A mans motivation

Iamfit4life

I'm afraid I already know the answer to this... but here we go..







Gentleman I dated about 12 years ago. Nice enough guy, though we just speak briefly from time to time. Married, two kids.

However last time we spoke(on facebook) he invited me to New York(LOL) "no strings attached" and he is saying he will be in town and wants to take me to dinner.


I'm going to have to decine, but why would a happily married man even invite a woman he used to date.. without his wife there.

Maybe I'm becoming prude. lol

california_peach

Maybe he needs a kidney?

ElementalMoe

You're not a prude. This sort of thing seems to be all too common. Today I had a married man ask if he could kiss me. . . They're brazen! I don't get it. . . .

Gio2369

To say hi, lol

sassylilmama

Yeah you should accidentally tell his wife. Nobody says "no strings attached" unless they want something. He is a douche pickle.

_Timmeh_

Bow chicka wow wow

Scott613

You aren't paying attention too well. He never said he was gonna pay for dinner! Plus the wife knows you two dated and figures she knows him enough to not fall for his BS like I did. That's why she married him and you didn't. She's secretly hoping you'll take him back and get him off her hands.

Iamfit4life

Maybe he needs a kidney?

Ok.. that guy is SO not getting my kidney.


lol

Carl01

Do you believe in the hereafter?

Then you know what I am here after.

sassylilmama

You aren't paying attention too well. He never said he was gonna pay for dinner! Plus the wife knows you two dated and figures she knows him enough to not fall for his BS like I did. That's why she married him and you didn't. She's secretly hoping you'll take him back and get him off her hands.

hahahaha

Dustinryan24

sounds like he has a healthy marriage...

surfrgrl1

Maybe he needs a kidney?

:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :noway:

Iamfit4life

Yeah you should accidentally tell his wife. Nobody says "no strings attached" unless they want something. He is a douche pickle.

He also told me I was "the one who got away"


But we can "totally be cool friends"


I was so young and naive when we dated. Methinks he still thinks that I am.

sara709

You aren't paying attention too well. He never said he was gonna pay for dinner! Plus the wife knows you two dated and figures she knows him enough to not fall for his BS like I did. That's why she married him and you didn't. She's secretly hoping you'll take him back and get him off her hands.

and because you're hot

daves160

The man is an *kitten*.

If he is married, he should not even be asking you(a former girlfriend) let alone any other woman to lunch, unless it is purely business. His wife would be devastated if she knew.

Any married women out there think its OK with hubby to go see a guy they dated? Hell no. That relation-ship has sailed never to return.

twinsanity

Did he say anything about being happily married?

I have to be careful with questions like this...I forget that my situation is different than most, so I tend to see things differently than most. If he were my bf/husband, he'd be in NY with me telling him to get some. I encourage it (with boundaries, like he MUST be safe). Why not? I hope she rocks his world! But I do understand that isn't how things are viewed by most. I can certainly see how that would come across to most.

Enforcer25

He obviously isn't happy in his marriage and has been said, you are hot. He used a bunch of cheesy lines on you too. Surprised he didn't throw in
It's ok, my wife and I are separated or as one person I know used to tell people his wife was deceased, who the fu@* even jokes about that. Good for you for not falling for this. You know his motivations are that he wants to be with you for the weekend and then go back and brag to his friends how he bagged you.

_Timmeh_

Strange.

Iamfit4life

Did he say anything about being happily married?

I have to be careful with questions like this...I forget that my situation is different than most, so I tend to see things differently than most. If he were my bf/husband, he'd be in NY with me telling him to get some. I encourage it (with boundaries, like he MUST be safe). Why not? I hope she rocks his world! But I do understand that isn't how things are viewed by most. I can certainly see how that would come across to most.

If thats the kind of arrangement they have... groovy for them. I've got no judgement on that at all. Different people have different arrangements.

However as a single mother in a very very happy relationship I have no need to get involved in some crazy love hexagon with a this man and his pregnant wife!!! lol

twinsanity

Did he say anything about being happily married?

I have to be careful with questions like this...I forget that my situation is different than most, so I tend to see things differently than most. If he were my bf/husband, he'd be in NY with me telling him to get some. I encourage it (with boundaries, like he MUST be safe). Why not? I hope she rocks his world! But I do understand that isn't how things are viewed by most. I can certainly see how that would come across to most.

If thats the kind of arrangement they have... groovy for them. I've got no judgement on that at all. Different people have different arrangements.

However as a single mother in a very very happy relationship I have no need to get involved in some crazy love hexagon with a this man and his pregnant wife!!! lol

Like I said, I do understand your feelings on this one. Whether he's married or not, I think you've made the best decision (like you need my approval...lol), because he sounds like an *kitten* either way.

BigDaddyBRC

Simple. He has lost all respect for himself, his bride, the love they share, and the vows he took. My best guess is, they got complacent with the spark that keeps love grand.

BigDaddyBRC

Did he say anything about being happily married?

I have to be careful with questions like this...I forget that my situation is different than most, so I tend to see things differently than most. If he were my bf/husband, he'd be in NY with me telling him to get some. I encourage it (with boundaries, like he MUST be safe). Why not? I hope she rocks his world! But I do understand that isn't how things are viewed by most. I can certainly see how that would come across to most.

Ive been in an open marriage...but since he did not openly say his marriage was years ago...and my guess is now, then that is not acceptable. It's shadyand lands on my previous post

starwhisperer

Yeah you should accidentally tell his wife. Nobody says "no strings attached" unless they want something. He is a douche pickle.

Douche pickle!! I love it. I might have to add that into my daily vocabulary now.

rebeccaME207

hes a man he wants to "hit it" one more time n prove hes amazing now... men , most are like this!!

AZTrailRunner

I'm guessing you didn't get my e-vite yet then.

Iamfit4life

I'm guessing you didn't get my e-vite yet then.

lmao not yet!

Jade_Butterfly

Yeah you should accidentally tell his wife. Nobody says "no strings attached" unless they want something. He is a douche pickle.

Much much agreed. . . I would stay away from that~

DannyMussels

Sounds potentially sexy!

Iamfit4life

Sounds potentially sexy!

From what I can remember


No need to go back for seconds of SOMEBODYS LEFTOVERS

lmao

MFPAddict

You're not a prude. This sort of thing seems to be all too common. Today I had a married man ask if he could kiss me. . . They're brazen! I don't get it. . . .

No doubt in my mind this guy is looking for action, but married women do it too. I currently have a married woman pursuing me. She knows I am married. Has seen me with my wife. Doesn't stop her from flirting with me every time she sees me alone.

Rae6503

You're not a prude. This sort of thing seems to be all too common. Today I had a married man ask if he could kiss me. . . They're brazen! I don't get it. . . .

No doubt in my mind this guy is looking for action, but married women do it too. I currently have a married woman pursuing me. She knows I am married. Has seen me with my wife. Doesn't stop her from flirting with me every time she sees me alone.

I'd flirt with you too LL.....

Oh damn it. You aren't really LL. I keep forgetting.