Smug marrieds? **generalization alert!**

Iamfit4life

Do you find that a lot of married women/men are smug?

Myself, I do not. In fact it's sad to say but about 75% of the marrieds I currently know say "don't do it again!".

I've seen some folks on here suggest marrieds might be smug,..

So what do you think?

i_love_vinegar

no o-O never seen this hinted at either...

TheKitsune6

I think it varies from couple to couple. The annoying ones are the ones that always have to ask permission to do anything it's like being a kid again.

coyoteo

Smug about what? Just being married? That's an odd concept.

Katefab26

I only find them to be smug when they are recently married and wanting to show off how great their new life is.

Generally I avoid them for a few years after that.

EDIT: Those are just the annoying "friends" who would be impolitic to "unfriend".

Tisha247

Do you want to get married?

baisleac

*is totally smug* :flowerforyou:

Aegelis

Although I'm happily married, I feel frowned upon if I mention it.

Iamfit4life

no o-O never seen this hinted at either...

you missed a whole long thread yesterday then.

_SusieQ_

I only find them to be smug when they are recently married and wanting to show off how great their new life is.

Generally I avoid them for a few years after that.

EDIT: Those are just the annoying "friends" who would be impolitic to "unfriend".

Have to agree with this. It's usually the newly married that are showing off their shiny new toy that is better than everyone else's.

This is coming from someone who just passed 18 years. I like being married most of the time, I love my husband though there are times I want to put a pillow over his head. But smug? Nope.

rochey1098

The people I know that are settled down and married aren't smug, they're either happy or wish they hadn't. Not totally sure what they'd have to be 'smug' about unless people that aren't married want to be and express their jealousy in those terms.

Bottom line, married people often wish they were single and vice versa. They say the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence but it rarely is

NoAdditives

I'm married. I love it. I love my husband. I'm glad I have him and I'm not ashamed or sorry to say that.

ETA: I suppose I'm a little smug to those who said that getting married after knowing each for less than a year was a bad idea.

melizerd

Smug about what exactly?

I admit that my husband and I are those cutsey dripping with love kind of people (and married 10 years already). The kind of in love with him that I believe he lasso'd the moon (lol movie reference!) Etc. We're best friends, love being together, holding hands, calling each other cute names, having great sex several times a week.

We have several married friends who have been married less time than us and only know one couple who obviously is going through a rough patch but no one that we know in our generation is divorced.

I LOVE being married obviously. So it's hard for me to understand people who think being married in general is not a great concept. I am just glad that I met the person that I want to be with forever earlier rather than later but I think there is someone out there for everyone too. It's work and it's not always easy but I ALWAYS love my husband and ALWAYS want to wake up next to him.

coyoteo

I'm married. I love it. I love my husband. I'm glad I have him and I'm not ashamed or sorry to say that.

^Me too. Not your husband though. My own.

MikeM53082

I see this a lot! My recently married friend is a prime example. I'm sure it's pretty common.

CaptainGordo

Obligatory...

bestrodeo

LOL Pillow over his head... Ive been married for 13yrs and my bestfriend is the BEST thing that ever happened to me but a pillow over his head is one thing I have never thought of.. Frying pan thou is however one..

writtenINthestars

I only find them to be smug when they are recently married and wanting to show off how great their new life is.

Generally I avoid them for a few years after that.

EDIT: Those are just the annoying "friends" who would be impolitic to "unfriend".

Unfriend me and see what happens, Kate....

Iamfit4life

I guess I have been naive in thinking they were just happy! lol

MissO﹠A

Yeah, agreed about it being an odd concept. I couldn't care less ( <---- props for appropriate usage here, look and learn intarnets!) whether someone is married, divorced, partnered, co-habitating, "living in sin", single, a swinger, open relationshipper, furry or widowed. It has no bearing on how I interact with someone. Also, although I'm married to a doucheface who forgot to turn the furnace back on last night and let me freeze my *kitten* off on one of the coldest nights of the year, my being married to aforementioned doucheface plays no part in how I interact with someone.

starwhisperer

Oh I am not smug. Marriage is hard. So even though I am happy, wouldn't trade him in, glad to be working on year 14... I don't think it makes me special. And I have total jealous days of single friends when they do what they want, when they want without having to worry about anyone else.

BrettPGH

It's cool. I can get smug about never being married from time to time.

LilMissFoodie

I've seen some folks on here suggest marrieds might be smug,..

I think that says more about the person suggesting it and the way they feel about their own lives than anything else. I realise it is not yourself that you are talking about

Mallory0418

Why should a married couple hide their happiness together? Being happy with your wife/husband does not mean you are trying to shove it in your single friends' faces. Especially newly weds. Let them be in that newly wed love bubble and leave them alone. I have never met a person who is smug just because he/she is married. Except those real house wives....those are some smug b*tches. :grumble:

shanolap

I guess if I'm happily married, confident in our relationship and content...that makes me smug? If it does, I don't give a rats azz.

ItsCasey

I don't think it's an issue of thinking marriage isn't a good thing. I think people who want to be married but have a SO who doesn't or those who don't have a SO at all get tired of hearing about how awesome marriage is. To be fair though, I think when marriage is something you really want and don't have, you tend to glamorize it. You only see the things you are wistful about, like not having someone to come home to every night. You don't usually consider the times when spouses really get on each other's nerves and would rather NOT come home that night, but they have to because they're married.

I also agree that it's the newlyweds who are the most annoying, especially in this day and age, when they're posting pictures of their happy selves all over Facebook and blogging about how awesome married life is and how in love they are. Yes, in reality, it is a beautiful thing worth celebrating, but when you don't have the same thing, it gets old. It's selfish, but it's human nature.

_GlaDOS_

I personally find marriage itself to be an odd concept.

I don't think people should hide that they are happy together, but I do often come across more people, married and single, that look down on people who choose to never get married, especially women who make that choice.

LorinaLynn

At the risk of hitting a hornet's nest with a big pointed stick... I've been accused of being a "smug married," but it's only been by people who were desperate and bitter about being chronically single. It was easier to lash out at those happily married than to take a hard look at their own mistakes.

rileamoyer

hmm Interesting thread. Married to my guy coming up on 30 years in 2012. 2nd Marriage for us both. I figure a person can be happy with their life no matter what their status and if that means they are smug? Oh well, life changes all the time, marriage is hard work, have been happy, un happy, and just ok in both situations (single or married). PS: Really happy at this stage. He's coming home tonight after being gone nearly a week! woo hoo.

rileamoyer

hmm Interesting thread. Married to my guy coming up on 30 years in 2012. 2nd Marriage for us both. I figure a person can be happy with their life no matter what their status and if that means they are smug? Oh well, life changes all the time, marriage is hard work, have been happy, un happy, and just ok in both situations (single or married). PS: Really happy at this stage. He's coming home tonight after being gone nearly a week! woo hoo.

Guess that makes smug (at least today).

april_beth

i can say i have never heard of this and if someone feels that "marrieds" are being smug, it's, in my opinion, because they are jealous that they havent found "the one" for them...