Older Men vs Younger Men?

catshark209

Or men one's own age?
Ladies, what do you think?
My partner is 17 years older than me and my ex husband is 5 years younger. I guess I'm not so into men my own age. :bigsmile:
If I had to, though, I'll stick with the older guys.

chevy88grl

Well.. my ex husband was two years older and my current boyfriend is my exact age (he's 2 weeks older). I've dated guys who were up to 10 years younger and I found them too immature. I've dated a couple guys who were older - not more than 5 years or so and I guess I just prefer guys around my own age.

yoshi91610

I have dated men older than me almost by 13 years, as far as dating went he was 31 I was 19, but it worked out since neither of us were into partying he had his own place and was established, it wasn't childish or anything I really enjoyed it. I also dated someone only 2 years younger than me and I hated it and it was very short lived, my husband now is 3 years older than me. If I wasn't in a happy marriage and was single again I would probably go at least 5-10 years older. At that age they are typically at the same place I am.

Yakisoba

I've had grief both ways. 2 years younger and didn't want to spend time with me. 19 years older and wanted to take up every minute of my day.

Being single is the best. ;o Don't let my SO hear that.

PedmomJill

I've always stuck to close to my own age. My ex-husband is 3 years older. Actually everyone I've dated in the last 10 years or so since I got divorced was 1-3 years younger than me. So maybe I like 'em a little younger now? LOL I don't really care either way that much, but if I had to say I'd probably say within 5 years either way.

cobracars

I married when I was 25 and my wife 42. She thought I was in my 30's and I thought she was in her 30's...we were both wrong but it has worked out wonderful! 26 years later and still going strong.

Her first husband was old school type, wanted her to be a corporate wife and keep a perfect house and host dinner parties and belong to the country club. She divorced him after 19 years. 3 kids.

She tells me life with me is fulfilling, we are more like equals in a partnership together. We both work, we both do things around the house. We cook, we shop, we travel together. I get along fine with the kids, who are all grown and married and kids of their own. Interestingly enough, her daughter married someone her own age and divorced after 6 years. She got remarried 3 years ago to a guy 7 years younger and now she says she couldn't be any happier. She even says she used us as an expample of the kind of happiness and type of marriage whe wanted for herself.

mochalovies

hmm I have dated my own age, younger, up to 10 years older == My own age was frustrating, older just want to get married and have babies in no time, younger acted jealous, insecure and puppy doggish...

soo in my experience... age in guys is just a number! haha

catshark209

Or the young ones want to brag that they had an "older woman". LOL.

fatty2fit88

my current bf is my age... the oldest guy i dated was 28 yrs and I was 18... my friends thought he was creepy for dating someone so young!!! now i see it....

0PhAtDaDdY

Ok let the old man chrip in here.. I'm 23 years older than my wife, 55 and 32.. She said when she was in high school she knew her husband would be much older when she got married than her, weird..I'm just glad a few do like old men, hahahaha!! We have a 7yo daughter as well been married 9 years we have no problems I'm crazy about her an well as she is about me..Reason I'm trying to get into better shape is the 7yo I got to get her grown before I leave this world..

MissSharkattack

I've always been into older men.
They are typically more intelligent and mature. I can actually have a real conversation with older men, where as younger men, and men my own age just want sex 24/7, and cant hold any form of conversation.

christine24t

I've never dated anyone before (senior in college), but I'm generally attracted to older guys. Younger guys (like freshman) are very immature and obsessed with drinking. Seniors and above are still obsessed with drinking, but they're funnier and a little more mature about it.

skierxjes

I've always been into older men too. I prefer at least a 10 year difference, but it's not mandatory. Guys my age are too immature, don't know what they want, want to party/drink all the time. 30+ is my kinda guy

skierxjes

my current bf is my age... the oldest guy i dated was 28 yrs and I was 18... my friends thought he was creepy for dating someone so young!!! now i see it....

When I was 18, I dated a 33 year old. I didn't see the problem, either. Once you're 21, it really doesn't matter too much, IMO

tmarie2715

I can't see myself dating a younger man. They're so immature at my age (26), that going any younger seems like a nightmare. And they look awful! So skinny and babyish. I wasn't attracted to boys in my high school for that same reason. And like the poster before me, didn't really date till older.

SO is 2 years older, so that is probably the minimum age difference.

Shrinking_Xtina

I've always been into older men too. I prefer at least a 10 year difference, but it's not mandatory. Guys my age are too immature, don't know what they want, want to party/drink all the time. 30+ is my kinda guy

Agreed!

0PhAtDaDdY

Ok younger guys it seems the older guys have taken the lead but I can promise you will get older... LOL

mcintyrekn

I like my men older than me.... Better in every way!!

Elizabeth_C34

In my 20's, I never dated a man under 35 until I met my husband who is 2 years older than me. I always prefer more mature men.

millerll

I've usually dated men my own age. I once dated a guy 7 years younger (I was 35, he was 28), but he was pretty mature.

Now that I'm 49, I hate to say it, but I find that guys my age have all let themselves go to seed. I've gotten in shape, and most men my age are fat and look like crap. I now that's not a very charitable thing to say, but I've found it to be true. I'm finding myself increasingly attracted to younger men. Yikes! Sounds creepy even to me! :ohwell:

0PhAtDaDdY

I've usually dated men my own age. I once dated a guy 7 years younger (I was 35, he was 28), but he was pretty mature.

Now that I'm 49, I hate to say it, but I find that guys my age have all let themselves go to seed. I've gotten in shape, and most men my age are fat and look like crap. I now that's not a very charitable thing to say, but I've found it to be true. I'm finding myself increasingly attracted to younger men. Yikes! Sounds creepy even to me! :ohwell:

You are correct most older guys R NOT in shape.........Shape up guys.........

MzBug

I always went for the guys 3-8 years older than me. My current guy is 7 years younger than me. I resisted his efforts to date me for months before I finally agreed to dinner. We have been together for 6 years and have owned a house together for 5. His family have no idea how old I am... his uncle suspects that I am older, but is too afraid to ask outright.

i_love_vinegar

i used to want a guy to be at least 5 years older than me (preferably around 15-20 years), but recently I have completely changed. Now I don't even care if the guy is younger than me.

i dont think age plays much role in maturity for adult males -- it simply depends on the individual.

cobracars

An older couple in their 60's decided to get a divorce.
After a few months they met and decided to catch up a bit.
The woman was bragging that she had found a 20 year old lover.
The man also bragged he found a 20 year old girlfriend.

The woman said "Maybe so, but I've still got it better than you. Remember..20 goes into 60 more times than 60 goes into 20"

proudmommylmb

^^That is just gross, btw. I'm going to throw up now.

My Husband is 20 years older than me. My paternal grandmother was 30 years younger than her Husband, and maternal grandmother was 17 years younger...my MIL was 25 years younger...it's very natural to me however there are some members of my family who are adamant about their children only marrying an age range closer to their own and all I have to say is that age is just a number, not a measuring stick of how mature or successful they will be.

solpwr

I've usually dated men my own age. I once dated a guy 7 years younger (I was 35, he was 28), but he was pretty mature.

Now that I'm 49, I hate to say it, but I find that guys my age have all let themselves go to seed. I've gotten in shape, and most men my age are fat and look like crap. I now that's not a very charitable thing to say, but I've found it to be true. I'm finding myself increasingly attracted to younger men. Yikes! Sounds creepy even to me! :ohwell:

You are correct most older guys R NOT in shape.........Shape up guys.........

Some of us are.

cantjustcant

I've been married twice...one 16 years older and one my age...both times for love. Next time I am going with old, rich and half dead!

chantell7

My partner is 35 and im 25
, i love it. He's sexy , works out and is a trady so he definitely floats my boat
lol . There's just something about a mature man that's extreamly sexy

Kym1610

My husband is 17 years older than me, for us it works

Tegan74

Its not so much age as it is maturity lvl. Age is a number, and when it comes down to it most of the time doesnt matter. Unless you are going for someone under age, then thats just gross. I would give anyone a chance, within reason, as long as they are mature and able to carry on intelligent convo, and a sense of humor helps. Mostly cause I'm a smart a@@ haha.

mznisaelaine

I dated someone for 3 years...we were both 18 and we broke up in July of this year (at age 21)...At first I didnt have a preference on age and we just happened to go to school together and became boyfriend and girlfriend...

Now....that I am single.....I have been having this thing for older guys...like alot.... about 23 years old and up...even in the 30s....36 and older is pushing it...so I say anywhere between 23 to 35.


And must I add: Mature men is the way to go...