Did you seriously cheat on me?
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OP asked to define cheating...this is how I define cheating
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Don't lose faith though. Not every man is out there to hurt you. Despite what I've been through I still believe that not every man is like my ex.
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Ha my husbands not cheating. . I'd rip if off!
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lol, no I meant the person who quoted me.0 -
ROFLMAO. You need to input from the masses to find out if it's OK to cheat? Do you not have your own morals?0
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If you would feel like **** if your partner did it to you, then its cheating.
Agreed.
You know in your heart and mind what would betray the trust of your partner. If you're okay with betraying that trust then you are not in a healthy relationship. Even if you forgive someone, you still have to accept that the 100% trust has been broken.0 -
if you wouldn't text, say, or act a certain way if he were right beside you then it's wrong
Agreed....
Also, if I wouldn't want him to do/say something/act a certain way with a girl that isn't me than I am not going to do/say something/act a certain way with a guy that isn't him.0 -
Would your mother smack you for acting that way with someone other than your SO?
If you feel defensive and are hiding it from your SO, its cheating.
Attraction is one thing, acting on or expressing that attraction is quite another.
Is it forgivable? That's up to the cheat-ee.
Just because you could forgive it doesn't change the fact that its cheating. Otherwise there would be nothing to forgive.0 -
as a general rule i go with if i/you wouldnt want my/your significant other to do it. it can be talking to others behind their back, talking about suggestive things, obviously anything physical lol0
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In my opinion a lot of things define cheating. Having an emotional relationship with someone online or in person, whether you sleep with them or not, because odds are you want to. But sex is definitely cheating. I wouldn't want my husband out having one night stands with chicks because it's "just in fun". To me, if you are sexually intimate with somebody it is because you want/have a relationship with that person. Do I think sex is fun, of course, but I wouldn't go out and screw somebody just to have fun0
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It means different things to different people. I count kissing (and not just a friendly one) another person or any physical contact further than that, to be cheating. I don't really think of things such as emotional affairs, falling in love with somebody else etc etc as cheating really since there's no physical stuff but I wouldn't be happy with it!!
With the emotional stuff, if I could see a reason why I might be to blame (such as major communication breakdown / turning into an unapproachable nutcase!) then I could move on if the issue was being resolved (counselling)
I don't think I could ever forgive physical cheating (with the exception of kissing) IMO a person has 100 times more control over that than any feelings developed from an unhappy relationship. I'd rather they just left than have sex with someone else.0 -
If you would feel like **** if your partner did it to you, then its cheating.
^I agree^ it's the golden rule, of course you talk that rule over with your partner so you are both on the same page.0 -
Emotional cheating vs. physical cheating. There is a difference in my book, too.I know I may totally get knocked for this one...but I forgave my *now* ex-husband when it was "just" sex. When he carried that sex over to a relationship, that's when I cared. I think a couple can get over one night stands, to me...it's something I can forgive. Many people will disagree, but it's my stance.
I agree with this - I could understand how a one night stand could happen (shouldn't but could), but a relationship is unforgivable.0 -
Okay this could get long, but studies have shown, and I'm paraphrasing here, that men and women stand way differently on this. This is to be expected, but from what I've actually written a paper on I'm a little shocked.
Women- Sex is wrong (one night stand), but an affair is way worse. We tend to think emotion is more tied than physical "activity".
Men- Generally the feel it's okay to have feeling, just don't act on them. To men is far more physical.
To me. . .
If you are texting inappropriately I'll warn you ONCE. Would you like me to send photos to other men? Didn't think so. . . WRONG Therefore CHEATING!
If you physically "exercise"
with someone no me. . . WRONG, therefore CHEATING.
If you have no physical activity with someone but you love them, the love not like family love lol, it's not right. If you are that emotionally tied it's WRONG therefore CHEATING.
Strip joints- do I know you're there? No? WRONG!
Porn, checking out opposite sex. . Eh it's life suck it up!
If it would upset me to see him do it, I wouldn't dare. If you have to ask yourself "am I cheating?". I would guess that you are0 -
depends on your relationship. To me, cheating is getting emotionally and/or physically connected with someone with the intent to, or the deed done. If you have to keep it from your significant other, to me, its cheating. Just my opinion.
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Treat your partner how you want them to treat you. If you would be upset if they did something, then you shouldn't do that thing to them.
And ITA with having a talk about the boundaries, and that they are different for every couple.0 -
Okay this could get long, but studies have shown, and I'm paraphrasing here, that men and women stand way differently on this. This is to be expected, but from what I've actually written a paper on I'm a little shocked.
Women- Sex is wrong (one night stand), but an affair is way worse. We tend to think emotion is more tied than physical "activity".
Men- Generally the feel it's okay to have feeling, just don't act on them. To men is far more physical.
I've heard this before, but it's alien to me. My partner and I are the complete opposite. He's like the "woman" and would forgive just sex but would be way more hurt with the emotion.
I on the other hand am like the "man" and while I'd be very hurt with the emotional, I think I could work through it in certain circumstances if there were major problems with the relationship to begin with. I'd be much more hurt from "just sex" since there's no reasoning for it.0 -
Okay this could get long, but studies have shown, and I'm paraphrasing here, that men and women stand way differently on this. This is to be expected, but from what I've actually written a paper on I'm a little shocked.
Women- Sex is wrong (one night stand), but an affair is way worse. We tend to think emotion is more tied than physical "activity".
Men- Generally the feel it's okay to have feeling, just don't act on them. To men is far more physical.
To me. . .
If you are texting inappropriately I'll warn you ONCE. Would you like me to send photos to other men? Didn't think so. . . WRONG Therefore CHEATING!
If you physically "exercise" with someone no me. . . WRONG, therefore CHEATING.
If you have no physical activity with someone but you love them, the love not like family love lol, it's not right. If you are that emotionally tied it's WRONG therefore CHEATING.
Strip joints- do I know you're there? No? WRONG!
Porn, checking out opposite sex. . Eh it's life suck it up!
If it would upset me to see him do it, I wouldn't dare. If you have to ask yourself "am I cheating?". I would guess that you are
Lol, my hubby and I have a rule, he can go to strip clubs and look, but he's not allowed to pay them. His eyes are his, but his money is mine and the kids'.0 -
ROFLMAO. You need to input from the masses to find out if it's OK to cheat? Do you not have your own morals?
Just amazed ppl feel SOO differently. Never said I was cheating of being cheated on lol. I just kept readingbon strip clubs, porn, sexting, etc.0 -
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I think each couple has to have that discussion. I consider my ex a cheater because he had an online romantic relationship that involved live webcamming sex and cyber sex (with a 16-year-old in another country). After our divorce he flew her the US, they got engaged and then later broke up. Some people would argue that it has to be physical but to me an emotional/online affair is still an affair.
I guess my point is, before you get married or get into a monogamous relationship you as a couple need to discuss and decide on what monogamous means to you. If you're not going to be monogamous (I know a couple with an open marriage) there has to be a discussion there too of what each party is comfortable with. It's all about honesty and communication.0 -
Okay this could get long, but studies have shown, and I'm paraphrasing here, that men and women stand way differently on this. This is to be expected, but from what I've actually written a paper on I'm a little shocked.
Women- Sex is wrong (one night stand), but an affair is way worse. We tend to think emotion is more tied than physical "activity".
Men- Generally the feel it's okay to have feeling, just don't act on them. To men is far more physical.
To me. . .
If you are texting inappropriately I'll warn you ONCE. Would you like me to send photos to other men? Didn't think so. . . WRONG Therefore CHEATING!
If you physically "exercise" with someone no me. . . WRONG, therefore CHEATING.
If you have no physical activity with someone but you love them, the love not like family love lol, it's not right. If you are that emotionally tied it's WRONG therefore CHEATING.
Strip joints- do I know you're there? No? WRONG!
Porn, checking out opposite sex. . Eh it's life suck it up!
If it would upset me to see him do it, I wouldn't dare. If you have to ask yourself "am I cheating?". I would guess that you are
Wow our views are extremely similar-- like, identical.
I do think that lying about whatever you're doing is the biggest indicator. My ex said that he didn't consider what he was doing (camming, cyber sex, emotional affair) cheating, but he lied about it for 6 years so to me that said that he knew it was wrong.
I also agree with the above poster who mentioned that you can't assume you're in a monogamous relationship until you discuss it.0 -
AS WERE HAVING A DISCUSION SORRY ABOUT CAPS LOOK AND DPNT BE AFFEND BY MY COMENT BUT I THINK THIS RULE I WOULD SEND HIM PACKING BUT AT THE SAME TIME ITS GREAT YOU CAN TRUST HIM DONT MEAN TO AFFENDOkay this could get long, but studies have shown, and I'm paraphrasing here, that men and women stand way differently on this. This is to be expected, but from what I've actually written a paper on I'm a little shocked.
Women- Sex is wrong (one night stand), but an affair is way worse. We tend to think emotion is more tied than physical "activity".
Men- Generally the feel it's okay to have feeling, just don't act on them. To men is far more physical.
To me. . .
If you are texting inappropriately I'll warn you ONCE. Would you like me to send photos to other men? Didn't think so. . . WRONG Therefore CHEATING!
If you physically "exercise" with someone no me. . . WRONG, therefore CHEATING.
If you have no physical activity with someone but you love them, the love not like family love lol, it's not right. If you are that emotionally tied it's WRONG therefore CHEATING.
Strip joints- do I know you're there? No? WRONG!
Porn, checking out opposite sex. . Eh it's life suck it up!
If it would upset me to see him do it, I wouldn't dare. If you have to ask yourself "am I cheating?". I would guess that you are
Lol, my hubby and I have a rule, he can go to strip clubs and look, but he's not allowed to pay them. His eyes are his, but his money is mine and the kids'.0 -
Lol, my hubby and I have a rule, he can go to strip clubs and look, but he's not allowed to pay them. His eyes are his, but his money is mine and the kids'.
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Funny Story .. One of my hubby's old buddies .. tried to claim that a BJ is not cheating. Pfffttt! What an freek'n idiot! He's been divorced since .. twice! Which makes me think, he's a slow learner to boot!
For the record ... Personally, I think, if a guy has a girl (that's not his wife) hanging outta his fly .. He's cheating.0 -
As my great-grandfather used to say:
"Deny it. ALWAYS deny it. No matter what happens, deny it. Even hanging from the noose, use the last life you have left in you to shake your head 'no, it wasn't me'"
All in good fun of course
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My view. .
Wow our views are extremely similar-- like, identical.
I do think that lying about whatever you're doing is the biggest indicator. My ex said that he didn't consider what he was doing (camming, cyber sex, emotional affair) cheating, but he lied about it for 6 years so to me that said that he knew it was wrong.
I also agree with the above poster who mentioned that you can't assume you're in a monogamous relationship until you discuss it.
Two type of men. Men who watch porn and men who lie about it. DO NOT LIE to me about anything, unless it would mess ip a surprise birthday party or something. I don't deserve it.0 -
To me .. cheating has more to do with deception than a sexual act. I am not saying is ok to go out and have sex with someone, as long as you tell your partner about it. But, if you make a 'mistake' and try to rectify it .. that is different. No relationship has room for lies and deception.
A lot of couples can often recouperate easier after a personal confession than if they were to find out by another means (Like someone else spills the beans) ... The devistation is much harder to fix.0 -
if you are sexually intimate with somebody it is because you want/have a relationship with that person.
This is how most women are, but it's not how most men are. Most women who are in relationships would be unlikely to have sex with a man they didn't have feelings for. But most men, even those in committed relationships, can have sex with a random chick, go home, wash it off, and have no desire to ever see that chick again. That's not to say he wouldn't feel guilty about cheating. But it doesn't mean he wants to be in a relationship with that person either.0 -
there are many ways to cheat, many different opinions on what's cheating, and many exceptions... to me- it's all about the intent. so it wouldn't matter if it's a kiss, an intimate conversation, or more, the betrayal with intent to betray is the wrong doing.0
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if you are sexually intimate with somebody it is because you want/have a relationship with that person.
This is how most women are, but it's not how most men are. Most women who are in relationships would be unlikely to have sex with a man they didn't have feelings for. But most men, even those in committed relationships, can have sex with a random chick, go home, wash it off, and have no desire to ever see that chick again. That's not to say he wouldn't feel guilty about cheating. But it doesn't mean he wants to be in a relationship with that person either.
Yeah? Then watch porn lol I'll even role play with ya lol. If my husband did that I'd leave. Yes it's easier said than done, but I've done it once . . My ex husband was a jerk!0 -
depends on the relationship to some people its checking out someone else..to some its talking/flirting, to some its s*x
Id say if you feel guilty about it or think its wrong then it probably is..
agreed. if your consience is bothering you, it's probably "cheating".
if you'd be upset with your significant other for doing the same thing, you probably shouldn't be doing it.
This sums up my feelings on the subject.0 -
LOOK aint nothing wrong with glancing at the oppostie sex were all human and it's not like you will be going home with them or remember them later on.... Now WHEN IT COMES to any physical or mental attention..including kissing,touching, cuddling, sex or even i like you,i love you or i want to be with you then we have a problem....yet everyone is different thats what cheating is to me0
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