DITR Round4 Week2

Karmiene

Congratulations Team Pink and especially bikermum82!!

I love the QOTD and if you don't mind I'm going to answer it tomorrow. I'm wore out and want to give it some thought. I promise to double up tomorrow!

tameko2

Mmm people are certainly prejudiced against overweight people and the discrimination thing is def there even ify ou don't always notice you. I think its a lot worse if you are obese or severely obese - if you are just overweight or slightly obese its more common and people don't think as much of it ALTHOUGH as I was never overweight before I started working, I can say that people DO treat you different. In fact the SAME people treated me a lot different around 180-210 than they did when I was 145 (I am 5'6" and I carry weight really well, I am pretty cute at 145 although not slim or anything).

And frankly, most of that treatment was creepy or wrong - I got a lot more lunches bought for me by male coworkers when I weighed 145 and a lot more friendly attention in general. And I have a coworker who has always been very slim and good looking (until recently as the cigarettes and age really caught up with her and her skin looks terrible) and when we chat about her work history, its very obvious to me that her looks were a HUGE boost in her career. Not that she's an awful worker or anything but her career very heavily relied on older men in management bringing her on to assist them in some way and her getting promotions and things out of it. Nothing actively inappropriate going on, but she wasn't really particularly QUALIFIED for those jobs either at the time - I'm sure there were more qualified people who weren't as good looking.

tameko2

PS ladies - In addition to my MEAN scale, my pants are a bit tighter than they were last week, I'm feeling a little down about it. encouragement appreciated although just being able to put it out there makes me feel better.

Hayaa79

PS ladies - In addition to my MEAN scale, my pants are a bit tighter than they were last week, I'm feeling a little down about it. encouragement appreciated although just being able to put it out there makes me feel better.

Hey Dont worry U alwez have ample time - Try to reduce carbs this week & add more activity & stop!!! weighing everyday lets weigh on Friday only

carteremma

Hi, I am a recent addition to the yellow team and thought I'd say a quick hi to you all. Well done on your previous weigh losses from last week!

In regards to the QOTD I have not got much of an insight into this as I have not felt any prejudice regarding my weight, I know it is there and must be happening but I persomally have not really seen anything for anyone else or myself.

Nice to meet you all,
Emma

ravenclawseekergirl

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What problems have you ever experienced with prejudice due solely to your weight? What did you do to combat it?

I dont know about prejudice but i was bullied alot during the time i was at secondary school (11-16) because of my weight. Plus 'friends' wouldnt invite me out to places or parties etc.

hwilliams519

Monday QOTD

Right now I don't feel like anyone is prejudice of me because of my weight. However, the past was different. And the ironic thing is, I heard more hurtful comments about me from my own family. They would say, "oh you've put on some weight" or "are you sure you should be wearing that" or "you know being heavy runs in the family" and so on. I think some of the people were not actually thinking about how this would hurt me, and I think some were just plain insensitive. I'm sure they just wanted better for me, but did not go about it the right way. I was even recently thinking (before I even saw this question) about how my parents would say I shouldn't dress a certain way or that I shouldn't eat certain things, when they never did anything to help me get healthier. They were the ones buying fried cheesesticks, bagel bites, chocolate donuts, dr. pepper, and so on ( I was only a teenager then). I didn't learn how to be healthly from my parents or from school, so how was I supposed to know anything different.

But now, I know I make my own choices and am responsible for my own body. If I eat inappropriately, then it's on me, no one else. I am smaller than I was in high school when I was hearing those comments, so I really don't have those problems anymore. Right now, I am my own worst enemy...I'm the only one that makes comments about my weight now. But I'm trying to make an effort to be more positive and live a healthier life.

hwilliams519

Losing weight is a huge accomplishment. What is one of your greatest accomplishments in your life thus far?

Overcoming leukemia and being paralyzed at the ripe age of 14!
I have been in remission for 19 years now and noone can ever tell I was not able to walk, let alone had any health problems. My legs are strong now and I can walk with the best of em and finally able to run!!!

This is an incredible story! Thank you for sharing it with us!!!

I agree! That is so awesome that you were able to overcome those things! It makes me think that if you can do that, why can't we overcome our issues with weight.

EmilyAnn89

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EmilyAnn89

Monday QOTD:What problems have you ever experienced with prejudice due solely to your weight? What did you do to combat it?

I wouldn't exactly call it a prejudice, but my mom has always made comments to me about my weight. My highest weight was 148, and she told me no daughter of hers would weight 150 lbs. I cried, and felt like crap, and I still do. Then for some reason, I use food for comfort. It's a vicious cycle that is so hard to break for me!

journey2size10

Wow, Palollis, you have overcome a lot! You are awesome!!! I am impressed by your strength!

thanks partner! I tell myself that I can do anything, I just have to stay positive and keep going!

journey2size10

Losing weight is a huge accomplishment. What is one of your greatest accomplishments in your life thus far?

Overcoming leukemia and being paralyzed at the ripe age of 14!
I have been in remission for 19 years now and noone can ever tell I was not able to walk, let alone had any health problems. My legs are strong now and I can walk with the best of em and finally able to run!!!

This is an incredible story! Thank you for sharing it with us!!!

Thanks for letting me share...I tell myself, I am one of the survivors, I am still here for a reason and try to stay positive and be a good influence and inspiration to others to stay strong.

journey2size10

Losing weight is a huge accomplishment. What is one of your greatest accomplishments in your life thus far?

Overcoming leukemia and being paralyzed at the ripe age of 14!
I have been in remission for 19 years now and noone can ever tell I was not able to walk, let alone had any health problems. My legs are strong now and I can walk with the best of em and finally able to run!!!

This is an incredible story! Thank you for sharing it with us!!!

I agree! That is so awesome that you were able to overcome those things! It makes me think that if you can do that, why can't we overcome our issues with weight.

okay, I'm blushing now...you guys are great!!! good luck to everyone and like I said...let's SWEEP this challenge! DITR will win EVERY WEEK..I want one of those damn diamonds though, lol. Let's go blue!

hwilliams519

okay, I'm blushing now...you guys are great!!! good luck to everyone and like I said...let's SWEEP this challenge! DITR will win EVERY WEEK..I want one of those damn diamonds though, lol. Let's go blue!

Yes, DITR all the way!!! Except, let's go Yellow!

tameko2

Since its related to yesterday's question -- http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2011/07/26/the-financial-cost-of-obesity/

Nothing we haven't all heard before but it was timely.

Tiggermummy

have I faced prejudice?

Yes much more when I was younger, I eat little an often always have and I had a manager who was serverly obese used to make comments on my eating habits and weight. I almost got to the point of filing a harassment, but fortunatly my head of department stepped in and dragged him over the coals and made him appologise to me.

I lost 2 stone with stress of exams and my parents divorce and other happenings, but at the same time I gained 3 cup sizes on the ladies! I have to say these have caused me more grief with being unable to purchase bras big enough to fit, lots of people who hold conversations with them rather than me, serious back pain and self confidence issues.

Greatest achievements?

being able to marry my best friend. and managing to stay together and friends through the stress of 10 years of fertility treatment.
and having our children after it. Especially as DD1 we needed to have treatment to concieve and DD2 came along as a little miracle, we were told we could never concieve naturally!

twistedsista0408

My biggest accomplishment was actually in business: I won the greatest trainer award at Walgreens Customer Care Center in 2005. It got me promoted to Quality and Training Manager and 12k more money annually!

sistermooooon

Tuesday 7/26/11 QOTD: When co-workers, family, and/or acquaintances start noticing our weight loss and physical fitness improvements it's the ultimate compliment and encouragement. How soon, or how many pounds lost, did people start noticing how your lifestyle change was changing your body?

I'm only in my second week, so no differences noticed yet for me, but I CAN'T WAIT for that day to arrive!!!!!

tameko2

Tuesday 7/26/11 QOTD: When co-workers, family, and/or acquaintances start noticing our weight loss and physical fitness improvements it's the ultimate compliment and encouragement. How soon, or how many pounds lost, did people start noticing how your lifestyle change was changing your body?

I actually hate it when people do that. They wouldn't have said to me "I notice you gained a few pounds!" so I don't really want them to say "I notice you lost a few pounds". I find it creepy and vaguely insulting - the fact that someone noticed I LOST means they noticed I was FAT. My coworkers have noticed and I HATE it, the ones that are trying to lose weight have to comment on what they eat and what I eat or didn't eat CONSTANTLY ("How were you this weekend, were you good") and frankly its just plain irritating. I don't give people on MFP a minute by minute of every bite I eat every day (although I guess you can go look at my diary if you REALLY care) and I certainly don't want to stand around at work and do it when I could be working.

And the ones who are fit and comment on it I just like ... what are they trying to say exactly? I prefer people not comment on my body at all in a professional setting. I kind of feel like its inappropriate for work.

Phew. Had to get that off my chest.

I don't mind when my boyfriend says something nice though.

Er and to answer the original question, people started noticing around 20 lbs lost.

Karmiene

What problems have you ever experienced with prejudice due solely to your weight? What did you do to combat it?

I have not experienced any prejudice from other people due to weight but I have experienced insecurity due to my own self-image and self-esteem.

I think this applies to me too except I've had a harder time trying to change the way I think. Most of the time I believed my own self-talk and it wasn't very kind. I realize it's my own insecurites that hold me back. I guess the ways I've tried to combat it is here on MFP and guided meditations. I tried therapy for years and identified my core belief but didn't do much in the way of healing. I still don't think I can be fat and happy. The wires just don't connect for me.

Karmiene

Losing weight is a huge accomplishment. What is one of your greatest accomplishments in your life thus far?

Gosh, I sure love my kid but I feel so lucky to be his parent that it doesn’t seem like an accomplishment. I’m satisfied with my career and education. In fact, I feel pretty accomplished in most areas of my life except weight and relationships. Sometimes it’s frustrating to feel so confident in certain areas and so crappy in others. I wish I had more of a balance.

Karmiene

Monday QOTD:What problems have you ever experienced with prejudice due solely to your weight? What did you do to combat it?

I wouldn't exactly call it a prejudice, but my mom has always made comments to me about my weight. My highest weight was 148, and she told me no daughter of hers would weight 150 lbs. I cried, and felt like crap, and I still do. Then for some reason, I use food for comfort. It's a vicious cycle that is so hard to break for me!

Isn't it crazy how these snide comments stick with us and really rock our world? I've got a few beauties from my dad. It is a vicious cycle and I'm sorry you' feel stuck in it. Just know you're not alone.

Aprilstar480

I'd have to agree that it's around 20lbs that people really start noticing. I love it when people notice... it makes me feel like my hard work has paid off.

lustris

Tuesday 7/26/11 QOTD: When co-workers, family, and/or acquaintances start noticing our weight loss and physical fitness improvements it's the ultimate compliment and encouragement. How soon, or how many pounds lost, did people start noticing how your lifestyle change was changing your body?

I guess around 20lbs is when people started to notice my weight loss. The only reason I notice it is because I've gone down in clothing sizes

claeysm

I've only lost nine pound so far and noones noticed! Though since eating healthy my stomach hasnt shrunk as such but it doesn't bloat out anymore unless i eat something really unhealthy (pizza)

clarech

I would say around 20lb to but I get a bit embarrassed when people mention it. My friends mum who hasn't seen me since I September when i had just given birth was really shocked she just didn't stop talking about it. I have been big my whole life so i find the compliments weird.

Hayaa79

Well my hubby is my best critic & since he said hey R U losing that means it's noticeable hehehe

I just lost 10pounds & I feel really motivated & happy if someone sez hey U lost or Look at U in appreciating tone.:bigsmile:

HungryMom

Tuesday 7/26/11 QOTD: When co-workers, family, and/or acquaintances start noticing our weight loss and physical fitness improvements it's the ultimate compliment and encouragement. How soon, or how many pounds lost, did people start noticing how your lifestyle change was changing your body?

I began having people comment once I lost around 10% of my weight, and it was a great motivator. Now I am beginning to feel uncomfortable when people ask how much weight I have lost. I feel embarrassed when they get that shocked look; like OMG you were THAT fat?!

twistedsista0408

I've had a few people ask me if I have lost weight, which is nice. I get to tell them what I've been doing and they encourage me to keep going. I told one lady from my church that I was going to the park every morning at 7:30am and walking two miles, and she actually showed up yesterday...in her car and "drove" around with me LOL. She wasn't there today sad to say...maybe she was just checking up on me!

ravenclawseekergirl

Well at the moment i've lost 30 pounds and no one has noticed, but i am 5ft 11.5 so there is a lot of me. :bigsmile: I think that i'd find it creepy if people started giving me compliments or asking how much i'd lost. :indifferent: