please do not call me SKINNY...

bry_all01
bry_all01 Posts: 3,100 Member
edited October 2 in Success Stories
when I hear that word, I think of a waif. I am not currently a walking stick. No offense to anyone who is, but I am not. I have curves and have worked really hard to get these curves. See, I USED to be skinny - all of my life. I've had issues trying to gain weight, therefore I never had a real shape, except straight down and even times when my ribs and hip bones poked out. (Not a pretty sight to see).

Then, I put on weight (purposely) to shape, then tone my body. Now, I am working to define muscles. Since I came from that background, I do find it offensive when I am referred to as "skinny." It also offends me when people tell me I am too small and need to put on some weight.

I am 5'5" and 130 pounds with curves and abs. I could never say that before, but now I can, proudly.

So, before you go lightly throwing that word around, please think how it might make others feel. That is all.


I'm Bry and I approve this message.
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  • VeganGal84
    VeganGal84 Posts: 938 Member
    You look awesome!

    I come from the other side of the track, and LOVE hearing how skinny I am! :laugh: (which I know I'm not, but some family members think that I am!)

    I try to never comment on another's weight unless asked to. You never know what is the wrong thing to say, you know?
  • Qarol
    Qarol Posts: 6,171 Member
    I'm just not gonna go into my history with the word "skinny."

    Suffice to say, the overweight don't own the rights to be sensitive about weight and size. That's all I'll say.
  • JennsLosing
    JennsLosing Posts: 1,026
    nice post, and you look great :flowerforyou:
  • zaiikaa
    zaiikaa Posts: 112
    anyone can call me skinny and im fine with it, fyi
  • PantalaNagaPampa
    PantalaNagaPampa Posts: 1,031 Member
    I hat when people call me skinny, as well. Mainly b/c I know they are bing smart *kitten* and saying it in irony.. hurts my feel-bads... makes me a little sad inside.. then I just say choke em...

    I love your curves, you rock!!!
  • ChantalGG
    ChantalGG Posts: 2,404 Member
    Just like anorexic have a distorted vision of themselves so do some big people. They really do not see how big they really are and when they look at a normal sized person they think the fit person is to small because in their mind they are a healthy weight. Next time that happens grab their roll (or at least point it out) and then walk away.
  • risefromruin
    risefromruin Posts: 483 Member
    I think you look amazing!! My grandmother who was always a naturally small person hated the work skinny. She thought "slender" was a bit better. However, I think in your case we can go with "fit". Congrats on all that muscle tone!
  • bry_all01
    bry_all01 Posts: 3,100 Member
    thanks. I've been told I should be force-fed sandwiches before. Uh, that's nice, thanks. Its not like I wasn't trying... Oh, and I wasn't fishing for compliments, just saying words can hurt us all.
  • ShaeDetermined
    ShaeDetermined Posts: 1,525 Member
    how about hot?

    is it ok to say you're hot?

    send all the skinny comments at me. i'll take em no problem!!!
  • taso42_DELETED
    taso42_DELETED Posts: 3,394 Member
    not skinny. lean and mean :)
  • bry_all01
    bry_all01 Posts: 3,100 Member
    not skinny. lean and mean :)


    mean is right, especially after midnight, lmao! and, thank you!
  • CakeFit21
    CakeFit21 Posts: 2,521 Member
    I completely understand.

    It really bothers me when people call me skinny. It makes me feel like all the work I have put into my MUSCLES has no value. I may be smaller than I used to be, but I am not skinny.
  • Suzannejl
    Suzannejl Posts: 212
    You look fantastic! Great post by the way!
  • PantalaNagaPampa
    PantalaNagaPampa Posts: 1,031 Member
    not skinny. lean and mean :)


    mean is right, especially after midnight, lmao! and, thank you!
    after midnight and a bottle ot tequila...
  • infamousmk
    infamousmk Posts: 6,033 Member
    I am working very hard to think about what I actually say about ANYONE'S body. I recently realized that I used to say some pretty fu@ked up things about people (both overweight and thin), and I'm trying to make amends.
  • bry_all01
    bry_all01 Posts: 3,100 Member
    not skinny. lean and mean :)


    mean is right, especially after midnight, lmao! and, thank you!
    after midnight and a bottle ot tequila...


    beer, no more tequila, its not allowed...
  • summertime_girl
    summertime_girl Posts: 3,945 Member
    Skinny is a compliment, try to take it as such.
  • Panda_Jack
    Panda_Jack Posts: 829 Member
    You can still call me beefcake!
  • bry_all01
    bry_all01 Posts: 3,100 Member
    Skinny is a compliment, try to take it as such.

    sorry, but I agree to disagree. In my eyes, that would be like me calling someone a cow. That's not nice or appreciated and I would never do that.
  • CountryDevil
    CountryDevil Posts: 819 Member
    not skinny. lean and mean :)


    mean is right, especially after midnight, lmao! and, thank you!
    after midnight and a bottle ot tequila...


    beer, no more tequila, its not allowed...

    Never give up on Tequila...

    http://www.lowfatdietplan.org/diet-health-and-fitness/spirits/tequila-nutrition-facts
  • bry_all01
    bry_all01 Posts: 3,100 Member
    I completely understand.

    It really bothers me when people call me skinny. It makes me feel like all the work I have put into my MUSCLES has no value. I may be smaller than I used to be, but I am not skinny.

    right? You are gorgeous, by the way. :flowerforyou:
  • CakeFit21
    CakeFit21 Posts: 2,521 Member
    Skinny is a compliment, try to take it as such.

    No, it isn't always. And you know it isn't when you hear it in a certain context. When someone is being told she should be force fed a sandwich it CERTAINLY isn't.
  • brittanyjeanxo
    brittanyjeanxo Posts: 1,831 Member
    :laugh: you are not skinny, Bry...you are HOT! ;)
  • CountryDevil
    CountryDevil Posts: 819 Member
    Does Devilishly Curvy count?
  • cmonskinnylovee
    cmonskinnylovee Posts: 339
    Skinny sounds so negative :( I think thin is a more appropriate term, because you can still be THIN and have curves :)
  • brittanyjeanxo
    brittanyjeanxo Posts: 1,831 Member
    Skinny is a compliment, try to take it as such.

    She shouldn't have to try to take it as such. Especially if she doesn't find it to be a compliment.
  • supertracylynn
    supertracylynn Posts: 1,338 Member
    Thin, slender, slim, fit.... I also like fierce and vicious.

    I am 5'6" and about 136#. Wear a size 6. I work for this, I work really hard for this. My defenses go up, too, when I get called "skinny". I really want to tell them this,

    "Look, I am pretty solid I'm not skinny. I'd like to punch you in the throat. But I won't, because you're not worth the effort."
  • bry_all01
    bry_all01 Posts: 3,100 Member
    :laugh: you are not skinny, Bry...you are HOT! ;)

    thank Brit!
  • Riley4ever
    Riley4ever Posts: 225 Member
    Hi I've been at both ends of the weight spectrum (but mostly on the fat side!) - interestingly people only ever told me when they thought I was getting 'too thin' not ever when they thought I was getting 'too fat' but anyway what I really wanted to say is that a lot of people lack the correct vocabulary. When I was slim and younger, I used to get so upset because everyone would describe me as 'big' instead of tall - I'm 5 ft 9" and at the time was only 142 lbs and the use of that word was what hurled me into a life of yo-yo dieting. Enjoy your curves :D
  • summertime_girl
    summertime_girl Posts: 3,945 Member
    Coming from a cow, I'd LOVE to be skinny again. And if I say it to someone else, it's both a compliment and a decent measure of jealousy.
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