Eeeeeeek......

AugustBaby1973

Okay, so I go to the gym with my co-worker, who is a tiny tot of a woman---compared to me!!!:laugh: So, we do some exercise, and she said it was her day to weigh in----she weighs on Wednesdays. So, we stroll on over to the scale, which looks like an animal scale to me (big ole silver box just lying on the floor, and it's about a 3 foot wide surface!!!)... She steps on the scale, and I hear her sigh...."Oh, my goh...I totally gained a pound. Okay, your turn!" I look at her with absolute disgust :grumble: because the scale reads 127.8 pounds---and she's like 5 feet 5 inches tall! By no means is that fat!

I try to play it off and tell her that I don't weigh in until Sunday, and I don't want to see where I am at this point because I don't want to be disappointed! :ohwell: She INSISTS I get on! So...without opening my eyes, I step on the scale, and WHAT DO I HEAR!!!???? :frown: The GASP of a lifetime!!! I just about slapped her silly! She looks at me and says, "Oh, migod! You TOTALLY don't look like you weigh that much! Are you serious??? Is this right???"

Okay...my feelings weren't COMPLETELY hurt, but now I know that she THOUGHT I was a lot smaller than she imagined!! :laugh: :drinker:

AugustBaby1973

Okay, so I go to the gym with my co-worker, who is a tiny tot of a woman---compared to me!!!:laugh: So, we do some exercise, and she said it was her day to weigh in----she weighs on Wednesdays. So, we stroll on over to the scale, which looks like an animal scale to me (big ole silver box just lying on the floor, and it's about a 3 foot wide surface!!!)... She steps on the scale, and I hear her sigh...."Oh, my goh...I totally gained a pound. Okay, your turn!" I look at her with absolute disgust :grumble: because the scale reads 127.8 pounds---and she's like 5 feet 5 inches tall! By no means is that fat!

I try to play it off and tell her that I don't weigh in until Sunday, and I don't want to see where I am at this point because I don't want to be disappointed! :ohwell: She INSISTS I get on! So...without opening my eyes, I step on the scale, and WHAT DO I HEAR!!!???? :frown: The GASP of a lifetime!!! I just about slapped her silly! She looks at me and says, "Oh, migod! You TOTALLY don't look like you weigh that much! Are you serious??? Is this right???"

Okay...my feelings weren't COMPLETELY hurt, but now I know that she THOUGHT I was a lot smaller than she imagined!! :laugh: :drinker:

kristie874

That's terrible! I wish people would be more sensitive.

Shannon023

I think you would have been justified in slapping her. :grumble:

sunflower8926

With friends like that...:noway:

BEFORE

That sounds like someone trying to be supportive but just keep digging a deeper hole.
Sometimes what ya say and how it sounds R 2 different things.

When U reach your goal U can look back andf laugh at this situation.
:flowerforyou:

JennyBanker

wow i would get another work out buddy quick!!

swissdutchess

oh man!

AugustBaby1973

Oh, you better believe she's not going to the gym with ME anymore!!!!

djgulch

Wow, I'm sorry. I wish I could believe (for You) that she thought you were less but I've known girls like her and she needed to say something. She's totally sensitive :explode: and you should have slapped her :blushing: . I'd would definitely find a new workout buddy. She isn't really there for YOU. I have a co-worker who probably weighs 95 pounds wet and she constantly stands in the walk way and says "do I look fat today?" "I feel so fat today" You're getting the idea right? I have been heavy my whole life and been dieting as long and people who do those things are the worse because they are very thoughtless people. I always say she was the head of the mean girls in high school. We all remember them right! Again, I am sorry that happened to you and hope your next workout buddy really is a buddy. dj

paulamma1

Ah, the joy of being able to say "No".

After all, it was HER day to weigh in. :noway:

Hannah_Banana

Rofl... :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

I totally would have run the other way with that one. I like looking smaller than I actually weigh. In fact, when I told DH how much I weighed (we had been together for 2 years before I actually gave him an honest number) these were the first two sentences out of his mouth.

"Wow, you are really compact. You must have really heavy bones."

BONES?! :laugh: :laugh: I cracked up. So take it as a compliment! She sounds like a great friend! :drinker:

Anna_Banana

Look at it this way. She could have said "that's about what I guessed you at":bigsmile:

MOMOFTWO29

uh oh, I don't know how I would take that.

AmyNVegas

I must be weird but I am totally honest about my weight and I really do not care what people think but I like to hear them say they would never have thought I weigh as much as I do they always think I'm lying that I weigh 100 less. I wish! I always loved the guess your weight booth at the fair- I won every time! Must be my heavy bones LMAO!:laugh:

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get_fit2009

I weigh MUCH more than I look like. I have gotten used to people freaking out. I had a coworker ask me what size I wear and, being honest, I told her a 12. She looked shocked and said, "Wow, I didn' think you were that big." Um.....thanks?????:laugh:

lynniejones

LOL this totally goes with the open letter I just wrote.

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/35943-free-therapy-another-open-letter?page=4

iwant2stayhealthy

OMG...she's a :devil: incarnate isn't she..but...

you know her better than we do..do you think she was being supportive and it came out wrong ie..would it have sounded better if she would have said something like..oh I think the scale is wrong because you look fantastic?

..... or do you think she meant it as a dig :grumble: ?

As someone who doesn't know her from a hole in the wall...based on her (fake) sigh and comment on her weight gain and her insistance that you get on the scale right after her..it sounds to me like she's the kind of person who uses other people to feel better about herself..

My advice..use her as a leg press weight and heave her the heck out of there. You need to surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself and your efforts to achieve your goal....but who also kick your butt when needed....with respect and affection.:drinker: Cheers to you and your efforts to get in shape and be healthy..

songbyrdsweet

I get that a lot, actually. When people ask how much I weigh, I don't mind telling them, and I always get "SERIOUSLY?! You're that heavy?? You don't look it at all." So what if I'm heavy? I have a good amount of muscle mass and apparently I carry it well. Don't let your weight or what other people think of it define your self image.

ellelit

i woulda slapped her lol:grumble:

Starrotts

:flowerforyou: ur the better person so ffffff her..good luck on ur journey.

diet45

Well, I think you should get a different gym partner. I actually didn't want to go to the gym. I told my husband that fat people don't go to our gym only skinny people. I tried to rally some friends to go with me, but they wanted to go at the crack of dawn or in the evening. i called to make an appointment with a training, but they only had men trainers (lucky for all the skinny girls) I got up the courage to go with my husband. He told me he would show me around and show me some of the weights. I did notice I was not the only overweight person there. So, I got the courage to go all by myself. I loaded the best Christian tuns I could on my son's Ipod and actually went by myself. I cranked up the music and did my workout. I even last 30 minutes on some Eliptical training machine. So cool, I had fun and went by myself. I even had a few stares at some men.... I have no idea of why they would look at a overweight 42 year old woman...no clue. Stay couraged. I lost six pounds in two weeks. I will be happy with one to two pounds a week. I have 39 pounds to go. Take one day at a time....

LuckyLeprechaun

My sister has a theory about this: she says that the reason people think that we don't look like the weight we are is because of so many women lying all the time about their weight. If a woman weighs 160, and she lies and tells people she weighs 125, then we get a distorted perception of what 125 really looks like. When I tell anyone what I weigh, they always have the same shock reaction- and I think it is because of this distorted perception of what a certain weight looks like. Did you guys see the Tyra where she put everyone's weight on their swimsuits? I was pretty shocked to see that Tyra was 170. It made me feel really good though, because since I am tall, I will never weigh anywhere close to 100, and I have been coming to the realization that I wouldn't want to.

BTW, this still doesn't excuse the "friend" behaving so insensitively. What a beach!

allaboutme

I liked the "should have slapped her silly idea". Some people have no consideration for other people and their feelings. A real friend would never insist you get on the scale I think she did this to make herself feel better cause she knew you were going to weigh in higher than her, skinny but low self esteem for sure. That was rude and beachy If a friend wanted you to weigh yourself, it would be to encourage you, not to gasp at your weight.

She needs to be dropped as a gym partner and wouldn't survive in my friend category either.

Hannah_Banana

My sister has a theory about this: she says that the reason people think that we don't look like the weight we are is because of so many women lying all the time about their weight. If a woman weighs 160, and she lies and tells people she weighs 125, then we get a distorted perception of what 125 really looks like. When I tell anyone what I weigh, they always have the same shock reaction- and I think it is because of this distorted perception of what a certain weight looks like. Did you guys see the Tyra where she put everyone's weight on their swimsuits? I was pretty shocked to see that Tyra was 170. It made me feel really good though, because since I am tall, I will never weigh anywhere close to 100, and I have been coming to the realization that I wouldn't want to.

BTW, this still doesn't excuse the "friend" behaving so insensitively. What a beach!

Excellent theory. That is probably EXACTLY why we think that way. Rather than lie, I simply don't tell people my weight. I can't remember a time when it came up in conversation either. :huh: I'm not sure who goes around talking about how much people weigh. Not exactly polite.