Obligatory "what do you look for in a spouse/partner" thread

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  • SoldierDad
    SoldierDad Posts: 1,602
    1. must like kids
    2. must treat me n ma kids rite
    3. must like videogames lol
    4. must give me space to do my reading
    5. must not be boring
    6. NO WHINEY GUYS
    7. not and illegal perferably lol
    8. no hitting
    9. christian perferably
    10. sweet kind caring and affectionate
    thats about enuff for now lol

    Not being illegal is a good start. lol
  • MelissaE27
    MelissaE27 Posts: 682 Member
    LOL I love this! :)
    What is DDF?

    Daisy duke figure???
  • SoldierDad
    SoldierDad Posts: 1,602
    There's nothing wrong with treating a woman like the Princess she is! :flowerforyou:

    Like :flowerforyou:
  • porcelain_doll
    porcelain_doll Posts: 1,005 Member
    1. Shares my faith/values/morals

    2. Makes me laugh.

    3. Positive outlook on life.

    4. Slow to anger.

    5. Laidback/flexible

    6. Affectionate.

    7. Interested in healthy eating/exercise.

    8. Knows how to cook.

    9. Good listener.

    10. Good communicator.

    That's what I want today. Tomorrow I might want something else. :laugh: j/k (sort of)
  • SoldierDad
    SoldierDad Posts: 1,602
    LOL I love this! :)
    What is DDF?

    Daisy duke figure???

    Everyone is gorgeous no matter what their figure. Even those women who love the Red Sox are gorgeous!
  • Kym1610
    Kym1610 Posts: 328 Member
    Well I've been married for nearly 4 years but some of things I like are

    Kind/Considerate
    Supportive
    a little geeky
    Active/out doorsy in summer, home body in winter
    Loves animals
    Makes me laugh
    honest
  • Leslietheriot
    Leslietheriot Posts: 303 Member
    My list is pretty short

    1. Has to come with his own fishing pole.
    2. MUST know how to cook on a grill.
    3. Treat me like the princess that I think I am.
  • yasemasuyo
    yasemasuyo Posts: 177 Member
    1. A godly person, who reads and obeys His word.
    2. As above.
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    Stick with number one and the rest will follow :-)
  • ch178
    ch178 Posts: 364 Member
    1. treats me with respect
    2. honest
    3. someone who can let loose
    4. tall ( I'm very short but for some reason I love a tall man)
    5. likes outdoors
    6. loves to travel
    7. positive attitude
    8. sweet and affectionate
    9. No drugs what so ever
    10. strong
    11. good work ethic
  • JaydeSkye
    JaydeSkye Posts: 282 Member
    You used to be on my friend list, but I won't hold it against you .... haha.

    I'm very particular by nature so of course when it comes to something as serious as "marriage material" I have a list of criteria:

    1. I have to be attracted to him: mentally, physically & sexually.
    2. Intelligence. He has to be able to tell me things I don't already know... and talk about the things I do know, in depth.
    3. Athleticism. I HAVE to be with an athlete. I'm athletic and I enjoy sports, I need a guy that can compete.
    4. Personality. We have to match. He has to be able to tolerate my abrasiveness and my sillyness and he has to be able to match my wit. He can't get offended, he has to be secure & confident. He is asertive and very masculine. I don't date wimps!
    5. No kids. I don't date guys with kids. Double standard, I know, but its just me...
    6. Future Potential Growth. He can't be happy with a mediocre life, job, house, etc. I'm not the kind of person that settles and he will be miserable with me if he is.. I have to SEE his potential. He doesn't have to be a VP or a big shot, he doesn't have to be rich, but I have to see that he has the potential to use his creativity to be successful in life.
    7. Someone that will never make me compromise, settle or otherwise feel like I am getting less than what I WANT.
    8. His name is Eddie and he is my perfect boy <3
  • ChristineMarie89
    ChristineMarie89 Posts: 1,079 Member
    1. must like kids
    2. must treat me n ma kids rite
    3. must like videogames lol
    4. must give me space to do my reading
    5. must not be boring
    6. NO WHINEY GUYS
    7. not and illegal perferably lol
    8. no hitting
    9. christian perferably
    10. sweet kind caring and affectionate
    thats about enuff for now lol

    Not being illegal is a good start. lol
    lol ive had some bad experiences lol
  • MelissaE27
    MelissaE27 Posts: 682 Member
    Oh I forgot one important.. a man who truly listens.. and wants to be there... who will be that strong shoulder to cry on.. to hug .. to hold.. and to never let go.... Im sappy I know ...:blushing:
  • SmartFunGorgeous
    SmartFunGorgeous Posts: 699 Member
    I'd love a wife who would cook, clean, do laundry, and wash my pick-up. :laugh:

    But since I'm a straight female, that makes things awkward, so I'm not holding my breath. :tongue:

    As far as a husband...

    1. Christian
    2. Tall (or confident enough to be with someone who is 5'9" and loves high heels)... It's all about him being able to make me feel safe and cherished.
    3. Intelligent
    4. A sense of humor to mesh with mine
    5. Willing to be an active part of my huge family. Not just my immediate fam, but extended as well.
    6. Can handle working on the dairy with my dad when we visit. It's not a physical kind of work, but the mental kind. Farm work is tough, both mentally and physically, and while most can handle the physical, not everyone can handle the mental.
    7. Can handle my devotion to my job and kids. I don't have children of my own, so my students mean the world to me, and he'd have to be okay with that.
    8. Supportive, kind, sweet, compassionate... The only relationship I've ever cherished is the one where he treated me like a princess. I'm not much of a princess, but I crave and deserve the royal treatment!
    9. Knows how to really kiss. Kind of like the humor thing, you either mesh or ya don't.
    10. Can put up with me! =)
  • SoldierDad
    SoldierDad Posts: 1,602
    1. must like kids
    2. must treat me n ma kids rite
    3. must like videogames lol
    4. must give me space to do my reading
    5. must not be boring
    6. NO WHINEY GUYS
    7. not and illegal perferably lol
    8. no hitting
    9. christian perferably
    10. sweet kind caring and affectionate
    thats about enuff for now lol

    Not being illegal is a good start. lol
    lol ive had some bad experiences lol

    I don't think i have ever dated anyone who was illegally in the country. However my grandmother came here illegally.
  • JaydeSkye
    JaydeSkye Posts: 282 Member
    No gag reflex.

    Score. LOL
  • SoldierDad
    SoldierDad Posts: 1,602
    Oh I forgot one important.. a man who truly listens.. and wants to be there... who will be that strong shoulder to cry on.. to hug .. to hold.. and to never let go.... Im sappy I know ...:blushing:

    Nothing sappy about that!
  • mamax5
    mamax5 Posts: 414 Member
    Guess my hubby is sort of lucky....I only have a little bit of a gag reflex lol.

    Aside from the farting of my hubby, and some immature behavior I did find what I was looking for.
  • BecksgotBack
    BecksgotBack Posts: 385 Member
    in no particular order

    1. has a job
    2. doesn't live with his mother
    3. treats his mother with respect
    4. no smoking or drugs or contagious diseases
    5. decent credit rating
    6. snugglish
    7. not a prude
    8. no criminal history
    9. decent driving history....if i can't insure you i can't date/marry you
    10. the divorce papers must already be signed, sealed and delivered and the ex wife under control
    11. must like kids and dogs
    12. can handle camping, in a tent on the ground with the bears
    13. can keep up with me
    14. will give me my space when i need it
  • youre gonna get lots of marriage proposals in your inbox in 3, 2, 1.....

    That's what I'm saying
  • 1. Must have a strong relationship with God

    2. Must have a vision

    3. Financially stable

    4. Patient

    5. Handsome

    6. Dresses well and takes pride in personal appearance

    7. Funny

    8. Adventurous

    9. Likes to travel

    10. Very affectionate

    11. Good provider

    12. Wonderful father

    13. Great lover

    14. Confidant

    The list could go on and on! LOL
  • SoldierDad
    SoldierDad Posts: 1,602
    youre gonna get lots of marriage proposals in your inbox in 3, 2, 1.....

    That's what I'm saying

    Lol no marriage proposals so far! lol
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    Must not pee the bed or on me.
  • Natasha233
    Natasha233 Posts: 48 Member
    1) College degree is an absolute must
    2) Must speak another language outside of English
    3) Taller than me!
    4) Must have: a car, job, and a place to crash
    5) Cannot be homophobic (I'm in the arts)
    6) Catholic
    7) Foreigner or 1st/2nd generation American
    8) Should be able to dance
    9) Close to all members of the family
    10) Doesn't curse - at least around me

    *Let me add that I have dated plenty of guys who break these rules, so ergo - the LIST! lol. If I can get 7/10 that would be even amazing! This would be perfect - but I know perfect doesn't exist hehe.
  • cownancy
    cownancy Posts: 291
    a man who truly listens..

    Does such a creature exist in the male gender?

    I used to have a long list that was comprised of the wrong things......my mother told me to look for the following:

    1. Had a job and wants to keep it.
    2. No drugs, smoking and excessive drinking.
    3. Takes out the trash
    4. Knows how to fix things.
    5. Sense of humor

    I had to add a few things:
    6. Loves animals
    7. Prefers to not have children
    8. Kind
    9.Not a head case...there's only room for ONE of those in a relationship and I have that sewn up.

    :wink:
  • MelissaE27
    MelissaE27 Posts: 682 Member
    a man who truly listens..

    Does such a creature exist in the male gender?


    I honestly dont know.. but a woman can dream ..:)
  • SoldierDad
    SoldierDad Posts: 1,602
    Must not pee the bed or on me.

    I should have put that on my list!
  • SoldierDad
    SoldierDad Posts: 1,602
    I can't believe I left "knit me a sweater" off my list!
  • ChristineMarie89
    ChristineMarie89 Posts: 1,079 Member
    1. must like kids
    2. must treat me n ma kids rite
    3. must like videogames lol
    4. must give me space to do my reading
    5. must not be boring
    6. NO WHINEY GUYS
    7. not and illegal perferably lol
    8. no hitting
    9. christian perferably
    10. sweet kind caring and affectionate
    thats about enuff for now lol

    Not being illegal is a good start. lol
    lol ive had some bad experiences lol

    I don't think i have ever dated anyone who was illegally in the country. However my grandmother came here illegally.
    hahahaha well it happens
  • SmartFunGorgeous
    SmartFunGorgeous Posts: 699 Member
    I can't believe I left "knit me a sweater" off my list!

    I wondered if you'd finally given up on that! :-) Good to know all my efforts haven't been in vain! Whew!
  • SoldierDad
    SoldierDad Posts: 1,602
    I can't believe I left "knit me a sweater" off my list!

    I wondered if you'd finally given up on that! :-) Good to know all my efforts haven't been in vain! Whew!

    Taping random scraps of cloth together IS NOT knitting a sweater!
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