Is it wrong to get pissed at your wife because..........

sm423

Yeah, I always believe there is two sides to the story. But if all you say is true, then you definitely need to figure our whats going on and if the problems can be fixed. If there are kids invovled, definitely get some help.

traceybarbour

She stated shes unhappy so she has already left just not left the house. Good luck no one should ever settle when it comes to a marriage..

Robina37

Aw... You are very right to be pissed and she needs to smarten up or leave that isn't right... My question is why are you letting her do this with no consequences? Yes she's a grown women but if she's married with a family she needs to smarten up... try talking to her calmly... see what her problem is and let her know where the door is if she thinks what she's doing is o.k... See if you can get a babysitter (if needed) and go out together and hit on her all night!! lol I don't know... So though it seems the world doesn't understand love, commitment and trust anymore... I have my own problems (wahh wahh lol) my child's father left me to go out and be an *kitten*... So I'm working on me and my girls he can do whatever he wants now.. it's just not going to be with me anymore...
And I was a good girl

sjtreely

You can play this two ways (she's looking for a game)

1) Buff up. Spiff yourself up everyday and enjoy life (as she is) and eventually go seperate ways.

2) Get a counsellor. (Their may be something to salvage)

I would do option 1 and start a score board of who gets more 'hits'

Marriage isn't a game. It's a lot of hard work.

jhardenbergh

i have gotten pissed off at my wife for far less things

kerri007

um yea id be very pissed off. **

Jeff92se

I read "family" too. ie.. might have kids in the picture. If that's the case, there ain't no games to play.

EuroDriver

From a woman... Your wife needs to be let go or you two need to go to counseling.. Sounds like she's getting a little more than attention.. In my opinon any woman in a bar not with her husband until 5 am is seeking a little more than just attention... JUST SAYIN

but she sais she didnt dance with any guys n she left the bar when it closed with her friends to go to her house.. n then hung out there..

capriciousmoon

Getting compliments and flirting is one thing, saying she's single? That's just wrong... Maybe she wasn't ready to be married?

audigal2008

Is it wrong to get pissed off that your wife gets more flattered by other guys complimenting her than you? Is it wrong to get pissed off when ur wife goes to a bar gets home at 5am (bars close at 3am) and then have a guy add her on facebook next day asking her on a date because she told him she was single? is it wrong to get pissed off because a friend tells u that he saw ur wife at a bar dancing very "provocative"? Is it wrong to ask your wife to quit flirting with guys as its embarrassing because a friend points it out to me and asks if i care or not and why wont i do anything about it? Is it wrong to ask your wife to cool off and pay more attention to her family than how many guys hit on her? Is it wrong to get even more pissed when you confront her about it she tells you you are stupid, insecure, shes unhappy, and its retarded because all she got out everything you confronted her about was that you dont want her to dress up n do her make up everday because u told her to quit seeking attetion from other men..

All of her answers are simple excuses used to divert the issue away from her. She knows what she's doing is wrong.

Man...I feel for you...I've been where you are and the hurt caused by it is endless =(. My advice, don't talk to her about the symptoms...which is her behavior (this'll just cause a fight, and give her room to deflect), talk to her about the problem, which is why she feels all these things are ok. Tell her a marriage isn't like that, and you want to be married. Suggest counselling, tell her you'll work to change things on your end as well (they always blame you, if you won't 'work' to fix it...even if you didn't fookin do anything, they won't either)...if she won't do that...get your *kitten* down and file for divorce, because if you don't...she will be eventually, and as things stand, you've got the moral upper hand.

I wish you luck brother, and if you ever need someone to talk to...message me.

Some woman do not know that they are wrong, they feel ``entitled`` This world OWES them. I hope your wife snaps out of it, she may be left a lonely soul

macpatti

Please, please get pissed at this! Do not let her make you feel you're the one with the issue.

BreakinTheChains

No it is not wrong.. And everything everyone else said. Go back to the part where she says she's unhappy.. BIG RED FLAG

Secret_Agent_007

From a woman... Your wife needs to be let go or you two need to go to counseling.. Sounds like she's getting a little more than attention.. In my opinon any woman in a bar not with her husband until 5 am is seeking a little more than just attention... JUST SAYIN

^^ THIS! I'd be pissed too, dude. I suspect she's gettin her oil changed elsewhere.

Liluth

No it is not wrong.. And everything everyone else said. Go back to the part where she says she's unhappy.. BIG RED FLAG

It's NOT WRONG.. So your saying it's OK for her to be this way because she is UNHAPPY !!! SERIOUSLY .. WOW great advice * sarcasm *

Slow down there, champ. That was not what they were trying to say. At all. Merely that this is happening because the wife is unhappy, not that it's okay because the wife is unhappy. "No it is not wrong (for you to be pissed)"

BreakinTheChains

From a woman... Your wife needs to be let go or you two need to go to counseling.. Sounds like she's getting a little more than attention.. In my opinon any woman in a bar not with her husband until 5 am is seeking a little more than just attention... JUST SAYIN

but she sais she didnt dance with any guys n she left the bar when it closed with her friends to go to her house.. n then hung out there..

SHE's lying to you .. face it come to terms with it .. Get counseling or kick her to the curb..

audigal2008

You can play this two ways (she's looking for a game)

1) Buff up. Spiff yourself up everyday and enjoy life (as she is) and eventually go seperate ways.

2) Get a counsellor. (Their may be something to salvage)

I would do option 1 and start a score board of who gets more 'hits'

Marriage isn't a game. It's a lot of hard work.

I agree

BreakinTheChains

EuroDriver

im a ****ing insecure controling boyfriend who gets mad at his girlfriend for going the the bar with all her girlfriends once since she had a baby two years ago. Doesnt get compliments form any guys he just decided to say that **** and is on a **** load of ****ing steriods so he is ****ed in the head!

valeriebpdx

Telling the partner they're just insecure, when in actuality you're behaving badly, is usually the last stop on the way to doing something very wrong. Try to get her to honestly address how she's feeling and what she's doing here, so you can at least know where you stand. Better to get into counseling ASAP if there's something to save--hopefully before there's anything big to forgive her for--than to have her tell you in 4 months she is cheating. Sorry you're going through this, dude. Take care.

crisanderson27

Is it wrong to get pissed off that your wife gets more flattered by other guys complimenting her than you? Is it wrong to get pissed off when ur wife goes to a bar gets home at 5am (bars close at 3am) and then have a guy add her on facebook next day asking her on a date because she told him she was single? is it wrong to get pissed off because a friend tells u that he saw ur wife at a bar dancing very "provocative"? Is it wrong to ask your wife to quit flirting with guys as its embarrassing because a friend points it out to me and asks if i care or not and why wont i do anything about it? Is it wrong to ask your wife to cool off and pay more attention to her family than how many guys hit on her? Is it wrong to get even more pissed when you confront her about it she tells you you are stupid, insecure, shes unhappy, and its retarded because all she got out everything you confronted her about was that you dont want her to dress up n do her make up everday because u told her to quit seeking attetion from other men..

All of her answers are simple excuses used to divert the issue away from her. She knows what she's doing is wrong.

Man...I feel for you...I've been where you are and the hurt caused by it is endless =(. My advice, don't talk to her about the symptoms...which is her behavior (this'll just cause a fight, and give her room to deflect), talk to her about the problem, which is why she feels all these things are ok. Tell her a marriage isn't like that, and you want to be married. Suggest counselling, tell her you'll work to change things on your end as well (they always blame you, if you won't 'work' to fix it...even if you didn't fookin do anything, they won't either)...if she won't do that...get your *kitten* down and file for divorce, because if you don't...she will be eventually, and as things stand, you've got the moral upper hand.

I wish you luck brother, and if you ever need someone to talk to...message me.

Some woman do not know that they are wrong, they feel ``entitled`` This world OWES them. I hope your wife snaps out of it, she may be left a lonely soul

I agree hun....and this kind of thing is never, ever good.

You can play this two ways (she's looking for a game)

1) Buff up. Spiff yourself up everyday and enjoy life (as she is) and eventually go seperate ways.

2) Get a counsellor. (Their may be something to salvage)

I would do option 1 and start a score board of who gets more 'hits'

Marriage isn't a game. It's a lot of hard work.

I agree

I agree here, too...and in addition, it's clear the person who suggested the OP 'buff up' has never seen him.

He makes me look pudgy.

sjtreely

Your words: "What to tell you about me? I sleep, I eat, I train, I repeat... "

Maybe you should consider: "What to tell you about me? I focus on my marriage with my wife, I sleep, I focus on my marriage with my wife, I eat, I focus on my marriage with my wife, I train, I focus on my marriage with my wife, I repeat..."

dreilingda

Definitely not wrong. Draw a line in the sand - this is the only way to resolve this on your watch. If this has been going on for any length of time (more than a few weeks) then she has probably already crossed the line. Tell her she must stop the childish behavoir and go to counciling or you'll leave. I would never stand for this in my marriage.

Jade_Butterfly

Well you are entitled to be upset, but perhaps working it out with your wife. maybe via counseling or through your church would be a better route than bringing that kind of thing here. Just a thought. Wish you all the best.

Iamfit4life

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leynak

im a ****ing insecure controling boyfriend who gets mad at his girlfriend for going the the bar with all her girlfriends once since she had a baby two years ago. Doesnt get compliments form any guys he just decided to say that **** and is on a **** load of ****ing steriods so he is ****ed in the head!

uh oh- I'm guessing wife found out about this post- user deactivated

april_beth

dear husband: file the papers already. youre worth more than that ****.

BreakinTheChains

WOW .. this post took a crazy turn !!

mikajoanow

I see that you deactivated your account. I hope you're doing okay. You are not wrong for being pissed.

kb455

Dude...she's up to no good. Like the others have said, follow your gut.

Liluth

im a ****ing insecure controling boyfriend who gets mad at his girlfriend for going the the bar with all her girlfriends once since she had a baby two years ago. Doesnt get compliments form any guys he just decided to say that **** and is on a **** load of ****ing steriods so he is ****ed in the head!

uh oh- I'm guessing wife found out about this post- user deactivated

You know... I don't know why I didn't immediately think the same thing... but you're absolutely right. She must have looked over his shoulder or gotten on the computer when he stepped away. Yikes.