Women are insane.

Seriously. All my friends are guys, minus one girl I considered a sister. She and I couldn't have been more different: she thrived on drama and chaos, always fighting with someone. I am the complete opposite; I lead a stress-free and happy life.

Things came to a head a few days ago, and she (gasp!) removed me from her social network. Part of me is bummed, especially because she felt the need to post some snarky facebook status about it before deleting me (really?!), but part of me is so relieved. Unfortunately, the stress of it has caused me to lose my appetite. I'm not really sad, just more annoyed, because the drama she created was just petty and immature. And she sucked me into it.

/end rant.

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NotGoddess

I would not call her a woman-that implies maturity. She sounds like a whiny little brat.

KatyE213

I can see you would be annoyed but really! She has done you a favour. Nobody needs friends who drag them into their dramas, its very draining. Be happy :-)

a_q_u_a_lizard

the exact same thing happend to me! my friend (like a sister) is always angry and pissed off at something...theres always someone effing her over yada yada.... when there was issue with me and her....she deleted me off facebook. and i too felt relieved. life is too short to get caught up in that kind of bull****...and they will never change. now i keep my distance.

babylemonade

I had a friend like that. Forget them, no one likes a pissy friend.

soontobeskinnysara

Thanks ladies. It almost feels like I'm going through a breakup! This is not the first time I've gone through this with her - it's actually the third and, surprise!, she's started it every time. I won't go into details, but I'm feeling a little bummed. I'm not confrontational, I hate it, so I was just kinda waiting for her to start deleting me off everything. I guess I'm just feeling a little lost. What annoys me the most though is that she's not doing it quietly. Of course I've told people I'm close with about it, but I certainly didn't post it on the internet! She didn't name names, but it's obvious it's about me.

Chicks, man.

Lyadeia

My "best" friend, if you can call her that anymore, has this issue with being center of attention. If she's not it, she quickly becomes whiney until she IS it. Case in point...my wedding July 10 this year. She was my matron of honor and couldn't seem to get it through her thick @$$ skull that this was MY day, not hers. Well, she had finally calmed down for most of the night until around 9pm or so (ceremony was outside at 7, then reception afterwards inside). She decided that she couldn't walk. Her back was in so much pain, she had to stay in a different room and send her sister to me to let me know. She wanted me to run to her and give her attention. I know how she is. Well, I wouldn't do it. So she decided to take some really powerful meds...her mother's prescription pain pills...and comes up to the reception acting all drunk or something. I didn't say anything to her at all, but my mom took her into a different room and gave her a nice screaming to, lol.

She hasn't talked to me since the day of the wedding. On Facebook, all she has done is "poke" me a couple of times. And I even sent her a message telling her about my dad (he has advanced Parkinson's and was literally on his death bed the day of the wedding, but thanks be to the grace of Jesus that he's better and in rehab now and coming home next week!). I actually sent the same message to a few people...all who seemed to care, right? She's the only one that never responded. I guess it's because she didn't have a better story about her dad to spew? IDK.

We just don't need people like that in our lives!!! After a week of not hearing from her, I was sad. But now, I am just pissed that I let her infiltrate my life so much in the past. She's obviously not a friend!!!

GorillaNJ

How long did this take you to figure out? LOL us guys learn women are insane at a VERY young age. Here are some other realizations... snow is cold, sun is hot, water is wet and when a dog grabs you leg he is not giving you a hug.....:laugh:

Sorry to hear about your friend though... nothing worse then losing someone close to you for no good reason

LeeKetty1176

How long did this take you to figure out? LOL us guys learn women are insane at a VERY young age. Here are some other realizations... snow is cold, sun is hot, water is wet and when a dog grabs you leg he is not giving you a hug.....:laugh:

Sorry to hear about your friend though... nothing worse then losing someone close to you for no good reason

G strikes again !!!

to be fair ...it sounds like you are giving this person the status as "friend" in your life........ sound more like she was a passing Brat !

arieltheincredible

Omg my roommate just went through the same thing!!!! Her now old friend had been posting statuses about her and our other roommate for almost a month now. There was no real reason for hee acting this way but it ended badly with my roommate confronting her both on fb and in person ( she lives the the apartment building next to ours). She deleted all of us from her fb and p@!?ied out when she went to confront her. It was insane!

SueGeer

You don't need "friends" like that..........stick with us instead!

myofibril

Seriously.

Nah, women aren't insane. Oh, hang about. Thinking about it....yeah, they are nuttier than a squirrel's fridge.

I think women tend to be more insecure and overthink things more than men in general as opposed to being flat out batsh*t crazy. Also, many become literally addicted to the rush that occurs on both a physiological and physchological level triggered through "drama." If a drug dealer could synthesize the high that strong emotions bring about they would quite literally rule the world. Emotions are more addictive than crack...

Carl01

I don`t think women overthink things as much as they just think things out in great detail.
Ask a guy what he wants for a house and you will get a vague answer about "nice with a big back yard" or similar.
Ask a lady that question and you will get a complete floor plan with all the colors of walls,carpets etc.

katkins3

It's OK!
Exit the Drama Queen, stage right.
Be mellow.....

sarahp86

My boyfriend thinks I'm mad as a bag of spiders!!

I've lost friends over drama and yes I still miss them from time to time but I don't have time for bullsh*t and a true friend always has your back

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crisanderson27

I don`t think women overthink things as much as they just think things out in great detail.
Ask a guy what he wants for a house and you will get a vague answer about "nice with a big back yard" or similar.
Ask a lady that question and you will get a complete floor plan with all the colors of walls,carpets etc.

Oddly enough, I experienced this exact scenario last night. She told me I needed a man cave...I told her 'garage!'. She told me she needed a man cave....I of course queried...lol...and got an incredibly detailed reply down to hydraulic lift tables to eat on while watching movies.

It's a huge part of why we love them though.

ohwhataday

And men are buttholes. I thought everyone knew this?

ohwhataday

I don`t think women overthink things as much as they just think things out in great detail.
Ask a guy what he wants for a house and you will get a vague answer about "nice with a big back yard" or similar.
Ask a lady that question and you will get a complete floor plan with all the colors of walls,carpets etc.

Oddly enough, I experienced this exact scenario last night. She told me I needed a man cave...I told her 'garage!'. She told me she needed a man cave....I of course queried...lol...and got an incredibly detailed reply down to hydraulic lift tables to eat on while watching movies.

It's a huge part of why we love them though.

I love how men say women have the whole house.. or the 'living room' or 'kitchen'. hahaha.. this is not a mother effin' cave. A cave to me would be an art studio that I could hide in. Not the friggin' living room.

ItsCasey

And they can't drive.

THIS!

I freely admit I'm not a good driver. I'm not horrible at it or anything ... never caused an accident, only one traffic ticket in 12 years of driving. But if I'm going somewhere with a man, he is driving, and there will be no discussion about it.

Carl01

I don`t think women overthink things as much as they just think things out in great detail.
Ask a guy what he wants for a house and you will get a vague answer about "nice with a big back yard" or similar.
Ask a lady that question and you will get a complete floor plan with all the colors of walls,carpets etc.

Oddly enough, I experienced this exact scenario last night. She told me I needed a man cave...I told her 'garage!'. She told me she needed a man cave....I of course queried...lol...and got an incredibly detailed reply down to hydraulic lift tables to eat on while watching movies.

It's a huge part of why we love them though.

It is what is needed too.
Left to a guy a house would have 8 rooms with brown walls because that was the color that was on sale.
Life would be very empty and dreary without a lady`s point of view and perspective.

crisanderson27

I don`t think women overthink things as much as they just think things out in great detail.
Ask a guy what he wants for a house and you will get a vague answer about "nice with a big back yard" or similar.
Ask a lady that question and you will get a complete floor plan with all the colors of walls,carpets etc.

Oddly enough, I experienced this exact scenario last night. She told me I needed a man cave...I told her 'garage!'. She told me she needed a man cave....I of course queried...lol...and got an incredibly detailed reply down to hydraulic lift tables to eat on while watching movies.

It's a huge part of why we love them though.

It is what is needed too.
Left to a guy a house would have 8 rooms with brown walls because that was the color that was on sale.
Life would be very empty and dreary without a lady`s point of view and perspective.

Amen brother...amen.

myofibril

I think women tend to be better drivers than men. Or more specifically, safer, drivers than us statistically.

If a guy is driving you are more likely to get to your destination sooner and it will probably be more fun. With women it will take a bit longer but you are less likely to be involved in an accident.

I think most women though can't PARK for crap. Sometimes it is just painful watching a woman try to parallel park. I have to resist every bone in my body getting in the car and taking over....

efokken

Friends come and go in your life as you need them, they are not always supposed to stick around... I'm going through the same thing. My friend is mad at me for a very stupid reason, however, she is a lot younger than me and is a total drama queen... I wouldn't cry if we went our separate ways.... hope you feel better

Kalrez

Women are terrible friends, in my experience. Too whiney, too superficial, too moody ... no. Just no. I can't handle that.

My best friend of 10 years ditched me in my divorce. She said that my situation hurt her too much because it reminded her of when her ex-fiance dumped her 2-3 years earlier. Sorry that MY divorce inconvenienced YOU. She didn't want to hear what happened. She just .... disappeared. Took me off her Facebook, MySpace, LiveJournal - everything without a single word from her. I found out through someone else that her excuse was that she didn't want any "drama" which was really confusing considering the fact that I wasn't talking to anybody about the divorce. No one wanted to hear it, so I wasn't talking about it. Whatever.

Every now and then, I'll get a tiny urge to maybe message her. It's been about 3 years since we last talked. I sometimes wonder what she's up to. But then I remember that she's a self-centered, adolescent who is always angry about something. Serious emotional drain. I don't want to go back and try to be friends with someone who *kitten* on me when I needed them most.

crisanderson27

I think women tend to be better drivers than men. Or more specifically, safer, drivers than us statistically.

If a guy is driving you are more likely to get to your destination sooner and it will probably be more fun. With women it will take a bit longer but you are less likely to be involved in an accident.

I think most women though can't PARK for crap. Sometimes it is just painful watching a woman try to parallel park. I have to resist every bone in my body getting in the car and taking over....

Depends.

I've seen that go both ways...though I agree on the parking.

My brothers wife is 5'1, and has a foot made of pure lead. She drives an 01 Silverado 4dr, 2500, longbed, 6" lift, 35's, 6.0, and if she's in it...the pedal is matted.

She can barely see over the wheel. I finally feel safe on the roads, now that I'm 800 miles away from her.

myofibril

It is what is needed too.
Left to a guy a house would have 8 rooms with brown walls because that was the color that was on sale.
Life would be very empty and dreary without a lady`s point of view and perspective.

Amen brother...amen.

You two MUST be single. Just wait until you get roped into endless discussions about feature walls, matte v gloss paint, if silk wallpaper is fashionable anymore.

It won't be all rainbows and butterflies then. Oh noooooo

ladylu11

those types of friendships are TOXIC and they wear you out! This is for the best! doesn't feel like it now, but soon you will feel such relief.

MinnieInMaine

I MUST say this...please remember, not every woman is the same. Yeah, I get the guy talk thing but generalization and stereotypes are a huge pet peeve of mine.

Funny timing for this topic - for whatever reason, I was thinking of one of my ex friends this morning. She was fun to hang around but was way too boy crazy (read: slutty) and way too immature for me to deal with after a while. I mean, it's one thing to still live with your parents when you're almost 30 but seriously, you can't stick to our plans because they want you to watch the dog while they run to the store or whatever? Yeah, too many of those lame excuses and I'd had it. I had a life and my own commitments and was tired of shuffling both around for her benefit. Phew...guess I still haven't gotten closure on that one...

I seriously can't deal with people who say they care about you soooo much but then turn around and treat you like a doormat.

bakebunny

I am a careful, safe driver, and I can park very well... until my boyfriend is in the car. Then I can't parallel park for beans because I feel I have to get it right the first time I attempt, no readjustments. By myself or with anyone else in the car I take my time and do as many re-adjustments as needed (usually 1).

As for women - my younger sister used to be the type that needed the attention. She always have the funniest story, the loudest voice singing, etc. They can be fun to be with if they are happy but I'd hear from our mutual friends that they didn't trust her, wouldn't get too close to her becuase of the self-serving attitude. It got tiring both from the drama point of view and being in a family of 7 kids, I felt left in the shadows. Thankfully as she's gotten older she's channeled that into a great job - she pulls in grants and donations for a non-profit charity for challenged adults while doing theatre as a hobby.

I steer away from the drama types now. I can spot them a mile away usually.

GorillaNJ

It is what is needed too.
Left to a guy a house would have 8 rooms with brown walls because that was the color that was on sale.
Life would be very empty and dreary without a lady`s point of view and perspective.

Amen brother...amen.

You two MUST be single. Just wait until you get roped into endless discussions about feature walls, matte v gloss paint, if silk wallpaper is fashionable anymore.

It won't be all rainbows and butterflies then. Oh noooooo

LOL... and what is wrong with brown?