Why did you get married?
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His junk is massive.*
* Aside from that, he's a full-fledged uber nerd; I find that irresistible. We love being together. And, even when I want to take a cinder-block to his face on occasion, I know I'd not want to waste my time on smashing anyone else's face.
so im reading all these posts from people and im like WTF -- where is my mushy side, why can't i find it. i mean i love the guy and all that stuff and i used to have mushy words for him and im like oh **** 10 years together and ive already lost my words - and then i read this *kitten* and this *kitten* RIGHT HERE is EXACTLY what i wanted to say. it is 100% accurate and now my heart is smiling. i was feeling like a craptastic wife for a second - but now i feel better...
i mean that, i do.
Although I did find my sappy side... you're correct and that is 110% the way it is!0 -
I love my guy and couldn't imagine my life without him in it. I wanted the traditional white wedding, groom in a tux, the rings, the whole bit. But I didn't marry him just for those things, I married him because I wanted to. I wanted him, and only him.
happy girl, are you married now?0 -
The question is NOT why does one get married, but rather why do people STAY married.
Too many people think marriage is to "complete them" or some equally self-centered ideal... but really it SHOULD be seen as a way to give one's strengths to another person.
Married 20 years, 6 kids0 -
Marriage was his prerequisite before we had children, and children were a deal-breaker for me. We'd been together for a decade before we got married, then married three years before the twins arrived.0
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His junk is massive.*
* Aside from that, he's a full-fledged uber nerd; I find that irresistible. We love being together. And, even when I want to take a cinder-block to his face on occasion, I know I'd not want to waste my time on smashing anyone else's face.
so im reading all these posts from people and im like WTF -- where is my mushy side, why can't i find it. i mean i love the guy and all that stuff and i used to have mushy words for him and im like oh **** 10 years together and ive already lost my words - and then i read this *kitten* and this *kitten* RIGHT HERE is EXACTLY what i wanted to say. it is 100% accurate and now my heart is smiling. i was feeling like a craptastic wife for a second - but now i feel better... i mean that, i do.
*grin* Good.
So want to be friends with you both....0 -
What I can tell you... Love is worth the struggle. It's worth the anguish and the pain. Love it worth all the ups and all the downs.
I fell in love with a girl. Our plan was to grow old together (while keeping each other young). Apparently, that wasn't everyone's plan because earlier this summer I lost her. After a week in the hospital I'm still here. I've been told I survived, but I don't feel alive anymore.
My biggest hope for everyone who reads this: LOVE like you may never get to show your love again. Make it a passion. Make the person you love into your best friend. Don't try to control them. Don't toss them to the wolves. Don't ever give them a single moment to doubt how much you care. Stand up for them and support them in all of their choices... both good and bad.
Love is worth it.
well said , i wish you happiness and a mended heart again .. i will take your words, and live by them more then i already do.. i wish i could give you a hug! xox take care.0 -
the only reason i married was cause i was in love, i was also in a religion where sex before marriage was frowned apon... maybe i didnt know him well enough, but i needed to be held and loved and told that he thought i was beautiful, after a year of evaluation my life and trying to improve or 4 yr marriage,. decided i deserve to be loved with words with his body, i wanted to feel loved! marrige should be the most loving relationship ever.. but mine wasnt.. so i decided to leave, biggest hardest decision i have ever made, and just proved to me that maybe he didnt love me as much as we thought we were in love when we first began.. as he let me go.. he never tried to make me stay.. a sad ending to what should have been amazing......
move on a little while in my life, and i have finally found that love i was looking for , that amazing no questions asked you know what they feel for you and you cant help but love them totally and passionatly!
To me this is what real love is suppose to be, i've never felt this way for any one before, where i love everything about him, physically, this thoughts, his manerisms, the way he loves me and thinks i'm cute, loves me naked, holds me loves me and cares for me... i will marry again
i will marry him and we want to have children. i really feel he is right for me. just perfect... he is all i want. and i lack nothing... 0 -
I knew my husband 5 months total from the day we met to the day we got Married. He was supposed to be a one night stand. He got me pregnant on purpose ( Im not a hoe -_- he is only the second guy I have ever been with and I was trying ... Something new XD ) So we decided we would get married. 10 years later Were still Happy and very much in love ^_^ Life is great for us and our two boys 0
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the only reason i married was cause i was in love, i was also in a religion where sex before marriage was frowned apon... maybe i didnt know him well enough, but i needed to be held and loved and told that he thought i was beautiful, after a year of evaluation my life and trying to improve or 4 yr marriage,. decided i deserve to be loved with words with his body, i wanted to feel loved! marrige should be the most loving relationship ever.. but mine wasnt.. so i decided to leave, biggest hardest decision i have ever made, and just proved to me that maybe he didnt love me as much as we thought we were in love when we first began.. as he let me go.. he never tried to make me stay.. a sad ending to what should have been amazing......
move on a little while in my life, and i have finally found that love i was looking for , that amazing no questions asked you know what they feel for you and you cant help but love them totally and passionatly!
To me this is what real love is suppose to be, i've never felt this way for any one before, where i love everything about him, physically, this thoughts, his manerisms, the way he loves me and thinks i'm cute, loves me naked, holds me loves me and cares for me... i will marry again i will marry him and we want to have children. i really feel he is right for me. just perfect... he is all i want. and i lack nothing...
You are right. Anyhow, we should believe in love. Wish you and he will end a happy ending.
I love my boyfriend deeply, for some years, but we don't enough money for marriage, so the wedding is delayed for a while.0 -
I'm surprised nobodies mentioned a shiny ring yet :bigsmile:
I guess a lot of us can buy a shiny ring, you dont need to get married for that. I wouldnt0 -
the only reason i married was cause i was in love, i was also in a religion where sex before marriage was frowned apon... maybe i didnt know him well enough, but i needed to be held and loved and told that he thought i was beautiful, after a year of evaluation my life and trying to improve or 4 yr marriage,. decided i deserve to be loved with words with his body, i wanted to feel loved! marrige should be the most loving relationship ever.. but mine wasnt.. so i decided to leave, biggest hardest decision i have ever made, and just proved to me that maybe he didnt love me as much as we thought we were in love when we first began.. as he let me go.. he never tried to make me stay.. a sad ending to what should have been amazing......
move on a little while in my life, and i have finally found that love i was looking for , that amazing no questions asked you know what they feel for you and you cant help but love them totally and passionatly!
To me this is what real love is suppose to be, i've never felt this way for any one before, where i love everything about him, physically, this thoughts, his manerisms, the way he loves me and thinks i'm cute, loves me naked, holds me loves me and cares for me... i will marry again i will marry him and we want to have children. i really feel he is right for me. just perfect... he is all i want. and i lack nothing...
You are right. Anyhow, we should believe in love. Wish you and he will end a happy ending.
I love my boyfriend deeply, for some years, but we don't enough money for marriage, so the wedding is delayed for a while.
just remeber a wedding day is ONE day, it doesnt have to be expencive, my wedding day was pretty cheap, i got the flowers from a farm (flower farm ) my cake was home made, by my now ex motherin law, and dress was made for $200 ($AU),you could have every one bring a plate of food, or have a few mums and ladies who wanna cater for you... all the best with your wedding one day hun i wanna have a beach wedding this time 0 -
the only reason i married was cause i was in love, i was also in a religion where sex before marriage was frowned apon... maybe i didnt know him well enough, but i needed to be held and loved and told that he thought i was beautiful, after a year of evaluation my life and trying to improve or 4 yr marriage,. decided i deserve to be loved with words with his body, i wanted to feel loved! marrige should be the most loving relationship ever.. but mine wasnt.. so i decided to leave, biggest hardest decision i have ever made, and just proved to me that maybe he didnt love me as much as we thought we were in love when we first began.. as he let me go.. he never tried to make me stay.. a sad ending to what should have been amazing......
move on a little while in my life, and i have finally found that love i was looking for , that amazing no questions asked you know what they feel for you and you cant help but love them totally and passionatly!
To me this is what real love is suppose to be, i've never felt this way for any one before, where i love everything about him, physically, this thoughts, his manerisms, the way he loves me and thinks i'm cute, loves me naked, holds me loves me and cares for me... i will marry again i will marry him and we want to have children. i really feel he is right for me. just perfect... he is all i want. and i lack nothing...
You are right. Anyhow, we should believe in love. Wish you and he will end a happy ending.
I love my boyfriend deeply, for some years, but we don't enough money for marriage, so the wedding is delayed for a while.
just remeber a wedding day is ONE day, it doesnt have to be expencive, my wedding day was pretty cheap, i got the flowers from a farm (flower farm ) my cake was home made, by my now ex motherin law, and dress was made for $200 ($AU),you could have every one bring a plate of food, or have a few mums and ladies who wanna cater for you... all the best with your wedding one day hun i wanna have a beach wedding this time
TKS! you too.
beach wedding is beautiful, not bad.0 -
We had been living together 5 years and my Husband is my best friend. It just happened naturally we booked it and organised it in 7 weeks and everything felt more right than before. I know I have someone who I could never run out of things to say to and at the same time never have to say anything at all.0
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We had been living together 5 years and my Husband is my best friend. It just happened naturally we booked it and organised it in 7 weeks and everything felt more right than before. I know I have someone who I could never run out of things to say to and at the same time never have to say anything at all.
you are so happy, congrats.
From this thread, I found many lovers eventually become a family and live a happy life, great!0 -
Easier to get our home loan.. And o yea hubby is hot and I love his azz!!!0
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Easier to get our home loan.. And o yea hubby is hot and I love his azz!!!
do you marriage to get your home loan?0 -
I got married becase my family pushed me into it i was 18yrs and with child,and they didn't understand that woman can bring a child up on their own if they need to,the husband was never the love of my life, he grew to be an *kitten* and messed with my head and because of him i have huge body issues he use to compare me to porn stars ie "why can't you look like that""why can't you do that" after four yrs i walked away.
Husband number 2 was my own choice and i went for every thing that was opposite to the first,number 2 was so laid back to the point where he was happy to work lay on sofa having any kind of intimacy was a no no for the last four yrs not my choice.
So i am all for marriage but i think people change and grow and have different wants and needs and both of the people in the marriage need to grow together or compromise at least x
All for marriage but hate weddings lol0 -
According to a girl I used to know, I got married for the tax break. o_O I'm glad she knows me so well.
In reality, I got married because I wanted to. My husband and I are Christians, and we wanted to seal our relationship in front of God and family. It's an acknowledgement of a deeper commitment, in our opinion. I know not everyone feels that way, but we do. We wanted to spend our lives together, so we took that step.0 -
I haven't ever been married, and I'm not sure I ever will. Something was very non-traditional about me from an early age. Girls wanted to play pricess and dress up and it never really appealed to me, possibly because I grew up with older brothers. Most of my friends scrambled to have a boyfriend nonstop, but I preferred to just hang out and have fun without worrying about that kind of stuff. Once I was old enough to start dating and being intimate with people, I considered that maybe marriage would be something I wanted.
However, after watching all the marriages I'd known and trust crumble around me, I was wary. Throw in the fact that I've had some pretty gross luck with men who think lying, cheating, and hurting is the key to a relationship, and I'm pretty much settled in the idea that I'm better off not getting married ever.
That being said, I absolutely don't think you have to be married to be a family.0 -
I married my high school sweetheart. Known each other & started dating since I was 15. We broke up after high school because he moved to Japan and I was in college. After two+ years apart we immediately got back together when he came home. I was even more in love with him than before, and I still am.0
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I got married becase my family pushed me into it i was 18yrs and with child,and they didn't understand that woman can bring a child up on their own if they need to,the husband was never the love of my life, he grew to be an *kitten* and messed with my head and because of him i have huge body issues he use to compare me to porn stars ie "why can't you look like that""why can't you do that" after four yrs i walked away.
Husband number 2 was my own choice and i went for every thing that was opposite to the first,number 2 was so laid back to the point where he was happy to work lay on sofa having any kind of intimacy was a no no for the last four yrs not my choice.
So i am all for marriage but i think people change and grow and have different wants and needs and both of the people in the marriage need to grow together or compromise at least x
All for marriage but hate weddings lol
It's wise of you to leave your 1st husband. He didn't treat you well and you can't live happily together with other, it's better to leave him at an early time. Though it is somewhat difficult for a women to bring a child up, we still need to believe we can a suitable guy in near future.0 -
welll sorry to hear that.I kinda feel like that sometimes.I mean I have my doubts.My parents divorced when I was 4.My dad was a alcoholic and mom was a little screwed up in the head though she busted her butt to physically take care of me and my younger brother.She was and has never emotionally been their.She remarried when I was 8 and I got a ok stepdad.He did treat his daughters better and didnt have much to do with me.He loved my brother he had always wanted a son.He ended up on drugs and a alcoholic too.They divorced when I was like 13. she never remarried and never seemed to be happy.My brother has never left home and is 33 yrsold and has a drinking and drug problem now.For myself I grew up with some issues but am getting better.I have been engaged twice and left them.Once cause I found out I wasnt into guys.The second was a woman but am abusive one,and now this is the third time around and she and I have been together for 7 yrs but not married or anything but just living together and going through most of the motions.I love her and all and try to do my best to keep things going smooth.I dont know what we are doing but just living and trying to take care of one another and others.Its hard to explain.Life is weird/0
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welll sorry to hear that.I kinda feel like that sometimes.I mean I have my doubts.My parents divorced when I was 4.My dad was a alcoholic and mom was a little screwed up in the head though she busted her butt to physically take care of me and my younger brother.She was and has never emotionally been their.She remarried when I was 8 and I got a ok stepdad.He did treat his daughters better and didnt have much to do with me.He loved my brother he had always wanted a son.He ended up on drugs and a alcoholic too.They divorced when I was like 13. she never remarried and never seemed to be happy.My brother has never left home and is 33 yrsold and has a drinking and drug problem now.For myself I grew up with some issues but am getting better.I have been engaged twice and left them.Once cause I found out I wasnt into guys.The second was a woman but am abusive one,and now this is the third time around and she and I have been together for 7 yrs but not married or anything but just living together and going through most of the motions.I love her and all and try to do my best to keep things going smooth.I dont know what we are doing but just living and trying to take care of one another and others.Its hard to explain.Life is weird/
Thanks for your tell.
Your growing circumstances tells us that your family is different from others, broken family, sorry to say that.
Life is weird because of your environment.0 -
welll sorry to hear that.I kinda feel like that sometimes.I mean I have my doubts.My parents divorced when I was 4.My dad was a alcoholic and mom was a little screwed up in the head though she busted her butt to physically take care of me and my younger brother.She was and has never emotionally been their.She remarried when I was 8 and I got a ok stepdad.He did treat his daughters better and didnt have much to do with me.He loved my brother he had always wanted a son.He ended up on drugs and a alcoholic too.They divorced when I was like 13. she never remarried and never seemed to be happy.My brother has never left home and is 33 yrsold and has a drinking and drug problem now.For myself I grew up with some issues but am getting better.I have been engaged twice and left them.Once cause I found out I wasnt into guys.The second was a woman but am abusive one,and now this is the third time around and she and I have been together for 7 yrs but not married or anything but just living together and going through most of the motions.I love her and all and try to do my best to keep things going smooth.I dont know what we are doing but just living and trying to take care of one another and others.Its hard to explain.Life is weird/
good on you for trying, you seemed to have turned out pretty good considering your up bringing, but just remeber the cycle doesnt have to repeat and you can change we can all change. relationships take work, and they take both people to want to make it work... all the best with your journey xox 0 -
Tax break! Okay, not really, though not bad. I used to think I didn't want to get married or have a wedding because for me a big white fluffy wedding would be so lame and not me I'd probably run and hide. I always thought marriage was like a formula where the couple always "settled down", got boring, wife became subservient, man became jerk, house sinks into dante's inferno, and the next thing you know you're baking bland vanilla cupcakes and dressing your kids in disney paraphenalia. AHHHH!
So instead we had a Harry Potter wedding, played our favorite music include "Holy Diver", did what we wanted to do, and now we live with one of my brothers, my husband going to start jamming with another band, I'm planning my first tattoo (half sleeve?), and basically doing everything we did before, but more and together. I'm a loner and my husband gives me the space I need and together we're losing this crap ton of weight.
So the short answer is: because we're awesome.0 -
Because I found an amazing man! So after 11 months of dating we went to Vegas and got married. Had 20 guests.
I am glad I didnt spend alot of money on the wedding.
11 months?! wow! I suppose my mum & dad were 12.. 6 dating 6 engaged..
I got married after a year to the date. We were engaged for 363 days. lol But seriously we were engaged just a couple days after "branding" ourselves as a couple.0 -
I love the guy, he has my heart and we both wanted to get married. Neither one of us had been married before just cause we hadn't found "the one". But when we did we were both head over heels for each other. Still are now. Both of us being Christians it was just the next step in our relationship. Complete and total commitment to one another for life. Sounded like a good plan for me. We went thru the pre marital counseling and all that good jazz. And we knew before that this was it. Once we say those vows we were stuck together. lol And we both said "I do" with a smile on our faces. 0
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I asked my wife to marry me on our second date. She said yes. I knew and she knew. We are nothing alike. Where she ebbs, I flow. And vice versa.
We have the same goals; we share the same dreams. We match up perfectly. Can't imagine my life without her.0
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