Did you seriously cheat on me?

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  • livnlite
    livnlite Posts: 520
    if you are sexually intimate with somebody it is because you want/have a relationship with that person.

    This is how most women are, but it's not how most men are. Most women who are in relationships would be unlikely to have sex with a man they didn't have feelings for. But most men, even those in committed relationships, can have sex with a random chick, go home, wash it off, and have no desire to ever see that chick again. That's not to say he wouldn't feel guilty about cheating. But it doesn't mean he wants to be in a relationship with that person either.

    Well, that's how it used to be. Women USED to equate or relate sex with emotion.

    I'm finding more and more young girls are openly permiscuous to the point they consider sex to be exercise and education. I've seen comments here on this forum about not wanting to have only one or two partners before they commit to someone for the rest of their lives. They want many. Then there are some that just can't see themselves settling for just one at all.
  • solpwr
    solpwr Posts: 1,039 Member
    When I eat an oreo cookie topped with peanut butter, and don't log it, that's cheating.
  • GreatSetOfBrains
    GreatSetOfBrains Posts: 675 Member
    When I eat an oreo cookie topped with peanut butter, and don't log it, that's cheating.

    Like ^^
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,021 Member
    if you are sexually intimate with somebody it is because you want/have a relationship with that person.

    This is how most women are, but it's not how most men are. Most women who are in relationships would be unlikely to have sex with a man they didn't have feelings for. But most men, even those in committed relationships, can have sex with a random chick, go home, wash it off, and have no desire to ever see that chick again. That's not to say he wouldn't feel guilty about cheating. But it doesn't mean he wants to be in a relationship with that person either.

    Yeah? Then watch porn lol I'll even role play with ya lol. If my husband did that I'd leave. Yes it's easier said than done, but I've done it once . . My ex husband was a jerk!

    I would leave, too. Regardless of whether or not a man wants a relationship with the random skank he slept with, I'd never be able to trust him again, to say nothing of the very obvious personal weakness within him that would make him permanently unattractive to me.

    But that's still how it is. Most men do not have to want a relationship with a woman in order to cheat with her. They do it because they're horny, weak, bored, lacking something at home, or even simply because they think they can get away with it. Women are far less likely to risk a stable relationship for one night of sex with a random guy.
  • SkateboardFi
    SkateboardFi Posts: 1,322 Member
    cheating comes in many forms, and means different things to different people. but a great rule of thumb is to always reverse the situation. if you'd be pissed at your significant other for doing or saying something to someone, it's a good idea not to do it yourself. it doesn't even have to include cheating, but just overall respect for your boy/girlfriend and your relationship
  • ashleighjoy2007
    ashleighjoy2007 Posts: 150 Member
    depends on the relationship to some people its checking out someone else..to some its talking/flirting, to some its s*x

    Id say if you feel guilty about it or think its wrong then it probably is..

    agreed. if your consience is bothering you, it's probably "cheating".

    if you'd be upset with your significant other for doing the same thing, you probably shouldn't be doing it.

    I agree with these ^^ Especially the part about if you'd be upset with them for doing it. My ex had an online girlfriend for the entire year we lived together, but didn't think it was so bad because they'd never actually hungout or done anything. But you know if I had done it all hell would've broken loose. Its really really hard to end a relationship with somebody you love, but if they don't respect you enough and love you enough to just be happy with you, you're wasting your time. It might start with texting, but it will probably get worse. That ex and I got back together a year later, and he had sex with another girl 3 days into it. It hurts to let go, but sometimes you'll be a million times better off without them =]
  • sweebum
    sweebum Posts: 1,060 Member
    Any emotional or physical relationship you wouldn't do in front of your spouse.
  • GreatSetOfBrains
    GreatSetOfBrains Posts: 675 Member
    Oh oh oh AND if you are gonna cheat on me, she best look better than me. Lol
  • writtenINthestars
    writtenINthestars Posts: 1,933 Member
    Interesting.

    I'm curious if anyone has ever cheated on another person and if so, how did you actually tell them and what was the outcome/overall experience?
  • SkateboardFi
    SkateboardFi Posts: 1,322 Member
    Oh oh oh AND if you are gonna cheat on me, she best look better than me. Lol

    which usually...she isn't....or even smarter.
  • Scott613
    Scott613 Posts: 2,317 Member
    if you are sexually intimate with somebody it is because you want/have a relationship with that person.

    This is how most women are, but it's not how most men are. Most women who are in relationships would be unlikely to have sex with a man they didn't have feelings for. But most men, even those in committed relationships, can have sex with a random chick, go home, wash it off, and have no desire to ever see that chick again. That's not to say he wouldn't feel guilty about cheating. But it doesn't mean he wants to be in a relationship with that person either.

    Yeah? Then watch porn lol I'll even role play with ya lol. If my husband did that I'd leave. Yes it's easier said than done, but I've done it once . . My ex husband was a jerk!

    I would leave, too. Regardless of whether or not a man wants a relationship with the random skank he slept with, I'd never be able to trust him again, to say nothing of the very obvious personal weakness within him that would make him permanently unattractive to me.

    But that's still how it is. Most men do not have to want a relationship with a woman in order to cheat with her. They do it because they're horny, weak, bored, lacking something at home, or even simply because they think they can get away with it. Women are far less likely to risk a stable relationship for one night of sex with a random guy.

    Now that's an opinion.
  • LuckyLeprechaun
    LuckyLeprechaun Posts: 6,296 Member
    if you wouldn't text, say, or act a certain way if he were right beside you then it's wrong

    This! This leaves no room for confusion.
  • Avalonis
    Avalonis Posts: 1,540 Member
    To Everyone talking about cheating... I'm just gonna say this.

    The vast vast vast majority of people don't cheat because they are "horny, weak, bored, lacking something at home, or even simply because they think they can get away with it"

    They cheat because they aren't happy with their relationship. Plain and simple.

    Tell yourself otherwise if you like, but its the truth.
  • sleepytexan
    sleepytexan Posts: 3,138 Member
    It is cheating if it incorporates moves like jagger.

    I am so annoyed that I love that stupid song.
  • sleepytexan
    sleepytexan Posts: 3,138 Member
    overloading on carbs...

    ba ha ha! excellent.
  • SkateboardFi
    SkateboardFi Posts: 1,322 Member
    To Everyone talking about cheating... I'm just gonna say this.

    The vast vast vast majority of people don't cheat because they are "horny, weak, bored, lacking something at home, or even simply because they think they can get away with it"

    They cheat because they aren't happy with their relationship. Plain and simple.

    Tell yourself otherwise if you like, but its the truth.

    yes.
  • KLLever
    KLLever Posts: 39
    It is cheating if it incorporates moves like jagger.

    Hahahahahahahahaha :D
  • red01angel
    red01angel Posts: 806 Member
    if you are sexually intimate with somebody it is because you want/have a relationship with that person.

    I dont know about that. That's the case with many many people, but I've lots of NSA sex with no problem or desire to kindle any type of relationship besides a purely physical one with that person.

    I think what everyone should take away from this thread is that everyone is different, and if you're in an exclusive relationship, you should talk to your mate and define what is and isn't cheating to each of you so there are no "misinterpretations".
  • ABetterBalance
    ABetterBalance Posts: 298
    It's cheating if your SO feels it is.....................nuff said. You can justify it, but that won't change their mind.

    ^^^ This.
  • ABetterBalance
    ABetterBalance Posts: 298
    [I do think that lying about whatever you're doing is the biggest indicator. My ex said that he didn't consider what he was doing (camming, cyber sex, emotional affair) cheating, but he lied about it for 6 years so to me that said that he knew it was wrong.

    ^^^ This also.

    I won't do anything that I wouldn't want to tell my husband about. I expect the same respect from him. If it needs to be a secret, it's ok.
  • GreatSetOfBrains
    GreatSetOfBrains Posts: 675 Member
    To Everyone talking about cheating... I'm just gonna say this.

    The vast vast vast majority of people don't cheat because they are "horny, weak, bored, lacking something at home, or even simply because they think they can get away with it"

    They cheat because they aren't happy with their relationship. Plain and simple.

    Tell yourself otherwise if you like, but its the truth.

    If you are not happy there are a few options. 1- talk to you SO and try to fix it. 2- Suck it up (which doesn't work) 3- LEAVE me, then sleep around on someone else!
  • GreatSetOfBrains
    GreatSetOfBrains Posts: 675 Member
    Interesting.

    I'm curious if anyone has ever cheated on another person and if so, how did you actually tell them and what was the outcome/overall experience?

    Yep! My first husband cheated A LOT. After divorce I discovered he had three women knocked up, while married to me. He did not know about them, but still. .

    I came to SD from IL for a wedding. I was here for a week hung out with friends. J spent the night at a guy's house. Nothing happen physical. I went back to IL and I missed the guy I'd hung out with. To me bring emotionally involved like that was cheating. I told him I was leaving. He asked what kinda pizza I wanted. . . Didn't even care.
  • ummlovelovesyou
    ummlovelovesyou Posts: 1,024 Member
    Cheating is doing anything with the opposite sex that you wouldn't want your significant other to know about.


    *This does not include flirting. I believe that flirting is healthy. It's when you start having other ideas/intentions when it turns bad...
  • SkateboardFi
    SkateboardFi Posts: 1,322 Member
    I told him I was leaving. He asked what kinda pizza I wanted. . . Didn't even care.

    oh my gosh...i couldn't even imagine how i'd react if my boyfriend responded like this...
  • panyg
    panyg Posts: 597 Member
    This is how most women are, but it's not how most men are. Most women who are in relationships would be unlikely to have sex with a man they didn't have feelings for. But most men, even those in committed relationships, can have sex with a random chick, go home, wash it off, and have no desire to ever see that chick again. That's not to say he wouldn't feel guilty about cheating. But it doesn't mean he wants to be in a relationship with that person either.
    Most men do not have to want a relationship with a woman in order to cheat with her. They do it because they're horny, weak, bored, lacking something at home, or even simply because they think they can get away with it. Women are far less likely to risk a stable relationship for one night of sex with a random guy.

    While I respect the above opinions, I totally disagree. I have never cheated on anyone but have had 2 exes (possibly 3) cheat on me. As far as I'm concorned. a woman is just as likely to cheat as a man.
  • ILiftHeavyAcrylics
    ILiftHeavyAcrylics Posts: 27,732 Member
    This is how most women are, but it's not how most men are. Most women who are in relationships would be unlikely to have sex with a man they didn't have feelings for. But most men, even those in committed relationships, can have sex with a random chick, go home, wash it off, and have no desire to ever see that chick again. That's not to say he wouldn't feel guilty about cheating. But it doesn't mean he wants to be in a relationship with that person either.
    Most men do not have to want a relationship with a woman in order to cheat with her. They do it because they're horny, weak, bored, lacking something at home, or even simply because they think they can get away with it. Women are far less likely to risk a stable relationship for one night of sex with a random guy.

    While I respect the above opinions, I totally disagree. I have never cheated on anyone but have had 2 exes (possibly 3) cheat on me. As far as I'm concorned. a woman is just as likely to cheat as a man.

    I saw on the news that a recent study showed more women are cheating now than ever before. I cheated on a couple of high school boyfriends. I'd be dating someone (not sleeping together) and I met someone else I bonded with, I kissed the other person, then I went and broke up with the first person. It was a sucky thing to do; it was high school and I wasn't very mature.

    When I got married I took that very seriously, never cheated in any way. A couple of times I even cut off relationships with men because I found myself a little attracted to them. I took my vows seriously; my ex did not.
  • AtticusFinch
    AtticusFinch Posts: 1,262 Member
    Amber:
    another duplicate-- apparently I suck at this lol

    I would say sucking definitely counts as cheating - I've never 'accidentally' performed an act of *kitten* on somebody
  • GreatSetOfBrains
    GreatSetOfBrains Posts: 675 Member
    I told him I was leaving. He asked what kinda pizza I wanted. . . Didn't even care.

    oh my gosh...i couldn't even imagine how i'd react if my boyfriend responded like this...

    I was pissed he didn't care. I put in my two weeks and the day I was packin up the car two weeks later he asked where I was going. I got back to SD and filled for divorce. He signed papers after accusing of abandoning him. (I took one of three cars, THAT'S IT!) Then when I found out he had chmdren I called and he said " why can't you just come home and fix everything" after being divorced about 18 months he called to tell me that I messed up his life. Called me a *kitten* and told me he wouldn't have had kids with others if I wasn't a fat cow. (I was about 6lbs lighter than my current weight)
  • SkateboardFi
    SkateboardFi Posts: 1,322 Member
    I told him I was leaving. He asked what kinda pizza I wanted. . . Didn't even care.

    oh my gosh...i couldn't even imagine how i'd react if my boyfriend responded like this...

    I was pissed he didn't care. I put in my two weeks and the day I was packin up the car two weeks later he asked where I was going. I got back to SD and filled for divorce. He signed papers after accusing of abandoning him. (I took one of three cars, THAT'S IT!) Then when I found out he had chmdren I called and he said " why can't you just come home and fix everything" after being divorced about 18 months he called to tell me that I messed up his life. Called me a *kitten* and told me he wouldn't have had kids with others if I wasn't a fat cow. (I was about 6lbs lighter than my current weight)

    WOW. what a jerk! count your blessings to be rid of THAT baggage. and from the looks of your pics, you seem to be VERY happy with your current man :) i'm glad things worked out for the best
  • GreatSetOfBrains
    GreatSetOfBrains Posts: 675 Member
    Husband now has been chasing me since were 15, I think I'm safe with him :)
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