do you judge others based on what they eat?

Misiaxcore

I started judging people by what they eat ever since I joined here ;x Like one time I bought a frozen banana with my friend when we went on a trip. I only got the chocolate covered one and she got the salty peanut one. All I could think was "haha you're eating more calories than me and it's packed with sodium." Another time, same friend was telling me how she went to McDonald's 3 times one day. Knowing her she ordered something each time, and something for her 2 year old because he was the one who wanted to go! All I could think was, "poor kid."

Yes, I'm aware I'm a horrible person.

Edit: I should also mention, this friend and her husband began judging me and my new lifestyle (even started calling me names) when they started noticing I was losing weight. I personally don't voice my judgements nor resort to name calling.

Contrarian

I like to do a little something I call "minding my own business". Not all the time, but often. It's super fun!

TheBraveryLover

I am, however, totally guilty of judging people who judge people's eating habits.

I agree. Although I think she has every right to think what she wants, she wouldn't be the type of person I'd ever be friends with. People who are too concerned with other people's business just wouldn't fit well in my circle of friends.

kiltbunny

This happened to me today!! I was coming back from lunch and took the elevator and a fellow came in behind me. He was very, VERY large. He even looked uncomfortable standing there. He had an Arbys bag with something obviously fried (it was soaking through the bag and the smell of fried foods makes me gag a little now - no idea why) and was sipping on his monstrous soda. He also had a grocery bag with Cheezits, some Kettle-cooked potato chips and some other stuff I couldn't see. I didn't judge as much as feel bad for him. I was him in the female form before I began this journey... severely overweight, eating greasy fatty foods and loading myself up with unhealthy snacks, feeling uncomfortable in my own skin, getting winded walking from the parking garage to the office. I think it was more of me judging myself vs me judging him.

Hoppymom

I cringe when it's a family member or loved one. The only time I would worry about other people is if they order their meal with" a nice Chianti and fava beans." :noway:

savethecat

I certainly judge people by what they consume. Not just their eating choices. I also observe whether they imbibe alcohol, smoke cigarettes, do psychedelics, take prescription medications, smokem peace pipe... everything.

However, if I see someone eating massive amounts of processed meaty food with a big X through a pot leaf on their shirt I worry for them... but that doesn't mean we can't still be friends.

Hellbent_Heidi

I wish I could be all sensitive and say I don't, but yes, when I see some very overweight person eating a ton of food, my brain goes there and I think "they really don't need that". Was at a casino buffett a while back and a really big woman was stuffing her purse with these giant chocolate-chip cookies, after we'd seen her make like 4 trips through the main course areas. I couldn't help judging that! When I was heavier, I'm sure friends and even some strangers had the same thoughts when they saw me ordering some of the things I used to eat!

withchaco

Sometimes I find myself judging their eating habits (or what I think is their eating habits... they might eat healthy most of the time, who knows). That is NOT the same thing as judging them as a person, though. Eating habits have little to nothing to do with how loyal, honest, responsible, or compassionate they are.

CakeFit21

In the moment I don't think we can really help how we judge others. It could just be a quick split second thought and there it goes. I think people get caught up in, "OMG, judging people is SO horrible" mindset. The fact is we all do it for various things on various days for various reasons. It might even be different from one person to the next. (you may judge one person for doing one thing and then not judge someone else for doing the EXACT same thing) The truth is, none of it really matters unless it changes how you treat them.

Amber82479

Yep, I definitely do this. All. The. Time. Mainly though, because I'm concerned about what it's doing to their health from a blood pressure, blood sugar and other health problems that can arise from lack of eating properly. It's hard not to. In my case, my issue isn't that they're eating that they could gain more weight, but because I'm scared for them and what these foods are doing to them. My coworker never, ever drinks anything but Diet soda and I'm worried for what that could be doing to her health. But, on the up side, it also motivates me to stay on track and keep eating healthy. I try not to judge, because it is their body and choice, but sometimes I just want to scream "DO YOU KNOW WHAT YOU'RE DOING?!?!?!" Overweight or not, I feel like 95% of the population is so completely lacking any knowledge about food and nutrition in general, it's sad.

acfkaren

I'm really not bothered what other people eat..........................as long as they have table manners when eating!

TheRoadDog

Nope. I judge people by how they treat others.

anubis609

I judge everything that everyone does at any given moment, just because it makes me feel better about myself. I expect the same treatment.

lor007

You're just jealous!

mandasimba

Only when they take the last piece of something and I wanted it. I still despise one person for doing that to me several years ago.

california_peach

Normally I don't notice what others are doing or eating. I rarely eat in public without my children, so I am usually busy. I do however judge you for eating that dolphin. That is just wrong. You sould not eat a dolphin! They are choke full of calories and probably mercury. Furthermore, if you are going to eat a dolphin then you really should not take a photo and post it on the interweb.

d2footballJRC

I don't judge people by what they eat. Who am I to judge someone, maybe they are celebrating or splurging, etc.. Not to mention what someone eats doesn't tell you if they are a liar, cheat, or in general bad person.

emmiee921

Yes I do but my best friend normally eats healthy around me Which is supportive, most of my friends who order big fatty meals don't even finish it or seem to really enjoy it so I dont see why they do

NoAdditives

overweight doesn't necessarily = unhealthy


Remember that the next time you want to judge people. Unless you can see their blood pressure, colestoral levels, etc... etc.....

If you're going by the BMI scale, then yes, being "overweight" does not necessarily mean one is unhealthy. If a person is obviously obese and carrying around far more fat than they should, yes, they are unhealthy. Blood pressure, cholesterol levels, etc. my be fine for the moment, but carrying around extra fat will take its toll at some point.

ninerbuff

overweight doesn't necessarily = unhealthy


Remember that the next time you want to judge people. Unless you can see their blood pressure, colestoral levels, etc... etc.....

While true, one of the biggest markers for people who suffer from diabetes, joint issues, and heart issues is being overweight/obese.

AlsDonkBoxSquat

It depends. If I'm constantly listening to them complain about their weight/health/etc but when we eat together they're constantly making unhealthy decisions I judge them . . . but not as much about what they eat but the fact that they complain without addressing the issue. Otherwise, it's none of my business. When I see someone who I care about constantly make poor decisions I worry about them, but I don't judge them. Only what I put in my body and my child's body is my responsiblity, I don't even concern myself with what my hubs eats . . . he's a grown up and can make his own decisions.

MikeSEA

It depends. If I'm constantly listening to them complain about their weight/health/etc but when we eat together they're constantly making unhealthy decisions I judge them . . . but not as much about what they eat but the fact that they complain without addressing the issue. Otherwise, it's none of my business. When I see someone who I care about constantly make poor decisions I worry about them, but I don't judge them. Only what I put in my body and my child's body is my responsiblity, I don't even concern myself with what my hubs eats . . . he's a grown up and can make his own decisions.

Pretty much this. I've seen co-workers whine about needing to start losing weight while sipping on a regular soda and eating a whopper. Yup, I judge them Hell, I've been that person, and I'm sure people judged me. Take the step to make a change or shut about it and learn to deal with the consequences.

Now if I'm in restaurant and I see an overweight person eating a double bacon cheeseburger, I might arch a mental eyebrow and wonder, but i have no idea what his life is like or what his daily choices are. if he can make that cheeseburger work in his diet, more power to him.

lloydmel

It's the people I know that fuss and complain about being overweight and wanting to look better but then eat crap ALL of the time. I try not to judge, but seriously... stop complaining that every time you see me I look better and you have that look on your face like your sick with yourself but then you go pick you up taco bell... and A LOT of it....

DisneyMommy

No but I get it in reverse. A couple of friends of mine and now even my husband seem to judge what I'm eating and then adjust what they are eating. I don't mind except for when they act all mad like I "made" them eat something more healthy since we're out together. I don't make people do anything. I just do me!

XFitMojoMom

look, I feel bad for a person when they're morbidly obese and scarfing down McD's or the equivalent. It's not my business, but I still feel for the person. It's a vicious cycle for some, but others choose to be this way as well.

My SIL, beautiful girl, wonderful single Mother but her nutritional habits are deplorable. She is morbidly obese, but she's okay with that. She eats BK, McD's, Taco Bell, has a popcorn machine in her livingroom and makes it with a whole pound of butter every other night. I would never judge her because of her eating habits.

Just like I would hate for someone to judge me based solely on my appearance... I have a 6 cm abdominal diastasis which makes me look about 4-5 months pregnant. Am I fat? No. Do I look fat? Yes... Does that make me lazy? No!!

We are all here with a common goal of shaping up/losing weight. I say extend that beyond this site, but IRL as well.

ShellBell4281

Nope! It's none of my business. I'll get jealous, but that's about it.

JustSheri

I just get frustrated, but to myself, especially if that person talks about wanting to lose weight. Then they go and order a double whopper with cheese.

hrobinson416

Having an opinion or thought is not judging...ppl need to get off the judging thing - not every thought or opinion is judging ppl.

JasonSwetland

I never get mad at the individual or feel the need to chastise or lecture an adult in any way. We are our own worst critics and get down on ourselves enough, so if its a person who is dieting, trying too cut back on bad foods, change their eating lifestyle, or whatever they are doing, they already know when they are making bad choices. Thats their own weakness and no amount of putdowns, critisism or lectures will make them change it.

Instead I try to point out what they did good, and leave the negativity for them too decide how strict they want to be with their calorie restrictions, or other food choices. I try to encourage them because you see people on here all the time beating themselves up. I dont need too kick them while they are down I need to help them remember what they did good and help them get back up.

Sidesteal

Nope, I could care less as long as they don't make me eat it.

That being said, I DO have issues with people who try to TELL ME about nutrition when they have absolutely no concept of energy balance/macronutrients.