Stay-At-Home Moms Ringing in the New Year 12/29 to 2009!!!

3babybeans

MM- Its so good to hear that you had a good day, my prayers are with you



Uh-Oh girls I messed up a bit today, 3 peanut butter cookies and some BBQ chips that were not allotted in my calories for today:ohwell: But :ohwell: ast night was horrible with Ayden, he was strugling with gas and trying to poop, I felt so bad for the little guy, I was up til 1:30 walking him around the house, that seems to be his new comfort mechanism, great for me to burn some extra cals but my back is killing me and its just boring n almost exhausting in a way. All that walking and bouncing and burping to get him to nap for 30 min not to mention my room is utter chaos so Ive been trying to clean it during the day while he cat naps but I've barely gotten anywhere and that means Im not napping, n when hubby comes home hes barely a help, I have to ask him to do anything he doesnt just offer to take him so I dont have to pace the floor for the hundredth time today. And sometimes when I try to vent to him about how tired and sore I am, he just tries to prove that hes worse off by saying well I worked all day. and I know that majority of the time hes sitting on his *kitten* doing nothing, ugh he makes me sick!

ugh sorry for the vent I'm just super tired n really stressed and I just want Ayden to goet to bed so I can pump n get to sleep, ugh n I wish he wouldnt struggle to poop.... give me some hope, when does it get easier??? When can I get a full 8hr night of sleep? I feel like an old granny, every joint aches and my musces ache from working out and not having enough sleep to recover and lately Ive been getting migraine headaches A LOT, like once or twice a day, life kinda sucks at the moment, I just want sleep:sad: :sad: :sad:

Okay. first things first. The gas....have you tried bicycling his legs? Put him on his back & run his little legs like he's riding a bicycles. Bring his knees to his chest, stretch him out, give his abs a little work out.
Next, pooping. If it gets too bad, ask your dr. about diluted pear/prune juice. Micah had problems with this when he was that little & the answer turned out to be 1 oz of diluted pear juice once a day or once every other day. It worked wonders. But make sure to ask your dr. first b/c they might have a different opinion on that one.

Diet (like iftcheiaf said) might be a culprit, too. My kids couldn't stand ANY kind of caffeine. One had problems with onions & tomato products. One had problems with dairy & wheat.

Next, the DH. *shakes head* I think every mother at some point in the first 3 months (or longer) could write this about their SO. It just doesn't come as naturally to some men. They don't realize that a baby is a 24 hour a day job & NO ONE can work 24 hours straight (on any job) without some help from someone else. One thing I would suggest doing is asking your mom to watch Ayden for a little while & you & DH go out of the house to a park or a restaurant or something. Talk to him in a calm matter (while the baby isn't crying or needing something) about how much work he really is & how you feel about it. Give him SPECIFIC suggestions on how he can help you more. Some times they just need things spelled out. :grumble:

The migraines: make sure you're getting PLENTY of water. Even in the middle of the night when you're up with him, make sure you drink a little water. Dehydration can be a culprit especially while breastfeeding & your hormones are all over the map.

The sleep. Ummm...sorry. 8 hours is a miracle in my house any more. BUT, Ayden will start sleeping longer & longer & you'll feel a little more refreshed every time he makes that stretch last a wee bit longer. Not to depress you, but my boys didn't sleep through the night until they were 9 months old. My daughter (b/c she loves me more :bigsmile: ) was doing it was 2 months. I had to "sleep train" my boys but my ped. didn't recommend doing that until after 6 months. Sleep is a tricky thing, especially with a newborn. Does he nap a lot during the day? Maybe try keeping him up some more so he's super tired at night. If that doesn't work, do yourself a favor (at least every other day) and nap with him for one of those naps.

Those are just my little nuggets of "wisdom" on what I've experienced. It WILL get better, but try to focus on the positives of a newborn sometimes, too. Trying to get my 3yo to cuddle with me any more requires duct tape. :grumble:

3babybeans

Good morning ladies. Starting my work day here at my computer, although two hours later than I should, but kids are out of the house until Wednesday, so I could be a little lazier. Did actually make it to the gym yesterday, and now I'm SORE :sad: No pain, no gain, as my dad used to say. Planning on going again this evening, if I can get these sore muscles stretched out enough. Hope you all have a wonderful, productive day!

MM - I hope you're able to get some rest today while your men are out of the house. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Good morning! Enjoy your kid-free time! If I were you, I'd still be in bed thinking, "NO KIDS! I CAN REST MORE!" LOL Have fun at the gym!

LokiFae

MM - I'm glad you had a good day yesterday. I'm still thinking about and praying for you.

supermom - *sigh* Don't you just love it when your SO doesn't help because he's "worked all day"? Men can be so clueless and not realize that you need the help. That's the way my DH is. He's even told me to go take a nap and rest and then wake me up every 15 minutes to ask what kind of snacks Darrell can have, where the saucepan goes, how to wash Darrell's cup. It's rough, but when your little bubba is so small, you need the help. 3BB had a good suggestion. Just go out the two of you and let him know very gently that you need some help. You'll get through it. These first months are always rough. But when they start sleeping through the night, all sorts of new challenges begin. Treasure your alone time with him at night and just watch his little face. Every day I wish I had done that more with Darrell. Now he doesn't even look like the same baby. But he does look like a beautiful little boy.

So what are the plans for New Year's, ladies? We've got some bubble wrap for Darrell to stomp on, and a bottle of champagne, and...That's about it. DH has to work in the morning and there's NO WAY Darrell's staying up until midnight, so...nothing exciting here. I hope someone is doing something exciting!

Marla64

Friends,

Heidi (pronounced Haiti-- the little girl I told you about-- ) is going for surgery at 10:00 this morning. The surgery will be for her back, arms, legs, face and ears. Please pray that the surgeries will be successful and that there is no infection. Heidi has been sedated with Morphine but still has times of terrible pain, especially when they change her bandages and treat her wounds.

Heidi’s grandparents will accompany the bodies of her parents and sister to Mexico tomorrow for burial. Most of her dad's family and much of her mother's family live in Mexico. Martha, my nephew's new fiancee, and her older sister Geramina are staying in Hershey to be with Heidi.

Brian, my nephew, flew home last night to take care of year end activities at his work. He hopes to wrap up by noon tomorrow, and will be driving back to Hershey in a few days with his father, my brother, Mike.

Please continue to pray for this family, for little Heidi, and that my nephew will stay strong. He has shown himself to be truly a good man. My brother should be proud.

God bless us all this day, my friends!

iftcheiaf

So what are the plans for New Year's, ladies?

Well, it's the end of my pay period, so I'll be working right up until midnight to get that last little penny (working for hospitals from home means there's never lag time). Kids are going to be at their other father's house, so I tend to keep busy when I don't have them. DH wants to take a picture at 11:59 to close out his photos for 2008 and another at midnight to start his photos of 2009. It will be interesting to see if he can stay up that long. When the kids are away, it's our work/sleep time. But then we're having a huge sleepover for both my daughter and son January 1st night, so sleep will be much needed.

Hope everyone will be safe. That night scares me as badly as Christmas Eve because there tends to be so many irresponsible drivers out. Be careful ladies.

BTW Loki - love the bubble wrap idea. Sounds like fun! Get in a few pops for me

mechanicmom

Hey everyone,
I can't stay away, what can I say? I feel emotions tugging already this morning but I don't feel like crying today. I have too much I can do. lol I don't know that I will get a work out in but the house is so messy, it will be a work out in itself! I am also going to start painting on Alex's bed again. I've been missing that.
Marla, keep us up to date on Heidi. I can't really dwell on something that sad right now but I will be praying for her and the family.

Plans for New years? Sleep! Unless we decide to go to San Antonio Wednesday night, we will be leaving Thursday morning to go.

My hubby said the sweetest things yesterday. We of course have not had much physical contact over the last five weeks. :blushing: So he's been...frustrated, but really good about it. Yesterday he said he has been more in love with me over the last five weeks! What? How does that work? Can I get it in writing? He also said he has a new respect for me and what I do around the house and with Alex! Can I get that in writing too?! He doesn't just make up stuff so I know it was from his heart. It was good to hear.
Have a good day!
MM

iftcheiaf

Marla, keep us up to date on Heidi. I can't really dwell on something that sad right now but I will be praying for her and the family.

My hubby said the sweetest things yesterday. We of course have not had much physical contact over the last five weeks. :blushing: So he's been...frustrated, but really good about it. Yesterday he said he has been more in love with me over the last five weeks! What? How does that work? Can I get it in writing? He also said he has a new respect for me and what I do around the house and with Alex! Can I get that in writing too?! He doesn't just make up stuff so I know it was from his heart. It was good to hear.
Have a good day!
MM

Marla, talked to my kids and husband about the little girl's situation and all she lost and all she has to endure in the upcoming time. They're in our thoughts and prayers.

MM - You go girl with your wonderful guy. Husbands can be really wonderful that way. On a day to day basis, they may miss the mark, but boy, can they aim, shoot, and score big time when you really need it the most. It's wonderful to hear how much he appreciates you and all you do. You deserve it.

mechanicmom

can they aim, shoot, and score big time when you really need it the most.

:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: I'm such a perv! :blushing: I guess it's been awhile for me too!:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

Sorry that was bad.

supermom1114

Thanks everyone for letting me vent and for all the good advice. Im just getting really stressed with Ayden seeming like hes in so much pain, and it makes him want to cuddle more so Ive been letting him sleep on me at night and that means I dont get very good sleep so all that added up makes me stressed and angry n I used to go to food for comfort but now that I'm trying to lose weight and be healthier I cant just grab a handful of cookies like I used to and chow down. Part of my frustration yesterday was caused by the fact that I gave in and ruined my calories for the day, but I also worked out so maybe it wont be too bad, I weighed myself this morning n I was still 159 like I was on Sunday so thats good.

The funniest thing happened, Ayden was eating and I was reading everyones posts about enjoying him now and I looked down n he just looked so adorable n peaceful n then he let a big fart out n kinda smiled. It totally caught me off guard:laugh:

I read everyones posts n Marla your family is in my prayers n MM you n your family are also in my prayers. I'd reply to everyone else individually but Ayden just got done eating n wants to be walked around again, more gas. Hope everyone has a good day

lenece

MM- I'm so sorry for your loss..I know what your feeling I've been there 3 different times..Just keep strong and know that we are all thinking of you n prayin for you..

3BB-What did your puppy get into..Sometimes animals amaze me the trouble they get into...My boxer once chewed up over $500 worth of stuff in my house including my entertainment center just cuz I did'nt take her to town with me..I was soooo mad.. Hope your dog gets better soon..

Mel-I will keep Hedi in my prayers n thoughts..I hope everything goes ok with her..

Well ladies I'm runnin a day behind..I had my breakdown Christmas Eve n Christmas Day..It was horrible..I'm not exnagraiting*....I destoryed a flower from my Dad's funeral that I was keeping(but I have more)...I took all the ortaments off the tree Christmas Day and lets just say I need a new tree..I was soooo overcome from all my feelings that I guess I blacked out in my rage fit..No my childern did not see any of this but they did come and talk to mommy when it was all done...My bf kept the kids busy playin n he kept an eye on me also..He just let me get it out..I think I really needed it but not killing the tree..I needed a new one anyways...I hope no one thinks I'm crazy, I just had to get those feelings out, I couldnt keep them bottled up any longer..I guess I was overcomed by all the pain and grief..I'm not nutts ladies I promise you...

Now to the weight thing..Even with the hoildays I have manage to lose another 2 pounds..WOO HOOOOOOOO I am now down to 191lbs..The scales are finally moving the way I want them too..I have lost a 104lbs in 2 yrs..WOW can you believe it..Thats a whole person I have lost...Just wish it was the person that liked food so much..:laugh: But for any of you ladies that are struggling just think it took me 2 yrs to get all that off..We didn't put in on overnight and it wont just melt away..We have to take it 1 pound at a time...Well I'm off to get busy with house work..Hope everyone is doing ok today..Later all..

P.S. I'm not crazy.....

loreeb18

P.S. I'm not crazy.....

Nope, you're a SAHM! Sometimes we get confused with crazies! :laugh:

loreeb18

The funniest thing happened, Ayden was eating and I was reading everyones posts about enjoying him now and I looked down n he just looked so adorable n peaceful n then he let a big fart out n kinda smiled. It totally caught me off guard:laugh:

Harley does that. She's bottlefed formula with iron so she can be quite gassy. I'll prop her up against my knees. She'll fart real big and smile. I'll ask her, "Are you poopin' on me?" and she''ll laugh.

iftcheiaf

can they aim, shoot, and score big time when you really need it the most.

:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: I'm such a perv! :blushing: I guess it's been awhile for me too!:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

Sorry that was bad.

Then welcome to the perv club. I think it's called married with kids. But we miss out on in reality, we have to make due with our mind. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

Nonibug

Wow, I missed alot after I got off here yesterday morning! I dont have alot of time this morning, but I do want to say to MM I am sooo very sorry for your loss I know you said that your doing better today and Im glad to hear that, but please, please still take it easy! Dont try to do to much to fast. You have been through so much physically and emotionally this past 5 weeks and your going to need time for yourself to try to re-coup (sp?). It sounds like you have a wonderful, understanding parter and we all know you have a beautiful, healthy little boy. Take comfort in them
Marla-I will most definately keep Heidi in my thoughts and prayers today So much for such a little girl to endure!
lenece-Christmas trees are replaceable! Sometimes we need to just let it all go and have a little (or a big?) rant like that. I hope you enjoy the rest of the holidays and congrats to you on the weight loss!:drinker: You have come a long way and you should be very proud!
3BB-I havent caught an update on Floyd today...I hope hes continuing to improve
supermom-Vent here anytime! Good luck with getting the time to have a one on one chat with the hubby and getting him to understand He just might surprise you
Well, have a wonderful day everyone! This year is almost at an end and I hope you all see it out with all the love and happiness that each one of you deserve:flowerforyou:
Hugs for you all:flowerforyou:
~Roni

mechanicmom

Okay, I'm done. I cleaned for an hour and that's it. My legs are jello. Lol. But the house is cleaner! And I finally burned some calories!
Gotta love those babies and their gas! Not to get too raunchy, but I have to tell a quick story. I thought it was funny. Alex is 3 and he's always been a gassy baby/kid. He came running into the living room and he was tooting the WHOLE way, with every step! He giggled really hard and said, "Do it again!" Oh boy. You just can't help but love them!
MM

guntherma

I am truly appreciating kids at this moment - it is quiet time at my daycare and I just love how they fight it swearing that they don't need to lay down - then they're out within five minutes. We are supposed to go sledding after quiet time so I better get everyones snow clothes ready. Have a great day everyone.

iftcheiaf

I am truly appreciating kids at this moment - it is quiet time at my daycare and I just love how they fight it swearing that they don't need to lay down - then they're out within five minutes.

EVERY NIGHT, my son starts his sentence with "I don't want to go to bed. I'm not..." and ends it almost with a snore. And every night I tell him, baby, we both know how this is going to end. But I almost think of it as part of our "change into PJ, brush teeth, read story, argue with mommy" ritual.

supermom1114

ok, this is going to be long lol

iftcheiaf- I hope you can make it to th gym, your sore muscles will feel better once you stretch them out again. Ayden is 6 weeks old almost 7wks, I've already cut onions n dark green leafy veggies out of my diet... I do eat whole grain bread everyday so maybe I should cut that out too.... ugh breastfeeding is so difficult. My mom watches Ayden everyonce in a while so thats helpful.

3BB- Ive bicycled his legs, rubbed his tummy, given him gas drops ugh I dont know what else to do. I've called my dr's office n they always say its normal for babies that are breastfed to go 2-3 days inbetween bowel movements so its normal, ugh I tell them he seems like hes in pain n they just say that its the gas but dont give me any suggestions how to help him. Im hoping hubby n me can go out for dinner andtalk this all out, I guess I'm expecting too much of him, hes a first time dad too n hes not around Ayden all day like I am so he doesnt really know what to do. I drink a lot of water so I dunno whats causing the migraines. Hopefully I can get more sleep, *fingers crossed*

Loki- That happened to me the other day, I woke up with a pounding headache so I asked hubby to take Ayden so I could get a little extra sleep n then he kept coming in to ask me questions :explode: I'm going to take you n 3BB's advice n go out and have a nice talk with DH about everything. As far as New Years plans, DH and I are going to his aunt n uncle's house to celebrate with his family but I doubt we'll stay there til midnight, baby and me are going to be too tired lol

Marla- again I just can't believe all that has happened, I will be praying for the whole family but especially Heidi, she has a long hard road ahead,

MM- I know what you mean about DH being frustrated mine hasnt gotten any in quite a while lol, that was so sweet of your hubby too, even though Im a little upset with mine I still have to say guys can be great when you really really need it. YAY for cleaning!!

lenece- No one thinks your crazy, we all go a little insane around the holidays lol, Congrats on losing another 2lbs!!! :flowerforyou: Thats amazing! People like you inspire me to keep going, knowing that if I do set my mind to it and stick with it the lbs will come off :happy:

loree- :laugh: Ayden always toots on me lol I just wish he wouldnt struggle with them so much

Roni- I hope talking to hubby helps too I just cant take feeling like I'm doing this alone anymore Hope you have a wonderful New Year :happy:

guntherma- My mom used to run a daycare in our house, it was so funny, everyone would want to keep playing but as soon as the TV was off and she made us all lay down on our "nap mats" we'd be out like a light so fast lol Have fun sledding :happy:

Ok ladies, today seems to be going a little better still no poo since a little under two days ago, but the gas isnt as bad. hes just chilling in his bouncer right now talking to the TV so I can rest and get a snack for a bit, I've found more n more that I really need snacks inbetween meals, it really helps keep me from grabbing something I shouldnt or getting too large of portions at meals, aahhh I can feel the lbs melting off lol yea right, hopefully hubby or mom gets home sorta early so I can go on my run/walk tonight before it gets too dark, Hope everyone has a wonderful and healthy day :bigsmile: :bigsmile: :bigsmile:

Lyn_Matthews

supermom-there is this stuff called Gripe Water that my baby's doc swears by for gassy babies (google it) maybe worth looking into.

Sorry I've been busy today so I'm just jumping in for a moment.
Hope everyone is well.

supermom1114

supermom-there is this stuff called Gripe Water that my baby's doc swears by for gassy babies (google it) maybe worth looking into.

Sorry I've been busy today so I'm just jumping in for a moment.
Hope everyone is well.

Ive seen it at babies r us, maybe Ill buy some n pray SO hard that it works lol

Marla64

supermom-there is this stuff called Gripe Water that my baby's doc swears by for gassy babies (google it) maybe worth looking into.

Sorry I've been busy today so I'm just jumping in for a moment.
Hope everyone is well.

Gripe water? I'm sure my husband would swear that's what's in MY bottle. :laugh:

3babybeans

supermom-there is this stuff called Gripe Water that my baby's doc swears by for gassy babies (google it) maybe worth looking into.

Sorry I've been busy today so I'm just jumping in for a moment.
Hope everyone is well.

Gripe water? I'm sure my husband would swear that's what's in MY bottle. :laugh:

You better check that lable, Marla! LOL

3babybeans

Dana - *hugs* This is your first Christmas w/o your dad. Cut yourself a little slack. If you needed to beat the *kitten* out of the tree to feel better, it happens. No harm, no foul. You've been under an incredible amount of stress & it just came out that way. If it happens again...well...then you might have some bigger issues, KWIM? *hugs* Brush yourself off, throw out the tree & keep on moving forward.

I forgot what else I had to say. My memory was much better on the proud thread this evening. I need to get to bed anyways. DH is off to work at 3:30 am tomorrow so I'm sure that's when I'll be up, too. :grumble:

supermom1114

Good Morning Ya'll :happy:

Happy New Years Eve:drinker:

I hope everyone stays safe tonight and has plenty of fun. I'm pumping then going to get breakfast n then taking Ayden on a walk since I didnt get the exercise in I wanted to yesterday. Ok well I'm sure I'll be on later, if not have a Happy n Healthy Day!

mechanicmom

Hey everyone. I will be busy today getting ready to go see my family tomorrow. I was thinking I'd be more excited but it seems kind of bittersweet. My DH wants me to go to church on Sunday but I'm not sure I am ready to face people yet. I'm still battling my emotions. I might start bawling when I see my mom or something. I'm feeling emotional today, but I really don't want to cry. I am already feeling super tired, even though I slept good. I guess my body is just tired. It's been through a lot. I'm ready to be balanced out again.
So if I am not on much this weekend it's because I am having fun with my family! Also it's hard to get on a computer at their house.
See you all next year if I don't check in later today!
MM

Nonibug

Hi Mommies!
Im off to a late start today so I wont be here very long. I just wanted to wish you all a very safe and fun New Years Eve and to remind everyone that if you go out tonight....PLEASE BE SAFE and SMART! I love you all and will see you again in the new year!:drinker: :flowerforyou:
Big hugs to you all!
~Roni

lenece

Ok what does KWIM mean..lol and what does DH stand for I see that alot in ur yalls post..lol I'm not up to date on things...

Suppermom-I heard pepermint water was good for gassey babies also...

Well I'm pleased to say I will bring 2009 under 200 pounds..WOOOOTT WOOTTTT:drinker: :drinker: I am now down to 190 lbs as of today..I am so proud of myself..I cant believe how much change I have made in my body, my looks, my life...I have about another 65 pounds to lose..I know I can do it..I'm soooooooooo happy.....
A very big part of me will be very glad to see 2008 to go..The last year of my life has been a living hell in alot of ways...I lost my house that I was buying cuz the ppl renigged on the contract so I had to move 3 days b4 Christmas in 2007..Then in April 08 my ex husband left me n my kids with $15 :mad: and the months between then n my divorce I found out he was cheating on me for 2 yrs and even in my own home...Finally my divorce was final in August and then in September I lost my Dad, which has been hell on earth..We've been through so much with that, even my childern have been through hell this last year...I did meet my bf and hes been great....I will be soooo glad to see 2008 behind me...
My goals for 2009 are to make myself happy and keep my childern as happy as possible..To keep staying healthy and continue to lose weight..And most of all to be the best person I can be....
I hope everyone has a safe and happy New Year.....Stay safe all n HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!!:drinker: :drinker:

loreeb18

DH = darling husband (or dumb husband, depending on the day :laugh: )
KWIM = know what I mean

LokiFae

Way to go Lenece on the weight loss! It sounds like this has been a really tough year for you, and I hope 2009 pans out a whole lot better! You're already doing an awesome job with your weight loss, so there you go!!!

Ladies, I have a question. How do you deal with people that you see in the "outside world" that you used to work with? One of the women I used to waitress with now works at DH's workplace. Darrell and I went in to see him today and bring him some lunch and I saw her. She and another woman were oohing and aahing over Darrell and then she looked at me and said, "Oh, I know you!" So we were chatting and she asked me where I was working now. I told her I worked at home with Darrell taking care of him and the house, to which she said, "Well, honey I do that too, what ELSE do you do?" "That's it. I just keep house and take care of Darrell." "Well, that must be nice." It wasn't the words, per se, it was the tone, like she was saying, "Well, little miss spoiled brat, you sit at home and eat bon bons all day, while I'm making an honest living." :explode: :explode: :explode: DH and I struggle so that I have the opportunity to stay at home with our son so I can watch him grow and see everything and so that he isn't holed up in a daycare for his entire childhood. It just made me so angry. When did being a SAHM turn into something to be pitied and ridiculed? It's the hardest job I've ever had. I would love to dress up every day and go to fancy lunches and have actual conversations with people who aren't 18 months old, but it's important to me to stay home. I think it's just fine if people want to work, but I don't judge them the way I'm judged sometimes for choosing to stay home. GRRRRR. Sorry for the rant, I just got really angry. I just laughed it off like, "Oh yeah, I don't do anything hahaha..." but inside I was boiling. DH noticed I was getting offended and since he's her boss, he told her to get back to work. :laugh: I just wonder sometimes if I should really stand up and say something when people say things like that, because it does happen quite a bit. Or maybe they're just jealous that they have to work so they put me down. I don't know. What do you guys think?

loreeb18

I've been lucky enough that the people I used to work with are jealous that I get to stay home with Harley while they still have to work. :laugh:

Just say that you feel it is more important to you to be home with your little cutie and that you don't want to miss a thing. Say you're selfish and you want to make sure you are the one to see all of his firsts and not a babysitter. Or just tell her "Back of bi-atch!" Okay, maybe just think that last one. :laugh: