleep.

skinnywithin

<---- I changed my picture just for you.

I had to lose 42 lbs to get there. I only have 5 lbs left. Can I still hang out awhile, or do I have to leave now?

NO WAY ..YOU HAVE LOST ENOUGH NOW BEAT IT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...LOL IM JUST KIDDING YOU CAN STAY