A mans motivation

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  • myofibril
    myofibril Posts: 4,500 Member
    He wants to hit it.

    You don't.

    Game over.
  • ThePhoenixRose
    ThePhoenixRose Posts: 1,978 Member
    ***** FYI - unpopular opinion ahead *****

    I think a lot of the gals commenting on this have a self-esteem issue... I would not care, in the slightest, if my husband reached out to an old ex to hang out with while he's in her town. In fact, he has, and it's been fine. I know he's with me. I know there's a reason they're not together anymore. I've been out with my ex, one-on-one, on several occasions and my husband is fine with it. We're both very trusting.

    I feel like if you won't "let" your guy hang out with someone he used to date, you're worried about if he'll go back, or leave you, or whatever... I don't get that. I'd be flattered that he wanted to see me, and think it's nice I was "the one who got away." I did get away though, and am in another relationship now, so he's missed that opportunity.

    I would not be devistated to learn he wanted to do this. I'd say, "Tell her i said hi!" i kinda just don't get the whole jealousy thing. if i need to worry what he's doing all the time, i shouldn't be with him. And vice versa.
  • Natural4Life
    Natural4Life Posts: 45 Member
    ***** FYI - unpopular opinion ahead *****

    I think a lot of the gals commenting on this have a self-esteem issue... I would not care, in the slightest, if my husband reached out to an old ex to hang out with while he's in her town. In fact, he has, and it's been fine. I know he's with me. I know there's a reason they're not together anymore. I've been out with my ex, one-on-one, on several occasions and my husband is fine with it. We're both very trusting.

    I feel like if you won't "let" your guy hang out with someone he used to date, you're worried about if he'll go back, or leave you, or whatever... I don't get that. I'd be flattered that he wanted to see me, and think it's nice I was "the one who got away." I did get away though, and am in another relationship now, so he's missed that opportunity.

    I would not be devistated to learn he wanted to do this. I'd say, "Tell her i said hi!" i kinda just don't get the whole jealousy thing. if i need to worry what he's doing all the time, i shouldn't be with him. And vice versa.


    I agree 10000%
  • ThePhoenixRose
    ThePhoenixRose Posts: 1,978 Member
    I'd like to add that the woman my husband lost his virginity too is a regular fixture in our life. He goes to lunch with her, she and her husband and kids come over for dinner and vice versa, we baby sit each other's kids.

    I've gone out of town to visit my first love, and stayed at his home overnight. He's been in our home too. We've met in the middle for dinner...

    So, i'm not just saying this stuff. We live it in my home. :smile:
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