Why did you get married?

BlueAventer

I heard you get sex 3x a day when you get married, so I proposed.

I also think infomercials are always truthful, and I believe everything politicians say.

And how's that working out for ya?

pumpkinmoccasin

My husband and I have been married for 3 years... We got married when I was 18 and he was 25 and honestly no one thought we were going to be together for very long, even the people that were totally okay with us dating when I was in high school and he had just graduated college. I wish I could say that we did it to prove those people wrong, but that's not true We wanted to marry each other because we love each other, he's my other half (so cheesy lol), and I honestly, even now, don't know how I could live without him (and he tells me frequently that he couldn't function without me but I know that's because he can't cook or load the dishwasher properly :P haha)

Maybe marriage is becoming old fashioned, and though I don't subscribe to a ton of old fashioned ideals and I'm perfectly aware that marriage used to be more about property and less about love, what it means to me, personally, is that my husband and I are totally committed to each other and we'll always work out our issues no matter how many arguments we have (I can't remember an argument in the last three years where I could tell you what we argued about, anyway, lol), and that we'll be at each others side whatever the situation may be.

We might be kind of an odd couple--we met playing Warcraft III on battle.net, he moved across two states when he finished college to be near me, my parents ABSOLUTELY loved him from the first time they met him (still do, hehe), he asked my dad for permission to propose to me and then did it in Paris across the Seine from the Eiffel Tower just after sunset, our wedding didn't cost an arm and a leg and we had orchestral arrangements to video game music during the ceremony We enjoy each others company even if we're not talking, have lots of different hobbies as well as similar ones, we indulge each others obsessions (many a freezing night spent in line for midnight game releases, etc) and keep each other happy

I could probably go on with reasons why I married that man

LizC26

I think it's funny that you ask this and get lots of answers other than the obvious "I love him". I got married at 18 to the guy I'd been dating since I was 14. A random cashier saw my ring one day and asked me why I got married so young. I don't remember what I said...Something about college costs and we'd been together for 5 yrs already, and our families would look down on our living together without being married...He just looked at me weird and said, "You didn't mention anything about love." HMMMM... I thought about that a long time trying to figure out why (and still do sometimes)..Now...we're still together (married 8yrs now), and I obviously love him, but that's something to ponder I guess...


^^^Random...I know

brattyworm

I think it's funny that you ask this and get lots of answers other than the obvious "I love him".

My assumption was why you did it when you did... not why you actually married them. I assumed that since she specified instead of just living together, which in most cases shows a sign of love and commitment, what made you want to finally cross the t's and dot the i's. I wouldnt' have ever even considered marrying my husband if I didnt love him and think he was the best person in the world to be with, circumstances dictated when we finally made that plunge, but after five years of living together all it is then is a huge get together, a piece of paper and a tax credit. The love is in the relationship long before the marriage, if its a true committed relationship

staceyGO

My husband and I got married on the 13th day of our 13th month together. We had only 8 guests, rented out the football stadium and were married on the 50 yard line. We got married because we're in love and don't want to live without each other, it makes it official, I wanted to have his name and couldn't wait for the stability that comes with being married. We had a great wedding and have been fabulous every since, functioning as a unit instead of two people... so in love and so happy, I can't wait to get home to him everyday!! I still giggle with bliss every single time I say "my husband" ***swooooooooon**

kparks770

I think its beautiful and Im not religious. I believe in God/Jesus/devil and I know he loves me.

staceyo1211

What I can tell you... Love is worth the struggle. It's worth the anguish and the pain. Love it worth all the ups and all the downs.

I fell in love with a girl. Our plan was to grow old together (while keeping each other young). Apparently, that wasn't everyone's plan because earlier this summer I lost her. After a week in the hospital I'm still here. I've been told I survived, but I don't feel alive anymore.

My biggest hope for everyone who reads this: LOVE like you may never get to show your love again. Make it a passion. Make the person you love into your best friend. Don't try to control them. Don't toss them to the wolves. Don't ever give them a single moment to doubt how much you care. Stand up for them and support them in all of their choices... both good and bad.

Love is worth it.

WOW, brought tears to my eyes. Sounds like you two had a special kind of love. I feel the same way about my husband. When I think of him I think "man, God loves me so much look what he gave me!" We finish each others sentances. There have been times when I can smell his scent without him being around and I get goose bumps. Love is an incredible feeling. I wish everyone could have a love like this. Like you said being in love with your best friend is priceless.

LorinaLynn

I see marriage as a public celebration and declaration of our love for each other.

Plus, he had a shorter last name. :laugh: I thought people might be less likely to mispronounce, but they screw it up just as much as my maiden name.

BeeElMarvin

Well, have you ever heard the song "Paradise by the Dashboard Lights"?.... no really, because she's the greatest!

Mathisfun

We enjoyed the same things and enjoyed spending time together, he was my best friend. He proposed to me in frint of the monkey cages at the zoo. We were 19 when we got married and celebrated our 34th anniversary this past spring. Would do it all over again in a heartbeat. He is still my best friend.

Fiesta80

I heard you get sex 3x a day when you get married, so I proposed.

I also think infomercials are always truthful, and I believe everything politicians say.

no wonder you're angry

Dtho5159

Well. I met my hubby when I was 18 and he was 23. We pretty much lived together from the time we started dating, going between my moms house and his parents house. We got engaged 6 months later, 4 days after my 19th birthday and got married 13 months after we got engaged, I had just turned 20 and he was almost 25. 10 months later our first child was born (BC and antibiotic mixed even tho the stupid pharmacist said it was fine lol) I got married because I love him. I knew he was the one for me. We've been married 7 years and together almost 9. We have been thru many ups and downs but I wouldn't have it any other way.

RandiSpicer

Because it makes it harder for the one you love to get away!! :happy: :laugh: :laugh: :happy:

Ladydi1982

I'm Catholic so this is a Catholic take on it:

We as a people marry because it is a Sacrament and the sacraments are the way to know God. If you find a spouse who you love and cherish, nothing pleases God more than a Sacramental marriage. It is a bond for life, not until you no longer feel the need to be married.

1 Corinthians
1 Corinthians 13:1-13 If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels,
but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.
If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge,
and if I have a faith that can move mountains,
but have not love, I am nothing.
If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames,
but have not love, I gain nothing.
Love is patient,
love is kind.
It does not envy,
it does not boast,
it is not proud.
It is not rude,
it is not self-seeking,
it is not easily angered,
it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil
but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects,
always trusts,
always hopes,
always perseveres.
Love never fails.
But where there are prophecies,
they will cease;
where there are tongues,
they will be stilled;
where there is knowledge,
it will pass away.
For we know in part and we prophesy in part,
but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears.
When I was a child, I talked like a child,
I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child.
When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me.
Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror;
then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully,
even as I am fully known.
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love.
But the greatest of these is love.



Sorry if the religious stuff bothers anyone but that's the way I see it.

Catholic girl here. This is how I've always seen marriage. My parents have been married for almost 34 years and I'll have been married 2 years next May. Even after being together almost 10 years, its as if my love for him grows 10 fold every day. I truly believe I married my soul mate. I don't believe it's "just a piece of paper" it's something so much more. Congrats on your engagement and have fun planning the wedding!!!

mislove68

Because I found an amazing man! So after 11 months of dating we went to Vegas and got married. Had 20 guests.

I am glad I didnt spend alot of money on the wedding.

20 guests? it seems too little.
How do you feel the life after marriage?

Oh its wonderful. I truely married my best -friend. Well we talked about getting married the following year. But then I got pregnant so we just figured what the hell lets do it now while I was still not showing. So 2 months of planning and we went to Vegas had a nice pool side wedding. 20 guests were all that could make it on short notice. And to me the people that came were the people that mattered the most. Me and my husband both went to weddings in Vegas before we meet (his best friend and my best- friend were married there) so we knew right away we wanted to go there to be married no matter what.

On our 1 year anniversary we had our reception. Something fun and not typical either. We rented out a bowling alley and severed pizza and beer! Everyone loved it and had a great time.

We are 28 and 35 so to us we couldnt wait 5 years of dating. We wanted to start a family. Its been a crazy road but I love knowing we are committed to each other. We are sooooo a team. We love to spend time together. We dont fight very often. And my husband often tells me our others how much he appreciates me for all the things I do. And I do the same.

Oh yeah and I sent a picture of the ring I wanted when we started to talk about getting married. Then he took me to the store to pick it out and the center diamond. Love my ring

dusk1977

because we were in love, we have been married for 14 years and I love him more today than when I met him, being married now is more important now we have kids from a legal point of view but at the time I wanted the whole world to know this was the man I want to spend the rest of my life with :blushing:

amarie35

1st off, I got married because I fell in love. He was my best friend, my soul mate & I didn't want to waste anymore precious time being apart from him.

Just living with him, wasn't an option. I guess that's got to do a lot w/ how I was raised. But now adays, a lot of people live together for a number of years before they decide to tie the knot. But I personally didn't want to live like that. And since I knew that I couldn't live w/out him, I wanted to marry him. I wanted to fall asleep in his arms every night & wake up everyday w/ him by my side. I wanted to have his children. More importantly, I wanted to grow old with him.

I remember while we were dating, it was always SO hard for me to leave his house to go home. Although I had a 12:00 pm curfew (@ age 19 might I add), I was late getting home almost every night. I just couldn't pull myself away. Then when I would go home, I'd call him & we'd talk for hours. Sometimes, we'd purposely fall asleep on the phone w/ each other & all because we didn't want to tell each other bye.

Love had a hold on us & it wasn't letting go. Since then, we've had 3 boys & have been married now for almost 16 years; I wouldn't trade a one for anything. Sure we've had our share of fights and even talked divorce a few times. But we always seem to find our way back to one another; we always make up. Our marriage isn't perfect but we are perfect for each other. :blushing:

Valtishia

I've been a bridesmaid twice this year. Being part of the bridal party just emphasised for me how much work it takes to put together a wedding - and the result is some pretty pictures and a piece of paper?

I find that really sad. i agree that there is a lot of expense and a lot of planning, but it doesn't have to be, you could go to a church in your ordinary clothes, ask people to come along and witness the ceremony and then you are married with no major expense, saying you don't want to marry because of how much it costs is an excuse, you can do it for virtually nothing, its all the extras that cost, I know, our Wedding day cost us a lot of money, but we wanted it that way, my Husband (and I love saying that) wanted to push the boat out, he insisted on real champagne, a decent reception venue, people travelled from across the world to share our day, we made sure they enjoyed it and felt part of it, the day for us was NOT about the pictures or the piece of paper, it was about showing that we were commited to each other in the eyes of the law, our family and friends then celebrated that with us. People still talk to me about our Wedding, they noticed all the small things I did to personalise the day, the pictures are fabulous to look at, but the memories are the thing, the memory of Bill's face when I walked up the aisle on the arm of my wonderful son, with my two girls, his face when my son handed my hand to him, his face when the children gave him a gift at the reception, some little bits and bobs, a key fob, socks, a mug etc, all saying worlds best dad, welcome to the family Dad'

To them, it was not about the piece of paper or the pictures, to me it was not about that piece of paper or the picture, to my Husband it was not about the piece of paper or the pictures...it was about the love, commitment and the joining together of two people into an age old legally binding one.

I agree, it doesn't have to cost a lot. We spent what it cost to purchase our wedding license, bought 2 rings from James Avery and popped on over the JP. So, we maybe spent $200 total. I wore what I wore to work that day (yea, we went to work, then left to go get married). It wasn't a first for either of us, we'd both been there before and had our kids from previous relationships. This time was for us. No one was there, but the 2 of us and the judge.

lol, we did something similiar but a little bigger, not by much though. I was in college at the time, so I went to class that day (last class before my provincial exam) on a friday, left from there and got my hair done, went home and had a friend do my make up, and got dressed up. We went to the officiants home and were married there. There were 8 of us total, including my husband and I (9 if you include the officiant I guess). Then we did pictures that a friend took (gotta love having so many crafty friends) and went out for dinner at a nice restaurant. We went home and had a mini reception with the same crew in our apartment with a beautiful cake a friend made (I tried to do that one myself, but apparently I am not so good at it lol), then changed clothes and went to a dance club we like where everyone else that wanted to celebrate could join us We didn't spend a load of money and we we only kept a few things traditional but we loved it.

AlyAnt26

I married my high school sweetheart after 11 years together! We lived together for 2 years prior to getting married (1 year living together before engaged). We started dating so young, it was just natural for us to wait awhile to get married. I didn't think it would make much of a difference, but honestly, there's just a different feeling to our relationship now that it's "official!" I wouldn't have done it any other way -- big wedding, big party, and big celebration! The high price tag was totally worth it to us!

Gary6030

Because there was no life without her. She is my everything. POSEY267 I LOVE YOU MORE TODAY THAN YESTERDAY FOREVER AND ALWAYS. You will always be my brightest star. You shine above all the rest! Thanks for saying yes over 15 years ago!

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PecanTanDiva

I must admit it wouldn't have mattered much to me one way or the other, but my husband proposed and I said yes. Having said that we planned a weekend away and got married while we were there.

Same here...Its been 9 years of marriage and 12 years together...We had our twins while we were engaged and before they turned 2 we got married. We always wanted to be with each other but on our terms. He proposed in 1999 and I said yes. Had the twins in 2000, got married in 2002. I can't explain the love we have for each other, but we are getting remarried 5/20/12 because of how deep our love is and this time we want the kids to see...(they were 1 1/2 so they dont even remember) I never cared about the benefits just him. He told me he knew I was the one because he would always want to see me. He wanted me to be everywhere he was. I knew he was the one because I didnt want to leave his house or get off the phone with him. I would fall asleep on the phone with him everynight watching Midnight Love :bigsmile: ...I was hooked and i still am!!!

JStarnes

Bc the man I love proposed?

Actually, we decided to marry before he proposed and we had our honeymoon before our wedding. :laugh: we already had a cruise planned when we decided to get married, so a week before our wedding we had vacation. He got the cruise director and half the staff involved in this elaborate proposal it was amazing. Also were living together and pregnant before any of that....so yeah, we did things backwards, but it worked for us. :happy:

summertime_girl

I had too much to drink, spur of the moment, while on vacation oops!

We had our 17th anniversary last April.

jujubean1992

my fiance and I plan to get married someday... mostly because of our son. and our rights to one another in case (god forbid) one of us was very ill or something, because you are not recognized as a couple or having any connection with an unrelated person unless your married. (atleast where i live) but were waiting a couple years so we can pay for a nice ceremony and reception. and so we can get a couple years of good tax returns since they give single parents more than married ones. were thinking more in the long term how it will benefit us. other wise i don't think we would ever get that piece of paper. we love each other, always have, always will, and that's all that matters.

EDT: we've known each other since we were 6, were best friends growing up, we were each other's first love when we were 13, didn't talk much for the first couple years of highschool, then our jr year we got back together an will celebrate our 3rd anniversary on aug 31. :bigsmile:

mercyyuen

There are definitely some legal aspects that make marriage the best way to assure the protection of spouse and children in the case of death or etc. But marriage is not just a piece of paper or a legal construct.

Marriage is a public sign of "till death do us part" commitment. It's more than a promise to each other. It's a "covenant" that you make before friends, family and God. It's sacred and shouldn't be entered into or "dissolved" lightly.

Marriage is the joining of two parties into one. You go from you and him... to "US."

Marriage creates a stable family unit upon which you can grow your family and build your life.

It's a lot easier to be single, or date, or just to live together. But to get married, and stick it out even when it's not fun anymore.... that takes WORK... that takes COMMITMENT... and that shows TRUE LOVE...

Why do people spend thousands, or tens of thousands of dollars on a wedding ceremony??? I have no idea. I think THAT is just a cultural/social phenomenon that a lot of couples get caught up in.

alleyag

I got married at 22 (only a year and a half ago) and I would do it again and again. My wife (26) when we got.married. is my truely my best friend. And I couldn't imagine things without her. She the peanut butter to my protein shake(haha see I made it fitness related) really all jokes aside I asked her to marry me after a year and 6 months knowing that she was the person is like to spend the rest of my life with was easy. No doubtful thought in my mind. Marriage is a commitment I wanted to make to tell the world how much I care for her. And that nothing would make me.happier than for her to have my last name and be called my family. Ok now back to jokes. She's the egg white to my egg and the.......

sandy729

I got married at 32. Met in Jan.. of 2006 engaged by april and married by July. Today is our 5 year anniversary. I waited so long for him and there was a special chemistry. I truly married my soul mate.

crystalslight

Haven't read all the other responses. But wanted to tell you why I got married.
I wanted to spend every day and night with my husband. I wanted to share a home, bills, LIFE.
I've NEVER loved anybody more than I love him. He is my best friend. I want to spend all my time with him.
I was already committed to him. But the paper just made it official.
We both wanted a family. And being married is a BIG part of that.
Out of ALOT of our friends we are the only ones still married. Not sure why or how that happened. LOL. Just glad we did

skatw

What I can tell you... Love is worth the struggle. It's worth the anguish and the pain. Love it worth all the ups and all the downs.

I fell in love with a girl. Our plan was to grow old together (while keeping each other young). Apparently, that wasn't everyone's plan because earlier this summer I lost her. After a week in the hospital I'm still here. I've been told I survived, but I don't feel alive anymore.

My biggest hope for everyone who reads this: LOVE like you may never get to show your love again. Make it a passion. Make the person you love into your best friend. Don't try to control them. Don't toss them to the wolves. Don't ever give them a single moment to doubt how much you care. Stand up for them and support them in all of their choices... both good and bad.

Love is worth it.

I want you to know that you are going to make it, as hard as it seems. I lost my first husband almost 7 years ago now. I never thought it was going to get better and for about 2 years, I can say I was completely lost. At times I thought I was better, and then I realized I wasn't. You need to give yourself time to grieve and know that it is okay. There isn't a certain time to take for yourself. You will know when you are ready. I don't think the grieving every really goes away, but it does get a lot better. You will want to smile and laugh again. It comes slowly, but it will happen. You will always think of the wonderful times you had with that person and I hope you SMILE! Those are memories to be cherished. I had to make a decision for myself and do what I knew he would have wanted me to do. I got back into my Master's program in college. I finished my degree, met a wonderful man that loves me and we now have a beautiful daughter. I know those things are terribly hard to think about right now, but I know the woman that you loved would want the best for you. You have to take care of yourself and it is GREAT that you are on here. To me, that means you plan on doing that. I wish the best for you!

boomboom011

I personally am a bit old fashioned when it comes to marriage. I love the ceremonial part of it. I also believe that it also kinda seals the deal, puts a stamp on it kinda thing.
I have been married before and was way too young to understand what a commitment was. Now, i realize its a big deal. Divorce is not an option unless under extreme circumstances.
Personally i also love the thought of growing old with someone. Even if we are a bickering old couple. Nothing warms my heart than a couple that has lasted for a long time.
I am not saying that my way is the right way, but it is for me. I cant fathom my life without my husband. I am glad I married him when I did. He makes me want to be a better human being.
Oh and we met at a bar and will be celebrating our 10th anniversary in August. Cant wait for the next 10.
Disclaimer: my marriage isnt perfect but its mine. We get on each others nerves but we love each other unconditionally. And if he ever decides to cheat on me, well he wont be able to afford toilet paper! tee hee!

P.S. he is also 13 years older than i am.