please do not call me SKINNY...

bry_all01

Does Devilishly Curvy count?

I'll take that. I am rather devilish. :devil:

ilookthetype

Skinny is a compliment, try to take it as such.

Skinny isn't always a compliment, for me it was an unhealthy goal. I NEEDED to be skinny, and so I starved myself, being told I was skinny wasn't a compliment, it was feeding my ED. Tell people that they look fabulous, sexy as hell, but skinny isn't really the best word.

Bry, You're freaking smokin' hot. Taso is right, "lean and mean"

juscallmeb

oh go eat some pb&J that'll make you feel better and you're not skinny at ALL, so i don't know what you're talking about.



ps: I'm B and i approve this message.
pss: i heart you and your toned buns and thighs. *Lunges & Squats all day*

LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo

You look awesome!

I come from the other side of the track, and LOVE hearing how skinny I am! :laugh: (which I know I'm not, but some family members think that I am!)

I try to never comment on another's weight unless asked to. You never know what is the wrong thing to say, you know?

Me too I love to be called "skinny" but hate to be called fat

bry_all01

Coming from a cow, I'd LOVE to be skinny again. And if I say it to someone else, it's both a compliment and a decent measure of jealousy.

the way you put it makes sense, but not when I have been told I am going to be forcefed a sandwich, that is not a compliment or when I am told go eat the entire cake (first of all, gross, second, um, not healthy, third, that's just rude). I personally never want to get back to that point in my life. 100 pounds is scary and it wasn't that long ago.

Riley4ever

Skinny sounds so negative I think thin is a more appropriate term, because you can still be THIN and have curves

^^^^ I think Slim is a nicer term than both - skinny or thin doesn't sound like a compliment if you genuinely are skinny or thin but Slim sounds healthy

pixiechick8321

This is a hot button topic with me as well. I'm slender, slim, hopefully will be fit but I'm not skinny, anorexic, crazy, "all skin and bones" or other things like that.

Words can hurt both ways!

I eat well to be healthy, I don't want to eat your 10,000 calorie meal and I don't "need" to eat more....if you have an issue being around me because I'm at a good weight and I eat well, that's your problem, not mine.

But good to bring it up occasionally so people are aware of all issues surrounding being "fit", "lean" and healthy!

brittanyjeanxo

This is what I think of when I hear the word skinny (even though I am not)

http://t2.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcRNW2Y7vbNAR1jwlwf95x7_1jGFHZH6fe8Vuk573V78MqE6Z6zq2A <--go there.

THAT is skinny. Bry, is fit. When I lose weight, I'd much rather be called thin or fit than skinny.

LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo

By the way Bry, you don't look skinny but a fit toned body that I wish to have.

CakeFit21

I completely understand.

It really bothers me when people call me skinny. It makes me feel like all the work I have put into my MUSCLES has no value. I may be smaller than I used to be, but I am not skinny.

right? You are gorgeous, by the way. :flowerforyou:

Thanks! You're pretty gorgeous yourself!

juscallmeb

I enjoy if people say - "you look great, healthy and so in shape" .. me personally, i don't want to be called skinny - because i know i'm not - I'm curvy, musclar and kick *kitten*

jljohnson

I'd rather hear fit, buff, lean, athletic, and a host of other adjectives over skinny, but I try to take peoples' comments as kindly as possible. I agree that to me, skinny means underweight with no curves or muscle, and I don't want to be that.

For the record, Bry, you have a rockin' hourglass figure. I'm 5'4", and striving to hit 130 and have your shape.

Hoppymom

You are beautiful. I was too thin most of my younger years. 5'4" and 108# when 3 months pregnant with my first. I was always mocked in high school and relatives always told me to eat. (NOT anorexic or buliemic) I slowly added five pounds with each child and felt healthy after number three. Number four triggered something in my metabolism amd I have put weight on ever since. Now I am over 250 and struggling to loose. I have been the brunt of comments from others about my wieght again. Just no pleasing some people. (Ya can't please everyone, so ya got to please yourself.) [Rick Nelson] Have a great day.

bry_all01

Skinny is a compliment, try to take it as such.

Skinny isn't always a compliment, for me it was an unhealthy goal. I NEEDED to be skinny, and so I starved myself, being told I was skinny wasn't a compliment, it was feeding my ED. Tell people that they look fabulous, sexy as hell, but skinny isn't really the best word.

Bry, You're freaking smokin' hot. Taso is right, "lean and mean"

I am pretty sure that to get down to 100 pounds 4 years ago, I had an ED, never diagnosed, but I would have to guess it was. I was controlling myself with food, or lack thereof. It was the one thing I felt I could control in my crazy life at the time. Then, when I realized what I had done, it took me 3 years to gain any weight.

Rebecca2u

I think you look phenomenal! I think most everyone is challenged one way or another by weight and body image, but often times people don't "think" before they speak. You look amazing!

LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo

Coming from a cow, I'd LOVE to be skinny again. And if I say it to someone else, it's both a compliment and a decent measure of jealousy.

the way you put it makes sense, but not when I have been told I am going to be forcefed a sandwich, that is not a compliment or when I am told go eat the entire cake (first of all, gross, second, um, not healthy, third, that's just rude). I personally never want to get back to that point in my life. 100 pounds is scary and it wasn't that long ago.

That's pretty insulting & rude. In our case its like saying you don't need to eat or never mind if you're hungry because it doesn't show or its better if you get sick so you can lose weight. How many times I suffered from hearing these things for the majority of my life from adolescent to adult (except now). If they only knew how sickly I was before. If only people would be more educated & sensitive about weight issues.

ChitownFoodie

I completely understand where you are coming from. People tell me all the time that I am skinny, but I don't like it because the word itself has a negative connotation. It's as though there is something wrong with me...like I am unhealthy. I am far from a boney person, but its implied that I am when people hear that I am skinny.

Bottom line, I would never call you skinny.....I will call you healthy!

solpwr

So our prior experience in life affects how we hear and accept what is said.
A person who has been overweight for all or even a portion of their lives would usually take being called "skinny" as a compliment.
On the other hand, the person who has been underweight for all or a portion of their lives usually takes that as an insult.
Either way, it's personal.

The bigger and more relevant question is: How did the speaker intend for his/her words to be taken?
That too varies, right? If the speaker has prior knowledge of your efforts to gain (or lose) weight, he/she would likely be sensitive to how the hearer would react to the word "skinny", and not use (or use) the word.
If the speaker has little or no prior knowledge of you and your life, he/she may still use the word, likely intending it as a compliment (or insult), depending on the goal of the speaker.

That person may be somewhat flippant in the use of the word, but likely no malice was intended, unless the person is intending to make an insult, which is also pretty clear.

We benefit ourselves when we take into account the motives of the speaker, and not take it personally.

Kristhin

Anyone who wants can call me skinny! :P

bry_all01

Thin, slender, slim, fit.... I also like fierce and vicious.

I am 5'6" and about 136#. Wear a size 6. I work for this, I work really hard for this. My defenses go up, too, when I get called "skinny". I really want to tell them this,

"Look, I am pretty solid I'm not skinny. I'd like to punch you in the throat. But I won't, because you're not worth the effort."

^^^This is just one of many many reasons that I you!

Purecity

I completely agree!

Short story: I used to work with a girl who weighed 106 lbs and at the time I stood at 300 + lbs. We were the only two women in the office and sat with 4 men. They constantly cracked jokes about her weight, but never mine. One day I had enough. I had to tell them that it wasnt right to do so and that its actually very mean. They did not understand because they felt that "fat" was the only bad term for weight. I explained it to them and it stopped. But I know it used to make her upset because she would always excuse herself when they would start. But even if it didnt bother her, that **** sure bothered me!

But anywho, you look lovely!

bry_all01

So our prior experience in life affects how we hear and accept what is said.
A person who has been overweight for all or even a portion of their lives would usually take being called "skinny" as a compliment.
On the other hand, the person who has been underweight for all or a portion of their lives usually takes that as an insult.
Either way, it's personal.

The bigger and more relevant question is: How did the speaker intend for his/her words to be taken?
That too varies, right? If the speaker has prior knowledge of your efforts to gain (or lose) weight, he/she would likely be sensitive to how the hearer would react to the word "skinny", and not use (or use) the word.
If the speaker has little or no prior knowledge of you and your life, he/she may still use the word, likely intending it as a compliment (or insult), depending on the goal of the speaker.

That person may be somewhat flippant in the use of the word, but likely no malice was intended, unless the person is intending to make an insult, which is also pretty clear.

We benefit ourselves when we take into account the motives of the speaker, and not take it personally.

I am going to take a stab in the dark and say that I appear ill and need to have a sandwich shoved down my throat. How would you take that?

bry_all01

oh go eat some pb&J that'll make you feel better and you're not skinny at ALL, so i don't know what you're talking about.



ps: I'm B and i approve this message.
pss: i heart you and your toned buns and thighs. *Lunges & Squats all day*

thanks B! One of the reasons you are one of my faves. :smooched:

Lozzy_82

I'm not in any danger of being called either, but I've never thought that skinny or thin were very attractive words. I prefer slim, slender or just "in shape".

pixlamarque

I have been overweight pretty much my entire life. I remember being in 4th grade riding my bike and one of my brother's friends said I had thunder thighs. I had no idea what that was but I thought it must be awesome and it probably meant that I could pedal my bike super fast. Ah, to be a 4th grader again........ Anyway, back to the point, when I lose every pound that I intend to, I never want to be called skinny. Skinny is gross to me. Thin, stringy, boney, and uncomfortable. Not healthy. Frankly, I don't want to be thin, either, as that says no curves to me. I want to be a healthy, fit, stong woman. And not just in body.

jljc_2010

Thanks for spreading the wisdom and awareness!

Sarahbara76

I think those folks are jealous, your not boney your toned, I want to look like you!! But I hear it all the time, I used to be anorexic and I think if I look too thin everybody is scared I am not eating , I am 5foot 6 1/2 inches and weigh 137 pounds but I am lean muscle ..if I could get abs like yours I would be set!
PS ..I think some really thin girls say to eat sandwiches because they don't want me to be thinner then them..as if I could , I eat healthy and work out so it's not happening anytime soon!!

solpwr

So our prior experience in life affects how we hear and accept what is said.
A person who has been overweight for all or even a portion of their lives would usually take being called "skinny" as a compliment.
On the other hand, the person who has been underweight for all or a portion of their lives usually takes that as an insult.
Either way, it's personal.

The bigger and more relevant question is: How did the speaker intend for his/her words to be taken?
That too varies, right? If the speaker has prior knowledge of your efforts to gain (or lose) weight, he/she would likely be sensitive to how the hearer would react to the word "skinny", and not use (or use) the word.
If the speaker has little or no prior knowledge of you and your life, he/she may still use the word, likely intending it as a compliment (or insult), depending on the goal of the speaker.

That person may be somewhat flippant in the use of the word, but likely no malice was intended, unless the person is intending to make an insult, which is also pretty clear.

We benefit ourselves when we take into account the motives of the speaker, and not take it personally.

I am going to take a stab in the dark and say that I appear ill and need to have a sandwich shoved down my throat. How would you take that?

That's pretty clearly an insult. What was that person's motive for insulting you?

bry_all01

I think those folks are jealous, your not boney your toned, I want to look like you!! But I hear it all the time, I used to be anorexic and I think if I look too thin everybody is scared I am not eating , I am 5foot 6 1/2 inches and weigh 137 pounds but I am lean muscle ..if I could get abs like yours I would be set!
PS ..I think some really thin girls say to eat sandwiches because they don't want me to be thinner then them..as if I could , I eat healthy and work out so it's not happening anytime soon!!

I love me some sandwiches and food, good food, bad foo, all sorts of food, but you force something down my throat, and I am going to punch you in the junk.

I used to ALSO get asked if I was on drugs! wtf? No. I am the most anti-drug person there is. No, I was anorexic, because I starved myself for control.

Thanks cutie!

odusgolp

Oh, stop whining you skinny b*tch

:flowerforyou: I love you more than I love lamp :smooched: