Is he just being nice?

Oishii

Ok... Now, if this guy is Chinese, you may have a whole different set of issues to think about. While I believe all humans are the same, deep inside, the way we express what we feel, culturally, can be very different.

At college I liked a Taiwanese boy, but I never thought he'd noticed me that much. Then he invited me to a (very expensive) ball. I went with him, but at the time I was seeing a number of people already and understood that was something he wouldn't get, so I made sure we didn't even kiss.

Later he took me for a meal and forced me to eat so much I threw up! He kept trying really hard to impress me, but I was scared I would hurt him too much.

Finally I found out the truth of the matter: his friends had bet that he couldn't get a girlfriend! I was the only Western girl he wasn't scared of (my skirts were longer than the others'), so he had asked me. If I had become his girlfriend he explained that it could never be serious because he wouldn't settle down until after his degree. I wish he'd told me all this earlier!

So... Why am I telling you this story?

1) I'm sure he likes you, in the way one human is naturally attracted to another.
2) He may be interested in you in the short term.
3) There may be cultural reasons why he wouldn't consider you as a long-term partner (there also may not).

I wouldn't bring this up now... Wait to see what happens... But if something does happen between you, please try to have this conversation before your heart is broken.

My husband is a very Westernised Japanese man, and my Chinese/Korean pupils have said they find that very interesting because they just can't imagine dating Westerners.

Hope that helps, a little at least.

Oishii

Ok... Now, if this guy is Chinese, you may have a whole different set of issues to think about. While I believe all humans are the same, deep inside, the way we express what we feel, culturally, can be very different.

At college I liked a Taiwanese boy, but I never thought he'd noticed me that much. Then he invited me to a (very expensive) ball. I went with him, but at the time I was seeing a number of people already and understood that was something he wouldn't get, so I made sure we didn't even kiss.

Later he took me for a meal and forced me to eat so much I threw up! He kept trying really hard to impress me, but I was scared I would hurt him too much.

Finally I found out the truth of the matter: his friends had bet that he couldn't get a girlfriend! I was the only Western girl he wasn't scared of (my skirts were longer than the others'), so he had asked me. If I had become his girlfriend he explained that it could never be serious because he wouldn't settle down until after his degree. I wish he'd told me all this earlier!

So... Why am I telling you this story?

1) I'm sure he likes you, in the way one human is naturally attracted to another.
2) He may be interested in you in the short term.
3) There may be cultural reasons why he wouldn't consider you as a long-term partner (there also may not).

I wouldn't bring this up now... Wait to see what happens... But if something does happen between you, please try to have this conversation before your heart is broken.

My husband is a very Westernised Japanese man, and my Chinese/Korean pupils have said they find that very interesting because they just can't imagine dating Westerners.

Hope that helps, a little at least.

i_love_vinegar

Ok... Now, if this guy is Chinese, you may have a whole different set of issues to think about. While I believe all humans are the same, deep inside, the way we express what we feel, culturally, can be very different.

At college I liked a Taiwanese boy, but I never thought he'd noticed me that much. Then he invited me to a (very expensive) ball. I went with him, but at the time I was seeing a number of people already and understood that was something he wouldn't get, so I made sure we didn't even kiss.

Later he took me for a meal and forced me to eat so much I threw up! He kept trying really hard to impress me, but I was scared I would hurt him too much.

Finally I found out the truth of the matter: his friends had bet that he couldn't get a girlfriend! I was the only Western girl he wasn't scared of (my skirts were longer than the others'), so he had asked me. If I had become his girlfriend he explained that it could never be serious because he wouldn't settle down until after his degree. I wish he'd told me all this earlier!

So... Why am I telling you this story?

1) I'm sure he likes you, in the way one human is naturally attracted to another.
2) He may be interested in you in the short term.
3) There may be cultural reasons why he wouldn't consider you as a long-term partner (there also may not).

I wouldn't bring this up now... Wait to see what happens... But if something does happen between you, please try to have this conversation before your heart is broken.

My husband is a very Westernised Japanese man, and my Chinese/Korean pupils have said they find that very interesting because they just can't imagine dating Westerners.

Hope that helps, a little at least.

Thank you! i have heard this before...my ex boyfriend was Chinese (from China..hardly westernized) and introduced me to his parents as his "future wife" after only a couple months...so I do believe there is a chance at more than just short term ^^

I will def make sure this isnt a bet though *_* Thank you!!!

ps: I need to mention I know this guy, another guy I also like (from China) and a korean guy (who i know really likes me) have all been communicating recently...

i_love_vinegar

it sounds like he likes you. and you DO remind me of an anime character with these boy dilemmas lol

Thank you ^^ I agree it is kinda like an anime o_O

SkateboardFi

it sounds like he likes you. and you DO remind me of an anime character with these boy dilemmas lol

Thank you ^^ I agree it is kinda like an anime o_O

hahaha kinda like a tenchi muyo situation lol

zombiesama

I LOVE ANIME! Could you please tell me what series you are talking about...You know, for educational purposes as well? ;P

I'm wondering if it was Clannad. The stories start to seem interlaced after awhile, so I can't remember what happened where. lol

Ive always meant to seen Clannad (well, since it came out :P), so even if its not from that anime, Thank you!!

I don't think it is Clannad, but it is a good series and After Story too. you should definitely watch it though

i_love_vinegar

Still need to see Clannad, but I decided since I updated yesterday, I might as well update today as well ^^

We met wayyy before class started, he helped me, and then we went to the library together.

Somehow he ended up mentioning that he used to play WOW 24 hours per day up until recently...which leads me to believe there is the possibility he could be romantically socially awkward xD

Anyways, long story short, he asked me to hang out with him later this week...nothing big, but its not about school for once XD Yay~he said, "lets eat lunch together and play videogames."

He didn't compliment me (as usual), BUT made another random comment, "You always wear heels."

So, thats my update. Taking creeper status to the next level, one post at a time. :smokin:

warmachinejt

I think the best thing is to just get to know him better. That way you will hopefully feel more comfortable with him and vice versa so that he may make his feelings known and/or by that time you will feel more comfortable letting him know yours.

I will definitely wait. I am scared to ever tell my feelings, but I agree that hopefully we will become more comfortable. I am so happy we have the same teacher! haha

Simple: he wants you! Sounds like he is interested. Good luck!

Thank you! I hope this is true ^^

If he walked you home and didn't have to, then HE LIKES YOU. plain and simple. Plus you are gorgeous so why would he not?

I really hope this is true too! I don't think i am gorgeous, but you are very kind!!! Thank you >_<

Play hard to get and wait for him to ask you on a date...

Thank you as well. I think it will be easy to play hard to get, since it works with awkwardness

don't play hard to get or if he will go with another girl
and he won't know if you're interested i was just in the same thing with a girl i have a crush on still nothing...

i_love_vinegar

I think the best thing is to just get to know him better. That way you will hopefully feel more comfortable with him and vice versa so that he may make his feelings known and/or by that time you will feel more comfortable letting him know yours.

I will definitely wait. I am scared to ever tell my feelings, but I agree that hopefully we will become more comfortable. I am so happy we have the same teacher! haha

Simple: he wants you! Sounds like he is interested. Good luck!

Thank you! I hope this is true ^^

If he walked you home and didn't have to, then HE LIKES YOU. plain and simple. Plus you are gorgeous so why would he not?

I really hope this is true too! I don't think i am gorgeous, but you are very kind!!! Thank you >_<

Play hard to get and wait for him to ask you on a date...

Thank you as well. I think it will be easy to play hard to get, since it works with awkwardness

don't play hard to get or if he will go with another girl
and he won't know if you're interested i was just in the same thing with a girl i have a crush on still nothing...

Thanks~we are getting closer now so i dont feel like passing out...now i just feel a bit lightheaded So I will not play too hard to get >_< I dont want to be too...aggressive though haha

warmachinejt

this guy sounds like me i am very flirty and i do it cause i'm bored (no girlfriend) so that's probably the only way he can have some fun with girls you can fill the spot though! ask him if he has a gf. I did it with my crush and she said no still i don't know if she is interested
just randomly ask him during conversation i know it is akward and then talk about something else

i_love_vinegar

this guy sounds like me i am very flirty and i do it cause i'm bored (no girlfriend) so that's probably the only way he can have some fun with girls you can fill the spot though! ask him if he has a gf. I did it with my crush and she said no still i don't know if she is interested
just randomly ask him during conversation i know it is akward and then talk about something else

Thanks. I never see him flirt with other girls...he often ignores them...so i hope its not just cuz hes bored ^^ >_<

Ah...im pretty certain he doesnt have a gf though because his fb says he doesnt XD Should i still ask? XD

ps: Thanks man

i_love_vinegar

Another Update:

Today we had a BBQ for our class...it lasted 8 hours o_o

My crush and I spent most of our time together, but here are the other things that give me hope haha:

-Last night he texted me at 1am to make sure I was coming.

-He mentioned last time, "You should come to my dorm, after the test," and this time he said, "After my test, I should go to your dorm too." The test is the English test he takes next month which will determine whether he can stay in the country or not ^^

I realized maybe he is saying this because he is playing me OR because he wants to date me after he passes the test (I believe he will). I am hoping it is because he wants to date me though, because he hardly asks me for help with his English...
Although one of the few things he asked me was, "Am I saying this correctly: What a hot day....what a beautiful girl!" Then he tried teaching me how to say it in Chinese. :blushing:

-He came up to me with food in his chopsticks and was like, "You should try this." I was like, "huh?" and he moved his chopsticks to my mouth...so it was like an indirect kiss *yes, I am 21 :indifferent: *
He also put food on my plate numerous times.

Although I wandered off a bit, I would often find him standing next to me. :blushing:

so thats my update ~_~

Wpbarr

He wants you, he may or may not like you. Big difference, initially. The liking may develop later.

i_love_vinegar

He wants you, he may or may not like you. Big difference, initially. The liking may develop later.

Sorry, could you please explain the difference between wanting and liking someone? >.< I thought it was the same thing >.<

Iamfit4life

He wants you, he may or may not like you. Big difference, initially. The liking may develop later.

Sorry, could you please explain the difference between wanting and liking someone? >.< I thought it was the same thing >.<

"wanting" is usually just sexual, short lived.

"liking" is the whole shebang.

i_love_vinegar

He wants you, he may or may not like you. Big difference, initially. The liking may develop later.

Sorry, could you please explain the difference between wanting and liking someone? >.< I thought it was the same thing >.<

"wanting" is usually just sexual, short lived.

"liking" is the whole shebang.

Oh I see. Thank you!

I'm not sure if it is wanting or liking, and I know my Econ teacher would kill me for saying this, but I would like to take the risk of getting my heart broken...I have some eye issues which cause me to see (abnormal) colors everywhere, and when I see him, sometimes he is covered in pink. >.<

If he wants me even only for the short-term, it makes me happy.

PS: I guess I should add...this guy reminds me of when I was in high school. There was a guy who had a crush on me -- he was never direct, but it was very clear. But he would get jealous and get mad at me. I really liked him back, but denied it since he wasn't asian and he was also extremely good looking. I basically ignored/avoided him...

I remember the last time I saw him, he had this look on his face...A couple years later I was on the bus and a guy asks me, "Do I know you?" I didn't recognize him at first, and said, "No..." and then I recognized him. He said, "I thought I did..." I felt awkward, and he said, "You are so beautiful..." and then I pretended I was busy and he fell asleep from car sickness

There are days I look back on my actions toward him with a lot of regret...

My crush reminds me of the guy from high school. His lanky appearance, very good looking, charismatic yet a loner, the way he acts toward me...I feel like it is a second chance, or it is a lesson where I will get my heart broken as karma for my past.

ThinspiredButterfly

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