Honest Question - Men & strip clubs

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  • jenny95662
    jenny95662 Posts: 997 Member
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    Personally, I LOVE the strip club.

    BUT I think guys who go to strip clubs often, alone, have issues. It is one thing for the guys to get together and go for the sunday happy hour special, or the bach party, but having it be your regular spot means they sit at sniffers row and know the strippers by name.

    OR he has an infatuation with supporting single moms... :laugh: :laugh:

    This
  • ThePhoenixRose
    ThePhoenixRose Posts: 1,985 Member
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    i guess i don't have an issue with it. my husband dated a stripper he met at the strip club. they moved in together, and he found out she just loved to be naked. she would clean naked, cook naked, everything. after a while, the sexiness really wore off! he dumped her, and moved out.

    i go with him sometimes, and we discuss who we think is pretty, who has the best body, etc. I wish he'd go more often. i love when he goes. he gets all turned on, comes home, and i reap the benefits. what's not to love! saves me the work!!
  • mamashatzie
    mamashatzie Posts: 238 Member
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    A few times a month? I don't have a problem with that. A few times a week? I would object to that, only because that would be less time that he spent at home with his family.
  • rbryntes
    rbryntes Posts: 710 Member
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    My former (women's barbershop) chorus was comprised of at least 50% strippers. My long standing quartet lead was a dancer. We thought nothing different of her than anyone else, and supported her decision. On the "side," she ran a horse farm, sang in a punk band with her chef husband, and was a great person.
  • Jeff92se
    Jeff92se Posts: 3,369 Member
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    The lapdance is always so much better when the stripper is crying.

    Hahahaha.
  • Shanna_Inc86
    Shanna_Inc86 Posts: 781 Member
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    My first thought is, "That's really expensive and a waste of money...."

    Once and a while, fine....I personally wouldn't be ok with a SO going all the time. I've dated a few guys that have said its just a waste of money when they have a girl at home that will get naked for them for free and there's a happy ending :bigsmile:
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
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    My first thought is, "That's really expensive and a waste of money...."

    Once and a while, fine....I personally wouldn't be ok with a SO going all the time. I've dated a few guys that have said its just a waste of money when they have a girl at home that will get naked for them for free and there's a happy ending :bigsmile:

    You're freaking gorgeous, btw...
  • legmotor
    legmotor Posts: 197 Member
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    What do you think of Men that frequent strip clubs? Let's say, Guy in question has friends that work at the club, friend's wives/SOs that work at the club. So he goes frequently, stating it's no different than any other bar...

    Discuss. This is an honest question. I need an outside perspective to figure out my own feelings about it *LOL*
    Eventually he will pay money for sex...or he already has. Unless he happens to have the strongest willpower on the planet.

    I question the veracity of this statement.

    I don't know what veracity means, but I question the exactitude! = )
  • donbet69
    donbet69 Posts: 133
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    Neither *LOL*

    A friend's Significant Other. Grown man of fine age *LOL*

    Well then I would keep my nose out of it, personally... lol!!

    as for me, my husband does not go to them, has never been, and has no desire to go to one... Our church has a ministry specifically for women who have been on the street and involved in the sex industry, which is not the same thing as stripping, but there is a complex relationship between the two...

    ...not to mention the ways in which pornography, prostitution, and human trafficking (including of underage boys/girls) are related...

    So, we consciously avoid supporting any of those industries!!

    buzzkill

    No, it's foreplay for some !!!
  • netchik
    netchik Posts: 587 Member
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    Just 'cos you're on a diet doesn't mean you can't look at the menu. If your friend is worried, she should go with him and make a night of it. I have absolutely no problem because I know my husband is coming home to me.
  • mcintyrekn
    mcintyrekn Posts: 55 Member
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    I personally think its trashy. I think men who pay for a lap dances are paying to cheat. Its exactly like paying for a hooker. If its just like going to any other bar, why doesn't he just go to another bar then?

    I'm sorry, but a lap dance does not equal sex. It's not exactly like paying for a hooker. Maybe it's because I'm ugly, but I haven't even had a stripper offer sexual favors nor grope me or anything like that ever during a lap dance either.
    If you are paying for a woman to rub her naked, or not naked body all over you, then Yes. It is the exact same thing. You pay for it to get turned on. You pay for it to become sexually satisfied in some way.
    Yes. It does equate. You pay a hooker to do all of those same things.
  • mcintyrekn
    mcintyrekn Posts: 55 Member
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    I personally think its trashy. I think men who pay for a lap dances are paying to cheat. Its exactly like paying for a hooker. If its just like going to any other bar, why doesn't he just go to another bar then?

    Because his friends are there. Also there's no indication he's actually paying for lap dances. He's hanging out with friends.

    IMHO here. Paying for sex doesn't = paying for a lap dance.
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    All I'm saying is that his friends can choose another bar. And yes, it does. Some sort of sexual enjoyment from both...Its the same thing. Also, there may not be any sort of lap dances going on..but it clearly still bothers his woman or she wouldn't be asking for advice. If h e respected her, he wouldn't do it.
  • ShapeUpSidney
    ShapeUpSidney Posts: 1,092 Member
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    What do you think of Men that frequent strip clubs? Let's say, Guy in question has friends that work at the club, friend's wives/SOs that work at the club. So he goes frequently, stating it's no different than any other bar...

    Discuss. This is an honest question. I need an outside perspective to figure out my own feelings about it *LOL*

    That whole scene seems a little bleak to be involved with it on the regular. Even the bar scene is pretty bleak. Plain old career cocktail waitresses are all jacked up on coke, I can't imagine how bad it is to be surrounded by the strip club crowd all the time

    Personally, I wouldnt want to be in a relationship with anyone in the bar/club industry at all. Not my kinda scene.
  • SarabellPlus3
    SarabellPlus3 Posts: 496 Member
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    Just 'cos you're on a diet doesn't mean you can't look at the menu. If your friend is worried, she should go with him and make a night of it. I have absolutely no problem because I know my husband is coming home to me.
    Oh, but I'm so glad my husband doesn't look at sex with me with the same disheartened sigh as I look at the word "diet." LOL
  • Jeff92se
    Jeff92se Posts: 3,369 Member
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    All I'm saying is that his friends can choose another bar. And yes, it does. Some sort of sexual enjoyment from both...Its the same thing. Also, there may not be any sort of lap dances going on..but it clearly still bothers his woman or she wouldn't be asking for advice. If h e respected her, he wouldn't do it.

    Do you masterbate? Cheating?

    Some derive sexual feelings from eating chocolate. Cheating?
  • kristelpoole
    kristelpoole Posts: 440 Member
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    After having dated a guy addicted to porn and then having the next boyfriend cheat on my with a stripper, um, no, I wouldn't be okay with it.

    And my boyfriend now doesn't like them. It's a win for me.

    But that's just my personal opinion, as is my opinion that it's not okay for my man to "look at the menu" on a regular basis. To each their own. :)
  • poisongirl6485
    poisongirl6485 Posts: 1,487 Member
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    Does he go to other bars aside from said strip joint that he frequents twice a month?
  • ShapeUpSidney
    ShapeUpSidney Posts: 1,092 Member
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    Do you masterbate? Cheating?

    Some derive sexual feelings from eating chocolate. Cheating?

    Cheating is anything you do that falls outside the *control* of the other partner. In other words, control freaks can find a way to call anything cheating...
  • mcintyrekn
    mcintyrekn Posts: 55 Member
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    All I'm saying is that his friends can choose another bar. And yes, it does. Some sort of sexual enjoyment from both...Its the same thing. Also, there may not be any sort of lap dances going on..but it clearly still bothers his woman or she wouldn't be asking for advice. If h e respected her, he wouldn't do it.

    Do you masterbate? Cheating?

    Some derive sexual feelings from eating chocolate. Cheating?
    I"m not paying to do either. I'm not doing something I know would hurt my spouses feelings, make them feel uncomfortable, or insecure. Also, the feelings you get from chocolate are a natural reaction. Those natural reactions aren't something you can physically help. Paying for a woman, or a man? You can totally help that. Paying for a woman to be used in any sexual way is wrong. Would it be cheating if you wanted her to do it with out paying? Of course. Just because money is involved does not make right. You wouldn't appreciate if your woman had a man rub his member in her face...would you?
  • ShapeUpSidney
    ShapeUpSidney Posts: 1,092 Member
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    I'm not doing something I know would hurt my spouses feelings, make them feel uncomfortable, or insecure.

    If strippers make you feel insecure and hurt your feelings, then I feel really really bad for you. And you might want to talk to someone about what you can do to improve your self-esteem.

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