When does the abuse stop?

running_mom

Im so sorry for that. But dont let it get to you. Stay strong! You've come this far and have so much more to work for.

I havent had that from strangers but i have from an unsupportive husband. I know its hard to ignore comments like that but use it to motivate yourself.

2012Kristin

It's hard to accept, but some people are just cruel. Hopefully they grow out of it someday. Take it with a grain of salt.

For every person that yells something negative I guarantee there are probably twenty more thinking "good for him - he's taking control and getting in shape".

You shouldn't let the words of a few affect you and if you feel confident in yourself there is no reason why you shouldn't put yourself out there. I haven't reached that level of confidence yet, but hopefully someday I will too.

Good luck!

Iheartsushi

Wooooow! I am not surprised because people are punks nowadays but you definitely do not deserve that. Just use it as motivation. I once saw a thin girl in the gym making fun of a big girl on the treadmill. The girl didn't hear, but after she was done with her run I told her I was glad seeing her at the gym again and to have a great day. You could tell the girl felt so proud.

UponThisRock

Allow this to fuel your fire.

hdhbam

That is horrible! I am so sorry that you are dealing with this. These people obviously lack maturity and character.

I have only had one experience similar when I was married several years ago. My daughter was only 3 months old at the time and I was carrying her in my arms as me and my now ex husband and I were out Christmas shopping. As we were walking back to the car, this lady started backing out and almost hit the man formerly known as husband. He slapped the back of her car so she would stop, and when he did she hit the breaks, opened her door and yelled "I saw you *kitten*! It's not like I could miss your fat *kitten* wife!" It ruined my entire day. I didn't leave the house for a while after that.

Onthedecrease

I'm so sorry to be reading this!

Please don't give up and try not to let it get to you. Every step you take while your walking is a step to being a healthier you.

At least you can change your health but those jerks can't change their ugly personalities.....

On a side note: I'm starting to look rather trim now. Whenever I go for runs I get guys hanging out of their cars staring at me and I had 2 honking their horns at me last night......It's disgusting! I just want to run in peace aroung my neighbourhood. I refuse to even look at them. I'm sure I'm not the first girl to run around near my house and I'm sure I won't be the last. Sometimes you just can't win!

vanessaclarkgbr

I guess I'm just lucky, maybe I give out hostile vibes! Excuse my turn of phrase but this is what I'd say to a friend - *kitten* them, this is about you and how you feel about yourself, not them. They feel that bad about themselves they need to find a way to elevate themselves. There you were, walking along not looking like the sort of person who'd cave their head in so they thought they'd have a go. Thing is - you'd have got it anyway for some reason. A mate of mine was beaten up on the way home for being Polish - not that that's a bad thing, but the guy is from Kings Lynn. So are generations of his family.

You have to accept, some people are tw*ts and thick. You ran into the bottom of the gene pool. Scrape the amoeba off of the bottom of your shoes and be glad that in order to make yourself feel good you don't need to do that. All they have to look forward to is the next dole cheque, whereas you have a long and fulfilling life in front of you.

If you spent time with them would you respect and value their opinions, or have absolutely jack in common with them? I'm guessing you'd think they were vile. So what do you care?

Chin up chuck, you're doing great. I say to myself all the time, as above, do I respect or care about that person's opinion? No? Then screw 'em :-) xx

(edited for furious typing corrections!!)

Kougra

Wow! Some people are just cruel. I'm sorry that some idiots did that to you. Don't let it stop you!! Keep on rocking, my friend. People like that are bullies and have no sense of self worth themselves. I am a firm believer of what goes around comes around. Some day they will be in a similar situation. Hugs

FearAnLoathing

*kitten* happens people say mean things.Who cares what strangers think,their words only determin who you are if you let them.

kelley_lynn

Had a similar thing happen just recently ... Not nice... in any form..

I work with kids, have even had them say the same thing, but with them i joke. And teach them just cause im big, doesnt mean im not nice.. and things along that line. then teach them about differences. After 40 years though, you would think some one yelling, your fat, or something along that line, I would be used to it, and it would help in my battle to win this.

Nope wrong, being nasty... in the way it happens.. just makes me sad. pppffttttt

DWilbanks

I agree with the above poster, just smile at them and wave. Believe me they'll end up more upset than you. People can be cruel but people like that are not worth you're time getting upset over. One day people will realize, it's what's in the heart that matters and not what surrounds the heart.

RAFValentina

I wasn't even overweight or even looking particularly chubby normal size when I was told to lose a few lbs... by a (now ex!) boyfriend!

People will do this because of their insecurities but at least you're out and about doing something about it. Ignore the pathetic comments and DON'T let it get to you because someone saying that is highly insensitive and clearly not very clever or switched on. NOT NICE PEOPLE! And people like that shouldn't be worth your time and their opinions, shouldn't matter to you because they invalidate them with their immaturity!

Cheer up, keep working hard and eventually, you'll have lost enough weight for them not to say anything but you can judge them when they're either underweight or when they start getting fat and old from all their over indulgences....

poustotah

Here's a short quip for you. You may be fat, but they're obviously VERY ugly and you can always lose weight. . .

On a more serious note, what do those kind of actions say about those people? Do you really care what people like that think???

You are awesome for starting this journey. Don't let some jacka** ruin that for you.

BerylX

Although I haven`t had it happen to me I`ve been scared that it might - so I run at night.
Really sad though when you think that these people make up our communities.

I feel really bad that you had this experience. Don`t let them get in the way of your goals.

GaiaGirl1992

ignore the asshats, and look at the bright side! they'll probably ugly and fat when they're old, and you'll still be walking around, fit and happy =3

conchita962

Don't let ignorant people rent space in your head!!!!

hamiltonba

I am so sorry that you had to be treated like that! There are so really cruel people out there. I can't give you any advice other than do not let them discourage you!

Misiaxcore

I've had some nasty things yelled at me through passing cars. All I could do is shurg it off to be honest. They're not in my life, they don't matter. And I've had self-esteem issues most of my life too, but not from the dumb dumbs yelling from cars.

fastmethod

that happened to me once. I wouldn't let it bother you.
anyone that is so insecure that they have to abuse a random person they've never met before because of there weight, to convince themself they are in some way superior to boost there own sense of self esteem ?
well who has the problem here?
I mean you can loose weight
but she'll always be a d1$k

mleoni092708

I am appalled for you. WTH is wrong with people?? I'm very sorry you had to experience that.

My advice, start wearing a trench coat and packing heat which you can discreetly flash to them as they drive by. That'll shut them up. An AK-47 or a shot gun will do just fine. You may be overweight, but at least you didn't just poo in your pants from getting a gun flashed at you, lol.

I'm clearly joking-just trying to cheer you up. I don't know you but I'm sure you are a kind beautiful person and those "people" (I'm not going to curse though I'd very much like to", are going to get what's coming to them. Kharma is a b*tch. You just keep your head up and keep moving.

iAMaPhoenix

I was out walking this evening and as a car drove passed one of the girls in it shouted fat ***** at me. This is not the first time this has happened in my life, 10 years ago i actually had a car stop in the street so that the people in it could shout abuse at me, it was shortly after this that i stopped going out and gained most of my weight.

Rich

New flash: Rich who is now a sized 32 waist and have a 6 pack was teased by a group of girls in a car who shouted that he has gray hair.

Now back to your regular scheduled programming.

cruiseking

Just remember being a "fatass", or whatever they called you, is fixable by losing weight. The condition that they have (Ignorance) is probably not curable in their lifetime. Where do you live anyway? I've never had anybody yell at me. The best revenge is to live well. F' em!

TeresaWash

I would say just ignore it and be proud of who and what you are but that is so much easier said then done.
I truly believe in Karma and they will get theirs some day, some way.

One day two boys (10 ish I'd say) rode by on their bikes and I was out in the yard, they called me a _______ _______ fat ___ and giggled their way down the street. Little did they know I knew exactly where the one lived. Typically I just blow that stuff off but I was truly appauled by it. I Marched my fat ____ down the street and informed the parents of exactly what took place. I was polite about it because they seemed to be really nice people, they were shocked by what I had to say. Don't know what took place after that, I expected a 10 year old at my door with an apology, that never happened, but I felt better. If it had been my kid, he would have been at the door apologizing.

Go for everything you want in life and say to hell with the people like that, they aren't worth your time to feel bad about it.

Good Luck to you, and keep talking to those girls!

cruiseking

I think you should start carrying rotten eggs in a sack to throw at asshats like that.

Good idea. I wish I'd thought of it.

Onthedecrease

P.S - On a much happier note, congratulations on your 32KG loss Rich, how fantastic!!!!

VegGrrl

If it wasn't your weight, they'd be yelling idiotic things about you or someone else's race, disability, or sexual orientation. There will always be ignorant, mean people in the world. They are the MINORITY. Try to keep that in mind. Personally, I just feel sorry for anyone that pathetic and feeble. I mean, how sad is your life that you think it's "fun" or it makes you feel big to belittle others? Sad, sad, sad...And if it's not a "drive-by" situation, I'll be happy to tell them that. If it's a drive-by, a smile and wave suffices to baffle them. Don't dwell on it. - those losers don't deserve your time!

TeresaWash

The fact is, kids are cruel and mean. They probably have been yelling that at everyone they pass, overweight or not. Don't take it personal, and don't let them make you feel that way. In 10 years they will be on MFP trying to figure out if they should be eating their exercise Calories.

LOL... Amen!

MissObstinatiox

Try to ignore this stupid small minded people.
Easier said then done i know.
The amount of abuse I,ve had my remark back which i find always stops people in there tracks is
I may be fat but i can lose weight what the hell can you do about your face.
Anyway from your pic you look lovely so don,t have people knock your confidence!
:0)

evil_rider

*kitten* em' dude...............you're out there exercising while they're driving in a car. Keep doin' your thing and don't let jacka$$es get to you...........

Frankenbarbie01

It's because we live in Canada.

Ummmm ......NO. Not all Canadians are nice. (I'm Canadian, so dont think I'm being judgemental...I'm just saying)
This happened to me once. I was running with my dog and a truck load of hill billies drove by and shouted a number of fatarse references at me. Let me tell you the Big Middle Finger came out and I used it LIBERALLY with a number of explitives of my own.
I take solace in the fact that although I will only be overweight for a few years, they will be small minded, ignorant abusive douchbags for EV-EH!!!