Guys...what kind of flirting do you like?

BrownEyedG1rl

What can a girl do that will let you know for sure that she is into you? Without it being COMPLETELY obvious to other people.

I will be back into the dating scene sometime...sooner or later (starting the divorce process), and I feel like a newbie. I haven't dated since high school. Thanks!

Sorry if this is a completely stupid question. I thought it would fun at least. :bigsmile:

ItsCasey

This is an excellent question, not a stupid one. As a woman who refuses to ask men on dates, I've always wondered myself what is the best way to let a man know you are interested without being too forward. I know not all men are the same in this regard, but if you're the kind of man who WANTS to be the pursuer, what tips you off that a woman is interested?

BrettPGH

As a man I can tell you, we like any. Any friendly attention being paid to a man is generally all a guy should need to take it from there and ask a girl out. If you are smiling, laughing and seem generally interested a guy will ask you out. Provided that he's attracted to you, available and isn't too scared to ask. Don't go over the top. Don't smile like a crazy woman and don't laugh at every word out of a guys mouth.

Just be yourself. That way you'll meet a guy who likes you for you.

Best of luck.

liftingbro

To be honest a lot of the same things women like, men like.

A compliment, some physical contact (not groping obviously but guys would be more likely to like that anyway).

I always like when a woman made it obvious to me that she was interested in me. It could be small hints like running a hand down my arm, being a little more touchy feelly than a non-interested woman would be, or perhaps a complement on how I look or about my personality. Not to mention if you know each other previously, it can easy to tell by how a woman talks to you VS other guys you both hang around with. For instance when I worked with a woman once, I knew she liked me just for the fact that she smiled more and was more bubbly around me than the other guys in the office. If it's a stranger it's a little more difficult to do without being obvious.

liftingbro

This is an excellent question, not a stupid one. As a woman who refuses to ask men on dates, I've always wondered myself what is the best way to let a man know you are interested without being too forward. I know not all men are the same in this regard, but if you're the kind of man who WANTS to be the pursuer, what tips you off that a woman is interested?

idk, I was only ever asked out by a woman once and I thought that was hot as hell. Women have the best of the deal in this regard.

Scott613

Idk how to flirt. I usually just show up and take my pick.......haha jk

chocolateandvodka

Cosmo - a lady divorceé's best friend. Filter through all the teenybopper bs and there's actually some decent stuff in there.

voluptas63

I've found the forward approach to letting them know you're interested is enjoyed the most. My current relationship began with "Dude. You're hot. Let's go bang." one year later....

:drinker:

Note: We waited until the third date:laugh:

jacksonpt

Having recently gotten back into the dating game after a divorce, my advice is simple... don't play games. If you're interested, why not just say so? This isn't high school. I also think that if you're being friendly and geniune and having fun and asking to hang out (or whatever dating is like in your area), then he'll know. Be yourself, put yourself out there, and have fun with it.

Good luck in the short term, and in the long term.

Scorpiomom222

I'd just give my number and seriously, if they are interested and man enough, you'll get a call on a date.

d2footballJRC

A man can tell all by the look the girl gives him. Your eyes tell it all. That or small little brushes on his arm/hand while talking. Pretty much sends the flag up to the guy.

BeeElMarvin

I've found the forward approach to letting them know you're interested is enjoyed the most. My current relationship began with "Dude. You're hot. Let's go bang."

This usually works. We're simple creatures, you know.

pa_jorg

I need to start dating again too after a long relationship, so thanks for asking the question!

Carl01

A smile accompanied by a long look in the eyes.
Nothing to overt but a light touch on the arm or shoulder.

Nice,sweet and much appreciated.

myofibril

What can a girl do that will let you know for sure that she is into you?

I wouldn't want to know for sure if a girl was into me. I think the mystery, the wondering, the "is she, isn't she" part adds excitement and spice to the interaction.

Personally, I think the best way to flirt is to give a man your attention, hold his gaze, smile, light touching (love that) position yourself close to him, laugh, be relaxed with him. Lots of non verbal stuff. What you say isn't so important.

If all else fails just go sit in his lap. He'll get the message...

bigdawg025

Forward and honest... pretty simple. Why do us guys always have to do all the dirty work??? Mystery and not knowing and all those little games are highly overrated.

myofibril

Why do us guys always have to do all the dirty work???

Because we are guys and risk taking is part of our nature?

When I was single I never expected a woman to make the play. I didn't mind if she did but I considered it my job. I approach, I initiate, I do the work, she decides. What was the reward for all this risk taking and work? Pretty much never being without female attention or a date unless I wanted it for many years.

Is it unfair? Sure. It that the way it is? Pretty much.

RachelH25

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I will be back into the dating scene sometime...sooner or later (starting the divorce process), and I feel like a newbie. I haven't dated since high school. Thanks!

Totally know the feeling! I've been thinking about starting the divorce process myself and feel alittle rusty.

Scorpiomom222

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I will be back into the dating scene sometime...sooner or later (starting the divorce process), and I feel like a newbie. I haven't dated since high school. Thanks!

Totally know the feeling! I've been thinking about starting the divorce process myself and feel alittle rusty.

voluptas63

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I will be back into the dating scene sometime...sooner or later (starting the divorce process), and I feel like a newbie. I haven't dated since high school. Thanks!

Totally know the feeling! I've been thinking about starting the divorce process myself and feel alittle rusty.

Keep the picture of your *kitten* in lacy panties up and you're bound to get a few dates.

Scorpiomom222

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I will be back into the dating scene sometime...sooner or later (starting the divorce process), and I feel like a newbie. I haven't dated since high school. Thanks!

Totally know the feeling! I've been thinking about starting the divorce process myself and feel alittle rusty.

Keep the picture of your *kitten* in lacy panties up and you're bound to get a few dates.

I was gonna say, I hope this isn't how you flirt, especially as a married woman.

mikeyml

Lots of eye contact
A big smile
Lots of laughter
Some blushing
Upbeat personality (fun to be around, keeps up in conversation, happy)

or...you know...just stick boobs in his face

voluptas63

or...you know...just stick boobs in his face

How'd you find out my secret!?

myofibril

or...you know...just stick boobs in his face

How'd you find out my secret!?

Hahahah...that's another one.

I oftern wondered if it was just lack of space when you are in a bar and you feel a women rub her breasts against your arm, chest or back as she passes. Apparently it isn't...

voluptas63

or...you know...just stick boobs in his face

How'd you find out my secret!?

Hahahah...that's another one.

I oftern wondered if it was just lack of space when you are in a bar and you feel a women rub her breasts against your arm, chest or back as she passes. Apparently it isn't...

Well, if you're the only two people in the bar... I figure it's safe to assume...

mikeyml

or...you know...just stick boobs in his face

How'd you find out my secret!?

It took years to figure out. The power of cleavage over the male mind is almost frightening.

Scorpiomom222

or...you know...just stick boobs in his face

How'd you find out my secret!?

It took years to figure out. The power of cleavage over the male mind is almost frightening.

Don't worry, we are all very aware of the powers our jugs hold over you. It's in the way guys can't carry on a conversation without finding a pair to stare at.

kapeluza

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I will be back into the dating scene sometime...sooner or later (starting the divorce process), and I feel like a newbie. I haven't dated since high school. Thanks!

Totally know the feeling! I've been thinking about starting the divorce process myself and feel alittle rusty.

Keep the picture of your *kitten* in lacy panties up and you're bound to get a few dates.

I was gonna say, I hope this isn't how you flirt, especially as a married woman.

Ditto... :noway:

ItsCasey

Why do us guys always have to do all the dirty work???

Because we are guys and risk taking is part of our nature?

When I was single I never expected a woman to make the play. I didn't mind if she did but I considered it my job. I approach, I initiate, I do the work, she decides. What was the reward for all this risk taking and work? Pretty much never being without female attention or a date unless I wanted it for many years.

Is it unfair? Sure. It that the way it is? Pretty much.

Exactly.

And think of it this way ... if you're a man, you get to pick. Some women will say yes, some won't, but the choice of woman is ALWAYS yours. You meet a woman you're really into, you just ask her out. If I meet a man I'm really into, I have to turn on the charm and hope he's not totally clueless.

Yes, I know I could just ask him out, but that would be setting an artificial tone for whatever relationship might develop from it because I am not looking for a man who needs me to make the first move. I don't ask men out, and I don't give them my phone number without prompting. Usually, I don't even give it out when asked ... If I'm interested, I give a guy my name and tell him if he wants to contact me, he'll figure it out. If he tracks me down, I know he's serious. If he doesn't, I know I wasn't that big of a deal to him.

The average man might be turned off by that, but I'm not looking for an average man, so that's okay.

myofibril

Well, if you're the only two people in the bar... I figure it's safe to assume...

True, especially if you are lying on the pool table at the time. Long story...

What about something more subtle. Say you are standing at the bar, waiting to be served. It is relatively empty and a lady somes and stands close to you whilst she waits to get served as well. Coincidence or is that lurking with intent?

Scorpiomom222

Well, if you're the only two people in the bar... I figure it's safe to assume...

True, especially if you are lying on the pool table at the time. Long story...

What about something more subtle. Say you are standing at the bar, waiting to be served. It is relatively empty and a lady somes and stands close to you whilst she waits to get served as well. Coincidence or is that lurking with intent?

She wants you to buy her a drink. A man interested in a woman is a sure fire way to get a free buzz.