How about instead of "look how gross I was" we say...

SarahBrown1979

WOW all this from someone asking people to be supportive and nice, Its really sad to see all the neg comments and u can love it or leave it but don't be rude....thats not nice! Not that you have to be nice to people b/c if you want to be a mean bully then take it to the school yard! I hope that if your not agreeing with this topic that you look back at when you were the size that you didn't like and think about if people were to say these things, if it would have hurt your feelings at all...IF NOT then you have thick skin and good for you but most of us dont.

HeelsAndBoxingGloves

so just to get it straight:

if everybody talks the way you want them to, we can all be friends, right?

But if I have a different opinion, and (gasp) defend it, then I'm : a bad person, a hate-monger, and I ought to get fat by being force-fed cheeseburgers?

Right?

Gotcha. :ohwell:

Speaking of pots and kettles...please tell us how my own thoughts and feelings about the person I want to be relate to what I think should happen to you? I never said anything should happen to you, I don't even know you, and frankly I'm not even inclined to get to know you at this point.
You're you, honey, and I'm me. There's a big difference.

good to know when you wrote the post about forcefeeding someone cheeseburgers you weren't directing it at anyone... :laugh: :flowerforyou:

nboot1

Who cares how I lose it? FYI I do work out! I have a hard time with people who could care less about others and thier feelings. Seeing it brings out the worst in me. I am sorry for the mean things I may have said. I am also sorry that there are such cold self centered people out there. Either way, good luck to all.

starracer23

This is a lot of drama and hurtful words being thrown around on a thread about being nice and more supportive....but for me it's neither here nor there.

When I talk about MY weight and I say that I am not happy with MYSELF...those words are about... -ME-. They are in NO reference to anyone else that may or may not be at that weight. Period.

The comment is about how I feel in my own skin. At 190 lbs...I FELT DISGUSTED when I looked in the mirror. It doesn't mean that I feel disgusted when I see another person that may or may not weigh 190lbs.

Why do people twist words that aren't even about them and get their feathers ruffled....that to me makes no sense. it's as if you are trying to find something or someone to blame some unhappiness on. *shrug*

HeelsAndBoxingGloves

I appreciate your kind sentiment. I imagine it's coming from a nice place.

However, I will choose to describe MYSELF as I see fit.

And I WAS fat. Very FAT. And I felt horrible, and disgusting, and I hated it. So I changed it.


The fact that other people started at other weights has nothing to do with my own journey, and if someone wants to generalize the things I say about my former self to their own situation, that's their problem, not mine.

I agree with this.

I was a disgusting fat lazy slob that ate too much at my high weight. That doesn't mean anyone who was (or is) my high weight is the same. I'm not going to say any different because that WAS me.

high five to you! i'm the same way! i hated how i looked at my highest but i know there's plenty of people that wanted to get there and plenty that looked fab at that weight. how i feel about how i look is how i feel .... :drinker:

LuckyLeprechaun

so just to get it straight:

if everybody talks the way you want them to, we can all be friends, right?

But if I have a different opinion, and (gasp) defend it, then I'm : a bad person, a hate-monger, and I ought to get fat by being force-fed cheeseburgers?

Right?

Gotcha. :ohwell:

Speaking of pots and kettles...please tell us how my own thoughts and feelings about the person I want to be relate to what I think should happen to you? I never said anything should happen to you, I don't even know you, and frankly I'm not even inclined to get to know you at this point.
You're you, honey, and I'm me. There's a big difference.

good to know when you wrote the post about forcefeeding someone cheeseburgers you weren't directing it at anyone... :laugh: :flowerforyou:

I certainly didn't think it was (obviously) directed at anyone in particular.
It was so subtle.

Dawn_is_getting_healthy

so just to get it straight:

if everybody talks the way you want them to, we can all be friends, right?

But if I have a different opinion, and (gasp) defend it, then I'm : a bad person, a hate-monger, and I ought to get fat by being force-fed cheeseburgers?

Right?

Gotcha. :ohwell:

I did not read anywhere on this thread that someone wants to force feed you cheeseburgers....where did you see that??

I saw that someone wants to BE forcefed cheesebugers, but I think that was about them, not you. Why in the world would you think something that was said by someone else would have anything to do with YOU? Ms. Bacon Cheeseburger Lady has the right to express her own thoughts about herself without you assuming it has something to do with you......

HeelsAndBoxingGloves

This is a lot of drama and hurtful words being thrown around on a thread about being nice and more supportive....but for me it's neither here nor there.

When I talk about MY weight and I say that I am not happy with MYSELF...those words are about... -ME-. They are in NO reference to anyone else that may or may not be at that weight. Period.

The comment is about how I feel in my own skin. At 190 lbs...I FELT DISGUSTED when I looked in the mirror. It doesn't mean that I feel disgusted when I see another person that may or may not weigh 190lbs.

Why do people twist words that aren't even about them and get their feathers ruffled....that to me makes no sense. it's as if you are trying to find something or someone to blame some unhappiness on. *shrug*

:drinker: :flowerforyou:

killagb

Simmer down ladies.

hdhbam

Simmer down ladies.

Awwwww! They're so cute!

starracer23

Simmer down ladies.

*rawr*....*hiss*....*growl*....*snore*

HeelsAndBoxingGloves

Simmer down ladies.

*rawr*....*hiss*....*growl*....*snore*

love this!

servilia

Simmer down ladies.

Awwwww! They're so cute!

Yep - see the one on the stump? I know who THAT is in this thread!! OWNED!

Aljucer

Definately getting out of hand. I joined a few days ago and am now considering withdrawing my membership.:sad:

Simmer down ladies.

Mike

Locking this topic. It's ok to disagree with one another, but you must do so RESPECTFULLY. The forums are here for discussion, but we draw the line when it crosses over into personal attacks.