for guys... When you see a girl with limited clothing on..

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  • punkischic
    punkischic Posts: 24 Member
    I'm a little disturbed by people making assumptions a woman who may wear revealing clothing has no respect for herself as well.


    Actually VERY disturbed.

    I feel the same way. :(

    Ditto x3.
  • Under normal circumstance, a guy could see four types of women:

    1) ugly and/or slutty and wearing little
    2) pretty and wearing little
    3) ugly and/or slutty and wearing nice clothes
    4) pretty and wearing nice clothes

    The hands down winner is the pretty girl whether she's dressed nicely or skimpily. A girl that is too old but wears very short skirts (e.g. one of my professors *shutters at the thought*), a girl that seems slutty, or a girl that obviously takes no pride in her appearance is always a turn off. The moral: you don't have to shed clothes to attract a guy. If you look good without clothes on, then you look good with them on as well.
  • Samerah12
    Samerah12 Posts: 610 Member
    I was talking to my cousin the other day about how i wish girls would wear more clothing because its very disrespectful to themselves and to other people and he agreed. He told me that whenever he sees a pretty girl with a short dress, skirt or shorts, and/or a revealing top, he cant help but think dirty thoughts about her and he didnt want to have those thoughts as he is in a serious relationship with his girlfriend. I asked him if every guy thought like that and he told me most of them do.

    so this leads me to ask for you fella's honest response... when you see a girl thats in revealing clothing, do you think nasty thoughts, or do you just think oh shes hot and move on?

    I wear whatever I want. People can think whatever they want- including but not limited to judging me harshly (people like you) or thinking dirty thoughts (people like your boyfriend). I respect myself plenty and I only give the time of day to people who treat me with respect. Its fairly simple.

    If I had to give a crap what every single person was going to think of my clothing choices I would literally never leave the house.
  • Samerah12
    Samerah12 Posts: 610 Member
    Lol I dont see nothing wrong with showing your breast. Im a 46 DDD and its hard to stay covered up 24/7 just because they're out "there" I dont look like a slut and I dont do it for attention I used to feel self conscious about them but hey. A cup chicks are just haters. Haters gonna hate it is what it is.

    also, this ^

    Especially when I was bigger. Thankfully the girls are finally starting to shrink with the rest of me.
  • dmpizza
    dmpizza Posts: 3,321 Member
    Unfortunately the demographics in our country have changed and the cultures that respect women the least, have grown more prominent.
    This should change.

    I like how enjoying sex and not acting like we're somehow above our base instincts of food and sex is somehow "disrespectful".
    I was referring to certain groups where young men think they can paw whatever comes their way.
  • fiberartist219
    fiberartist219 Posts: 1,865 Member
    The bottom line is this: Men, not boys - MEN, can sense a woman's comfort level with herself and THAT is what makes anything sexy or whatever.

    This is what my husband and all of our male friends say. Confidence is sexy. It doesn't matter how a woman dresses as long as she is fun to be around.
  • HMonsterX
    HMonsterX Posts: 3,000 Member
    Three answers;
    1. What you tell your wife/gf.
    2. What you post on these boards (according to what image you want to portray).
    3. The truth.

    Every guy that sees a sexy girl in sexy clothes has a "what if..." scenario through their mind.

    Just as every girl who sees their image of what they consider a hot guy has a "what if.." thought.

    It's how one acts on their thoughts that is relevant.

    This. Totally this. I cannot agree with this enough!
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,985 Member
    I was talking to my cousin the other day about how i wish girls would wear more clothing because its very disrespectful to themselves and to other people and he agreed. He told me that whenever he sees a pretty girl with a short dress, skirt or shorts, and/or a revealing top, he cant help but think dirty thoughts about her and he didnt want to have those thoughts as he is in a serious relationship with his girlfriend. I asked him if every guy thought like that and he told me most of them do.

    so this leads me to ask for you fella's honest response... when you see a girl thats in revealing clothing, do you think nasty thoughts, or do you just think oh shes hot and move on?
    The natural primal instinct reaction is to want to mate....................that said, it's subjective. My taste in women lead me to thinking HOT. Nia Peeples, Salma Hayek and even Jane Seymour. If a girl just dresses skeezy, that's usually what I think of her.
    No need to dress like a hoochie to get a male's attention.
  • marnijojo
    marnijojo Posts: 235 Member
    ya made me look...

    “the act is not culpable unless the mind is guilty,
  • Dylanzmom
    Dylanzmom Posts: 120
    I completely agree... on all counts... (with BrittanyJean) if guys had uncontrollable nasty thoughts every time they saw a girl in a short dress... nothing would get done... ever... i live in the south and in the summer there is a lot of skin, but i go places with my guy friends and they may check a girl out, but they are not so distracted they cant look away after a fraction of a second.

    ^^^this, i live in Texas and went to Sea World yesterday and its still warm here so yes i was in a tube top and shorts. now some women might say that is skimpy but i was trying to keep cool..
  • Alicia:

    So I saw that you posted in this when I logged in...I can see why. It's you! Definitely! And you know what, I don't care what you or anyone else wears. That's your business. Wear what makes you feel comfortable. You go girl!

    Hi Puritan. Nice to meet you. I am 2011...almost 2012. O.o How are you? Have we met? I don't think so, but it'd be nice if we could get together sometime and discuss what makes you think that you can judge what is right or wrong for others to wear, or that your archaic worldview has any place in the modern world?

    P.S. Nudists really have the right idea. Cheers.

    LMAO, sometimes i dress revealing, sometimes I cover it up, depends on my mood and how i feel... If I feel sexy I'll dress in what I think is sexy for me, if i feel like being casual, I'll be casual, it has nothing to do with trying to get attention or insecurities.... and when i see other woman dressed a bit revealing, i'm like go girl, do it if u can! so yea me n my guy will check out the same girl! also men are out with their shirts off, I dont mind that they not leaving it to my imagination a bit lol
  • MFPAddict
    MFPAddict Posts: 2,069 Member
    he cant help but think dirty thoughts about her and he didnt want to have those thoughts as he is in a serious relationship with his girlfriend.

    If the day ever comes that I stop having dirty thoughts about women, just start tossing dirt on me because it is my time to go.
  • kennethmgreen
    kennethmgreen Posts: 1,759 Member
    Biologically speaking, visual displays and audible calls have always been a method of attracting a mate. It's true of many species in the animal kingdom, and despite most humans not wanting to admit that they are animals our animal nature cannot be denied, and can rarely be repressed with any level of success.

    In a way, on a subconscious and primal level, we're trying to attract a lover when we make such calls or give such visual displays, but this doesn't mean that we're consciously asking for any increased attention or that we're dressing in such a way intentionally to gain attention. Much of what we do is due to subconscious activity that we have very little control over.

    In the modern world there is a loose set of mores that people are expected to live by, e.g., not walking around in public completely nude. That example is pretty widely adhered to, and is generally not an issue unless drugs or alcohol are involved...or lots of money and a dare. Anyway, one of those mores is called "decency" and though the legal definitions vary it's pretty common that anything goes in public except for exposing one's breasts or genitals--and breasts are OK under certain maternal circumstances. So, if one goes out in public wearing just enough to cover the breasts and vulva (like some bikinis), that's fine, and it should be fine.

    In regards to the calls, stares and other possibly "inappropriate" behaviour...it's not inappropriate at all. It's natural, and it can't be repressed. We cannot rationally expect to repress millions of years of evolution, and when we try to the consequences are often quite negative. So, when you're out in public and you hear someone whistle or yell something over your way, just keep moving, smile, and realise that your part of a biological system that is more complex than you've ever realised, and what's just occurred is simply natural.

    Too wordy? Meh, boredom. lol
    Not too wordy. But how come when I see a potential mate, and I start running quickly in circles, flapping my arms, bobbing my head up and down and whistling really loud it never works? Ever.
  • _Ben
    _Ben Posts: 1,608 Member
    so this leads me to ask for you fella's honest response... when you see a girl thats in revealing clothing, do you think nasty thoughts, or do you just think oh shes hot and move on?

    Totally depends really
  • JDNOX
    JDNOX Posts: 619
    he cant help but think dirty thoughts about her and he didnt want to have those thoughts as he is in a serious relationship with his girlfriend.

    If the day ever comes that I stop having dirty thoughts about women, just start tossing dirt on me because it is my time to go.

    totally agree. .. but what is wrong with having "dirty thoughts" Wear what you want to wear and don't wear what you don't want to wear. To me as long as you are tasteful then cool
  • Gary1977
    Gary1977 Posts: 804 Member
    When I see a girl wearing a short dress, I think......whats under that dress? Its probably your normal cotton panties but what if its a sexy thong or maybe something cool that I don't even know about!

    Cheers for quoting "Old School":drinker:
  • skinnnyxoxo
    skinnnyxoxo Posts: 210 Member
    Personally, I think it's sort of degrading to dress and to show an EXTREME amount of skin.
    As my good friend once said, "Victoria Secret isn't for girls, it's for guys", if you know what I mean.
  • i_love_vinegar
    i_love_vinegar Posts: 2,092 Member
    It bothers you so much how OTHER women dress that you have to ask a question about it? =/

    Im guessing these women make you insecure because you know men find them attractive. I'm not buying the, "I dont like it because it is degrading to women" nor the, "I am a straight man who does not like to see hot women in skimpy clothes" lines.

    Just because that girl walking down the street dresses in skimpy clothing does NOT mean she is trying to pick up YOUR man.

    ps: When I lived in South America there were girls who would dress in skimpy clothing. Now I live in Asia, and there are plenty of girls who wear skimpy clothing. It is normal all-around the world, and I see it MUCH MORE degrading to force a woman to cover herself from head-to-toe WITHOUT a choice to say otherwise, while allowing men to wear whatever.
  • JDNOX
    JDNOX Posts: 619
    It bothers you so much how OTHER women dress that you have to ask a question about it? =/

    Im guessing these women make you insecure because you know men find them attractive. I'm not buying the, "I dont like it because it is degrading to women" nor the, "I am a straight man who does not like to see hot women in skimpy clothes" lines.

    Just because that girl walking down the street dresses in skimpy clothing does NOT mean she is trying to pick up YOUR man.

    ps: When I lived in South America there were girls who would dress in skimpy clothing. Now I live in Asia, and there are plenty of girls who wear skimpy clothing. It is normal all-around the world, and I see it MUCH MORE degrading to force a woman to cover herself from head-to-toe WITHOUT a choice to say otherwise, while allowing men to wear whatever.


    WOW, well said
  • martini83
    martini83 Posts: 113 Member
    I can't really speak for the men, but when i see a pretty girl in revealing clothing I think dirty thoughts ;)
    me too
  • martini83
    martini83 Posts: 113 Member
    Biologically speaking, visual displays and audible calls have always been a method of attracting a mate. It's true of many species in the animal kingdom, and despite most humans not wanting to admit that they are animals our animal nature cannot be denied, and can rarely be repressed with any level of success.

    In a way, on a subconscious and primal level, we're trying to attract a lover when we make such calls or give such visual displays, but this doesn't mean that we're consciously asking for any increased attention or that we're dressing in such a way intentionally to gain attention. Much of what we do is due to subconscious activity that we have very little control over.

    In the modern world there is a loose set of mores that people are expected to live by, e.g., not walking around in public completely nude. That example is pretty widely adhered to, and is generally not an issue unless drugs or alcohol are involved...or lots of money and a dare. Anyway, one of those mores is called "decency" and though the legal definitions vary it's pretty common that anything goes in public except for exposing one's breasts or genitals--and breasts are OK under certain maternal circumstances. So, if one goes out in public wearing just enough to cover the breasts and vulva (like some bikinis), that's fine, and it should be fine.

    In regards to the calls, stares and other possibly "inappropriate" behaviour...it's not inappropriate at all. It's natural, and it can't be repressed. We cannot rationally expect to repress millions of years of evolution, and when we try to the consequences are often quite negative. So, when you're out in public and you hear someone whistle or yell something over your way, just keep moving, smile, and realise that your part of a biological system that is more complex than you've ever realised, and what's just occurred is simply natural.

    Too wordy? Meh, boredom. lol
    Not too wordy. But how come when I see a potential mate, and I start running quickly in circles, flapping my arms, bobbing my head up and down and whistling really loud it never works? Ever.
    Bahahahahahahahahaha the mental images
  • JDNOX
    JDNOX Posts: 619
    I can't really speak for the men, but when i see a pretty girl in revealing clothing I think dirty thoughts ;)
    me too

    we should hang out lol
  • martini83
    martini83 Posts: 113 Member
    yeah sure we could go to the beach and rate chicks on how hot they are :)
  • JDNOX
    JDNOX Posts: 619
    yeah sure we could go to the beach and rate chicks on how hot they are :)

    I will bring the beer!
  • dckim
    dckim Posts: 311 Member
    Lesser the better. :tongue:
  • Iamfit4life
    Iamfit4life Posts: 3,095 Member
    Personally, I think it's sort of degrading to dress and to show an EXTREME amount of skin.
    As my good friend once said, "Victoria Secret isn't for girls, it's for guys", if you know what I mean.

    oh come on. geez.
  • Unwrapping_Candy
    Unwrapping_Candy Posts: 487 Member
    Personally, I think it's sort of degrading to dress and to show an EXTREME amount of skin.
    As my good friend once said, "Victoria Secret isn't for girls, it's for guys", if you know what I mean.

    No, no. Victoria's Secret is most definitely for the ladies. The guys don't look nearly as good in it. And it's not "degrading" at all to show an "EXTREME" amount of skin. It's beautiful and natural. I totally dig chicks who wear Victoria's Secret's skimpiest lingerie. It tells me that they have an EXTREME level of RESPECT for their own body that they're not humiliated (aka degraded) by wearing something that shows it off, and they have an EXTREME level of CONFIDENCE and a high body image. Tell me something, would you wear almost nothing if you WEREN'T confident, didn't have a high body image, and didn't respect yourself? COME ON!!!!

    I am a woman. I am also a woman who cannot wear Victoria's Secret because they're not fluffy friendly, but I'm tellin' ya this, as soon as I reach my goal weight and I am toned the way I want to be toned and I am rockin confidence and a high body image for the first time in my adult life you can bet your puritanical glutes that I will be wearing some effin Victoria's Secret not only just for myself, but for whoever will be my girlfriend at the time. Cheers.
  • i_love_vinegar
    i_love_vinegar Posts: 2,092 Member
    Personally, I think it's sort of degrading to dress and to show an EXTREME amount of skin.
    As my good friend once said, "Victoria Secret isn't for girls, it's for guys", if you know what I mean.

    No, no. Victoria's Secret is most definitely for the ladies. The guys don't look nearly as good in it. And it's not "degrading" at all to show an "EXTREME" amount of skin. It's beautiful and natural. I totally dig chicks who wear Victoria's Secret's skimpiest lingerie. It tells me that they have an EXTREME level of RESPECT for their own body that they're not humiliated (aka degraded) by wearing something that shows it off, and they have an EXTREME level of CONFIDENCE and a high body image. Tell me something, would you wear almost nothing if you WEREN'T confident, didn't have a high body image, and didn't respect yourself? COME ON!!!!

    I am a woman. I am also a woman who cannot wear Victoria's Secret because they're not fluffy friendly, but I'm tellin' ya this, as soon as I reach my goal weight and I am toned the way I want to be toned and I am rockin confidence and a high body image for the first time in my adult life you can bet your puritanical glutes that I will be wearing some effin Victoria's Secret not only just for myself, but for whoever will be my girlfriend at the time. Cheers.

    WAY TO GO GIRL!!! I totally agree btw. As for Victorias Secret clothing, it looks like regular clothing. As for the lingerie, I've never in my life seen a woman walking down the street in her lingerie. The person who will see that lingerie is most likely the woman herself, and maybe her partner (if she has one). As for her partner, if simply wearing a certain pair of underwear makes him happy, why not? There is no shame in that, and there shouldn't be!
  • Iamfit4life
    Iamfit4life Posts: 3,095 Member
    Personally, I think it's sort of degrading to dress and to show an EXTREME amount of skin.
    As my good friend once said, "Victoria Secret isn't for girls, it's for guys", if you know what I mean.

    No, no. Victoria's Secret is most definitely for the ladies. The guys don't look nearly as good in it. And it's not "degrading" at all to show an "EXTREME" amount of skin. It's beautiful and natural. I totally dig chicks who wear Victoria's Secret's skimpiest lingerie. It tells me that they have an EXTREME level of RESPECT for their own body that they're not humiliated (aka degraded) by wearing something that shows it off, and they have an EXTREME level of CONFIDENCE and a high body image. Tell me something, would you wear almost nothing if you WEREN'T confident, didn't have a high body image, and didn't respect yourself? COME ON!!!!

    I am a woman. I am also a woman who cannot wear Victoria's Secret because they're not fluffy friendly, but I'm tellin' ya this, as soon as I reach my goal weight and I am toned the way I want to be toned and I am rockin confidence and a high body image for the first time in my adult life you can bet your puritanical glutes that I will be wearing some effin Victoria's Secret not only just for myself, but for whoever will be my girlfriend at the time. Cheers.

    WAY TO GO GIRL!!! I totally agree btw. As for Victorias Secret clothing, it looks like regular clothing. As for the lingerie, I've never in my life seen a woman walking down the street in her lingerie. The person who will see that lingerie is most likely the woman herself, and maybe her partner (if she has one). As for her partner, if simply wearing a certain pair of underwear makes him happy, why not? There is no shame in that, and there shouldn't be!
    Exactly.
    Some bizzare thinking in this thread. I LOVE Victorias Secret and I LOVE how it makes me feel and I LOVE how much S/O loves it. If there is something degrading about that I'd like to know.

    I'm not going grocery shopping in it.
  • MFPAddict
    MFPAddict Posts: 2,069 Member
    Personally, I think it's sort of degrading to dress and to show an EXTREME amount of skin.
    As my good friend once said, "Victoria Secret isn't for girls, it's for guys", if you know what I mean.

    I will let Gretchen Wilson respond to this one for me.

    Victoria's Secret well their stuff's real nice
    Oh but I can buy the same damn thing
    On a Wal-Mart shelf half price
    And still look sexy just as sexy
    As those models on TV
    No I don't need no designer tag
    To make my man want me
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