Ladies: Why so catty?

Iamfit4life

I've noticed this on here more than even in real life. it's interesting to see.


Men aren't like this and never have been. A man doesn't look at a man in affliction shirt and say "oh that man slut, he's just showing off"
A man doesn't like another man and there is hitting involved, then a beer.



Some ladies will just talk about eachother forever. How'd it get like this?

BigDaddyBRC

Yes, this I want to see

MFPAddict

Perhaps they are less likely to just throw down because of their manicures? :laugh:

sarah44254

The only thing I ever say about a lady is "how can she be so pretty?" then I will say outloud to that lady "you are beautiful!"

I think this is part of my low self esteem, always comparing myself. I have never once caught myself thinking negatively about other people

well, other than like 'why would that idiot get in my lane so close! grrr can't drive!' and the such as that but never personal remarks

I cannot imagine living like that. Putting down other folks? why?

lwhitman4

Psychological warfare vs physical warfare.

Both suck.

People should just grow up, honestly.

Just my two cents.

KatieCuth

I will all was wonder this.... Ive never being part of the "in crowd"...

Twins2007

Not sure...

Women have always been each other enemies....But every once in a while we let our barriers down and make the best of friends...

Sex and the city anyone?

Elissa

eelamme

I think it has to do with jealousy and low self esteem. When you're ok with yourself and your world, you just don't care as much about what others look like/do/say.

Romans624

I tend to be better able to be friends with guys I think because of this. A - I get offended easily, and B, for some reason somehow it seems men relate in a more easygoing way than women do (in general).

It could be me though because there are lots of women who have a ton of women friends... maybe I just lack the right personality.

glockster972

men just don't give a *kitten*!

Iamfit4life

Psychological warfare vs physical warfare.

Both suck.

People should just grow up, honestly.

Just my two cents.

I totally agree. I just can't stand the way I see women tear each other down.
(the man thing was mostly trying to have humor)

Cakepiebeer

you being a woman, wouldnt you know the answer already?

oh yea, its definitly low self esteem. Confident woman I know from fact dont feel the need to get caught up in such behavior

fiberartist219

Men do it too. I hear my husband trash talking people ALL THE TIME. I also have a male coworker who rarely speaks, but when he does, it's usually filled with juicy bits of gossip. It's rarely anything relevant to his own life.

I'm not going to lie and say women aren't catty, but to pretend that it's an issue that is exclusive to us is naive.

SunshineKisses_2012

That is actually something that I have studied and it all centers around insecurity. The cattier one woman is towards another, the better that other woman is at something she wants to do/accomplish. If you are an accountant, you are less likely to be catty/ugly towards a woman who excels in science. Why? Because that is not your specialty. Put two female accountants together, doing the same job, and watch the claws come out.

Women find it difficult to look for the good in another woman that does what she does, only better. I actually strive to look for the good in other women because you never know exactly when that other woman can impart something amazing into your life. It is a struggle, sometimes a daily one, however it is possible to see past yourself and like someone that you otherwise wouldn't.

IMHO

sjcply

Absolutely....women are vicious!! Some women are jealous of what another woman has that they dont! Its sooo sad! That is why I prefer the male species, they aren't catty!!

SunshineKisses_2012

Men do it too. I hear my husband trash talking people ALL THE TIME. I also have a male coworker who rarely speaks, but when he does, it's usually filled with juicy bits of gossip. It's rarely anything relevant to his own life.

I'm not going to lie and say women aren't catty, but to pretend that it's an issue that is exclusive to us is naive.

And I do have to agree with this. The men in my office are gossip queens. Wanna know something? Ask them. Women will knit pick at things all the time, but men can be just as catty and gossip driven as women.

atlraine

Perhaps they are less likely to just throw down because of their manicures? :laugh:

I thought OMG this guy look like LL! Was drooling! LOL!!!

Iamfit4life

you being a woman, wouldnt you know the answer already?

oh yea, its definitly low self esteem. Confident woman I know from fact dont feel the need to get caught up in such behavior

I'm not all that catty. This is probably why I never fit in lol

Carl01

It is all kind of silly but society has decreed a mans success is based on his achievements and a ladys based on her looks.
We are both in a constant state of competition but with a guy it isn`t as much with another individual as it is an overall financial/social status.

Awake_Alive

Here's to not fitting in and not being a catty bish. Here here!! :drinker:

MFPAddict

Perhaps they are less likely to just throw down because of their manicures? :laugh:

I thought OMG this guy look like LL! Was drooling! LOL!!!

I used a picture of someone less attractive than myself so I don't get hit on too much

ahinescapron

I agree with the previous posters, it is all about competition and insecurity. I have found that my female friendships seem to dwindle the more successful I am. For example, when I lost a lot of weight before, I suddenly found that my friends (even those who were not overweight) started acting catty with me. It really hurt my feelings. I have also heard women who just seem to get a great deal of enjoymend when their female friends fail at something. It is really sad. I don't know if it's just because I was always a tomboy, but I am really more comfortable around men.

_beachgirl_

I think for some women it is a way to bond! Men bond over sports, drinking beer, and scratching their balls. Women use talking about other women as a way to bond and feel part of the group, it's a way to feel out if other women think like they do. I notice it seems to get better as we get older, then we can connect with other women about marriage, having children, etc.

dmpizza

Social evolution.
Men used to deal with conflicts outside the family(hunting, business) and women dealt with conflicts within the family(children, neighbors).
The lines have blurred now, but that's the way it was thousands of years ago.

MFPAddict

I think for some women it is a way to bond! Men bond over sports, drinking beer, and scratching their balls. Women use talking about other women as a way to bond and feel part of the group, it's a way to feel out if other women think like they do. I notice it seems to get better as we get older, then we can connect with other women about marriage, having children, etc.

You are so right. I get together with the guys every Tuesday night for some great ball scratching. Scratch that. Basketball is Tuesday night. Ball scratching is Friday.

Romans624

I think women who are similar to each other (personality wise) tend to get along better (because they disagree less, so no one has to be wrong). They also tend to be able to affirm the other person without feeling like they themselves are less... so they both are reinforced, know that they are "good "This or that" in each others eyes. When they feel accepted, they are less likely to bring out their own claws, and take criticism with humor.

There is this weird issue going on in my class. There is this female who draws attention to herself, and has practically mated with one guy in our class. They are always grabbing on each other. We had to do skills testing in the same group... a couple classes later when practicing, she said "anyone want to practice with me", and I could have sworn it was me she looked at (99% sure) and she said "not you you make me nervous".... this is a comment I totally don't get since I barely talk to her.

Another class she was in my group again. You have to go up and perform skills in front of the group. I didn't really volunteer. Kind of hoped to go last. I felt bad around her based on what she said. Then she says to me "aren't you going to participate?" like she's my boss. Being the noncontroversial person I am, I am not sure what I said but I didn't exactly counter/confront her.

I don't really get what she is doing but her motivation is weird. I pretty much leave her alone but she feels like saying these bossy/rude comments.

Cakepiebeer

I think for some women it is a way to bond! Men bond over sports, drinking beer, and scratching their balls. Women use talking about other women as a way to bond and feel part of the group, it's a way to feel out if other women think like they do. I notice it seems to get better as we get older, then we can connect with other women about marriage, having children, etc.

yea, I sit around with my male friends scratching our balls and comparing ball sweat smell. Thats exactly what we do.

DannyMussels

I always thought it was cause women are crazy.

ninerbuff

For women it's habitual. It's starts in the teens. Have you seen what these teen girls do to each other with texts? And I know growing up, girls back then in my junior high were the same as girls in junior high now.

Must be because they have to one up each other.

_beachgirl_

I think for some women it is a way to bond! Men bond over sports, drinking beer, and scratching their balls. Women use talking about other women as a way to bond and feel part of the group, it's a way to feel out if other women think like they do. I notice it seems to get better as we get older, then we can connect with other women about marriage, having children, etc.

You are so right. I get together with the guys every Tuesday night for some great ball scratching. Scratch that. Basketball is Tuesday night. Ball scratching is Friday.

And they say women are catty?

Iamfit4life

For women it's habitual. It's starts in the teens. Have you seen what these teen girls do to each other with texts? And I know growing up, girls back then in my junior high were the same as girls in junior high now.

Must be because they have to one up each other.

I'm constantly trying to figure out how to make sure my daughter doesn't fall in with this behavior, because I think we're all better than that.