Stay-At-Home Moms 12/15-12/21

jawaria

MM i hope you feel better! just take it easy and relax!

I need strong will and lots of motivation...I am not sure what's wrong with me! for a week now i have not excercised at all, can't wake up in the morning, and once i do wake up i want to go back to sleep. i feel lazy and tired!
And it bothers me bcoz if i dont workout in the morning i can't al day with my son bothering me. and i feel terrible bcoz i have been too tiredv to even get up and get y older son ready for school...my hubby is either getting him ready or he does it himself...which is ok but i cant get up to even hug him or give him breakfast...the poor cgild just turned 5...i dont want him to have a traumatic childhood! and it's bothering me more bcoz i am a morning person and i like beingsuper organized. i enjoy waking up and working out and my hubby gives the kids a bath...and after that i love having a breakfast together b4 his bus comes and hubby leaves...
this morning hubby woke me up and left for work and then at 8 my son woke me up saying he needs to get to the bus stop...it broke my heart, he was already dressed...clothes he picked out from the laundry basket...
i feel like an awful mother! what should i do?
sorry for the vent!

Lyn_Matthews

jawaria you are not an awful mother. Maybe you are getting sick and your body is trying to fight it off. Maybe its a change in weather, maybe it's exhaustion...it could be a number of things but don't beat yourself up over it. I know how you feel, I used to sleep in everyday and my son (6) would make his own breakfast and snack because I wouldn't get up until 10 or later. I finally realized that if I didn't want the feelings of guilty daily I had to change my routine. If your normal routine is to get up early then maybe it's just a phase, I'm sure it will pass. Stay positive!

I too need to vent for just a moment....my email server has been down for about a day and a half!! Dang it I need tracking numbers and my Hungry Girl emails and updates from family!!!! It's driving me crazy. How can a major email server like Lycos just go down for 24 hrs plus???? I swear this happens once or twice a year. Maybe it's time to get a new email....I hate to do that I've had this one for 6 years

Marla64

Welcome Kandace!

Hey everyone! I hope everyone is staying warm. It's another cold one here.
Well, today didn't start off to great for my body, but Alex went with my friend and I can rest now. The midwife wants to check my hcG levels and my progesterone levels again next week to make sure everything is going okay. Now I need to come up with $100.
I'm going to be laying around watching TV again and working on my cross stitch. I didn't know I'd get addicted to Law and Order. Ha! I need to shower but I'm scared to with the way things are going this morning. But I can hardly stand myself. :noway: :laugh:
Have a wonderful day all! I will check back in later and talk more about myself.
MM

Law and Order RULES, MM-- oh, my-- that Sam Waterston-- I could just eat him up.

Quiet house right now-- we have homeschooling neighbors with 4 kids very close in age to my 4 younger ones-- so they were invited to a tea party for Christmas. Off they went, dressed in their finest, 2 doors down to their friends-- it almost got me sniffly it was so precious! (then again, I'm hormonal-- doesn't take much)

Baby's sleeping, eldest in school, hubby and 13 year old gone-- nap, exercise, yap or work? Decisions-- decisions-- I think I have it narrowed down to exercise/work. But, I'm not getting enough sleep so should I nap? Hmmmmmmmmmmm--

Oh, well this is getting me nowhere-- hope all are well--

Lyn_Matthews

Marla for those of us who don't know you too well, would you mind breaking down the sex and ages of all your kids? I know you are a busy woman so when you get some time. I grew up in a biggish (5 kids) family and I always felt bad for kids that didn't have a brother or sister. There was a family up the street from us that had 8 kids and I thought that was crazy...how did the mother survive? How do you survive?? I want one more child. I think 3 is all I could handle financially and mentally. But I do want to take in foster kids when we get a bigger home....hopefully in the next year.

mechanicmom

I got a nice surprise! Our friends are keeping Alex until DH gets off work, which is going to be about 5:30! Wow! I am going to miss the little guy. :laugh: It has been so nice to rest and get up only when I need to. I do feel so much better when I get to rest for long periods of time. :happy:
MM

3babybeans

I know that Marla's clan ranges from a 1 year old little boy to an 18 year old man cub. I think there are 4 boys & 5 girls in there, but I might have that flipped. I hope you opted for the nap, Marla!!! I need one badly!

Lyn - I'm an only child & it has its pros & cons. Pros is that my mom & dad were there for me WHENEVER & WHEREVER I needed them (and continue to be). Cons, were obviously I don't have anybody that I grew up with that's still with me. My very best (and oldest) friend & I met when we were 4 & she has 4 younger sisters. They were my "weekend" sisters, along with another friend who had an older sister & a younger brother. After spending weekends with them & with my cousins, I was thankful to go home to my non-shared room & play with whatever toys I wanted to, among other things. BUT, now that I'm older, it does kind of suck. I still have my best friend & she's as close to a sister as I'll ever have, but looking down the road to when my parents are gone...its just me. :frown: My parents tried their very hardest not to make me the "typical" only child by making sure that I was always around other kids & that I wasn't "spoiled"...I think they did a good job. Everyone that meets me is surprised by the fact that I'm a singleton, not sure why. There is a stigma attached to it, that's for sure.

Jawaria - I don't think you're an awful mother. Everyone is allowed to go through phases like this. you just need to pick yourself up, brush yourself off & start over tomorrow. If you just aren't feeling right, it never hurts to go talk to a doctor or counselor, either. Being a SAHM kind of strips a woman of her identity outside of "mom" sometimes & I think that takes a toll on the whole motivation factor, too. *hugs* I hope you feel better soon! Take solice in knowing that you are not alone!

MM - glad Alex is having a play date today! Hope you got your shower in & I will be praying for the $ situation to get your tests done without any financial worry.

Roni - good to have you back! I'm glad you're doing well!

Lori - YAY for calories!!! Woo hoo! I hope Harley's having a good nap day & you're getting your walking in!

Supermom - good luck with exams! my husband's last one is tomorrow & I couldn't be more thrilled! What are you in school for?

Katie - Hey, lady! Long time, no see! Mack is getting big!

I'm sure I forgot some people, but had a second so I wanted to check in before I went to drown in more freakin' cookie batter. ARGH!

3babybeans

hello everyone. I'm new to fitnesspal, but i too am a stay at home mom. I will be starting college on Jan. 12th and will be going to school 2 days a week. I've gained 80 lbs. over the last 6-7 years and i'm trying to lose 40 by june 19th. Hubby and I have recently joined a gym and I lost 5 lbs. but it must've been water weight because i'm having a tough time losing now. I'm looking for some simple tasty healthy recipes for the pickiest family lol. I'm trying to change my lifestyle and I can finally say that I went to the grocery store and stuck to my list and didn't buy any junk for the first time yesterday. I'm so proud of that lol, but i obviously need some help. Any suggestions would be great, thanks.

Kandace

Duh *smacks forehead* I KNEW I wanted to welcome you to the group, too!

Good luck with your weight loss & fitness goals! I hope you like this group as much as we all do! :flowerforyou: The recipe thread has an AWESOME recipe for meatloaf muffins that my boys LOVE that are very reasonable in calories & fat. There's some really good kid-friendly recipes on there. HTH!

3babybeans

Loki - How could I forget you on my first run through!? GEEZE! YAY for the plateau breaking! I do, however, think you sent it to me! BAH! Keep up the great work! How's Darrell doing? Has he recovered from the pneumonia?

Dana - How's your son doing coping lately? I hope you're all holding up well!

Allenhm - how did the interviews go? What were they for anyways? I saw that you said your husband works/worked in the movie industry. What does he do? I have so many questions b/c, for some reason, this industry really interests me! I don't know why, it just always has. Sorry if I'm annoying! LOL

jawaria

thanks drevansmom and 3BB! i feel better and am thinking it's just a phase! i've been eating badly too...But i'm going to get organized so tomorrow i can have a fresh start! i hope this phase goes away soon! i am praying and hoping tthat it's not my postpartum...winters are depressing to begin with....and yes staying home does that to us!!! I think i'm also having a hard time bcoz i feel i'm t 5 to feel kinda stuck on these last 10 pounds! i just need to lose atleast 5 to feel better and see some hope!
thanks again guys!
3BB what is ur husband in school for? good luck supermom! my hubby just had his last final yesterday! atleast until jan he'll be home 3 days a week!

Marla64

I know that Marla's clan ranges from a 1 year old little boy to an 18 year old man cub. I think there are 4 boys & 5 girls in there, but I might have that flipped. I hope you opted for the nap, Marla!!! I need one badly!

Lyn - I'm an only child & it has its pros & cons. Pros is that my mom & dad were there for me WHENEVER & WHEREVER I needed them (and continue to be). Cons, were obviously I don't have anybody that I grew up with that's still with me. My very best (and oldest) friend & I met when we were 4 & she has 4 younger sisters. They were my "weekend" sisters, along with another friend who had an older sister & a younger brother. After spending weekends with them & with my cousins, I was thankful to go home to my non-shared room & play with whatever toys I wanted to, among other things. BUT, now that I'm older, it does kind of suck. I still have my best friend & she's as close to a sister as I'll ever have, but looking down the road to when my parents are gone...its just me. :frown: My parents tried their very hardest not to make me the "typical" only child by making sure that I was always around other kids & that I wasn't "spoiled"...I think they did a good job. Everyone that meets me is surprised by the fact that I'm a singleton, not sure why. There is a stigma attached to it, that's for sure.

Jawaria - I don't think you're an awful mother. Everyone is allowed to go through phases like this. you just need to pick yourself up, brush yourself off & start over tomorrow. If you just aren't feeling right, it never hurts to go talk to a doctor or counselor, either. Being a SAHM kind of strips a woman of her identity outside of "mom" sometimes & I think that takes a toll on the whole motivation factor, too. *hugs* I hope you feel better soon! Take solice in knowing that you are not alone!

MM - glad Alex is having a play date today! Hope you got your shower in & I will be praying for the $ situation to get your tests done without any financial worry.

Roni - good to have you back! I'm glad you're doing well!

Lori - YAY for calories!!! Woo hoo! I hope Harley's having a good nap day & you're getting your walking in!

Supermom - good luck with exams! my husband's last one is tomorrow & I couldn't be more thrilled! What are you in school for?

Katie - Hey, lady! Long time, no see! Mack is getting big!

I'm sure I forgot some people, but had a second so I wanted to check in before I went to drown in more freakin' cookie batter. ARGH!

Right you are Sara, my dear-- 4 boys, 5 girls-- 18 year old "man cub" ha!, 16 year old girl, 15 year old girl, 13 year old boy, 11 year old girl, 9 year old girl, 6 year old girl, 2 year old boy and 1 year old boy-- that's our brood presently. We homeschool most of them, with the exception of eldest who's due to graduate in June. He was a public school experiment that we weren't thrilled with, but he was so close to graduation we decided to let him finish.

I opted to work, then my 18 year old, who's the biggest baby of all, came home from school begging me to make him a fried egg for his sandwich-- sheesh. So, I'm just now getting back to work.

And no, Loki didn't send you her plateau, she sent it to me-- but I'm hoping I'm breaking out of it. I was down 4 pounds this morning from my 7 pounds of hormonal bloatativity-- -- so it's on its way out. Tonight I think I'll taebo with the 13 year old son-- he doesn't like the turbo jam-- a little embarassing for him to bust a move and shake his booty.

Later, friends!!!!!

3babybeans

Oh, I hope you see the rest gone in the am! *hugs* I'm glad you're still able to check in with us, Marla. I was seriously having withdrawl from your happy little, huggy smiles. :bigsmile:

jawaria

Marla i do live on a diff planet for never noticing you had a nice big family! I come fromk a huge dfamily! it's awesome to see large families nowadays! I want atleast 6 kids! i have 6 siblings and 45 cousins! lol! Love It!

supermom1114

Thanks everyone for the good luck, I took my Human Genetics final this morning.. dont feel all that great about, but Ive never felt good about tests in that class because my professor is an old fart who words stuff in the oddest ways. My Calculus final is this evening and Im feeling pretty good about that... Im only online because I'm pumping in one of the lactation rooms on campus so I decided to take a break from studying... and Thank Goodness my school has lactation rooms or I'd be in some pain, lol..

3bb- I'm going to school to major in Biology and minor in Chemistry and go on to med school for Genetics

Welcome Kandace!!! I'm not at home right now but I've have some healthy recipes that ya'll might like so I'll post them later tonight : )

I hope everyones day is going well, I've gotta get back to studying but I do have announce I fit into my skinny pre-pregnancy jeans today!! Yay!! I'm only down a pound but still I'm happy!! I was only fitting into my prepreggo jeans that I wore when I was bloated but today I'm proudly sportin my "skinny" jeans and only a small muffin top, but my stomach is still sorta flabby, ugh, and I HATE stretchmarks, blech....

ok ok now I'm really getting offline... ta ta

jawaria

supermom that's awesome! good luck in ur pusue of med school! are u almost done with ur undergrad? It's a tough road especially with a baby but i know firsthand that it's doable!
Incase u guys are wondering, no dont have a life

Marla64

Thanks everyone for the good luck, I took my Human Genetics final this morning.. dont feel all that great about, but Ive never felt good about tests in that class because my professor is an old fart who words stuff in the oddest ways. My Calculus final is this evening and Im feeling pretty good about that... Im only online because I'm pumping in one of the lactation rooms on campus so I decided to take a break from studying... and Thank Goodness my school has lactation rooms or I'd be in some pain, lol..

3bb- I'm going to school to major in Biology and minor in Chemistry and go on to med school for Genetics

Welcome Kandace!!! I'm not at home right now but I've have some healthy recipes that ya'll might like so I'll post them later tonight : )

I hope everyones day is going well, I've gotta get back to studying but I do have announce I fit into my skinny pre-pregnancy jeans today!! Yay!! I'm only down a pound but still I'm happy!! I was only fitting into my prepreggo jeans that I wore when I was bloated but today I'm proudly sportin my "skinny" jeans and only a small muffin top, but my stomach is still sorta flabby, ugh, and I HATE stretchmarks, blech....

ok ok now I'm really getting offline... ta ta

{{ Told you she'd be back today -- hee hee-- }}

loreeb18

Lori - YAY for calories!!! Woo hoo! I hope Harley's having a good nap day & you're getting your walking in!

She did! She fell asleep so I laid her in her pack-n-play. She stayed asleep (yea!). I walked on the treadmill for half an hour and did 20 minutes on the excercise ball. Then I addressed and stamped all of our Christmas card envelopes.

Harley ended up sleeping for like 2 1/2 hours!! That's the longest she's ever slept in her pack-n-play. (I actually started getting worried at the end, afraid that something was wrong. I was actually glad when she woke up and I heard her start fussing.) I think she's in a growing phase with all the sleeping. Plus she's up to drinking 5-6 ounces every 3-4 hours instead of 4 ounces.

Here's the pics we used for our Christmas cards.








I hate my smile in the family picture so we put it as the smaller one on the cards. It looks like I'm growling. I so don't smile like that. :noway:

3babybeans

OMG, your dog is hilarious. The one with the reindeer antlers! I LOVE IT! Y'all are just too stinkin' cute!

loreeb18

Georgia is the big one. DH's friend is taking the picture and holding a milk bone. That's why she's sitting still. DH is holding Luey Belle. She has antlers on too. They're just falling off so it's hard to see them. Georgia is 113 pounds (I joke that she weighs the same as a Hollywood celebrity.) and Luey weighs 14. They're so funny together.

katiechakos

Loree, that dog is AWESOME! I have a boxer and she has several different little costumes. Love it!

You guys, I'm so excited to report that I weighed in today and am 6 pounds from my all time goal!!! YAY! I have to admit, though, that since I had Mack, my body is different and all of my clothes fit now. It's weird. Whatever, I'll take it! Maybe it's my HUGE boobies from breast feeding! HA HA!

We're heading to Montana on Monday for Christmas. My family all lives there. I'm really looking forward to going, though it's below zero there! We have 80 degrees here in Florida, so I am not excited about the icy weather. I'll take lots of pictures of Mack in the snow!

Hope everyone is having an awesome day!

little_wolfie

I'm kind of bummed. I made it down to the 60s (as in 268) and then today I gained 2 lbs. I didn't go over my calories this week and I've been really good so what gives? Sigh.

DH has a work party tonight so I have to go be social ewwwww. I'm having the fish for dinner because it seemed like the healthiest option (between steak, pasta and fish...) but now I'm all freaked that I'm going to gain again, dangit.

supermom1114

ok pumping one last time before my Cal test... I feel pretty good about the content of the test but they never give us enough time so you have to rush, ugh


jawaria- I'm a sophmore right now so two and a half years to go and then med school. Im glad to know its doable because at the moment its exhausting lol

marla- yes you were right, I couldnt resist

loree- your dogs are SO cute! I wish we had our Christmas lights up, we dont even have the tree up yet, just cant find the time

wolfie- Do you weigh yourself at the same time of day each time? that can make a difference and so can water intake or if you just ate a big meal, or maybe you built some muscle up,

Marla64

Hey-- Supermom-- been there-- I got grounded-- :laugh: from my hubbela because I was spending so much time here. Had to get it in perspective, and then make a slow DISCIPLINED return-- ahem-- like a grown up that I am. (am not, ARE TOO!!!!!!!!)

Lyn_Matthews

Marla you crack me up!

Supermom-good luck on that Calc final. I hated Calc!

Katie-TAKE WARM CLOTHES-I'm in Idaho and it's FREEZING cold here. I can't imagine sub zero temps.

Anyone watch Biggest Loser Finale?? LOVIN IT!!!

Okay gotta go now. Kitchen to clean, baby to put to bed, etc etc etc. Night!

little_wolfie

I took a long walk and have been doing the 100 pushups program so I'm hoping it was muscle gain, but I still wasn't happy to see the 70s again after I'd promised never to see them ever ever!! But I'll probably be up there tomorrow too because tonight was DH's work party, and even though I ate mostly healthy things I ate way too much of them. Oh well. The only "bad" things I ate were probably the sauce that was on my fish and there was this chocolate cake for dessert and....

This is party week for us - ARGH!! Tomorrow shouldn't be too bad since it's a breakfast food party and I don't like breakfast foods. Then Saturday we have a wedding reception and I ordered the pasta... and then Sunday is like a potluck thing. Oh and Saturday is my mom's bake-off crazy day. Oh food, why must you be so vicious?

katiechakos

I took a long walk and have been doing the 100 pushups program so I'm hoping it was muscle gain, but I still wasn't happy to see the 70s again after I'd promised never to see them ever ever!! But I'll probably be up there tomorrow too because tonight was DH's work party, and even though I ate mostly healthy things I ate way too much of them. Oh well. The only "bad" things I ate were probably the sauce that was on my fish and there was this chocolate cake for dessert and....

This is party week for us - ARGH!! Tomorrow shouldn't be too bad since it's a breakfast food party and I don't like breakfast foods. Then Saturday we have a wedding reception and I ordered the pasta... and then Sunday is like a potluck thing. Oh and Saturday is my mom's bake-off crazy day. Oh food, why must you be so vicious?

I heard someone say once, "nothing tastes as good as thin feels". I always tell myself that as I'm starring at the tempting foods that we all love! Just try to show yourself some grace and don't beat up on yourself too badly. It's the holiday season and so difficult to stay on track. Remember that we're all in this together and it's one foot in front of the other.

loreeb18

Harley decided to wake up at 4:15 this morning. :grumble: WTH?! I changed her dirty diaper and gave her a bottle then I laid her back in her crib. About 20 minutes later, she was crying again. Turns out she had another dirty diaper. After I changed her and she drank a liitle more of her bottle, I laid her down and that time she fell back asleep. She woke me up around 8:30 talking to her mobile or as we call it - her friends Bug, Bug, Snail, and Frog. :happy:

I told Dave - DH - that I'm never "off". I'm always either working or "on call". He said "Do you really want to be "off" though? Because I'm sure Grandma would take her for a weekend." I said "No, no. I was just saying." :laugh:

I need to make sugar cookies today for Christmas at Dave's parents this weekend and I'll ice and sprinkle them tomorrow. But I have to wait until this evening because I forgot to get eggs at the store the other day and there is no way I'm driving on the slippery icy roads today.

Lyn_Matthews

Morning ladies.

Lori-I know the on call feeling. Even when I am away from the baby for a couple hours I'm watching the clock and thinking "ok she ate at xxx time, so she'll be hungry around xxx. Did I remember to put a spit up rag in her diaper bag? Did I grab her toys?....." Like grandma doesn't know how to entertain a baby geez.... Being a mom is a 24/7 job whether we like it or not. Good luck with your cookies.

DH got off work early yesterday so I got to go to the grocery store ALL BY MYSELF. It may sound silly but it was wonderful. I bought so many healthy choices because I had time to read labels and compare products. Wow. We need to figure out how I can do that more often :happy: While I was at the store DH got some presents wrapped so there's some more stress off my shoulders. Hopefully we are going to get our tree tonight....really need a place to put the wrapped presents. We need to finish putting up our decorations as well.

Well my daughter is still sleeping (she had a rough night) and I feel like I'm going to explode so I gotta run.

Have a great day ladies!

3babybeans

I want to be off, Lori! Do you think Dave's parents would take my kids for the weekend? PLEASE?! I know that feeling all too well, though. It gets old.:grumble:

Lyn - the grocery store by myself sounds like heaven right now. I'm to the point where I drag 2 carts around the store & people stare at me (more than normal). Being able to zip through w/o having to stop every 5 seconds to give someone else another freakin' fishy cracker would be devine! Don't explode! :huh:

Wolfie - Don't feel too horrible about it. You're making changes one day at a time & one slice of chocolate cake isn't going to trash the whole thing. You have to learn how to incorporate a little indulgance in your life & that's a good place to start! I know I'm certainly not planning on living without chocolate cake for all eternity!

Supermom - How did calc. go?

katiechakos

Isn't it the truth??? I mean our lives change instantly over night the second the baby is born. When I was pregnant I still had all the freedom in the world, but now it's 24/7. He's 3 and 1/2 months old and I wonder "how does such a tiny little person have such control over me!!??" I swear, the planning is crazy. I know that every day my goal is to get to the gym around 12 or 12:30 and then possibly do one more errand on my way home, like stop at the grocery store... but sometimes there is a melt down and we have to go straight home and then I have a really hard time talking myself into going back out! My husband is talking about us having more kids and my head starts spinning just trying to fathom it!!! HA HA! It's so awesome, though. Mack has started laughing and smiling and there is NOTHING better than that. He's so adorable that sometimes it brings tears to my eyes.

supermom1114

Good Morning Ya'll!!!!

So the Cal final went... ok.. I felt SO rushed and I still didnt get done ugh... they give us an hour and fifty minutes for 20 questions, 8 are multiple choice and 12 are free response, and 3 of those 12 have 3 parts and one has like 8 different things you have to do and then sketch the curve.. ugh if you dont know the stuff 100% and you have to stop and think for five minutes you're screwed

and I ended up going over my calories too... had to have a starbucks to stay awake since I was up studying all night and yea, that blew it... but today is going ok so far, Aydens been sleeping a whole lot, way more than normal, from 430-930 yesterday then he woke up and ate then went back to sleep at 1030 woke up again at 230, ate, went back to sleep by 3, woke up at 530 and ate again, was awake for about an hour and then fell back asleep, woke up around 930 and ate, fell asleep for another hour or so and now hes awake again and playing in his bouncer.... I dunno maybe hes on a growth spurt or maybe this is going to be his new routine, sleeping more at night, we'll have to see what happens today