Obligatory "what do you look for in a spouse/partner" thread

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  • SoldierDad
    SoldierDad Posts: 1,602
    Yeah, now that I think about it, I'd give up everything else on my list for one thing.


    Hockey Player. <3


    I married one, becareful what you wish for.. when you playfight, they throw hipchecks that'll knock you into the next room. Seriously, I've been flown through drywall. hahaaa


    Hahaha. I can imagine!


    I played baseball & football. Texas and hockey aint a great mix darlin though the Stars are cool.
  • scarieshoney
    scarieshoney Posts: 24 Member
    Is familiar with tooth bush and floss and uses them daily.
  • Is familiar with tooth bush and floss and uses them daily.

    Haha I would hope they do!
  • 388gigi
    388gigi Posts: 485 Member
    Has a job/car
    has a penis
    Has a pulse
    That about covers it and you'd think it would be easy to find....huh not so much!

    LOL!
  • Fat_2_Fit_Mommy
    Fat_2_Fit_Mommy Posts: 569 Member
    1 I am a country girl at heart
    2 I am HUGE country music fan
    3 love kids I also have a child of my own
    4 I love country boys
    5 some one who has a big chevy truck
    6 I am a horse fanatic
    7 I am married...
  • Jeliica
    Jeliica Posts: 41
    I don't like men who drink or smoke, I think its disgusting and I can't stand the way they behave. One or two drinks occasionally is acceptable.

    Has a job. Please be able to accept responsibility and support a family.

    I want children, so a loving father is admirable!

    Goals. Top priority. A person who is willing to have goals and be motivated to obtain them can set their mind and do anything possible.

    Looks wise, we all have something we are attracted too in each person we've met. I'm not an o-m-g, he has to look a certain way. I met some amazing people and spoken to them and felt attracted to them and honestly, if I past them on the street, I wouldn't have given a second look. You all can agree!!!

    Honesty. I want someone to tell me the truth. I'm a blunt person and I expect the same back. Tell me when I'm wrong, when I'm eating unhealthy, when I'm being lazy, help MOTIVATE me to be the person I should be!.

    Educated. In this society, without some education you can't get far and to support a family this is a plus.

    Plus factor* I'd appreciate someone adventurous! I'm such a home body that I need someone to take me bungee jumping, sky diving, rock climbing, etc. So many things I want to do!

    Obvious things like, smart, fun, can make me smile, etc etc are all great qualities. I have soo many, but when you find the right person, you'll find new things you like!

    For all you single guys and gals, good luck to finding that spouse/partner/significant others. And for you taken folks, kudos to you and best wishes!

    P.S. If anyone finds a man who listens...check him for actual human parts.
  • Hilarious post (Personal favorite line: " I guess it depends....") The whole peeing thing. God, that was funny.

    Cowboy, I hope your ropes aren't scratchy, you've gotta be careful..Racey post of yours, got a big reaction. (:smokin: I nornally wouldn't just broadcast this, but hell, why not. This could be a good thing for anyone who wants some good, gentle material that lasts. We have a completely lovely cotton rope (literally looks and feels like thick cotton balls, fuzzy and soft, but super strong). I wouldn't tie my bike to my car with it, but I can tell you that when it's in use, neither one of us is going anywhere.

    Stamina is key for me too. Never thought it would be, but it turns out I surprise even myself....

    Gotta say though, cowboy, and I mean this from the heart. Throw out the list. Look at the heart and soul of the woman and you will know. Love hit me like a freaking freight train when I least wanted it, expected it or thought I needed it. I was all set to be single for a good while, settle into my new surroundings( moved across the country) and start my new job...but then I met my now husband. And we lived on a little island I like to call Denial for about a month, until we both just threw our hands up in the air and said, "well it's not like we expected it, but we can't possibly do anything else but love one another. And we knew once we took the leap it would be forever. Scared the crap out of both of us.

    We've been through hell and back, had a most amazing time, lots of adventures and the trip continues. Look for someone you can journey with, grow with and who loves you like crazy.
    We've been together since '92. I consider myself to be the luckiest woman in the world.
    All of you have wonderful stories, great senses of humor and I have really enjoyed this thread!
  • crisanderson27
    crisanderson27 Posts: 5,343 Member
    Well no one has posted "what do you look for in a spouse?" thread today so I figured what the heck. I am single dad with full custody of two lil angels and if/when I start dating this is what I am looking for (in no particular order)...



    1. A Christian
    2. Loves and adores kids
    3. Has kids and/or wants more kids (doesn't matter how, adoption, whatever)
    4. Is a cowgirl (or at least has a country heart)
    5. DDF
    6. Loves cowboys
    7. At least likes country music
    8. Goofy sense of humor
    9. Likes to be active and not sit at home
    10. Super affectionate and passionate
    11. Honest & faithful
    12. Compassionate & kind
    13. Positive
    14. Can, um, keep up with me

    See I also have a philosophy when it comes to marriage (prob get blasted for it but it's how I think/feel): A woman should be spoiled like a princess, made co-president of the house, and given all the affection and physical intimacy she can handle. So a woman I married would have to be able to roll with that.

    Lol, I may be asking to much.

    What's on your list?????

    I like this guy lol.
  • Tree72
    Tree72 Posts: 942 Member
    1. Someone who can be my friend.
    2. He should be able to communicate well on many levels; be both a good listener and articulate.
    3. A good sense of humor and preferably a decent sense of the absurd.
    4. Geeky or at least tolerant of nerd culture
    5. Likes animals. I have a cat and would someday like to have a dog too. Other pets would be optional (except no arachnids).
    6. Open and affectionate with those he loves.
    7. Honorable

    I have other preferences, but that covers the basics.
  • JaydeSkye
    JaydeSkye Posts: 282 Member
    Well no one has posted "what do you look for in a spouse?" thread today so I figured what the heck. I am single dad with full custody of two lil angels and if/when I start dating this is what I am looking for (in no particular order)...



    1. A Christian
    2. Loves and adores kids
    3. Has kids and/or wants more kids (doesn't matter how, adoption, whatever)
    4. Is a cowgirl (or at least has a country heart)
    5. DDF
    6. Loves cowboys
    7. At least likes country music
    8. Goofy sense of humor
    9. Likes to be active and not sit at home
    10. Super affectionate and passionate
    11. Honest & faithful
    12. Compassionate & kind
    13. Positive
    14. Can, um, keep up with me

    See I also have a philosophy when it comes to marriage (prob get blasted for it but it's how I think/feel): A woman should be spoiled like a princess, made co-president of the house, and given all the affection and physical intimacy she can handle. So a woman I married would have to be able to roll with that.

    Lol, I may be asking to much.

    What's on your list?????

    I like this guy lol.


    Does this count as marriage proposal #1 for our cowboy??? Hahahhaaaaaaaaa
  • mandapanda001
    mandapanda001 Posts: 370 Member
    Sense of humor
    Loyal 
    Christian
    Doesn't play games and knows what they want out of life/a relationship
    Attracted to each other physically, emotionally
    Active-at least willing to comprise and enjoy what each other likes (I am a huge football fan and I love to travel)
    Loves kids and animals
    Communication
    50/50 partnership
    We have to make each other feel like we are the only two people on Earth when we are together
    Affectionate/passionate
    Can give and receive support
    There has to be chemistry 

    Long list but all important!! :)
  • maria1113
    maria1113 Posts: 508 Member
    Well, I'm not looking for a spouse since I'm not really wife material. But if I was, I think I would appreciate a guy who knows how to listen and give me space when needed. I'm not a princess, so no really need to treat me like one. The guy would have to match to my stubbornness also.
    I think that's about it. Well blue eyes would be a nice bonus :wink:
  • YukonJoy
    YukonJoy Posts: 1,279 Member
    This thread made me puke in my mouth a little.
  • alex215
    alex215 Posts: 518 Member
    This thread made me puke in my mouth a little.

    what, you don't want to be his little cowgirl princess?
  • YukonJoy
    YukonJoy Posts: 1,279 Member
    This thread made me puke in my mouth a little.

    what, you don't want to be his little cowgirl princess?

    Save a horse ride a............atheist!!
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,022 Member
    Can she make a good sammich?
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,022 Member
    OK, On pissing the bed...

    Story 1: 6 people - one hotel room - concert - all Marines & their Significant Others. 3 of us in one bed. I wake up soaked. Marine in the middle of myself and another girl pissed the bed. I'm soaked... In hot Marine piss. Guess what?? That's not hot.

    Story 2: Dating someone my age. About 3 months in, wake up soaked. Do you see a theme here?

    Story 3: First Date. After dinner drinks. Conversation leads to "you into anything weird?" To me, this means... is the foot of the bed OK? No. He admits he gets a power trip off a golden shower. Date... Over.

    Seriously, I'm lowering my standards to: Does not wet the bed or piss on me.
    Lol, I love your sense of humor!
  • sunkisses
    sunkisses Posts: 2,365 Member
    ...someone who isn't too stupid to have conversations with me about things that matter - like how Slurpees came to be, and what flavor my first batch of moonshine should be.

    ...someone who doesn't wake up and hate his job. I'm an even-keel kind of woman. I can't handle being with someone who hates such a large portion of his life.

    ...someone who takes responsibility for any dumb *kitten* he may do. I'm not your mom. Handle that.
  • Scott613
    Scott613 Posts: 2,317 Member
    OK, On pissing the bed...

    Story 1: 6 people - one hotel room - concert - all Marines & their Significant Others. 3 of us in one bed. I wake up soaked. Marine in the middle of myself and another girl pissed the bed. I'm soaked... In hot Marine piss. Guess what?? That's not hot.

    Story 2: Dating someone my age. About 3 months in, wake up soaked. Do you see a theme here?

    Story 3: First Date. After dinner drinks. Conversation leads to "you into anything weird?" To me, this means... is the foot of the bed OK? No. He admits he gets a power trip off a golden shower. Date... Over.

    Seriously, I'm lowering my standards to: Does not wet the bed or piss on me.

    Kind of reminds me of Dave Chapelle's piss on you song.
  • scarletleavy
    scarletleavy Posts: 841 Member
    This thread made me puke in my mouth a little.

    what, you don't want to be his little cowgirl princess?

    Save a horse ride a............atheist!!

    You speak the truth.
  • jp09m
    jp09m Posts: 89
    This thread made me puke in my mouth a little.

    agreed
  • meggers123
    meggers123 Posts: 711 Member
    What is DDF?
    Drug & Disease free

    DDF sounds like something to specify only if:
    a. You are ordering a stripper
    b. You are ordering a prostitute
    c. You are ordering a mail order bride

    Has DDF actually become common dating lingo? We have to specify that now? Can I go ahead and mark this as the down-ward turning point in our society?:laugh:
  • JaydeSkye
    JaydeSkye Posts: 282 Member
    What is DDF?
    Drug & Disease free

    DDF sounds like something to specify only if:
    a. You are ordering a stripper
    b. You are ordering a prostitute
    c. You are ordering a mail order bride

    Has DDF actually become common dating lingo? We have to specify that now? Can I go ahead and mark this as the down-ward turning point in our society?:laugh:



    HAHHAHAA, right. I had no idea wtf it meant either.

    I guess DDF is the new LOL of the dating sites... so if someone says they're DF is it rude to ask them to specify which D-word they're not? Like, maybe you're OK with someone who does lines of coke off the kitchen table.. but you mistake the one D for someone who is infected with a "love bug" aka full blown HIV.

    Yes, I see things in a WORST CASE SCENERIO because they're funnier that way to me.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    It would kind of be like admitting you plan on have sex with someone immediately and simply prefer them not to have the herp...
  • scarletleavy
    scarletleavy Posts: 841 Member
    It would kind of be like admitting you plan on have sex with someone immediately and simply prefer them not to have the herp...

    This.
  • Kalrez
    Kalrez Posts: 655 Member
    What I look for:

    1. Someone who isn't a total creeper.
    2. Someone who doesn't flirt with everything with boobs.
    3. Someone who doesn't seem like they'd spike my wine with Roofies just so he could be the "nice guy" and make sure I got home safe.

    There's more, but those are really important.
  • Kalrez
    Kalrez Posts: 655 Member
    This thread made me puke in my mouth a little.

    All of his posts are puke-worthy. At least that helps with weight-loss!
  • crisanderson27
    crisanderson27 Posts: 5,343 Member
    This thread made me puke in my mouth a little.

    All of his posts are puke-worthy. At least that helps with weight-loss!

    Aww, c'mon!

    I mean, a little much, yes...but I think he's sincere...which goes a long way. I mean, its better than half the super players on this site lol.
  • FearAnLoathing
    FearAnLoathing Posts: 4,852 Member
    This thread made me puke in my mouth a little.

    All of his posts are puke-worthy. At least that helps with weight-loss!

    Aww, c'mon!

    I mean, a little much, yes...but I think he's sincere...which goes a long way. I mean, its better than half the super players on this site lol.



    awwww someone has a crush
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