if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all.
BeautyFromPain
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So many more rude ppl are making there ways onto the message board.
You have MAYBE half of the picture, so what gives you the right to be so freaking rude?
kthx
You have MAYBE half of the picture, so what gives you the right to be so freaking rude?
kthx
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I agree xx0
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Not necessary. We're all here for the same goal.....let's all support each other and BE NICE!!!!!!! :flowerforyou:
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Well said!0
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Eh. I disagree. Some people think expressing different opinions from theirs is the same as being "rude" and is "not saying anything nice". I say communicate how you want to communicate, as long as it's functional and effective and/or thought provoking.
But that's just me.
If I only ever heard from people who agree with me and kiss my butt and are scared to tell me the truth, even if it's harsh, I'd probably puke.0 -
I agree.....0
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Agreed. Never any reason to be rude.
Harsh, maybe, but never rude.0 -
Well said. Treat others like YOU would like to be treated.0
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I would want someone to tell me when I am wrong about something or being stupid..whether it be in a rude way or not. It is there intentions that count, right?
Not everyone can express themselves like a Hallmark card.
And just as you think rude folks are coming to the board, I think overly sensitive folks are coming onto the board. Sensitive folks who can't or won't face the facts that what they are doing or have been doing is just plain wrong..instead they want someone to coddle them and tell them "good job, keep your chin, it will all change" when it won't because they have no clue what they are doing.0 -
Eh. I disagree. Some people think expressing different opinions from theirs is the same as being "rude" and is "not saying anything nice". I say communicate how you want to communicate, as long as it's functional and effective and/or thought provoking.
But that's just me.
If I only ever heard from people who agree with me and kiss my butt and are scared to tell me the truth, even if it's harsh, I'd probably puke.
Totally agree with this. There is no point in telling someone that they are wonderful if they are doing something completely stupid. There is far too much of that on MFP. I don't think I would be overweight if people occassionally reminded me that I was lazy fat *kitten*. Sometimes the truth hurts. Say it like it is I say.0 -
Eh. I disagree. Some people think expressing different opinions from theirs is the same as being "rude" and is "not saying anything nice". I say communicate how you want to communicate, as long as it's functional and effective and/or thought provoking.
But that's just me.
If I only ever heard from people who agree with me and kiss my butt and are scared to tell me the truth, even if it's harsh, I'd probably puke.
Totally agree with this. There is no point in telling someone that they are wonderful if they are doing something completely stupid. There is far too much of that on MFP. I don't think I would be overweight if people occassionally reminded me that I was lazy fat *kitten*. Sometimes the truth hurts. Say it like it is I say.
Dude I was told that I have a SKILLS SHORTAGE? When he doesn't know anything about me. That's a bit different to constructive criticism if you ask me.0 -
I think constructive criticism is essential, but I read a post last week where one guy quoted a girl, then just said ""You're an idiot". further down commented on how stupid people most people were.... that wasn't constructive, it was obstructive to free debate and just plain mean.
Everyone is entitled to their opinion, and if you aren't wiling to listen to "the other side" you shouldn't be asking for advice. But I draw the line with those who's desire to be seen as better than everyone else means they degrade people in public. It's just not cool!0 -
I AGREE. no u dont want some one agreeing with u all the time but there is a way to say things and some people have no tact and are rude. yes some people are more sensitive than others but were here to support eachother not put eachother down.0
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I think constructive criticism is essential, but I read a post last week where one guy quoted a girl, then just said ""You're an idiot". further down commented on how stupid people most people were.... that wasn't constructive, it was obstructive to free debate and just plain mean.
Everyone is entitled to their opinion, and if you aren't wiling to listen to "the other side" you shouldn't be asking for advice. But I draw the line with those who's desire to be seen as better than everyone else means they degrade people in public. It's just not cool!
It's not I'm not willing to listen to both sides, I am... it's being told I have a "skills shortage" when they know nothing about me and that is why I can not find a high paying job - after just losing my last one in the recession? WTH0 -
I would want someone to tell me when I am wrong about something or being stupid..whether it be in a rude way or not. It is there intentions that count, right?
Not everyone can express themselves like a Hallmark card.
And just as you think rude folks are coming to the board, I think overly sensitive folks are coming onto the board. Sensitive folks who can't or won't face the facts that what they are doing or have been doing is just plain wrong..instead they want someone to coddle them and tell them "good job, keep your chin, it will all change" when it won't because they have no clue what they are doing.
Yeah I am sensitive, I have depression - so what is that any of your business? No? Don't like what something write you can simply not reply rather than being rude can you not.0 -
I read your other post. It sounds like you are going through a hard time right now. I hope things get better for you very soon.
In the mean time, since you're very sensitive right now, you may want to consider not posting about those things on the forums. You have to have a thick skin on the internet and a diary or journal might be a better place for all these personal thoughts. That way you get the therapeutic benefits of purging some of those upsetting thoughts without having to deal with other peoples' reactions.
I hope this helps. Good luck.0 -
The subject heading made me smile. That was my first grade teachers favorite phrase and it's stayed with me all these years.
I feel that sometimes the rule with the internet is opposite 'if you can't say anything nasty, don't say anything at all.'0 -
Eh. I disagree. Some people think expressing different opinions from theirs is the same as being "rude" and is "not saying anything nice". I say communicate how you want to communicate, as long as it's functional and effective and/or thought provoking.
But that's just me.
If I only ever heard from people who agree with me and kiss my butt and are scared to tell me the truth, even if it's harsh, I'd probably puke.
This....Although some peoples wording is off, but if the message is the same just in a different wording then bring it on. Thats what makes us all humans is the difference of opinions. Some people wnat to be cuddles and have things sugar coated, some don't believe in that.....
BUT.....by you making this post, shows that you are the same way as the other people. Your tone was really hostile, so how is it ok for you to speak to all the "haters" out there, but they can't speak to you that way?
Life is a give and take thing. if you want to have people treat you a certain way, you must treat others that way also....too bad we can't all just get along, even with the difference of opnions0 -
\I would want someone to tell me when I am wrong about something or being stupid..whether it be in a rude way or not. It is there intentions that count, right?
Not everyone can express themselves like a Hallmark card.
And just as you think rude folks are coming to the board, I think overly sensitive folks are coming onto the board. Sensitive folks who can't or won't face the facts that what they are doing or have been doing is just plain wrong..instead they want someone to coddle them and tell them "good job, keep your chin, it will all change" when it won't because they have no clue what they are doing.
Yeah I am sensitive, I have depression - so what is that any of your business? No? Don't like what something write you can simply not reply rather than being rude can you not.
Helpful hint: If you post ANYTHING on the internet, it makes it EVERYONES business...just saying....if you want things to be private, talk to a therapist. they are bound by dr-patient confedintiality to not talk about your case to ANYONE, so you can securely tell them ANYTHING you want to, and they can help you deal with it in a healthy way.
I have never suffered from chronic depression, but i feel for you, it must not be easy.0 -
Yeah I am sensitive, I have depression - so what is that any of your business? No? Don't like what something write you can simply not reply rather than being rude can you not.
..To be fair if you're sensative and posting about your life on the internet then your gunna have to understand people judge, people have opinions and people will say what they want. As much as MFP is a site for help it's also very good for tough love. Otherwise we won't get anywhere.
If your sensative maybe this isn't the place for you to post your feelings, not trying to be rude, just saying - people have opinions and sure they could bypass your threads and not reply, but you could also not reply to them and bypass there comments back to you - if you're opening a thread then people reply, wether it's nice or harsh you have to accept it - not start a whole new thread complaining .. (again)0 -
I would want someone to tell me when I am wrong about something or being stupid..whether it be in a rude way or not. It is there intentions that count, right?
Not everyone can express themselves like a Hallmark card.
And just as you think rude folks are coming to the board, I think overly sensitive folks are coming onto the board. Sensitive folks who can't or won't face the facts that what they are doing or have been doing is just plain wrong..instead they want someone to coddle them and tell them "good job, keep your chin, it will all change" when it won't because they have no clue what they are doing.
Yeah I am sensitive, I have depression - so what is that any of your business? No? Don't like what something write you can simply not reply rather than being rude can you not.
so what you wrote is not rude? I stated an opinion to your complaint of folks being rude. I dont know squat about your personal issues nor did I take the time to go look but it sounds like you posted it for the world to see. Did you think everyone would be teddy bears and roses to you? Not likely, there are always those who love to see misery in others and use that to make themselves feel better.
Like it is stated before me, maybe write a personal journal or something to purge.
And no matter what it is, it gets better, promise you that.0 -
Eh. I disagree. Some people think expressing different opinions from theirs is the same as being "rude" and is "not saying anything nice". I say communicate how you want to communicate, as long as it's functional and effective and/or thought provoking.
But that's just me.
If I only ever heard from people who agree with me and kiss my butt and are scared to tell me the truth, even if it's harsh, I'd probably puke.
Exactermondo. life is full of opinions and is made up of people from different backgrounds, with different experiences, different ways of communicating, different motivations. Embrace it. It does no one any harm to hear something negative once in a while! When it becomes bullying thats a different story, but if you have managed to go you entire adult life without being offended once in a while, then you need to get out a little more and grow a thicker skin!0 -
I would want someone to tell me when I am wrong about something or being stupid..whether it be in a rude way or not. It is there intentions that count, right?
Not everyone can express themselves like a Hallmark card.
And just as you think rude folks are coming to the board, I think overly sensitive folks are coming onto the board. Sensitive folks who can't or won't face the facts that what they are doing or have been doing is just plain wrong..instead they want someone to coddle them and tell them "good job, keep your chin, it will all change" when it won't because they have no clue what they are doing.
Depression is not cured by people being nice to you the whole time. It is an internal depletion of serotonin which causes a chemical imbalance. If you are feeling depressed it is not anyone else's fault any more than it is your own. And yes I do understand it, many in my family have it so I have dealt with it all my life.
Yeah I am sensitive, I have depression - so what is that any of your business? No? Don't like what something write you can simply not reply rather than being rude can you not.
so what you wrote is not rude? I stated an opinion to your complaint of folks being rude. I dont know squat about your personal issues nor did I take the time to go look but it sounds like you posted it for the world to see. Did you think everyone would be teddy bears and roses to you? Not likely, there are always those who love to see misery in others and use that to make themselves feel better.
Like it is stated before me, maybe write a personal journal or something to purge.
And no matter what it is, it gets better, promise you that.0 -
"Depression is not cured by people being nice to you the whole time. It is an internal depletion of serotonin which causes a chemical imbalance. If you are feeling depressed it is not anyone else's fault any more than it is your own. And yes I do understand it, many in my family have it so I have dealt with it all my life."
I'm not saying it is a cure, but just saying it doesn't exactly help...0 -
so now i don't get it. are we talking about you and your mental health issues, or are we talking about people's attitudes?
sometimes people write things on here that are just plain rude. i personally don't post many topics because i don't want to have to deal with that response. i'll generally stick with asking my friends. but when someone else posts a topic they're usually asking for opinions. and if i want to respond then i will. and if someone is being a ****wit, then i'll tell them. it's not my responsibility to protect someone else's feelings.
if you're particularly sensitive at the moment other people aren't going to know that unless you say (but i haven't read your other posts). and even then it's probably not going to evoke too much sympathy because everyone else has their own lives to deal with too, and cannot take any responsibility about how you may or may not respond to something you may or may not want to hear.
if you need someone to listen, a depression specific website may be more useful to you (we have one called depression.org.nz) to talk to other who have been there. or counselling. or a psychiatrist.
but as much as it pains me to say it, you probably aren't going to get the sympathy or empathy you may be needing from here.
the other thing is that i'd stay away from asking stuff about your personal life- this is 'myfitnesspal', not 'myreligiouspal' (i really hate when people start to preach about god), or 'mylifesuckspal'. it's a support place to ask about diet and exercise- get tips, use the search function for eating back exercise cals, ask about how to improve your running times. that is what this is about. and when you ask those questions (apart from the exercise cals ones) people can only be supportive and give useful advice.
i hope you find your happiness, and always hold onto that hope that things will improve- things have been better before and there's no reason why they can't get better again. good luck with your journey.0 -
So many more rude ppl are making there ways onto the message board.
You have MAYBE half of the picture, so what gives you the right to be so freaking rude?
kthx
Jeez... not YOU again... :grumble:
you sure do complain a lot... how about this for a thought
try not using the forums for your personal therapy/venting board
it's the interwebs, people are mean, sarcastic, and misinformed
want an answer to a specific question???? try google
just sayin0 -
So many more rude ppl are making there ways onto the message board.
You have MAYBE half of the picture, so what gives you the right to be so freaking rude?
kthx
Jeez... not YOU again... :grumble:
you sure do complain a lot... how about this for a thought
try not using the forums for your personal therapy/venting board
it's the interwebs, people are mean, sarcastic, and misinformed
want an answer to a specific question???? try google
just sayin
true... and true about everything else people have said... don't sit on forums if you are so sensitive u get ur feelings hurt by people who live 8500Miles away from you!!!
like previous poster already said.. some like to be cuddled and snuggled told they are number 1 little sweetie pies that never do anything wrong and blame everything on "issiues" and someone else because thats how they were raised by their parents.... well the other half.. when we were younger we were told to smarten the *kitten* up and get *kitten* done or we are not going to get anywhere in life... and thats though love.. works for me... works for many others... thats what i believe in and thats just my oppinion....
as for your post.. yeah ur doing same things as rest of us are.. YOUR TELLING US YOUR OPPINION!!!0 -
So many more rude ppl are making there ways onto the message board.
You have MAYBE half of the picture, so what gives you the right to be so freaking rude?
kthx
Jeez... not YOU again... :grumble:
you sure do complain a lot... how about this for a thought
try not using the forums for your personal therapy/venting board
it's the interwebs, people are mean, sarcastic, and misinformed
want an answer to a specific question???? try google
just sayin
bwaahaaaaa! go get 'em Lizzy!
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So many more rude ppl are making there ways onto the message board.
You have MAYBE half of the picture, so what gives you the right to be so freaking rude?
kthx
Jeez... not YOU again... :grumble:
you sure do complain a lot... how about this for a thought
try not using the forums for your personal therapy/venting board
it's the interwebs, people are mean, sarcastic, and misinformed
want an answer to a specific question???? try google
just sayin
^^what she said0 -
(Just kidding - I couldn't resist)..0
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